FabSwingers.com forum: Hidden verifications

By *g99 OP Couple
over a year ago

We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doesn't bother me, but if I'm interested in meeting them I would ask them to display them for a couple of minutes

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"No doesn't bother me, but if I'm interested in meeting them I would ask them to display them for a couple of minutes"

Interesting. We like that shout

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *ustylikesgentsCouple
over a year ago

North wales coast

"No doesn't bother me, but if I'm interested in meeting them I would ask them to display them for a couple of minutes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it was a single man I'd think fake. if it was a couple who sounded too good to be true then like wise. same goes for people with one verification from a hidden profile.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I show mine and would like to see theirs. It's only fair x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. We hide ours as some use is to track your meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same with me - hidden but will show someone i was intending to me

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"same with me - hidden but will show someone i was intending to me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree- hidden but available

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"No doesn't bother me, but if I'm interested in meeting them I would ask them to display them for a couple of minutes"

Exactly. I totally agree. Theres always a way around every problem (i also hide mine now)

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Mine are hidden and thats how they're going to stay

No-one has ever asked to see them either and if they did id say no

Plenty of people with theirs on show to ask to meet up with instead of wanting to know about mine that are'nt on show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd never meet anyone with just a tick...need to read actual verifications from users i can contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind if they only display them for a few mins though

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By *ottscouple1Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Agree with most on here we hide our verifications but more than happy to make available for the right people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always kept my veris hidden and my friends list unless its a brief show for people. As other posters have pointed to I've had friends and playmates annoyed by people so I learned to keep them hidden.

I used to put pics up but since the media focus no way. I will go on cam and so forth so people see I am genuine. As others have stated, some people can lose their careers.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

People can do what they like with their own profiles. But it would put me off if I could not see a verification. Some people, like me, use them as part of the vetting process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't show them don't ask for them don't (unless the guy is unverified ) give them. Not done me any harm so they staying like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

wouldn't worry about receiving messages like that,there are some rude folk on here and seems a couple of them took trouble to get in touch with you,what I find odd is why just email someone out of the blue saying you didn't want to meet??very strange!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide most of mine now, because people were contacting my meets thru me, but I had a lady the other day who was going to meet someone I had verified and asked to see his veri to me, so I showed it and promptly took it back off again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a veri, but it was from a lady who's no longer on the site (not down to me hopefully! lol). It's frustrating because I can't show it on my profile now. All I get is the green tick, which from what i've read on here, doesnt seem to reassure people that you're genuine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'd never meet anyone with just a tick...need to read actual verifications from users i can contact "

you cross reference?

Jeeze

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'd never meet anyone with just a tick...need to read actual verifications from users i can contact

you cross reference?

Jeeze

Still trying to get my head around that

you read someone's veris and then you contact the person who wrote the veri to pick their brains some more? What more can they add?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'd never meet anyone with just a tick...need to read actual verifications from users i can contact

you cross reference?

Jeeze

Still trying to get my head around that

you read someone's veris and then you contact the person who wrote the veri to pick their brains some more? What more can they add?"

I've got the giggles cos I couldn't work it out either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

I hide mine too !

There are 1 or 2 I show intermittently - there are some that would never see the light of day publically.

If it came to arranging a meet I would walk away rather than compromise myself for someone elses curiosity.

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I realise this will probably sound like sour grapes coming from a guy who has been on here for over a year and has no verifications (evidently the worst possible situation, but I refuse to manipulate the system by rejoining to appear "new"), however I think the whole verification system is largely counter-productive. Have none? People draw conclusions, often wrongly. Hide them? People draw conclusions, often wrongly. Too many? Too few? Ditto. Show your verifications and you're displaying your conquests to the world (well, the fab world anyway) and risking the horrific prospect of somebody like secretescape contacting previous meets to check on your "suitability" for the job!

I accept that making an informed choice and avoiding time wasters is important, and I suppose verifications are useful to those who have to find some way of choosing from the avalanche of offers they receive, but they rarely tell the whole story.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I realise this will probably sound like sour grapes coming from a guy who has been on here for over a year and has no verifications (evidently the worst possible situation, but I refuse to manipulate the system by rejoining to appear "new"), however I think the whole verification system is largely counter-productive. Have none? People draw conclusions, often wrongly. Hide them? People draw conclusions, often wrongly. Too many? Too few? Ditto. Show your verifications and you're displaying your conquests to the world (well, the fab world anyway) and risking the horrific prospect of somebody like secretescape contacting previous meets to check on your "suitability" for the job!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone contacted us to ask about a veri we'd given we'd assume they were a bunny boiler and tell em to fuck off

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By *ickiemintMan
over a year ago

Somewhere NW London

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

Its personal choice, but it does sound a bit wierd them just contacting you to say that they'd never meet you...I just don't get the logic as to why someone would do that...still, there's nothing stranger than somepeople...lol...

We show our veris, the only trouble is, as friends leave the site, their veris disappear. And our profile is just left with three of my meets on there...still, they're out there for all to see even if it does distort what we're about...Su's F.B isn't even on Fab. And two of the few couples we've met didn't bother to leave us a veri...like I said, nothing stranger than some people...lol. Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We show some , and why not ?

Dont give a fig for cross referencing or whatever others wanna do ?

We are what we are and loud and proud lol

Take us or leave us - but if you take us please leave a veri lol

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

We display ours.It shows the different type of meets we have:MFM,partys,clubs and of course kinky!It gives fabster who are interested an idea to what we like+what we have to offer.

We only interested in ppl who show their veris.Webcam veris as proof for beeing genuine?It only proofs they happy to show themselfes virtual,it doesn't proof they happy to leave the comfort+security of their own house!

The great thing about Fab is:its such a popular site that everyone can use the site as they like and plenty of ppl who work their profiles in the same way.Whatever same way is for ppl.

Happy swinging all

(susie)

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

No, as I have mine hidden.

Anyone with the audacity to ask to see them would be ignored and blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes no difference if they are hidden or not, even if you ask to see them , they only have to show you one, you still don't know if theres more to be seen, so a bit pointless really. And just found out one woman has been given false veris to young guys on here, so makes the whole veri system a bit of a waste of time really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care if people show veris or not, I often don't look at them anyway.

We do have ours on display, but if we didn't and someone contacted me to ask to see them, I would refuse.

Similarly if someone contacted me to ask about a person on our veri list, I would refuse to give further info. I can't be doing with all this cross referencing crap. If you can't tell by messaging whether you want to meet someone and are relying on the word of other strangers, they I think that's foolish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said some interesting points

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I find it more and more interesting the judgments that are made regarding verifications:

I've had people decide not to meet me because I only show (social) veris rather than play ones.

I've had people suggest I have too many veris (indiscreet?) yet when I hide the veris, am classed as "not genuine".

I've also had people break contact with me because I either have not verified them immediately (24 hours) after a meet (sometimes I like to stagger the days/weeks so anyone snooping doesn't know the "when") ... or that i have not shown it.

So, whats the perfect way to manage verifications?? (Show or not, quantity, when to give?)

The only verifications I don't put any faith in is webcam and phone: it only means you can use technology, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide some of mine and only display one or two as last time I was on here I had people messaging my veri,s and annoying them .

I know there are allot of time wasters and fakes on here but there,s no need to message veri,s .

If people are genuine then there,s nothing wrong with swapping numbers or meeting in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hide our veris for a valid reason, but happy to show them to potential meets.

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By *laveslutMan
over a year ago

HULL

I likecto see verifications then I can check out if that person is genuine or not I can't understand why people hide them but thats thier choice but I won't meet anyone if I can't verify them first my choice

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By *laveslutMan
over a year ago

HULL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is another train of thought; which is some of us are more active than others and we might slighlty embarrassed to expose our antics to the FAB world on mass and then there are those who say they are one thing but in fact play differrent than in thier profiles (couples who meet Bi -gay; but show straight as examples) and lastly some prefer not to show a lost of meets in a proectionist way

Each to thier own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we don't show our veris for one reason only. Its our business who we've met and nobody else's. one of our veris is nearly four years old.what is anyone going to learn from it by reading it. let alone someone mailing them four years down the line to cross examine them over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people like to c verifications as there a lot of fakkers on here It can help to sort out the people who picture hunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we don't show our veris for one reason only. Its our business who we've met and nobody else's. one of our veris is nearly four years old.what is anyone going to learn from it by reading it. let alone someone mailing them four years down the line to cross examine them over it"

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

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I don't show all mine only a couple to show I'm genuine

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By *urlycatMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I can't show mine because the people I met are not on here anymore .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care if people show veris or not, I often don't look at them anyway.

We do have ours on display, but if we didn't and someone contacted me to ask to see them, I would refuse.

If you're basing your decisions on others experiences you run the risk of being disappointed - everyone's tastes and interactions will be different and there's no guarantee that because others had a great time and enjoyed each others company that this will be the case for you.

That said I'd rather see nice general feedback without 'gory details' than hidden veri's. And as for people contacting those you've met - it's happened to me but I'd like to think they'd be polite and discreet enough to tell any nosey buggers to 'go do one!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

having peeked at you its hard to understand why ? your nice looking and read very interesting and im sure any meets you had would have been cracking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

having peeked at you its hard to understand why ? your nice looking and read very interesting and im sure any meets you had would have been cracking

I must be doing something wrong , they never even asked to see my 2 lonely veris , oh hang on I talked to them and they made up own minds how novel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've found that your damned if you do show and damned if you don't, so i've found for me the best way is if some one is interested and they ask then a few mins on display is cool....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

having peeked at you its hard to understand why ? your nice looking and read very interesting and im sure any meets you had would have been cracking

I must be doing something wrong , they never even asked to see my 2 lonely veris , oh hang on I talked to them and they made up own minds how novel

veris are just there to acknowledge that people have met and in some small how things went and without doubt are not for everyone; id say as a Bi man who meets singles/couples; veris are more important - just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i've found that your damned if you do show and damned if you don't, so i've found for me the best way is if some one is interested and they ask then a few mins on display is cool...."

thats also true and well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

having peeked at you its hard to understand why ? your nice looking and read very interesting and im sure any meets you had would have been cracking

I must be doing something wrong , they never even asked to see my 2 lonely veris , oh hang on I talked to them and they made up own minds how novel

Yep I can see that as well but main thing is we all choose how we want our profile to work and if people just moved on if one profile doesn't work for them because there will be loads that do there wouldn't be as many threads moaning about other people's choices. And breath

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

Weve had two meets on here both are no longer on fab, so their veris have disappeared??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

It does'nt bother me but i'm unlikely to meet people who hide their veris, friends, pics.... I'm interested in meeting open people who don't feel the need to hide!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care if people show veris or not, I often don't look at them anyway.

We do have ours on display, but if we didn't and someone contacted me to ask to see them, I would refuse.

Any verifications we have had that have been crude or explicit we just don't display them. Who wants to see things like that?

We do like to see verifications (at least a coupls of them and preferably recent) so we know the people are who they say they are.

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

I hid both my verifications and friends list for a while as someone was messaging people on them saying that I had told them that they were boring, luckily one of my 'friends' told me about this so I blocked the culprit and messaged them all to say what was happening. Then after a while I started showing them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only show social meets not play ones, think that is perfectly okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

aww we'll give you one

and a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'd never meet anyone with just a tick...need to read actual verifications from users i can contact

you cross reference?

Jeeze

Still trying to get my head around that

you read someone's veris and then you contact the person who wrote the veri to pick their brains some more? What more can they add?

I've got the giggles cos I couldn't work it out either

Me too can't work that one out - why contact the verifying party ?

Angel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you really need a reference to meet someone, I don't in the pub and on here is no different.

I tend to meet people on a regular basis which probably makes it a little different for me.

To be honest a page full of veri's would put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

At least a verification gives you an idea if Mandy from Basingstoke is not actually Malcolm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

At least a verification gives you an idea if Mandy from Basingstoke is not actually Malcolm!"

No it doesn't as there are plenty of fake accounts, a phone call or a social meet works fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

aww we'll give you one

and a veri "

Can we just have the give me one and forget the veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications?

It does'nt bother me but i'm unlikely to meet people who hide their veris, friends, pics.... I'm interested in meeting open people who don't feel the need to hide!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

At least a verification gives you an idea if Mandy from Basingstoke is not actually Malcolm!

No it doesn't as there are plenty of fake accounts, a phone call or a social meet works fine

Surely the other accounts would also have to be fake as well to give a verification? Sounds all a bit complex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

ive no problem, but 1 women hides them, but she said she would happily show them, i asked to see them she got funny :S

i hide them to be honest, ive played with married women on here and they prefer it to be hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does'nt bother me but i'm unlikely to meet people who hide their veris, friends, pics.... I'm interested in meeting open people who don't feel the need to hide!

You'd better have a word with a few of your veris, as some have their friends hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told the other day by a single girl on here that some random guy, just sent here a verie, she had never met this guy at all, talked to him or anything, when she questioned him about it, he just said he thought it would make him look good if other people looked at his profile, she reported him and blocked him, i believe this is widespread on here, looking at some of the veries, there just so impossible to believe

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I know some guys who have been on here 6, 7, 8, 9 times and they ask for a verification... I say No as I can't be arsed doing the same one over and over and over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 anyway sob sob , oh hang on that's cos I don't ask for them

aww we'll give you one

and a veri

Can we just have the give me one and forget the veri

even better. you don't want em and we don't show em. it'll be our secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest."

Have we got too many?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest.

Have we got too many?"

Is it better to hide the bulk of yer veris? That way people may be under the impression you don't play as often as you do, I've also noticed that some only show "respectable" meets in veris but hide veris given by fithier folk and tv's...so hiding them tells a story to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

At least a verification gives you an idea if Mandy from Basingstoke is not actually Malcolm!

No it doesn't as there are plenty of fake accounts, a phone call or a social meet works fine

Surely the other accounts would also have to be fake as well to give a verification? Sounds all a bit complex!"

They find ways around it

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over a year ago

"I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest.

Have we got too many?

I don't analyse it that much to be honest, surely verifications are there to show you are real. all you need is a couple to say yes, met the person, they are fun, I recommend meeting them. 100 verifications , lots of which are days apart or on the same day just put me off for a variety of reasons. having said that, it is each to their own.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Its a truism of this site like life that people will read whatever they want to into a situation.

We display ours but it has gotten us abuse for doing so on chat for it so I can understand why people chose not to show theirs.

However, We like to read verifications before we engage with someone, it helps to give you a picture and if its worth investing time into them, but like everything else it doesn't trump a bit of common sense and reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont show mine, If requested I can show them, for a very short period of time. But I used to ask people not to verify me. (to keep numbers down in my inbox, alot of men search only verified profiles) I have pics on display, I am a female so can do the phone call thing, but I wouldn't meet someone new,(to me, not the site) without having looked at their veri's.

Phone and webcam ones dont count for me. Nor does a veri from 2 years ago.

I like to see a met in person. Because they actully turned up.

I get a lot of emails from veri's I've left on others profiles. Never asking if they were worth the travel or anything daft, just that they saw I was real and really meeting.

I have also given recommendations to other single women about single men I've met. (Non of the men had a problem with this, I did ask them first)

We all use this site differently.

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

hmmmm....most don't fully read veri's anyway do they! as I wouldn't get messages saying wow have you really shagged all those members!!! haha.

However, mine date back from 2007 and I'm happy for anyone, when they have a spare hour or so to read them..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weve had two meets on here both are no longer on fab, so their veris have disappeared??"

If someone leaves the site, their verifications will disappear but you will retain the green tick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weve had two meets on here both are no longer on fab, so their veris have disappeared??

If someone leaves the site, their verifications will disappear but you will retain the green tick

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yeah but that won't be good enough for some. if you're displaying those veris and the people leave it just looks to others ad if you've hidden them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the problem u want them hidden that's your choice bugger wot anyone else thinks. Let's face it's who is to say they are only hidden for all we know the users hae left the site and therefore you've only got your little green tick anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

At least a verification gives you an idea if Mandy from Basingstoke is not actually Malcolm!

No it doesn't as there are plenty of fake accounts, a phone call or a social meet works

fine

Surely the other accounts would also have to be fake as well to give a verification? Sounds all a bit complex!"

It can be complex, but I have heard rumours that there are a group of about 30 fake profiles claiming to be so called 'friends' who just verify each other . Bizarre but apparently true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine or ask for them from meets, I'm not really interested in seeing others either.

If we click we click and meet, easy really

At least a verification gives you an idea if Mandy from Basingstoke is not actually Malcolm!

No it doesn't as there are plenty of fake accounts, a phone call or a social meet works

fine

Surely the other accounts would also have to be fake as well to give a verification? Sounds all a bit complex!

It can be complex, but I have heard rumours that there are a group of about 30 fake profiles claiming to be so called 'friends' who just verify each other . Bizarre but apparently true

Surprised no ones reported them then?

One must be genuine as you can't verify someone unless you've been verified too. And as you can't verify someone who's logged in on the same computer/phone - they must go through a lot of pc's!!!!

If you think someone - verified or not - is fake, just report them to admin!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told the other day by a single girl on here that some random guy, just sent here a verie, she had never met this guy at all, talked to him or anything, when she questioned him about it, he just said he thought it would make him look good if other people looked at his profile, she reported him and blocked him, i believe this is widespread on here, looking at some of the veries, there just so impossible to believe

I agree, some are definately false,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot do that no point all mine would vouch for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest.

Have we got too many?

We don't hide the 'bulk' of our verifications just ones we thought crude or used our names in the text.

Could you just explain who 'filthier folk' might be?

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By *he full worksCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

"i'd never meet anyone with just a tick...need to read actual verifications from users i can contact "

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By *upidmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"We had an pm from a couple, telling us that they would never meet us as we don't show our veri's. was just out of the blue Aswell lol no contact before this!

Now we hide our verifications for a reason and well if people have a problem with that then fine, there not for us.

Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "
Nope, I choose to hide mine because having "Verified Genuine" on my profile should be sufficient, if it's not then tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest.

Have we got too many?

We don't hide the 'bulk' of our verifications just ones we thought crude or used our names in the text.

Could you just explain who 'filthier folk' might be?

Well...me i suppose, I do try to always speak from experiences i've lived through!

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By *upidmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I just put up a couple to show I am real. I don't understand why people hide them all, but I also don't understand why people show loads. The latter I find more offputting to be honest.

Have we got too many?

We don't hide the 'bulk' of our verifications just ones we thought crude or used our names in the text.

Could you just explain who 'filthier folk' might be?

Well...me i suppose, I do try to always speak from experiences i've lived through!

"
Interesting name...I assume "The Nun" was taken

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Everyone should just do whatever suits their own preference.

Regardless of what you choose it will be analysed to death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correct me if I'm wrong but..... I am pretty sure that Fab isn't the only website for meeting people on the internet.

Could it be possible that someone may only have 1 veri.... and yet have met 100's of people on other sites/ in clubs etc????

But don't worry. They only have 1 veri from Mr and Mrs Respectable. So they are ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone should just do whatever suits their own preference.

Regardless of what you choose it will be analysed to death. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications? "

Not in the slightest! I don't read people's verifications. I prefer NOT to know who people have met, before they met me.

The verifications I leave are always 'social' verifications, and I really don't want to know if someone I'm thinking of meeting has previously met someone who is very explicit in their verification. So someone else thinks that he 'has a cock to die for'? To be honest, if a person DISPLAYS such a verification - he may think it's brilliant but .... I prefer to think that my partners have a bit more discretion.

Just because it's an adult hobby, doesn't meet that everyone has to know everything that everyone has done with everyone!

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

Personally I hide mine cause I don't want everyone seeing what I've been doing.

I have started to think some men hide theirs since its from another male and they are hiding a bi side (which I've been right a few times) but I know won't be true for everyone.

At the end of the day everyones different and will react different to things so doesn't bother me too much

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"Personally I hide mine cause I don't want everyone seeing what I've been doing.

My idea of discretion is swinging is the same as fight club, you do not talk about it.

If someone passes me by because they don't like my choice not to show what others have said about me, well, that's their choice and their loss.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

" Question is does it bother you when people hide there verifications?

Not in the slightest! I don't read people's verifications. I prefer NOT to know who people have met, before they met me.

Just because it's an adult hobby, doesn't meet that everyone has to know everything that everyone has done with everyone!

That's odd you claim not to read verifications, but seem to have _iew on their content, actually not a _iew, a judgement.

Strange!

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I display enough of mine to show that I'm a real person and that I do actually meet and make friends on here.

I prefer people to have at least a couple of veri's showing just to make verifying them easier in the same way.

There are other ways though and I'd never make anyone else feel pressurised into displaying veri's they wanted to hide. Some are best hidden, such as real life connections which could be tricky if found out somehow publicly or ones which go into a bit more detail about the night's activities than you'd want the world to know about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask if the verifier is ok for it to be pubkic some are ok with it others who may be in public eye wish to be anonymous same rule applies with friends list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I hide mine cause I don't want everyone seeing what I've been doing.

My idea of discretion is swinging is the same as fight club, you do not talk about it.

If someone passes me by because they don't like my choice not to show what others have said about me, well, that's their choice and their loss."

Well to me constantly hiding the fact that yer a swinger, hiding your pics,hiding what folk say in veri's....would tell me your ashamed of what you are doing and embaressed by the veris,

And i will steer well clear from the lot of you

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Everyone should just do whatever suits their own preference.

Regardless of what you choose it will be analysed to death. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always compare this issue to what went on on the site I used as a single guy about three years ago. It had no verification system at all, no feedback. Nothing.

As a result, you made sure you covered yourself and didn't rush in to what could be a precarious situation. I always had a phone convo first, the first meeting was always on the basis that it was a social only, but the option was there to take it further if both of us wanted to. I should point out that this was a purely hetero site, so it was strictly straight 'single' (I use that term loosely) men and women meeting each other.

In short, it made YOU do your homework and not rely on the say-so of someone else. It also made you make damned sure that the other person was genuine.

On Fabs until recently there were three ways someone could be 'verified': by meeting in person, by _iewing by webcam and lastly by phone. The latter has now been dropped as it was clearly open to so much abuse and fakery that it was practically useless. However, it is not that difficult to fake what someone sees on a webcam either - just ask a few who have been caught out by it.

For that reason, I think it is important that if the verification system is to stay, they (the veris) should be on show so that I know when _iewing whether they are from webcam or in person.

Due to the ambiguity which still persists with the veri system on Fabs (ie. in person or just webcam 'meets'), I would have a large question mark over taking things very far with a couple who hid their veris. And even more so one who did that, but still displayed their friends list..... a little odd, in ones humble opinion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh P n C you have such a way with words lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only hide all the bad ones !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!"

they're hidden to start with and people can choose to display them or not. as far as i can work out there is no way to remove them and unverify yourself. only keep them hidden.

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

Thers also the situation of the person who verified you has since left the site so you don't have anything to show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!"

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"I always compare this issue to what went on on the site I used as a single guy about three years ago. It had no verification system at all, no feedback. Nothing.

In short, it made YOU do your homework and not rely on the say-so of someone else. It also made you make damned sure that the other person was genuine.

For that reason, I think it is important that if the verification system is to stay, they (the veris) should be on show so that I know when _iewing whether they are from webcam or in person.

If there was way I could show the TYPE of verification but not the content, then I'd show something but until they change the all or nothing system, I'm keeping them hidden as I don't like folks I don't know, knowing my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there was way I could show the TYPE of verification but not the content, then I'd show something but until they change the all or nothing system, I'm keeping them hidden as I don't like folks I don't know, knowing my business"

Something to post on the site feedback forum...??? I think this is quite a good idea..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

I don't see the point in them full stop hence the reason mine hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

I don't see the point in them full stop hence the reason mine hidden.

Then why bother getting verified in the first place?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

not sure that there is a choice about having them or not. My understanding is that if someone sends you a verification you have 2 options .. display or hide .. i may be wrong however

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

they're hidden to start with and people can choose to display them or not. as far as i can work out there is no way to remove them and unverify yourself. only keep them hidden."

Every veri had to be accepted firsty, under verification waiting! You did'nt have to open!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

I don't see the point in them full stop hence the reason mine hidden.

Then why bother getting verified in the first place?

If someone verifies you they can do so without your permission. You then get the green tick. You can either hide them or show them. there is no other alternative, you can't remove them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

I don't see the point in them full stop hence the reason mine hidden.

Then why bother getting verified in the first place?

I actually never asked for them , I have 2 one from a guy I have met god knows how many times over last 5 years and 1 I got from a guy who I met he left and returned. Still no idea why he left it really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

I don't see the point in them full stop hence the reason mine hidden.

Then why bother getting verified in the first place?

If someone verifies you they can do so without your permission. You then get the green tick. You can either hide them or show them. there is no other alternative, you can't remove them"

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I think a decent balance would be option to show verification,.. but hide the names of the verifiers

Then you can show veri + sender, veri alone .. or neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the other problem is if you only had a couple of veris and they left the site it looks like you're hiding your veris. Maybe show the veri but with User no longer a member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see the point of having them if they are hidden!!!

I don't see the point in them full stop hence the reason mine hidden.

Then why bother getting verified in the first place?

I still have one from a guy whom I have never messaged or met before, if I can be sent a fake veri, so can everyone else...therefore i would still want to read veri's, and i will still pass on those who hide parts of their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the other problem is if you only had a couple of veris and they left the site it looks like you're hiding your veris. Maybe show the veri but with User no longer a member"

No your veri vanishes in that case, i've had this a few weeks ago, the veri's used to stay, but don't now!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Like a lot of things on Fab there are huge double standards here. Single guys are expected to show them (and then get judged and backtracked on them as well) and yet single ladies and, to a lesser extent, couples can usually get away with just the veri tick and hiding them.

I simply show mine and leave people to worry about it all themselves. I like to see a few veris as they can give you some idea of the type of meet people like.

I think a few people take them far too seriously and track them back three or four meets to make sure you've not been indirectly in contact with someone on their hate list. Very playground behaviour in my opinion.

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I still have one from a guy whom I have never messaged or met before, if I can be sent a fake veri, so can everyone else...therefore i would still want to read veri's, and i will still pass on those who hide parts of their profile

I had something similar. A guy who was talking to me a while back till I caught him out to be a liar and he blocked me then a month later he gives me a fake verification. I just reported it to admin and the fake verification is now gone along with the user who gave it, although I know some others wouldn't be so honest and claim its real. Reporting didn't seem to do much though he just made a fresh account and hes back lying although minus any verification now

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I think a few people take them far too seriously and track them back three or four meets to make sure you've not been indirectly in contact with someone on their hate list. Very playground behaviour in my opinion. "

To be fair I have called off a meet because I found out he was friends with someone on my "hate list". Someone who gave me abuse and threats and my potential meet had described him as a real good guy, chilled and laid back which was the opposite of what he was and I even found out from others afterwards he was the same with them.

I wouldn't see it as playground stuff. I see it as keeping safe online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine but have no problem displaying them to a potential meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if it was a single man I'd think fake. if it was a couple who sounded too good to be true then like wise. same goes for people with one verification from a hidden profile."

This is why we now show some of ours to represent us as real and not hiding anything, but only the social ones or those that don't go into too much detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why veris being shown is such an issue but for me I won't show my veris due to a sense of privacy and recognizing that many with huge lists of veris are basically on some ego trip it appears more than anything.

Nor will I show my friends list due to people being mailed shit by jealous people and so forth.

I also don't have photos because I have seen and heard too many cases of photos ending up used elsewhere. I used to have pics in the past but not now with such a focus by the media on this site and people being indiscreet primarily on the forums which can be read by all incidentally.

I also have a career to think of.

We are all different and have different ways of being. I do most my pulling on cam. Lights on. Plus many have met me or got to know me in social situations as well as play. I've seen catfights break out in here in the past over veris and people knowing so and so fucked so and so.

So call me being in the shadows a sign of experience and not a sign of somehow seeking to fake my way around the site. And cockteasingcunt...all my friends are hot as fuck.

;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the other problem is if you only had a couple of veris and they left the site it looks like you're hiding your veris. Maybe show the veri but with User no longer a member

No your veri vanishes in that case, i've had this a few weeks ago, the veri's used to stay, but don't now!

yeah my point was the green tick stays. you've got none to show do it looks like you're hiding them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the other problem is if you only had a couple of veris and they left the site it looks like you're hiding your veris. Maybe show the veri but with User no longer a member

No your veri vanishes in that case, i've had this a few weeks ago, the veri's used to stay, but don't now!

yeah my point was the green tick stays. you've got none to show do it looks like you're hiding them"

Ah...I see what you mean, it does say clearly if you're hiding veri's, so it should just look like you hav'nt got any...i'm guessing at that though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And cockteasingcunt...all my friends are hot as fuck.

;)"

Of course they are, they're all on fab aint they!

Why ye tellin me though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the other problem is if you only had a couple of veris and they left the site it looks like you're hiding your veris. Maybe show the veri but with User no longer a member

No your veri vanishes in that case, i've had this a few weeks ago, the veri's used to stay, but don't now!

yeah my point was the green tick stays. you've got none to show do it looks like you're hiding them

Ah...I see what you mean, it does say clearly if you're hiding veri's, so it should just look like you hav'nt got any...i'm guessing at that though!

What you mean it says on a profile that veris are hidden, where is that cos I didn't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It does'nt say on a profile if you are hiding veris,it will just say verified genuine

It will say if you've chosen to hide your friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does'nt say on a profile if you are hiding veris,it will just say verified genuine

It will say if you've chosen to hide your friends list "

But if it says verified genuine but does'nt show any veri's, you should know they are hidden by then!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Like a lot of things on Fab there are huge double standards here. Single guys are expected to show them (and then get judged and backtracked on them as well) and yet single ladies and, to a lesser extent, couples can usually get away with just the veri tick and hiding them.

I simply show mine and leave people to worry about it all themselves. I like to see a few veris as they can give you some idea of the type of meet people like.

I show mine for the same reason and also like to read peoples to give me an idea of what they might be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does'nt say on a profile if you are hiding veris,it will just say verified genuine

It will say if you've chosen to hide your friends list

But if it says verified genuine but does'nt show any veri's, you should know they are hidden by then!

unless those that have left verifications have left the site.then it just says verified genuine. there's none to show so it looks like you've hidden them.if you do hide your veris it doesn't say 'x verifications hidden'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless those that have left verifications have left the site.then it just says verified genuine. there's none to show so it looks like you've hidden them"

Yeah....that's true but only if ALL the folk that have left you veri's leave...or you only have one veri...

All they can do is what they should be doing anyway.

Use a bit of common sense...and pick up a few verifications on the way, like we all had to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And cockteasingcunt...all my friends are hot as fuck.

;)

Of course they are, they're all on fab aint they!

Why ye tellin me though?

1. 99% of my friends are not on fab. I know plenty who use this site who would not have such a claim to make. We all know the type. However I do have a number of hot friends here. All noted for discretion unless given the nod.

2. I told you because you took a position earlier on veris and friends lists etc and how you pass them by and prefer people to be open etc.

In short I was pointing out that we all have our own reasons for how we operate here. For example, I am a gorgeous sexy fucker (ask around) but unless you see me on cam in the rooms you won't know that. I wouldn't send out face pics to people I do not know nowadays. Learned from those errors in the past too and I stress that unlike many I actually have a career that I would lose. Not fair, but that is life for you.

Hope that clears it up for you. Might even see you in chat one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And cockteasingcunt...all my friends are hot as fuck.

;)

Of course they are, they're all on fab aint they!

Why ye tellin me though?

2. I told you because you took a position earlier on veris and friends lists etc and how you pass them by and prefer people to be open etc.

Hope that clears it up for you. Might even see you in chat one day.

Not likely big man, I have looked at your profile before as I'm sure your aware

And noted you don't do pics...,I don't do cams or phones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does'nt say on a profile if you are hiding veris,it will just say verified genuine

It will say if you've chosen to hide your friends list

But if it says verified genuine but does'nt show any veri's, you should know they are hidden by then!

No you will just know at some point they have been verified , those that left the veris may well have left site so there are no veris to show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see a beautiful fab relationship developing here cockteasingcunt and reg are made for each other !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how do you hide your verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how do you hide your verifications? "

Go to manage verifications and click the bit that says something like dont show on profile.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Interesting thread

I have to say i tend to hide most of my veris as the site unfortunately has individuals whom previously have contacted someone who verified me and said that i had recommended them and they knew me (i had no clue about this & didn't know them) and they should meet.

Luckily enough it was a very close personal friend of mine who knew i wouldn't do such a thing or tell anyone to contact her randomly like this asking for a meet. When she replied saying she had asked me and he was lying this guy left the site (wonder why ???)

I only display one veri and never show more than that. If someone is interested in meeting i will show more but only if i'm sure they are genuine and not just messers and timewasters as i wouldn't want friends harassed cause of me not being careful. Some site members are put off by this as it looks as though i haven't met anyone for a while, but given the nature of this site and wanting to protect my privacy and that of friends i'd rather stick to my rule of only displaying one veri

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

People have to understand that Fab is like a community. Showing your veris to know who you've met out timewasters and people with a fake veri on their profile.

As for me, i never ever travel for a profile with no genuine verification on their profile. When i say 'Genuine' i mean people that have been verified by others who have substantiated veris on theirs too, and not just some one liners verifying themselves.

In all the swingers sites ive been on, Fabswingers is the only site that makes it alot easier to out timewasters, and hiding your verifications is limiting your chances of expanding your circle of playmates to be honest.

If a knobhead contact one of my playmates saying i recommend them, i would expect such playmate to contact me for me to verify such person, so hiding verifications because of knobheads shouldnt be an excuse, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive met many none verified people so having verifications hidden matters not to me

Some people on here are so up tight, i find it hilarious someone would mail you out the blue to tell you they wouldnt meet you, id have mailed them back telling them they wasnt my type anyway

the cheek of some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have to understand that Fab is like a community. Showing your veris to know who you've met out timewasters and people with a fake veri on their profile.

and yet you're verified by somone who hides theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have to understand that Fab is like a community. Showing your veris to know who you've met out timewasters and people with a fake veri on their profile.

pretty much tend to agree...

recently Ive had some introducing themselves to my meets- claiming to be pals with me (great opening line eh?)- my meets have informed me..and sometime ive no clue who the person was...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have to understand that Fab is like a community. Showing your veris to know who you've met out timewasters and people with a fake veri on their profile.

Excellent post big man.... I also think this way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and yet you're verified by somone who hides theirs"

I don't understand the point of this post....

The Gent has more than enough veri's on display?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"People have to understand that Fab is like a community. Showing your veris to know who you've met out timewasters and people with a fake veri on their profile.

Excellent post big man.... I also think this way!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

" In all the swingers sites ive been on, Fabswingers is the only site that makes it alot easier to out timewasters, and hiding your verifications is limiting your chances of expanding your circle of playmates to be honest. "

i see your point but it's not something i agree with. Personally i feel a well written and thought out message can show your intnetion and geniuness (not sure if thats a word) as well as expanding your circle of playmates. Also fabs isnt the only way to find playmates and i've been fortunate enough to find playmates outside of fabs.

" If a knobhead contact one of my playmates saying i recommend them, i would expect such playmate to contact me for me to verify such person, so hiding verifications because of knobheads shouldnt be an excuse, really."

You're right here and it is what my friend did but hiding verifications cause of 'knobheads' is how i tend deal with the problem. To me its the same as putting my pics in private for friends and limiting what i show publically. I accept it limits my opportunities (so to speak) to meet or come to the attention of new playmates but i'm happy to accept that limitation knowing the playmates who i have met and verified me will not be harassed by thr so called knobheads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read veris , I do meet unverified , I prefer to find out about people myself. One persons knobhead is another persons perfect meet.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I don't read veris , I do meet unverified , I prefer to find out about people myself. One persons knobhead is another persons perfect meet. "

Yes you are right, everyone has their own taste in people & are attracted to the opposite (or same) sex for many different reasons. One persons knobhead can be someone elses perfect playmate / meet but in the context of this thread i was refering to someone who browses your verifications, approaches someone who has verified you, claims to know you & says you made the recommendation for them to approach when you have no idea who they are and dont know the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't read veris , I do meet unverified , I prefer to find out about people myself. One persons knobhead is another persons perfect meet.

Ah yep sorry got you , just another reason for keeping veris hidden then that can't happen

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I still think the perfect solution would be for admin to modify the verification system so you can post a verification while hiding the name of the sender

Admin, please can you do this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think the perfect solution would be for admin to modify the verification system so you can post a verification while hiding the name of the sender

Admin, please can you do this?

Do you mean with the option of posting with or without name?

Could see that working for lots but I still wouldn't show mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think the perfect solution would be for admin to modify the verification system so you can post a verification while hiding the name of the sender

Admin, please can you do this?

or just choose not to verify...

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Not to sound big headed, but there's alot of verifications I'd love to show but (due to my profile being "inspected" on a daily basis by a lot of guys looking for females to meet) I thought "I'm not helping you by being a "lead source!" Lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to sound big headed, but there's alot of verifications I'd love to show but (due to my profile being "inspected" on a daily basis by a lot of guys looking for females to meet) I thought "I'm not helping you by being a "lead source!" Lol!!!

lol...i get ya...but then I dont care who meets who after ive met them

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

lol...i get ya...but then I dont care who meets who after ive met them"

Without going into detail, lets just say I have my reasons why: if I was into introductions or referrals I'd like to be an active part of that process

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't read veris , I do meet unverified , I prefer to find out about people myself. One persons knobhead is another persons perfect meet.

But if the person approached takes their word for it, and goes on to meet them based on that info rather than sending you a wee message to check if you do recommend them, then surely its their OWN poor judgement that's to blame.... not the veri's?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I can't get my head round the idea of messaging someone to tell them you don't want to meet them!

Too much time on their hands or what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think the perfect solution would be for admin to modify the verification system so you can post a verification while hiding the name of the sender

Admin, please can you do this?

or just choose not to verify..."

Or choose who the senders name was!!!

Imagine the fun you could have with that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And cockteasingcunt...all my friends are hot as fuck.

;)

Of course they are, they're all on fab aint they!

Why ye tellin me though?

2. I told you because you took a position earlier on veris and friends lists etc and how you pass them by and prefer people to be open etc.

Hope that clears it up for you. Might even see you in chat one day.

Not likely big man, I have looked at your profile before as I'm sure your aware

And noted you don't do pics...,I don't do cams or phones!

lol...

I don't camwank. I leave that to saddos seriously. I show my face not me wanking my cock.

As for the phones...call it a private joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have to understand that Fab is like a community. Showing your veris to know who you've met out timewasters and people with a fake veri on their profile.

Again each to their own but can you explain how without flashing veris and friends lists - I did recently on request - I still seem to get playtime without a problem beyond real life constraints if all is as you say? Bear in mind this profile is new but I've been here for years mate.

Also my friends list is not huge but large. Again through meeting people at socials, in the chat rooms, even here on the forum. I think people also put too much stock in veris. One person's mince is another's steak at the end of the day.

But the wider point is this. No one should be demanding members behave to their ideological demand on what they see as fab or swinging in general, or inferring somehow that those who do not adhere to their ideology should be somehow deemed as not 'real'. The site has these options for very good reasons. I exercise them for those reasons as is my right.

At the end of the day I'm not an insecure serial shagger who feels the need to fuck everything in sight which is what veri kings and queens seem to want to scream out to the world. I am selective. It involves me finding out for myself what a person is like. I'm not interested in others opinions of AN Other.

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

" and yet you're verified by somone who hides theirs"

That's their reservation, not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" and yet you're verified by somone who hides theirs

That's their reservation, not mine"

yes i know and i apologize if wrong but it seems to contradict something earlier in your post about not meeting people who don't show them

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Im actually glad people think it limits my chances of meeting as I hide ours

Can't keep up as it is

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

"I still think the perfect solution would be for admin to modify the verification system so you can post a verification while hiding the name of the sender

Admin, please can you do this?

No way. That would be open to another kind of abuse. Imagine knobheads verifying one another to deceive genuine swingers. Its not going to work. If you dont want to be recognised, keep your facepic off fab. Simple as.

I must also stress that its good to know who you've met, not only to work out if you're genuine but to know if you're safe to play with.

Imagine someone that plays russian roulette with their health by barebacking every dick and harry on here contacted you for a meet, its upto you to decide if its worth risking your health playing with this person or not.

Verifications is what is making Fab stands out from the rest of other sites, i must admit

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