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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a single bloke what would you do if going to a club for the very first time and alone?? Advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single bloke i would never go to one alone..unless you are happy to leave your dignity at the door

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"as a single bloke i would never go to one alone..unless you are happy to leave your dignity at the door"
how do you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy it...

Don't be pushy, chat and be polite.....good luck and more over have fun..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a single bloke what would you do if going to a club for the very first time and alone?? Advice please"
Do i just go to the bar??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on which club you are going to.....it might not have a bar....normally the staff will help you......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't walk aimlessly around in a towel like some sort of predator.

Best bet is to walk in ask the staff for a tour get the feel for the place. Don't be afraid to approach people and just talk to them. Easier said than done I know. But good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand, walk around with a bath towel hanging off your cock and they'll probably talk to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guys on the prowl in clubs are seen as lepers in my experience,no matter what you do you'll seem desperate and seedy..unless you are a big black guy with a 9 inch cock..then you'll be mr popular.

Just my own observations really.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"as a single bloke i would never go to one alone..unless you are happy to leave your dignity at the door"

That's a very odd thing to say!

OP just be polite, chat to people as you wouldany other type of cclub, dont walk around wanking trying to get in on any action you can etc

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"Don't walk aimlessly around in a towel like some sort of predator.

Best bet is to walk in ask the staff for a tour get the feel for the place. Don't be afraid to approach people and just talk to them. Easier said than done I know. But good luck. "

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

just be yourself and speak to people, get yourself known. always speak to hubby and wife is conversing with a couple.

if you get sex.. great

if you don't... hey, you get an invite to a meet at a later date as a result of becoming known.

you are an equal, don't allow others to try and make you feel less.

relax and enjoy...

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Depending on club. If it was chameleon for example which has Jacuzzis and a bar area and several social areas as well as play zones. I would stick to social areas strike up conversation and relax. Don't be pushy and maybe enjoy the clubs facilities such as steam rooms pools etc. If it's a dry club the basics apply again so be sociable you may only have bar area to chat in tho. Don't go expecting sexy treat people as you would in a normal pub or bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single bloke what would you do if going to a club for the very first time and alone?? Advice please"

I went for the first time pre-Xmas on my own. Granted it was a very busy day as it was a Xmas party, but I managed to get chatting to a few folks, was "normal" as in didn't ask for a blow job within 30 seconds and ended up having a really good time. So go with no preconceptions or expectations and see what happens and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go, the staff will give you a tour and will normally point you towards people they know. So as you are not stood on your own.

Talk to people, have a look round and you will be fine.

'men are seen as leppers'

Well I never; I only go when single men are allowed in, and In over 15 years, I've never seen them mistreated.

I'd like to think, the single men playing with singles, couples and within groups feel not just included, but are having a good time

Morons, will feel isolated, because their morons. That is not limited to single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the old days singe guys would always ask politely if they could touch or join you. These days we find they just touch or grab a quick feel and in extreme cases try and joinbin without even the courtasy of giving a name.. not all single guys we would stress, but their ranks seem to be growing. Maybe that's why they are seen as predators and leapers

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

"In the old days singe guys would always ask politely if they could touch or join you. These days we find they just touch or grab a quick feel and in extreme cases try and joinbin without even the courtasy of giving a name.. not all single guys we would stress, but their ranks seem to be growing. Maybe that's why they are seen as predators and leapers"

Have been on the receiving end of this on more than one occasion, luckily nowadays my OH is quite adept at spotting the potential grabbers and "cop a sly feel" merchants and has perfected "the look" to a fine art. As for the one that did slip through the radar... his ears are probably still ringing .... oh dear what a pity never mind

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over a year ago

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Don't walk aimlessly around in a towel like some sort of predator.

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+1!

Take a mate if possible, get a drink and just chill out at the bar/ in the jacuzzi/wherever the social area is. If you look approachable people will talk to you. My partner and I usually talk to quite a lot of people on a night out in Infusion if we're not with people. That doesn't mean we play with them, but that's another thing entirely..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are very open and recetive to being approached by single guys at a club. We will chat and have a laugh and if we connect we will invite them to join us. We quite often play with single guys but only when we want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are very open and recetive to being approached by single guys at a club. We will chat and have a laugh and if we connect we will invite them to join us. We quite often play with single guys but only when we want to."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to people. Remember there are 2 people in a couple!!

Desperation is a very unattractive quality. If you are there to meet people and have a good evening, then relax and treat it like any club.

Preparation helps: shower, teeth, smart, condoms.......

Relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"single guys on the prowl in clubs are seen as lepers in my experience,no matter what you do you'll seem desperate and seedy..unless you are a big black guy with a 9 inch cock..then you'll be mr popular.

Just my own observations really."

That's not reflective of my experience.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"As a single bloke what would you do if going to a club for the very first time and alone?? Advice please"

I am just really tempted to say "man up!" And just go out there and talk to people..... I am assuming you are a civil adult, so go and have civilised conversations.....

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Just my own observations really.

That's not reflective of my experience. "

Nor mine. We talk to anyone who's friendly and ignore anyone who follows us round leering. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am going to my first club Friday weather permitting I won't be leaving my dignity at the door. I sure as hell hope I won't get treated like a lepper either.

But if I do thanks for the advance warning

I think I will get a haircut whack on the CK be myself and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as a single bloke i would never go to one alone..unless you are happy to leave your dignity at the door"

why say that.. thats rubbish... Nothing wrong with a single guy coming to a club..

I would say to the op to just go for it..

But just go and chat to people, have a laugh, and count anything else as a bonus..

I know the single guys that come to xotix always say they had a great time and most come alone.

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Just one thing that in my expereince sets you out fromthe crowd --- act natural but Talk converse engage in verbal intercourse works for me

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