FabSwingers.com forum: Couples and kissing

By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

We’ve had experiences in the past (and have had conversations with others who’ve had similar experiences) where a couple have a ‘no kissing’ rule with others.

Personally, we feel it is a huge part of playing with others and adds to the passion. However, of course we completely respect the boundaries of others.

How do other couples feel about this issue?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't miss our casual partners passionately on the mouth. We put it on our profile so that people know.

Obviously we don't see a problem with it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We don't miss our casual partners passionately on the mouth. We put it on our profile so that people know.

Obviously we don't see a problem with it "

*kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is important for us to build the intimacy but can understand why some don't

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

Thank you for the responses.

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We love a good kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the good stuff starts with a kiss. Wouldn't meet so_eone who doesn't kiss

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for us x

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Girl girl kissing yes but guys keep the kissing to their own is our general

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I don't kiss other men, I think kissing is super intimate... I like to kiss another woman if we're all playing together.

I dont think I've seen hound kiss anyone else,I'm not sure how I'd feel about it...much rather watch so_eone else suck his cock

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We’re a full swap couple, so no holes barred and little in rules. We just feel it’s important everyone does what they want and have a good time.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I couldn't meet and not kiss so they'd be a no for is.

Each to their own just shows we aren't compatible.

Mrs

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By *ouple2playCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

Personally love the kissing element, part of the turn on for us, but as with others respecting other boundaries of upmost importance x

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I can see why Some couples keep it for themselves,

When I meet with my partner we kiss, as we find it all part of the build up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex without kissing would be like eating dry toast.

I've never understood how anyone can have sex without kissing their partner. Kissing means everything to me. It's the biggest and most important turn on.

I've been on countless dates, and their kiss was awful so nothing ever went any further. I couldn't sleep with a bad kisser, let alone a non kisser.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

No kissing no meeting! Simple as that for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somewhere in the middle here!? Kissing sure as it's fun, but deep/ long/ intense snogs no, as I find them super intimate, more personal than casual sex for me, so I'm uncomfortable doing that with friends.

Dont think it needs to be a big issue... some do, some don't - each way, they can be up front & just keep to meeting people who share their preferences?!? xo

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

We started off in the early days with the no kissing rule. We felt at the time that we wanted to keep that one thing for ourselves. Didn’t last long!

It took the right couple, right place where the attraction/click was off the scale. We were soon snogging their faces off. Never looked back and have enjoyed kissing others since.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We don't see kissing as any less intimate than sex, and it's just as important to us as part of the build up. So we personally wouldn't meet anyone who said no kissing.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We respect boundaries - but find kissing an important ingredient in any erotic adventure or moment. xx Anne & George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take a go with the flow approach now though did initially rule out kissing when we first talked about swinging. Thats the key really; communicating with your partner.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We always respect boundaries but kissing is a must for us.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Kissing is important for me and my partner, it builds intimacy. Meets without kissing are way too sterile for us.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

As a single and a couple its rare I kiss guys.... I though am mostly here for group fun and a bit hard to kiss when I'm straight to it with a cock in my mouth.. on the rare occasions I do 121, or play with couples it does depend on my mood... the situation and who... I can't kiss a random person.. down to some very personal reasons.

It makes me feel very uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intimacy is for the sammich maker. They deserve to have that for them alone. One wouldn't want the sammich maker preparing some lovely brie focaccia with fig & bourbon chutney for just any old dogs body.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

"As a single and a couple its rare I kiss guys.... I though am mostly here for group fun and a bit hard to kiss when I'm straight to it with a cock in my mouth.. on the rare occasions I do 121, or play with couples it does depend on my mood... the situation and who... I can't kiss a random person.. down to some very personal reasons.

It makes me feel very uncomfortable "

Seconded, even though I’m a single, I won’t kiss just because they want, I need a connection and to feel comfortable. I’ve had meets where they push for kisses and it’s very uncomfortable

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By *xJust4fun22Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Kissing is a must for us...

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We prefer to kiss , it makes it so much hornier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a no kissing for us. Maybe one day? But right now it’s not for us.

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By *reestylingWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Kissing is a must for me. Passionate, slow and sensual. X

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Kiss absolutely need the build up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss - Very particular about how I want to be kissed and rarely ever kiss other men. That is not what I want from them join in with us. I'll know from how they use their mouth elsewhere if they car compatible.

Mr - Bring on the snogfest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn’t meet with a kissing ban Etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its entirely dependant on the situation for me...

We've met couples with a no kissing rule...it's their boundary and as long as we kiss each other it's OK but it does tend to interrupt the flow of play...make it a bit stilted

I've never had anyone insist I kiss them in a club and I'm not that keen to kiss random partners in that scenario...especially when I don't know where they've had their faces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t meet with anyone who didn’t include kissing as part of play.

Met with a couple from my joint profile and play had already commenced when they sprung it on us that they had a no kissing rule.

There was no mention of it on their profile and they hadn’t pre warned us.

It was a deal breaker and we brought the evening to a halt.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

When we first started we didn't kiss but found it quite awkward so it didn't last long.

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

Kissing is so essential to me.

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn garden city

"When we first started we didn't kiss but found it quite awkward so it didn't last long."

This was the same for us. But we are also happy meeting those that don't kiss

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By *anccouple123Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Fully respect all boundaries but the no kissing rule baffles us. I'm ok with putting either pussy lips or so_eone else's cock in/on there but not kissing. Huge part of sex is kissing.

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
over a year ago

West Mids

We love kissing

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire

We have had a meet where there was no kissing and would never do it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lick the clitoris?

What’s wrong with a kiss boy!!?

John Cleese (The meaning of life)

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

Used to meet a couple done every thing anal dvp swallow.but no kissing aloud

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By *ellanbennyCouple
over a year ago

cambs

Love watching T kissing girls.

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By *ickylouCouple
over a year ago

You have to kiss. It’s part of the tease and arousal of meeting others.

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By *inkyBiBlackMaleMan
over a year ago

London

I have amazing lips, would be a shame not to give them a kiss

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"How do other couples feel about this issue?"

We personally would probably choose not to meet with a couple who wouldn't kiss. It's a very important part of things for us.

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By *msurreyCouple
over a year ago

Twickenham

Definitely love a kiss!

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

We said no kissing as it’s personal but didn’t last long as so_eone having sex with us is far more personal so it didn’t make sense

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester

Kissing is an absolute must for us as we prefer intimacy over just fucking.

That's just our thing and respect those that don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it that some people prefer not to, however for us it would be strange being intimate with other without kissing - it's part of the experience to us.

Mrs

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"We’ve had experiences in the past (and have had conversations with others who’ve had similar experiences) where a couple have a ‘no kissing’ rule with others.

Personally, we feel it is a huge part of playing with others and adds to the passion. However, of course we completely respect the boundaries of others.

How do other couples feel about this issue?"

Kissing is a must for us !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last weekend I played with a couple who had this rule. I went with it as I am not one to cause issues, even though kissing is a massive thing for me.

However when I was being fucked by the guy he was desperate to kiss me and said so to his Mrs, he begged her to break their rule, she obvs declined. For sure had she not been watching he would have!!

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By *aughtyfingermagicianMan
over a year ago

st austell

No kissing no meet! Kissing essential otherwise might as well fuck a hole in the wall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for me!

I love a man kiss me as he's deep inside me, especially if he bites my lip too

Nikki x

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

"Kissing is a must for me!

I love a man kiss me as he's deep inside me, especially if he bites my lip too

Nikki x "

Very hot.

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By *oungAtHeartCurvyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hubby doesn't like the idea of kissing he thinks it's too personal and intimate In a way I understand what he's saying but kissing can kissing can be a huge turn on

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

"We’ve had experiences in the past (and have had conversations with others who’ve had similar experiences) where a couple have a ‘no kissing’ rule with others.

Personally, we feel it is a huge part of playing with others and adds to the passion. However, of course we completely respect the boundaries of others.

How do other couples feel about this issue?"

Indeed, a huge part of the play and arousal.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid

Even a French Kiss

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

We don’t meet ppl who don’t kiss. Simple

It’s so important part of play

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By *eonMan
over a year ago

The wallled town

I adore kissing

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By *hrisukbishareCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I and we love kissing. So part of the sensual explore with all genders for us.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid

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,,, really

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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

I must admit I love a good snog to warm things up but tbh try as I might I just don't understand all those replies that say its too intimate - surely the ultimate intimate act is that of actually having full sex with so_eone,including oral, & I'm sorry if you disagree with that statement, but if you do, then your just having sex for the sake of having sex rather than the full enjoyment that a playdate should bring - after all kissing is what separates our act of sex from that of all the others in the animal kingdom,I always say at meets, we can have great sex with potential playmates, but psychologically can only ever make love to my partner

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

"I must admit I love a good snog to warm things up but tbh try as I might I just don't understand all those replies that say its too intimate - surely the ultimate intimate act is that of actually having full sex with so_eone,including oral, & I'm sorry if you disagree with that statement, but if you do, then your just having sex for the sake of having sex rather than the full enjoyment that a playdate should bring - after all kissing is what separates our act of sex from that of all the others in the animal kingdom,I always say at meets, we can have great sex with potential playmates, but psychologically can only ever make love to my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sensual and essential

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

Kissing is an important part of it for us. We have met couples who don’t kiss and respected their boundaries but we prefer kissing......

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

Kissing is a big part of sex for us. We can play without kissing, but it feels a bit awkward x

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford

We love kissing, no kiss no meet for us xx

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate

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By *oshblueyedmanMan
over a year ago

hereford

Kissing in a threesome fun and turn on I agree… but some do prefer not which is their right…

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By *ldaCouple
over a year ago

sutton Coldfield

We’ve met a few couples at clubs where the man may kiss, but not the woman. Never actually asked why, but find it unbelievably frustrating

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We only kiss other women who have size 4 shoes or size 11 for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't need to understand in order to respect differences...

For me, our super intense snogs as a couple are very emotionally bonding, more in romantic & relationship intimacy that I don't feel comfortable doing with others. Also we do them when no sex is happening, just within the physical intimacy of our relationship which is why they feel specially intimate.

Where as, playful kissing in teasing build up, or hot kissing in the moment during, elevates the experience of sex into great, over good/ ok sex, for me.

I appreciate others may disagree but hope the clarity helps.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid

,,, really"

Yes never cared for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a 3 way kiss recently that was such a turn on

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid

,,, really

Yes never cared for it"
,, if it does nothing for you so be it,,,

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid

Even a French Kiss

God forbid that’s grime

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By *alfrollerMan
over a year ago

West London / Scotland

"I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate "

This is exactly our thoughts too. Much prefer to share and enjoy everyone. Totally get that it's a personal preference so tend to ask this question up front.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate "

Maybe because often couples kiss as an expression of non sexual love and they don't want to share that aspect of their relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too respect others boundaries however if I am looking to meet up with a couple either solo or as part of a couple that is an absolute deal breaker and it doesn’t matter how attractive they are I need kissing.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Each to their own but we prefer to meet cpls who kiss others. It's a major part of the turning on each other before and during sex with each other and our playmates. We respect other peoples choices on the no kissing rule but we would pass on a meet with them.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"I too respect others boundaries however if I am looking to meet up with a couple either solo or as part of a couple that is an absolute deal breaker and it doesn’t matter how attractive they are I need kissing. "
as above it's a must to us to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the MOST important things to us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the good stuff starts with a kiss. Wouldn't meet so_eone who doesn't kiss

Mrs C "

We’re the same x Totally understand that everyone is different but for me it would feel awkward and stilted without kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is interesting to me and something I’ve pondered as I know some people meet based purely on body pics and chat alone. So their potential facial unattractiveness isn’t a dealbreaker for you? Just curious x

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By *ockandkeyCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

What if they are a bad kisser or they think I am a bad kisser. Sometimes a bad kiss can kill the mood, like snogging a washing machine!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if they are a bad kisser or they think I am a bad kisser. Sometimes a bad kiss can kill the mood, like snogging a washing machine!! "

Then we wouldn’t move passed a social x I always end a social with a kiss x seals the deal one way or the other x

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Think its different for every couple and individual. I don't mind Mr kissing another woman and i will kiss another woman but kissing the other man (if there is one), isn't for me. We explain it up front but also accept that it can end in same partner only kissing. It's never meant to offend anyone, just my personal preference.

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate

Maybe because often couples kiss as an expression of non sexual love and they don't want to share that aspect of their relationship "

Yeah I suppose if you look at it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are very torn on this subject, we kiss many times a day and its part of our relationship and how much we love each so doing it with somebody else seems somehow wrong to us.

We are also aware that kissing can be a part of the build up and during sexy meets and that is necessary to some people in order to feel properly into it.

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By *kinandbonesCouple
over a year ago

dublin

We wouldn't meet so_eone if they didn't kiss. Big part of it

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

We enjoy the kissing, it's a really nice element for us but can understand why some prefer not

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

See, I don't have a no-kissing rule as such, but I don't enjoy it and a bad kisser runs the risk of turning me off.

I can fuck anyone and everyone without feelings, but I need to have feelings for you to want to or enjoy kissing you.

My body explodes when Hubby kisses me, whereas with anyone else it doesn't do anything and I feel like I'm just enduring an act...

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"See, I don't have a no-kissing rule as such, but I don't enjoy it and a bad kisser runs the risk of turning me off.

I can fuck anyone and everyone without feelings, but I need to have feelings for you to want to or enjoy kissing you.

My body explodes when Hubby kisses me, whereas with anyone else it doesn't do anything and I feel like I'm just enduring an act...

I agree that others kissing me don't have the same effect as hubby kissing me as that is due to our very strong emotional connection which id not want with other men. But kissing settles the nerves and is part and parcel of turning me on in preperation for sex.

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