FabSwingers.com forum: Going to a club on your own

By *atnay OP Couple
over a year ago

STEVENAGE

Hi all. N here.

So I'm looking for advice and reassurance.

What with the warmer weather finally here, I have been contemplating going to either VA or Jaydees milf day on my own (with his blessings) as J working.

I like the idea of just soaking up the sun, taking in the views, socialising, making friends and only if all feels right, playing.

Two things cross my mind though.

1, Going on my own means no safety net. I dont want to feel like I'm under any obligation to play if I dont feel it. Im very much about chemistry and attraction.

So how comfortable and safe do you feel when attending on your own?

2, Jaydees or VA?

Both have features I like.

VA has the Lux Lounge. Great for sunbathing and socialising.

Bonus if the open air hot tub is open this summer?

Jaydees has private rooms and free entry for ladies. But slightly further away from me.

Advice, experiences and tips please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always attend the clubs on my own and find it safe and easy enough. You're in a enclosed environment, most of the time with security on site, so I feel comfortable in that respect.

In terms of socialising/playing, that is still on your terms. On occasion men can get pushy but a simple fuck off normally does the trick. Just stay in the busier areas like the bar until you feel comfortable enough to venture off on your own.

It's daunting going on your own but kind of liberating, I enjoy it.

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

Everyone has those first time nerves your not on your own. Maybe place up a meet saying your going to the event or placing something on the guestlist thread,this way you may get chatting to others attending(this will help those nerves)

NO means NO AT all times and some people go just for the social side so there's no expectations to play woth anyone xxx

If you tell the staff your alone and a bit nervous they will organise a tour and introduce you to others.

Still feel slightly nervous after that then go sit by the bar, the staff will look after you I'm sure xxx

Hope this helps a little

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By *atnay OP Couple
over a year ago

STEVENAGE

Thanks for replys. This has helped me feel a little more confident about going on my own.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I’m a single man and I’m wanting to get on the club scene i feel nervous about going as I don’t have a clue what it will be like as I don’t know what to expect . I’m sure once I’ve been I won’t stay away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a single man and I’m wanting to get on the club scene i feel nervous about going as I don’t have a clue what it will be like as I don’t know what to expect . I’m sure once I’ve been I won’t stay away

Go and have the introduction when they're not open first.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Go and have the introduction when they're not open first. "

I’d prefer to go when they are open but just to an event that’s not that busy like a daytime one

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Single woman here. Been to VA a few times on my own and it has always been really friendly. Last time I went to the What Women Want event on a Friday day time. Chose not to play with anyone but had a lovely time just chatting to men and women alike.

Oh and there's a group that has just been set up... Can't recall the thread but DM me if you want more details x

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By *atnay OP Couple
over a year ago

STEVENAGE

"Single woman here. Been to VA a few times on my own and it has always been really friendly. Last time I went to the What Women Want event on a Friday day time. Chose not to play with anyone but had a lovely time just chatting to men and women alike.

Oh and there's a group that has just been set up... Can't recall the thread but DM me if you want more details x"

Thanks. Will do.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

Be confident, be yourself, be careful to listen and chat and flirt before committing . then enjoy ... xx Anne

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

I am planning to attend Kestrels on my own soon, bit nervous but looking forward to it.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"I am planning to attend Kestrels on my own soon, bit nervous but looking forward to it."
take the plunge and come along on Sunday this weekend ... chilled, relaxed and a very good crowd at Kestrels with plenty of time to soak in the atmosphere / vibe (we think better than an evening for a first visit)

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