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"While we aren't in a dom/sub relationship, Mr is much more dominant than me, and I am naturally submissive. However, it turns me on being more dominant and in control when it suits. I will say that being with the right partner with a deep level of trust and good communication is essential. Mrs" Oh I would absolutely agree that trust and good communication is essential, however I would say that should for the basis of any relationship. I’m not looking for a lifestyle D/a relationship, I’m very much a dominant but I would love a relationship with someone who is also Dominant, I know this goes against the grain of what would be considered “the norm” but I guess that sums up me in a nutshell. I like to cut my own path through life. X | |||
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"I'd be quite wary of this dynamic personally because I don't want to be fighting for dominance or in a power struggle in the most important relationship in my life,it would be exhausting. However I know everyone enjoys different ways of being together so I hope you find your opponent "I absolutely do see where you are coming from, and yes there is potential for it to become exhausting and no longer fun, but I don’t see that happening, I’m not the kind of person that would continue to flog a dead horse ( pardon the pun) I find dominant women incredibly attractive, and would know quite early on where the right balance of power lies. If it happens she was to sub to me but still had dominant tendencies, she would take a sub herself to meet them needs, hopefully invite me to help her double Dom him on occasions x | |||
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"I'd be quite wary of this dynamic personally because I don't want to be fighting for dominance or in a power struggle in the most important relationship in my life,it would be exhausting. However I know everyone enjoys different ways of being together so I hope you find your opponent
I absolutely do see where you are coming from, and yes there is potential for it to become exhausting and no longer fun, but I don’t see that happening, I’m not the kind of person that would continue to flog a dead horse ( pardon the pun)
I find dominant women incredibly attractive, and would know quite early on where the right balance of power lies. If it happens she was to sub to me but still had dominant tendencies, she would take a sub herself to meet them needs, hopefully invite me to help her double Dom him on occasions x "Right, I understand. Within our relationship I'm naturally submissive and Mr is naturally dominant. He will never be sub but I can display a dominant side with others. I find the dynamic between different individuals fascinating | |||
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"I'd be quite wary of this dynamic personally because I don't want to be fighting for dominance or in a power struggle in the most important relationship in my life,it would be exhausting. However I know everyone enjoys different ways of being together so I hope you find your opponent
I absolutely do see where you are coming from, and yes there is potential for it to become exhausting and no longer fun, but I don’t see that happening, I’m not the kind of person that would continue to flog a dead horse ( pardon the pun)
I find dominant women incredibly attractive, and would know quite early on where the right balance of power lies. If it happens she was to sub to me but still had dominant tendencies, she would take a sub herself to meet them needs, hopefully invite me to help her double Dom him on occasions x
Right, I understand.
Within our relationship I'm naturally submissive and Mr is naturally dominant. He will never be sub but I can display a dominant side with others.
I find the dynamic between different individuals fascinating "Yes exactly this! It’s so great you have found that with each other, it sounds like a beautiful relationship you both have, exactly what I would like x | |||
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"I like being slapped, whipped, tied up etc. As long as there is trust and it's someone I've built a relationship with " Who would have thought it. And that's what makes the world interesting  | |||
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"While we aren't in a dom/sub relationship, Mr is much more dominant than me, and I am naturally submissive. However, it turns me on being more dominant and in control when it suits. I will say that being with the right partner with a deep level of trust and good communication is essential. Mrs Oh I would absolutely agree that trust and good communication is essential, however I would say that should for the basis of any relationship. I’m not looking for a lifestyle D/a relationship, I’m very much a dominant but I would love a relationship with someone who is also Dominant, I know this goes against the grain of what would be considered “the norm” but I guess that sums up me in a nutshell. I like to cut my own path through life. X" We agree that trust and communication is essential in any relationship, but I'm always amazed at the number of people who don't trust their partners, and can't communicate with them- about sexual desires, for example - in vanilla relationships. If you can't do these basic things in a vanilla relationship then any other kind of relationship will likely be doomed. Who cares what the norm is, absolutely cut your own path in life and I hope you find what you are looking for, because everyone deserves to be happy Mrs | |||
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"This is nothing to do with rising energy costs, rather a thread about my desire to be in a relationship with a dominant woman, I would love to see who ultimately comes out on top. Has anyone been in this situation, or has the same desire? " By the sounds of that it would seem you don’t want a women to dominate you so much as you want a dominant women to see if you can dominate her ‘See who comes out on top’ to me implies you’re looking to come out on top, why search for someone who wants to be the dominant one if you’re only going to challenge that to try to switch it up Wouldn’t that be looking for a fellow switch more than a Domme | |||
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"While we aren't in a dom/sub relationship, Mr is much more dominant than me, and I am naturally submissive. However, it turns me on being more dominant and in control when it suits. I will say that being with the right partner with a deep level of trust and good communication is essential. Mrs Oh I would absolutely agree that trust and good communication is essential, however I would say that should for the basis of any relationship. I’m not looking for a lifestyle D/a relationship, I’m very much a dominant but I would love a relationship with someone who is also Dominant, I know this goes against the grain of what would be considered “the norm” but I guess that sums up me in a nutshell. I like to cut my own path through life. X We agree that trust and communication is essential in any relationship, but I'm always amazed at the number of people who don't trust their partners, and can't communicate with them- about sexual desires, for example - in vanilla relationships. If you can't do these basic things in a vanilla relationship then any other kind of relationship will likely be doomed. Who cares what the norm is, absolutely cut your own path in life and I hope you find what you are looking for, because everyone deserves to be happy Mrs" I think it’s true that couples in the swinger community definitely have more trust and can communicate better with each other, I guess that’s how they have been able to establish that they want to swing. I know so many couples In vanilla relationships that say they would never do it, but then both cheat behind each other’s backs… makes no sense! Awww thank you x | |||
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"We are both switches as we both like to swap who is dom and sub in different situations. A would tend to be more sub and myself more dom but it's very hot to mix it up every so often
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"This is nothing to do with rising energy costs, rather a thread about my desire to be in a relationship with a dominant woman, I would love to see who ultimately comes out on top. Has anyone been in this situation, or has the same desire? By the sounds of that it would seem you don’t want a women to dominate you so much as you want a dominant women to see if you can dominate her ‘See who comes out on top’ to me implies you’re looking to come out on top, why search for someone who wants to be the dominant one if you’re only going to challenge that to try to switch it up Wouldn’t that be looking for a fellow switch more than a Domme " I have had relationships with sub, Domme and switch’s previously. With the Domme I was completely submissive and totally devoted to her, I loved the fact she was so powerful, even though she was 5”2. With the switch it was great but very little resistance to me topping her, maybe truthfully she topped from the bottom at times, but once that dynamic was in place it never changed, in the sense I didn’t switch with her she was always sub leaning. I guess I would find it thrilling to have someone who was very much a dominant, give her submission to me, but not be submissive all the time. Make me work for it I guess, that would give me so much satisfaction. And if it happened to be she made me want to fall at her feet , then equally satisfying as it’s not something I have felt for many years, almost 20 actually. It’s quite hard to articulate exactly how I feel, but I think I want something thats electric and intense. | |||
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"I find most men don't really enjoy having s dominant woman... "With the exception of very submissive men, who will roll over for anyone that happens to come along, but who wants that, there is no satisfaction in that. A lot of guys love having a part time Dom, but get intimidated by the thought of a relationship with a women who gives as good as she gets and is more than capable of putting a dominant guy in his place. | |||
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