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By *ealtreats OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

So I read a newS paper article the other day about a swinger couple who must have been involved in a foursome. Anyhow it turns out that one of the guys involved wants to leave his swinging partner for the other woman in the equation. So the woman being jilted has written into an advice column seeking help. Crazy.....

I am thinking should there be a code of conduct written in the rule of swinging? or should you simply do unto others as they so kindly do to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insecure Couples, Couples with Issues. Dont get into swinging to try and save your marriage. It will end badly, no exceptions. Swinging is NOT marriage counselling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The letters in problem pages are fiction designed to push a moral agenda.

But fictitious or not I fail to see what on earth a code of conduct would achieve.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"So I read a newS paper article the other day about a swinger couple who must have been involved in a foursome. Anyhow it turns out that one of the guys involved wants to leave his swinging partner for the other woman in the equation. So the woman being jilted has written into an advice column seeking help. Crazy.....

I am thinking should there be a code of conduct written in the rule of swinging? or should you simply do unto others as they so kindly do to you? "

It's no crazier than a vanilla seeking help when they are losing someone they love.

Swingers are people. She clearly didn't expect to lose him.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The letters in problem pages are fiction designed to push a moral agenda.

But fictitious or not I fail to see what on earth a code of conduct would achieve."

OMG! You mean there IS no mr. angry from brighton who needs to know whether to pay alimony to his ex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the code such as it is, is within each of us already.

Crap sentence, apologies.

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By *ealtreats OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be a swinger you really need to understand all of the pit falls including the one you mentioned ....when swinging with as a couple; we never then met either the fem of male alone or in seperate rooms....mind you there are no gaurantees in this lifestyle

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"The letters in problem pages are fiction designed to push a moral agenda.

But fictitious or not I fail to see what on earth a code of conduct would achieve.

OMG! You mean there IS no mr. angry from brighton who needs to know whether to pay alimony to his ex ?

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No! A complete and utter pack of lies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The letters in problem pages are fiction designed to push a moral agenda.

But fictitious or not I fail to see what on earth a code of conduct would achieve.

OMG! You mean there IS no mr. angry from brighton who needs to know whether to pay alimony to his ex ?

No! A complete and utter pack of lies! "

Oh they are my favourite part of the paper/magazine I'm so disillusioned now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are too many couples where one or the other is pushing the other into it...usually the guy pushing the woman. This will never end well. To swing as a couple you need to trust each other 100%

I met a MF couple once..I had a lot of fun, the lady was brilliant spent ages pleasuring me..I noticed though she wasn't paying her hubby any attention and he was a little annoyed. Anyway me and her had sex and after that i made my excuses and left..the situation was getting more uneasy..

She contacted me a few days later telling me they split up and explained that there first swinging experience was a FFM and her man spent the whole time pleasuring the other girl and hardly touched her so when we met she was paying him back. She apologised for putting my in that position and me and her went on to play regularly...

I guess the point im trying to make is that if you suggest swinging to a partner for purely selfish reasons then its gonna come back and bite you in the arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I read a newS paper article the other day about a swinger couple who must have been involved in a foursome. Anyhow it turns out that one of the guys involved wants to leave his swinging partner for the other woman in the equation. So the woman being jilted has written into an advice column seeking help. Crazy.....

I am thinking should there be a code of conduct written in the rule of swinging? or should you simply do unto others as they so kindly do to you? "

Rules in swinging lol that's funny as everyone has different viewpoints. The simple truth is if you have an insecure relationship with a lack of trust then you don't stay swinging if you have any sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First, your return to normal relations was not part of our negotiations nor our agreement so I must do nothing. And secondly, you must be a swinger for the swinger's code to apply and you're not. And thirdly, the code is more what you'd call "guidelines" than actual rules. Welcome to Fab

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By *ealtreats OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

I agree for couples who think venturing out to repair cracks in their relationship will find it completely broken by the time the finish with fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are too many couples where one or the other is pushing the other into it...usually the guy pushing the woman. This will never end well. To swing as a couple you need to trust each other 100%

I met a MF couple once..I had a lot of fun, the lady was brilliant spent ages pleasuring me..I noticed though she wasn't paying her hubby any attention and he was a little annoyed. Anyway me and her had sex and after that i made my excuses and left..the situation was getting more uneasy..

She contacted me a few days later telling me they split up and explained that there first swinging experience was a FFM and her man spent the whole time pleasuring the other girl and hardly touched her so when we met she was paying him back. She apologised for putting my in that position and me and her went on to play regularly...

I guess the point im trying to make is that if you suggest swinging to a partner for purely selfish reasons then its gonna come back and bite you in the arse!"

Spot on. For us, we have a little saying that has stood is in good stead: it's a share, not an affair. It has to be for both of us.

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