FabSwingers.com forum: meets when a guy has flopped

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just went to a meet where i was part of mmf but the other lad could not get it up and he was young. wanted to find out whether this has to anyone else and if anyone was succeful in getting the person hard

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

Nerves is a terrible thing when swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it happens

Some people find it hard to perform with a audience, some guys dont like being naked near other men and some just get nervous

Cant be helped, when i have met guys where this has happened to i think it bothers them more than it does me and instead of stopping, having a drink and a chat till they feel more comfy and relaxed they usually leg it with embarrassment, which is a shame as its nothing to get embarrassedabout, it happens

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

yeah....the 'other guy' couldnt get it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just went to a meet where i was part of mmf but the other lad could not get it up and he was young. wanted to find out whether this has to anyone else and if anyone was succeful in getting the person hard"

He probably freaked when he seen the size of your cock! That's a monster!

Do other guys suffer from stage freight if the other guy in a mmf had a much bigger cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

naughtynymphos you're such a kind understanding women hugz

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've been in an mmf when the other guy couldn't get hard. Didn't worry me, but he was very freaked out about it. It happens, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

We met a couple of guys the other week, one was great, the other struggled to maintain a hard on for more than a few seconds which wasn't helped by the fact that he was pretty dinky.

When he did manage to maintain some form of 'erection' for a minute it didn't even penetrate...

Fortunately the other guy made up for his inability.

But if guys don't like erforming when other guys are present or unhappy being naked, they should tailor their plans & boasts accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"naughtynymphos you're such a kind understanding women hugz"

I try

problem is people think when they come into this swingers are some kind of super human shaggers and they feel the need to live upto the expectation in their own heads, the truth is we are normal every day people and sexual problems that happen outside of swinging happens inside too

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Nerves are natural,a bit of understanding,a bit of relaxing and a giggle,take things slower and usually things work out perfectly

Can't always be easy for guys meeting for an mmf to just get in there and get on with it if they've not much experience or don't feel totally comfortable at the start

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

Thing is as well SOME guys just see this as somthing to try or a way of extra sex without the mrs, and more often than not they do not really think about it before hand. about what exactly is entailed. what they have to do.

Because they can shag for england with single people on their own its completely different being in a room with other people looking at you etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can shag for england with single people on their own its completely different being in a room with other people looking at you etc

I agree, i dont like being watched i think if i was a guy id be one who would find it hard to get an erection with someone watching me

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By *evonTallGuyMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I tend to choose people who aren't in to non-stop hard-and-fast shagging for just such a reason. I've never had a problem getting hard, but I do need a bit of recovery time after cumming. That's when fingers and tongues get a good workout! A bit of sensual play soon gets everyone back in the mood again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is as well SOME guys just see this as somthing to try or a way of extra sex without the mrs, and more often than not they do not really think about it before hand. about what exactly is entailed. what they have to do.

Because they can shag for england with single people on their own its completely different being in a room with other people looking at you etc

Totally agree. Many like the idea of it but when faced with the bare reality of it end up falling apart.

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By *reybearMan
over a year ago

medway

The thing is you never will know until you try.. I've always been pretty shy of my body, use a cubicle rather than a urinal, dodged the showers at school when I could (eew!) and never changed under a towel on the beach. However, on our first Mmf it was our single guy that had the problem whereas I was hard as a rock!

As for performance when faced with a bigger cock, I've been in this situation many times and have not found it an issue, maybe its because I'm getting so turned on by seeing it pumping the wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwww thats a shame.for the young guy concerned and hope it doesn't freak him out too much. Never happened with us but if it did then we'd be understanding and take a bit of time out to help the guy relax. There's more to sex than a hard cock.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!"

sorry but i disagree totally ! from what you are say unless a guy get hard and stays hard as and when required he shouldnt swing ??? ideally yes id love a guy to be hard and stay hard on my command .. reality they aint vibrators the are human beings lol! there are NUMEROUS reasons why that guy or any guy may have not risen to the occasion . to immeidatly state they just not suited for swinging on the soul commen the guy didnt get hard is making one hell of an asumption lol!.

its not just in 3sums or more sums that any guys cock can decide not to play ball.ive had one to one where guys had the problem aswell. its just one of they things !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not the size of ones cock , but mostly for me his personality , and sometimes his tongue is amazing thing , so dont to be too hard on a man who does not stand up . hmmmmmmmmmm

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've seen it at clubs, though people are always able to step aside, or go in for activities that may help them recover. It's also unlikely there that anything would point attention to it for the affected guy, so it's not going to add even more stress.

As others say, we don't know if someone has medical or stress problems, what's going on for them etc and if us girls don't take it personally, then a spare male or so is enough to keep us entertained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

its not just in 3sums or more sums that any guys cock can decide not to play ball.ive had one to one where guys had the problem aswell. its just one of they things ! "

Good post!

I've struggled to get a hard on in swinging clubs. The idea is very exciting, and a big turn on, but actually performing can be quite tricky! I think i'm one of those blokes who struggles with an audience. I also need a bit of 1-1 attention with the female and find this arouses me more than just 'getting on with it'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He probably freaked when he seen the size of your cock! That's a monster!

Do other guys suffer from stage freight if the other guy in a mmf had a much bigger cock?"

wonder if theyre still reading...

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

have met lots of single guys and it does happen from time to time that someone 'cant perform'. For me personally this is not a huge issue and we just continue the evening on a social level. Most guys will experience this at some point in their life and it can be caused by any amount of issues. I always take the _iew point that.. men, like women, are not performing seals and may not always be able to just turn it on as and when required

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford

Most guys who have flopped in my presence in group action are down to use of a condom. Can't understand why using a rubber nicks your hardon down and if you know it does why put yourself through embarrassment

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Methinks most of us has been there.......

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Most guys have suffered from an attack of the nerves at some point

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

With some of self obsessed wanting people to perform like a piece of meat... The floppy cock guys may have had a lucky escape...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With some of self obsessed wanting people to perform like a piece of meat... The floppy cock guys may have had a lucky escape..."

Nobody forced them to go anywhere. It was their choice.

What a bitter comment that is.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"With some of self obsessed wanting people to perform like a piece of meat... The floppy cock guys may have had a lucky escape...

Nobody forced them to go anywhere. It was their choice.

What a bitter comment that is."

Cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a party a few months ago with 2 other couples. It was absolutely mindblowing & probably the most exciting sexual experience of my life. The girls were absolutely gorgeous, totally uninhibited & very bi.

Unfortunately one of the guys just could not get hard - even with 3 girls all sucking him at the same time.

I cannot even begin to imagine what must have been going through his head as even in the wild world of fab this type of experience is rare. To get the chance only to be betrayed by a recalcitrent erection would have reduced me to tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

its not just in 3sums or more sums that any guys cock can decide not to play ball.ive had one to one where guys had the problem aswell. its just one of they things ! "

Yes I do and there is nothing wrong with that. If they do not get aroused swinging they should stay with one on one sex, what is the point of putting themselves under stress? It is supposed to be fun.

That is why swinging is very much something practiced by a very small minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most guys have suffered from an attack of the nerves at some point"

It happens. For many reasons. I don't see why a man should be looked down on for it.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

It's a real shame that a bit of spit, or other lubrication can't fix the male erection failure like it can for a woman.

Maybe that needs rephrasing slightly, its a shame a bit of lube cannot fix male arousal failure like it can with a women.

Well actually it doesn't fix it as such, but when a woman doesn't get genital arousal its not quite so obvious.

The female can always 'perform'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens. Happened to me with one couple Ive met numerous times. Blame it on 4 cans of red bull and a 2 hour drive. Thing is once you know it ain't working no amount of chatting will get that thought out the back of your mind. Didn't stop the use of the rest of my body though.

Dont drink red bull before a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol inbetweeners

Tara: [Simon is trying to have

sex with Tara but failing] Simon, Simon... Nothing's Happening.

Simon Cooper: I know, I know... You think I don't fucking know that? I know that better than anyone! I know it's floppy!

Tara: So don't worry, I was just saying...

Simon Cooper: Don't say, okay? I know better than anyone that my Penis isn't fucking working!

Tara: It's okay...

Simon Cooper: It's not fucking okay! It's not okay!

[looks at penis]

Simon Cooper: Why won't you start? Every time I don't want one it's there and the one time I need it... Nothing!

Tara: Okay, You're scaring me now...

Simon Cooper: [shouting at penis] Work you stupid, fucking thing! Get Big! Get Big!

Tara: Simon!

Simon Cooper: Why aren't you doing it? Do it! Get Big! Oh, please just work you ugly cunt!

[hits it]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens to the best of us ..lets move on..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He probably freaked when he seen the size of your cock! That's a monster!

Do other guys suffer from stage freight if the other guy in a mmf had a much bigger cock?"

That's what we thought when we saw the pic.

The poor kid probably thought he'd be pissing against the wind anyway!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ITS A COMPLEXED CASE I GUESS

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

For some it's a thought-overload to have all this going on at once, and not neccessarily in the sequence or timeframe that they're comfortable with. Maybe that situation for the guy was just too much going on at once, and too much of a shock to the norm.

We've known guys with performance issues at meets, I've had the odd performance issues at some meets - hell, everyone has performance issues once in a while at a meet (and I'll show you a fibber or their stash of blue jellies if they say they don't!).

Shock Horror! - People are only human after all, and not performing fuck-toys without batteries

It's all part of the game. It happens, guys who don't immediately rise to the occasion are put to good use orally or manually until they're ready to join in, and if they're not... well we all had fun anyway, and penetration isn't always the end-game or prerequisite to having good fun

Wolf

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

its not just in 3sums or more sums that any guys cock can decide not to play ball.ive had one to one where guys had the problem aswell. its just one of they things !

That is why swinging is very much something practiced by a very small minority."

Ok following your logic if I come on at a meet and don't have sex I'm not a swinger? Although I may of had numerous meets before ,but on that one occasion my body isn't behaving as I exspect Its perfectly reasonable to say I'm not a true swinger?? Of course not! Making blanket judgements based on one tiny piece of information is very unwise in my opinion .personally I think anyone exspecting people to preform on demand like a trained seal isn't a true swinger (as you put it) . True swingers I thought were open minded inderviduals wanting to share sexual and erotic pleasures with like minded people .

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

" True swingers I thought were open minded inderviduals wanting to share sexual and erotic pleasures with like minded people .

OMG I didn't think there were any more still about!

You've made my day

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor chap, I'm hard most of the time sometimes get embarrassed as its in front of my parents as always horny any ideas on controlling my hornyness??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SO MANY DREAMERS AND TOO MANY FANTASISTS.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear a cockring and once the blood is in there....it stays in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats why i always take a viagra with me just in case i suffer from stage fright touch wood i have always been able to perform then again it depends on the vibe you generate with the swingers

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

Nerves can be horrible, I'm lucky as am friends with all my meets, at times I've had some stay over as a long drive back. If nerves got the better of someone I would rather say let's sit in the lounge put music on have a few drinks and a laugh. If nothing happend I would of enjoyed their company and there is always next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DOES VIAGRA WORK ALL THE TIME?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our first meet, half way through my erection deminished. I think it was partly due to nerves and sensory overload. No body made a fuss and the ladies gave me s bit of oral attention, and defore I knew it, I was off like a stalion bolting out of a stable.

These things happen. No big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

its not just in 3sums or more sums that any guys cock can decide not to play ball.ive had one to one where guys had the problem aswell. its just one of they things !

That is why swinging is very much something practiced by a very small minority.

Are you talking to me? Where do I say the phrase true swingers? Hey don't let that get in the way of your rant though.

All I am saying is if that people don't enjoy it then why do it? Why put yourself in that position as it isn't for everyone regardless of how much you may have liked the idea of it in the first place. It isn't some kind of compulsory, competitive event.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!"

I wouldn't say that. Some men get nervous and self conscious. It happens, I just focus on other parts of their anatomy and give them a moment.

Once, I went to the loo to give my playmate a moment. Next thing I knew he was running down the stairs, getting dressed as he went. It was a sight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah....the 'other guy' couldnt get it up

Hhahahah my thought process exactly

A friend of a mate of a pal was once with this lass and .............

Hehehehe

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

its not just in 3sums or more sums that any guys cock can decide not to play ball.ive had one to one where guys had the problem aswell. its just one of they things ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it happens

Some people find it hard to perform with a audience, some guys dont like being naked near other men and some just get nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

I wouldn't say that. Some men get nervous and self conscious. It happens, I just focus on other parts of their anatomy and give them a moment.

Once, I went to the loo to give my playmate a moment. Next thing I knew he was running down the stairs, getting dressed as he went. It was a sight.

Much as blokes like to deny it, your cock is totally ruled by your head! All in the mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure its been said - but nerves play a bog part especially if the man is younger and over excited etc

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Are you talking to me? Where do I say the phrase true swingers? Hey don't let that get in the way of your rant though.

no swinging isnt for everyone. but you proclaiming just because a guy cant get hard on a particular he shouldnt swing is nothing but laughable in my opinion .

as i said if i came on during a meet and couldnt continue would that mean i wasnt a swinger or shouldnt swing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully never had that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you talking to me? Where do I say the phrase true swingers? Hey don't let that get in the way of your rant though.

no swinging isnt for everyone. but you proclaiming just because a guy cant get hard on a particular he shouldnt swing is nothing but laughable in my opinion .

as i said if i came on during a meet and couldnt continue would that mean i wasnt a swinger or shouldnt swing ?? "

It was a suggestion and an opinion. How the hell is you 'coming on' (sheesh) even remotely the same as someone not being aroused by the situation they are in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!"

what a load of rubbish, how have you come to this conclusion?

so then by your logic, if this happens in,a 1-1 the guy should abstain from vanilla sex too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

what a load of rubbish, how have you come to this conclusion?

so then by your logic, if this happens in,a 1-1 the guy should abstain from vanilla sex too?"

Not a conclusion and not logic either. Swinging is not a situation that would be seen by most as a normal sexual environment.

Have you had the same issue?

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

It happened to me at one of our first swing party's.nerves but soon recovered watching wife get satisfied,has ever happened since,glad to say and really enjoying meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

what a load of rubbish, how have you come to this conclusion?

so then by your logic, if this happens in,a 1-1 the guy should abstain from vanilla sex too?

Not a conclusion and not logic either. Swinging is not a situation that would be seen by most as a normal sexual environment.

Have you had the same issue?"

haha,

thankfully no I haven't, I tend to have trouble keeping it down, have seen it happen a few times to guys ib group situations in the years that I have been swinging though. some of those guys have been swinging a long time too, many different reasons this can happen. for instance, alcohol, already played recently or simply just not aroused by the other person

I agree swinging is not for everyone, but ability to get an erection in one situation is not a deciding factor.

I get the feeling you have seen this happen in situations that you have been involved in, I wonder why? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

what a load of rubbish, how have you come to this conclusion?

so then by your logic, if this happens in,a 1-1 the guy should abstain from vanilla sex too?

Not a conclusion and not logic either. Swinging is not a situation that would be seen by most as a normal sexual environment.

Have you had the same issue?

haha,

I agree swinging is not for everyone, but ability to get an erection in one situation is not a deciding factor.

I get the feeling you have seen this happen in situations that you have been involved in, I wonder why? lol

We go to a lot of clubs and it has happened when a guy has been pestering us for sex and following us about and then when he gets a chance.....fail. So you are now saying that is our fault?

From my point of _iew I have never failed to get hard as we are relaxed with swinging and don't have any issues. As I keep saying IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN.

Oh and if men are pissed in clubs and can't get it up they deserve to feel humiliated. Entirely their own downfall!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree if they are d*unk it it's there fault, but as for humiliation, that is not necessary at all. I find this completely wrong. As you say "It supposed to be fun"

And wht would you even invite a guy to play that has been following you around a club like some kind of stalker?

Those guys do make me laugh, and by allowing then to play with you, you are reinforcing the validity of the behavior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I totally agree if they are d*unk it it's there fault, but as for humiliation, that is not necessary at all. I find this completely wrong. As you say "It supposed to be fun"

And wht would you even invite a guy to play that has been following you around a club like some kind of stalker?

Those guys do make me laugh, and by allowing then to play with you, you are reinforcing the validity of the behavior.

That makes it sound worse than it is! We often get a human train of ten or more guys following us from room to room, part and parcel of being in clubs.

Oh and before people kick off note I am saying we wouldn't humiliate anyone but I dare say it is is personally humiliating/ embarrassing for the individual involved. Probably not the best situation to be in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the human train is a frequent occurence, I call it the cock-conga. Does not look good at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the human train is a frequent occurence, I call it the cock-conga. Does not look good at all.

Lol there are worse things you can see going on. Harmless really. D would rather they got them out though rather than that under towel fumbling you become aware of!

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I think it's a bit harsh to demonise a guy who can't get it up. It's a porn star delusion that all guys have to be stiff as an iron rod at all times when expected, regardless of the situation.

If the person you're playing with isn't exciting you as much as your regular partner, you won't get as hard. In the exact same way you wouldn't blame a woman for not getting wet enough when you're playing with her.

We once had a meet which got unexpectedly cut very short. Zero foreplay, right into it and we only had about 15 mins before we all had to dash. That just didn't do it for me. It wasn't an issue, I just left the girls to play and lent a hand here and there.

Relaxation, understanding how to please your partner and having time to enjoy yourself. If you have all three, there shouldn't be a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened (fingers crossed ) once to me and that was sensory overload , I was having too good a time and had a wonderful blond sucking my cock whilst slurping Mrs J's fanny and had to resist the urge to come and that was it , he just went Bleh and would not cooperate anymore.

I was mortified, it also did not help that we were in one if those plastic sheds by the jacuzzi at Abfabs and we were melting in there.

The first time it happened to someone else on one of our meets was Mrs J's first bi action , he could not keep it up and I had sooooo much fun.

It seems to happen so many times to the other guys on our swings that Mrs J is starting to wonder if she intimidates the guys , it happened on Sunday at Kestrels , I finished the job but no amount of coaxing would bring his up , he was apologetic , we were not really bothered but he got dressed and cleared off so it obviously bothered him.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I've had it - particularly when a condom is too tight. I'm usually sympathetic (what's the point of being mean? It's not their fault - it happens - and nastiness does not help the situation).

Unfortunately, they left as they were so embarrassed. I was happy to just chill and have a chat and see what happened after they had relaxed. But I fully understood their desire to leave. Shame though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had a problem myself. But a guy could not get it up. Despite all of his and his girlfriends efforts. So just having some soft swing fun. We just told him not to worry about it.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Are you talking to me? Where do I say the phrase true swingers? Hey don't let that get in the way of your rant though.

no swinging isnt for everyone. but you proclaiming just because a guy cant get hard on a particular he shouldnt swing is nothing but laughable in my opinion .

as i said if i came on during a meet and couldnt continue would that mean i wasnt a swinger or shouldnt swing ??

It was a suggestion and an opinion. How the hell is you 'coming on' (sheesh) even remotely the same as someone not being aroused by the situation they are in?

who said the guy wasnt aroused?? another asumption by you . the one and only thing the op said was the guy couldnt get hard . as others pointed out that doesnt mean they werent aroused lol! it mearly means their body for what ever reason(of which are numerous ) was reacting in a way they had no control over . as women women can still have sex when not fully aroused i made the comparason to her starting a period unexspectly at a meet . doesnt mean she wasnt aroused by situation,doesnt mean they arent a swinger and doesnt mean they shouldnt swing due to something they couldnt control.if you wish to make asumptions and jump to conclusions from one comment you are free to!if you wish to proclaim every guy who cant get hard on demand shouldnt swing then of course you can but that means there will be zero guys on here as happens to all guys one time or other lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad we wont let a good topic get in the way of an argument

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Referring to Sensual Temptress comments, that's something I've tried to explain to people a few times. If a guy has a hard-on chances are he is sexually aroused. If his cock is flaccid it doesn't mean he is NOT sexually aroused.

The bio-mechanics required to create an erect penis is very complex and dependent on a multitude of conditions, its a wonder that they work as often and well as they do! And it certainly doesn't take much to stop it working!

The classic for most guys will be the 'thought' - "I hope it gets hard/stays hard" or "What will they/she think if it doesn't work?" as soon as any such thought comes to mind typically it results in a floppy!

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

"Methinks most of us has been there......."

Yep.happened to me recently.It wsn't a planned meet,and happened after a night out.So i blame the Guinness and Jager Bombs, not nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Methinks most of us has been there......."
yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get nervous the first time i meet someone and feel that this puts ppl off from meeting again but once i know someone and can relax im fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I have to have a connection to someone, I really don't do well on Vidal Sassoon* meets

Sadly, this is what many people on here are looking for.

*(Fuck N Go)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tends to suggest he shouldn't really be swinging. It takes a certain mindset and it isn't for everyone!

I wouldn't say that. Some men get nervous and self conscious. It happens, I just focus on other parts of their anatomy and give them a moment.

Once, I went to the loo to give my playmate a moment. Next thing I knew he was running down the stairs, getting dressed as he went. It was a sight.

Much as blokes like to deny it, your cock is totally ruled by your head! All in the mind... "

+1 the subconcious mind is a very powerful tool as much as he can convince his self there is no problem with nerves or playing behind someones back etc the human body will drop you in the doo doo at just the wrong time.No matter how hot the females are and what they are doing to him if the mind says no then the bloke downstairs will not play ball.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, nerves effect a huge amount of guys. I think it's fair for them to want to give it a go but inevitably if they haven't got the right mindset for the situation they've agreed to then they shouldn't claim to have experienced group fun. Im happy to meet guys in this situation in a separate room to give them a chance.

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