FabSwingers.com forum: NO FWBs

By *itheniceguy OP Man
over a year ago

BICESTER

Could someone tell me why some couples don't want fun with FWB couples?

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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Personal choice?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's sometimes more drama associated with more temporary arrangements.

Although I look at it as, anyone can ask for anything within site rules/ the law, and it doesn't really matter why they want what they want, just that they do.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Its just preferences some people want somethings that other people dont

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By *itheniceguy OP Man
over a year ago

BICESTER

"Personal choice?"

Well yes of course but what would be the reasoning behind it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Huge generalisation here but they tend not to be able to read each other quite as well and this can lead to misinterpretation of signals and situations

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

As a single person who occasionally plays with couples, there’s an entirely different vibe when they aren’t a “proper” couple. The connection they have is different, the way they treat each other and the way they treat me. Playing with fwb couples doesn’t feel right to me, in the same way that i won’t do hotel meets with strangers, I’ll only meet at theirs. It’s just what feels comfortable for me.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Im half a couple, we don't mind fwb couples as long as they aren't married to other people who dont know they're on here.

Also as long as they haven't just got together a week or 2 ago (because they wont know each other v well ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet fwbs - usually I find with genuine couples there are clear boundaries, they trust eachother and they communicate, knowing what eachother wants.. it makes everything run smoothly. Fwb in the past there's been drama, the woman blaming me for something, some jealousy in there between them two aswell. X

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

There is a definate difference between having a threesome or more with an established couple, and having an ffm or mmf with randoms.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Because that's not a couple. That's just two people who've fucked before.

It's a completely different energy.

On the rare occasions I want to play unicorn, I'm only interested in doing so with people who are genuinely invested in each other.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's just not the same, they don't have the same connection as an authentic couple.

Mrs

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Because that's not a couple. That's just two people who've fucked before.

It's a completely different energy.

On the rare occasions I want to play unicorn, I'm only interested in doing so with people who are genuinely invested in each other.

Genuinely invested in each other sums it up beautifully. This doesn't mean it can't be fun with an FWB couple but there's a different intensity involved.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

"Personal choice?

Well yes of course but what would be the reasoning behind it? "
perhaps because they want to share with people in a similar situation to them.... or they want a couple with feelings towards each other. Who knows.. I don't bother with people that are looking for things I can't offer.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

as other have said when you want to play with another couple you want a couple who are in tune with each other fwb couple dont come anywhere near how real couples are .... just my opinion ..

as a couple and as me as single we/i avoid all fwb/fb couples ... and yes we did meet some years ago and they put us.me off for good

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

FWB is used a lot for some ppl it means they maybe chat a lot but only actually hook up in person 2 or 3 times a month.

The fwb regular i have had for years got to point we was spending more time together both socially and in bed.to point we was staying overnight at each others house 3 or 4 nights a week

we both knew each others likes and dislikes what mood they in , sense if they are uneasy about something ,protect each other.Trust each other.when we chatted it was normally about everyday life ,what we wanted from life ,had many shared interests besides sex.

We realised although not looking for it we had actually drifted into a loving relationship.We was both single and though we knew had both met others realised both of us had not met or wanted to meet anyone else for months

the point i am making is towards the end of our FWB period before actually becoming a couple we behaved like one.People that met us when we was out socially in bars restuarants etc assumed we was a couple.

fwb couples who don't meet that often in person.

Many times really don't know each other that well there is often a false or awkward atmosphere thats hard to describe, if asked a question that silence wondering which should answer so often a awkward uneasy silence or both answer same time with completey different answer then stare at each other.

And often apart from what they enjoy in bed together actually know very little about each other.What the other is thinking ,can't sense if the other is uneasy how things are going.

anyway i rambled on long enough hope what i wrote kinda makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As people above have said. We prefer “proper” couples as they’re a couple and come together. For me personally, I’d be uncomfortable with a “single” man present, whether playing as a couple or not.

Mrs

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We totally understand this reluctance to FWBs in an online setting. We want to be with couples who work well together and share something good like ourselves. So naturally we would be wary of any FWB profile or that of a singles approaching us online for a 4some with there fwb.

However in the club world its different because you meet people face to face and soon get a good grasp of what they are like together. We have in our time met some FWB couples who are just as good and often better together than some established relationships couples we've met. Some of these FWB couple have become good freinds of ours over the years.

So in summary online we are suspicious of FWB couples. However in the real world we take couples of any type how find them and make our decisions onwards from there.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

It is totally personal choice

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