FabSwingers.com forum: talking down to hubby

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it seems theres a few hubbys that enjoy getting talked down to,told how useless they are and enjoy possible senarios were there wife is slutty behind there back,,is there many more

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

my husband is NOT one of them lol. I'm happy to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuckolding. Something i dont understand at all its degrading and in my eyes bullying i dont see how you could get turned on being treated like that, and how a woman could do that to someone they "loved"

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

If you love your partner you give them what they want, if they are having pleasure from that and you are giving it to them, how can that be wrong?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't understand it and it isn't something that would ever appeal to me but I know a lot of couples enjoy it and would probably find my preferences not to their taste. Each to their own as ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mom always talks down to my dad.

She's 5'9'' and he's only 5'6''.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"it seems theres a few hubbys that enjoy getting talked down to,told how useless they are and enjoy possible senarios were there wife is slutty behind there back,,is there many more"

you met many then..?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Whilst it's not for everyone, and I would not expect everyone to get turned on by the humiliation. There are a lot of people, outside of here, who would think the very same thoughts about swinging.

How can you get turned on by someone else fucking your partner.

I don't get turned on personally by the thought of getting dressed up in rubber. To me that would take away from the sensations of sex, but I get that for others, it can enhance the experience.

The same for roleplay, which cuckolding can be seen as a form of. Ever dressed up as a policeman/woman, sexy secratary, school boy/girl, teacher, french maid, it's all acting a role.

There are alot of websites about cuckolding, where people talk about living the lifestyle, having other peoples babies, letting the family know, letting the bf move in permanently.

I'd imagine 99% of this is fantasy. But I can see couples roleplaying at humiliation, just as easily as a vanilla couple may pop into ann-summers for the wife/gf to play the naughty school girl role.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst it's not for everyone, and I would not expect everyone to get turned on by the humiliation. There are a lot of people, outside of here, who would think the very same thoughts about swinging.

How can you get turned on by someone else fucking your partner.

I don't get turned on personally by the thought of getting dressed up in rubber. To me that would take away from the sensations of sex, but I get that for others, it can enhance the experience.

The same for roleplay, which cuckolding can be seen as a form of. Ever dressed up as a policeman/woman, sexy secratary, school boy/girl, teacher, french maid, it's all acting a role.

There are alot of websites about cuckolding, where people talk about living the lifestyle, having other peoples babies, letting the family know, letting the bf move in permanently.

I'd imagine 99% of this is fantasy. But I can see couples roleplaying at humiliation, just as easily as a vanilla couple may pop into ann-summers for the wife/gf to play the naughty school girl role.

With naughty school girl such its still jus a fantasy humiliation fucking someone else infront of your partner, verbally putting down your partner is crossing from fantasy into reality and im not dissing people who do it i just dont see how its sexual it just seems cruel.

And for the record me and amy arnt turned on watching each other it does nothing for us :p

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

And for the record me and amy arnt turned on watching each other it does nothing for us :p"

But that's the nature of sex, everyone's different. What we all do on here is crossing a line that others would not cross.

It does not excite me to jump out of a perfectly good plane, for others it's the ultimate thrill, go figure!!!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

For those who care about their partner and consider psych play to spill over into everyday living afterwards with fallout that impacts beyond the play itself, I can see it being a very difficult thing indeed.

The balance is precarious - perhaps easily bridged by some; even easier by those who enter into a relationship transiently and don't have to remain to mop up problems afterwards. Still this is the razor's edge that is trodden by increasing numbers these days and the best of luck to those who do.

Wolf

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"For those who care about their partner and consider psych play to spill over into everyday living afterwards with fallout that impacts beyond the play itself, I can see it being a very difficult thing indeed.

Wolf

I'd agree there is an element of risk to it, but that was the parachute metaphor. Some people love risk and the physical is not enough, it has to be mental too.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Wolf

I'd agree there is an element of risk to it, but that was the parachute metaphor. Some people love risk and the physical is not enough, it has to be mental too."

People send threats to soap actors and actresses because they can't see past the role they play or the scope that role has in the actor or actresses life as a whole. Do you think that people could treat psych roleplay any differently?

Once the genie is out of the bottle - good or bad, you have to be mindful that what goes around comes around. As with any risk, you have to ask yourself 'is it really worth it?'

I'm done here - best of luck.

Wolf

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Not all cuckolding is about degrading or humiliation and certainly isn't bullying.

Many people have a cuckolding relationship and it bears no resemblance to how it's often portrayed in porn, which is often a male fantasy fuelled version.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with this. I've even seen self professed subs doing it. Why I call them pseudo subs. It is not 'love'. It is sick in the main. My personal view on it but each will have their own views. Such is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst it's not for everyone, and I would not expect everyone to get turned on by the humiliation. There are a lot of people, outside of here, who would think the very same thoughts about swinging.

How can you get turned on by someone else fucking your partner.

I don't get turned on personally by the thought of getting dressed up in rubber. To me that would take away from the sensations of sex, but I get that for others, it can enhance the experience.

The same for roleplay, which cuckolding can be seen as a form of. Ever dressed up as a policeman/woman, sexy secratary, school boy/girl, teacher, french maid, it's all acting a role.

There are alot of websites about cuckolding, where people talk about living the lifestyle, having other peoples babies, letting the family know, letting the bf move in permanently.

I'd imagine 99% of this is fantasy. But I can see couples roleplaying at humiliation, just as easily as a vanilla couple may pop into ann-summers for the wife/gf to play the naughty school girl role.

very true everyone's kinks and fantasies are different who are we to judge those who are different from our own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that a lot of couples who are into the "cuckolding" scene are mainly people who like to play whilst there hubby watches...and hubby likes to watch his wife enjoying herself...he likes the fact that he is not allowed to join in and it gets him worked up...when the bull leaves he is all over her and gets his reward

there is different extremes to it..from soft to very hardcore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After living with someone for nearly 20 years who did that to me as part of her character not as a lifestyle choice (hardly ever discussed sex, let alone a cuckold relationship!) it is something I now find totally repellent. As the above comment sums up perfectly:- It's degrading and bullying. Amazed sometimes I survived it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a cuck couple, but not into humiliation at all. My partner enjoys me taking a dominant role and likes to see me enjoy myself with other men.

There are all different levels of cuck play, I frequently get messages from people who assume what we want and they will be totally rude calling my partner pathetic etc even had offers from people who want to breed me! Also had submissive guys ask me to kick them and beat them.

People read too much into labels methinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that a lot of couples who are into the "cuckolding" scene are mainly people who like to play whilst there hubby watches...and hubby likes to watch his wife enjoying herself...he likes the fact that he is not allowed to join in and it gets him worked up...when the bull leaves he is all over her and gets his reward

there is different extremes to it..from soft to very hardcore"

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Jeez a lot of moral judgement for a swinging forum.

As long as it's legal and between consenting adults then each to their own surely. Why does it make your moral compass even flicker?

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Nope; Rachel makes the sammiches

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

I love it when Lou 'talks down to me' 'humiliates me' 'degrades me' in the bedroom, and would welcome another man to do it to me as well. Its what I like, its what ive asked for, so for people to call it bullying is ridiculous.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Jeez a lot of moral judgement for a swinging forum.

As long as it's legal and between consenting adults then each to their own surely. Why does it make your moral compass even flicker?

Because some people have a narrow view to what turns them on and therefore feel the need to question anything outwith that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cuckolding. Something i dont understand at all its degrading and in my eyes bullying i dont see how you could get turned on being treated like that, and how a woman could do that to someone they "loved""
to alot its just a game ... not real everyday life ... just mind games that are part of the fetish at the time of playing .Like Dom sub stuff .. all just kinky games to turn peoples minds on ... but not for everyone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a couple regularly and he loves to b told by his wife that I'm better than him

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By *ecor atorMan
over a year ago

York

I wouldn't be able to stand being spoken down to and humiliated.

If the guy tried it too, I'm affraid I'd have to twat the C**t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't be able to stand being spoken down to and humiliated.

If the guy tried it too, I'm affraid I'd have to twat the C**t."
its not for everyone this fetish being humiliated in front of people but a very common one. Loads are into it ,, power thing .

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