FabSwingers.com forum: Who knows you swing?

By *oungmumxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends.

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester

daughter brother know sister and son just think im a player

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By *g99Couple
over a year ago

Just our best friends, mainly because we had a d*unken play with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone, i dont really talk about my private life with my family, when i was married i didnt talk about my sex life with my ex with them so im not going to tell them about it now

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

my best friend and thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my ex's and now she does too.. never did when we were together though.. how silly is that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my best friend

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By *oungmumxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm close to mum and she swings that's why she knows, I know some think that's wierd.

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford

My daughter suspected, then blabbed to whole family, friends, neighbours , the council, tax man, pope oh and Santa, so basically every one. But without proof, not guilty your Honour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My daughter suspected, then blabbed to whole family, friends, neighbours , the council, tax man, pope oh and Santa, so basically every one. But without proof, not guilty your Honour "

Funny that , our youngest son did exactly that .

Not sure if anyone believe him but they all know we are naturists so they probably are not surprised .

The worse thing about not being open about swinging is not being able to talk about it at work the next day when you are still absolutely buzzing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our friends, we have played with them, and 2 ppl from work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont they call them "private lives", because they are private?? - or am I missing something? We don't go around telling everyone how much money we have in the bank - so why discuss your sex life???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My close friends know, and my training partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont they call them "private lives", because they are private?? - or am I missing something? We don't go around telling everyone how much money we have in the bank - so why discuss your sex life??? "

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By *g99Couple
over a year ago

Yes but some people have friends and family in there lives that they trust, so they feel like they can share thing with.

We haven't told any family or any other friends other than the 2 we know we can trust and talk to about it all

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By *at1234Woman
over a year ago

Somerset

Well, I told my best friend and she was shocked but I tell her everything. And that's it.

Though, I don't think anyone would believe me if I said I did. Most think I'm prudish and a virgin still.

Up until I was 20, I told everyone that I would not have sex outside of marriage and I truly believed I would, then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a live thread on here just before Christmas which was about a couple, the fem of which had even told her workmates what she gets up to, and then was 'so surprised' when a new boy in the office started hitting on her, expecting her to shag him over the photocopier (etc!)

It's one thing having ONE or two VERY close friends knowing what you do for safety's sake - specially if you're a female 'swingle'. But always remember that the more people you tell, the more chance they will tell someone else (in confidence, 'of course'....!!) and you never know when that will come back and bite you.

And, in my humble experience of seeing people come to grief over this in the past, it is often those you LEAST expect to be offended by your lifestyle choices who will be the ones to ruin it for you... Tread carefully...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one....... Except all of you!

Not met anyone I know on here yet, imagining an awkward conversation when it does happen....... And, sure it will at some point!

Perhaps my face pic on my icon is not such a good idea??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a good think to have someone else know, especially if you are a single person, that safety factor that you can tell someone where you are just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was a live thread on here just before Christmas which was about a couple, the fem of which had even told her workmates what she gets up to, and then was 'so surprised' when a new boy in the office started hitting on her, expecting her to shag him over the photocopier (etc!)

Quite agree and very good advice .

It's just that whilst my colleagues are boring me rigid about bloody sodden football I would love to drop the bombshell that their wildest sexual fantasies , which some are quite open about , are a good Saturday night for us .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

People I meet for sex off here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the nice people we have met and people on sites Id say nobody near or dear to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People I meet for sex off here. "

Trust you to say that!

Our close neighbour knows as she is fascinated by our sex life ( Know if she had the confidence she would) and a couple that are friends of ours know ( but we introduced them to here so does it count?)

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Most ppl know Im a player and always have been and I tell most ppl Im on this site. If I meet someone who wants a relationship I dont tell em,unless I met em on here like my last fb/partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend, and that's only because I need to tell someone where I'm going when I have a meet.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

When I was playing as a single female I told my sister I was on here and would tell her where I was going etc for a safety aspect. My dad knew I was going out a lot but not what for (i hope!). He just told me to make sure someone knew where I was and keep my phone on and charged.

Some friends at work found out after I left fab open on my phone and someone borrowed it but never had any grief from it. In fact they just asked a lot of questions about clubs and parties etc. My best friend at work used to encourage me to have the perfect week......a different meet every day for a week lol never did it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my best friend knows about Fab. But my daughter and sister know talk to 'people' online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one we like to keep it between our selfs there is a slight chance my bro in law knows he neva said owt thou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. "

Nothing to do with the question but I think I might be in lust with you!! You're stunning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bosses and close colleagues know I am up to no good, being a member on FAB and Chams, as I told them myself.

Also close friends.

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By *rs and mr sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

Boldon

Our next door neighbours know on both sides. We try to encourage the single next door as she goes into town to pull. She's been on cam with us in the past - and no, we've never played with her! Jim's daughter knew that her father used to 'entertain' and that we met online.

Other than that - I'd say that 95% of our friends are swingers themselves.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We generally keep our sex life private where work mates and friends are concerned so the subject isn't likely to crop up. Do agree though that singles need to have at least one person who knows what's going on.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

My close friends all know as they are my safety mechanism!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every one in our life knows. Even our babysitter knew.we dont care what they think.never had a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one and we prefer to keep it that way! Nice to have a little secret, people have no idea...... well except you guys of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one....... Except all of you!

Not met anyone I know on here yet, imagining an awkward conversation when it does happen....... And, sure it will at some point!

Perhaps my face pic on my icon is not such a good idea??!!"
. if u find some one on here that you know then you have something in common.. Wev said this there not guna want to make a fuss about it are they? No because we are all in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U lot do !!!!!!! Sorry couldnt resist ........ will go and get my coat now ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of my rugby team and they said bring a lady down after a match lol

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Only you people know... And those we've met at clubs n parties.

We've often wondered what'd happen if we met people we know at a club.

We'd say hello&talk,but not play or allow them to be involved even watching as we don't want any boundaries blurred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A work college knows, only because he had seen me go into a guy sauna that he frequents that converts into swinging club on a Saturday night. I denied it was me with a knowing grin..

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

Just you lot so ssssshhhhhhh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have friends in the vanilla world that we have discovered are involved in the BDSM scene and they obviously know.

I (2wheels) know that some of my friends suspect as there is occassional banter about "specialist clubs" but no one knows the details. As others have said I don;t feel the need to discuss my sex life with friends or workmates. I have no family bit the thought of crystal's family knowing is just weird but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brother step sister step mum my dad all my friends and my work collegues

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

R's adult sons, G's brother and a few of R's vanilla female friends. We've recently had a message from a couple we've known for a while socially, who came across our profile here, neither of us knew the other couple swung!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's up to each of us how we live our lives, and I can see why some people would share with famiies, and I can see why close friends may know. But can someone explain to me why they feel sharing with their work colleagues is a good idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. "

My Mother and Father now know..... (not a good few days), most of my friends dont though.

Mr J is certainly more open than I am about it.

S xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it's up to each of us how we live our lives, and I can see why some people would share with famiies, and I can see why close friends may know. But can someone explain to me why they feel sharing with their work colleagues is a good idea?"

Me and amy play solo and if im on a work night out and try to pull i dont want them to stop me or think im a cheater

Also means i dont have to lie about my weekend

And its a big part of who i am and want to be accepted for it not shamed into hidin it

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By *atrickJaneMan
over a year ago

blackburn

My close friends know and any female friends that I have thought "god I'd love to see you in a big group of guys!" Some have taken me up on the idea, some are no longer friends haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Depends on your job too, some people would be sacked because their contracts have a clause about bringing the profession in to disrepute and this sort of activity is considered by some to be disreputable. Personally I think that fiddling your tax is way more disreputable but then I have always been considered odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most everyone we know and anyone who cares to ask.

Would hate to go about waiting for the hammer to fall when some stranger blurted it out at a family or social gathering!

And before anyone mentions it....yes we both have front line public jobs and never had any problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy, we are what we are and anyone asking a direct question gets a direct answer

So yes family and friends know as much as they want to know.

Of our friends we have horizontal ones, vertical ones and some leaning between the two...xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm close to mum and she swings that's why she knows, I know some think that's wierd. "

I bet you now have an inbox full of messages from guys who want to do you and your mum at the same time! I think I would find that scenario a lot weirder than the fact that you both swing! Enjoy yourselves! God knows you have a body to die for and I know I could happily lick you till you cum and would want the whole world to know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody knows! except u's!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just a few close friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Evies mum and sister knows, she showed her sister the profile, and some of the profiles on here x mainly showed for safety reasons for when we go on meets etc..

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Same here just a couple of very close friends of my partners.

But none of the family

Have you noticed that woman can confide with another woman.

But rarely a guy can with a mate

I think if i did chat to anyone it would probably be a woman too but dont know why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows I swing. But if you'd like to know for sure, then you know how to get in touch

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

All my close friends know and one of my sisters. My workmates know I "date" lots of different guys

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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago

France

For the sake of my safety I don't hide things.

The elders of my family know that I meet lots of 'friends'. The younger ones know that I use a 'sex site'. My work colleagues know that I 'have fun with lots of different people'. My friends are just jealous!

Each can interpret as they will - I do not name any of the sites I can be found on though, nor do I give details of my activities...lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Noone, i dont really talk about my private life with my family, when i was married i didnt talk about my sex life with my ex with them so im not going to tell them about it now

A woman after my own heart. Don't discuss my bank accounts or bowel movements either, but some people have no boundaries and divulge everything.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

There you go!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think its a good think to have someone else know, especially if you are a single person, that safety factor that you can tell someone where you are just in case.

Vid"

Indeed, but you can say you're going out with a new friend. Personally I don't need to go into specifics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. "
To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one, not even my dog, and I tell him most things as he's good at keeping a secret or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far just one friend who is JEALOUS of my life on here. lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest."

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Whatever she wanted to sexually was her business and not mine .

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By *ffable_manMan
over a year ago

Oldham

No one knows apart from a couple of my closest female work work colleagues. One in particular is so interested in the scene, she may be joining me shortly! Good times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Whatever she wanted to sexually was her business and not mine ."
Yeah of course it's her choice. But I would be worried that at 18 they are in danger of getting hurt, emoitionally and maybe even physically. Stranger danger and all that.

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By *ucycuteTV/TS
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

No one for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just seen a guy I used to work with on here and he's down as bi and has met men, which is a surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my neighbours knows, only coz I ran into him in the jacuzzi at Chams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Whatever she wanted to sexually was her business and not mine . Yeah of course it's her choice. But I would be worried that at 18 they are in danger of getting hurt, emoitionally and maybe even physically. Stranger danger and all that."

Yet your profile states you are looking for 18 year olds... Is that not just a touch hypocritical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Yet your profile states you are looking for 18 year olds... Is that not just a touch hypocritical?"
....wonders if wheels will ever put anything positive on here?? i was warned about you and they were right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. "

Most of my friends know.. my dad and sister know... my older daughter and son know ( both on here too)

I am not ashamed of my lifestyle choices... and I dont think that being a swinger is anything to hide in this day and age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my neighbour whos a good mate. Wud neva tell family omg. My daughter wud prob just shrug, but my mum dont even know im gay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just friends we play with, some people have suspicions, like workmates.one woman i know , her daughter is jealous cos her mum gets more sex than her,lol

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

As a single woman I had to tell someone, so told a close friend. It's better to be safe.

I am not ashamed I just have always kept by sex life private, but I am generally a very private person

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

Only a Couple of friends know,and i like it that way.

However ....A couple of weeks ago i went to a concert with a female friend and her(also female) mate.Nothing had happened between us previously, but that night i ended up having a 3 sum with her and her friend.It then came out in the conversation in the morning that i was a swinger ,as was her friend.So she knows now as well.I trust her with my life, so have no worries there.But as said, as a rule i like to keep my lifestyle seperate from my "real" life.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Yet your profile states you are looking for 18 year olds... Is that not just a touch hypocritical? ....wonders if wheels will ever put anything positive on here?? i was warned about you and they were right

Uncalled for and "my mates said" rather childish in my opinion.

Not everyone plays to the gallery, strokes fragile egos and are sycophantic in the hope of getting a shag.

I like their post, refreshing amongst the sugar rush I get from some posts.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"As a single woman I had to tell someone, so told a close friend. It's better to be safe.

I am not ashamed I just have always kept by sex life private, but I am generally a very private person

I think some people think telling all and sundry means they're not ashamed. I'm not ashamed, I'm discrete and private and would avoid those that weren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I think the their is a big difference between sharing your sex life and letting people know your life style choices.

People know I am in this lifestyle.. but not what I do... They just know that I don't have a traditional outlook on sex and relationships..

I would never sit down and tell them exactly what I do when I play.. besides.. they would think I was making it up anyway.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Uncalled for and "my mates said" rather childish in my opinion.

Not everyone plays to the gallery, strokes fragile egos and are sycophantic in the hope of getting a shag.

I like their post, refreshing amongst the sugar rush I get from some posts."
.....*yaaaaawns*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Yet your profile states you are looking for 18 year olds... Is that not just a touch hypocritical?"
No I don't think so, I would sleep with 18 year old women on here and I have. But if I found out a member of family did it at 18 I would be concerned as i don't think it's best life style for someone that age, but it is their decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago I was on a different site..started viewing a cam and it was one of my sisters friends that I had known since she was 15.We chatted on cam..never had sex it would have been to weird but she was only person who knew i was swinging and i was only person who knew she was..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest."

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

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I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest."

why?

whilst only you would know whether in general your children or young relatives were emotionally mature eg. not vulnerable etc, 18 yr olds are by and large adults under the law..

yes not all are as mature as others, but that applies across the age ranges..

if 18 yr olds are old enough to 'serve the country', drink alcohol etc then they areold enough to make their own informed decisions imho..

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over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't."

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

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over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

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I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys.

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over a year ago

No one knows Im on here, apart from a guy I know from way back as I wanted to be able to tell someone for safety. I come from a tiny judgmental place so il only tell a few trusted people, if I tell at all. Meeting people from here would be great, so I can finally talk about it!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Why is being a private person mean you are ashamed of what you do? If you were ashamed of what you were doing surely you wouldn't even be doing it.

The two don't go together at all.

The only people who know we are swingers is the goverment....in the line of work the OH does he had to have a high level security check and he disclosed it as advised.

No one else knows as we don't discuss our sex life or any other private business with family or friends.

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over a year ago

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"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Uncalled for and "my mates said" rather childish in my opinion.

Not everyone plays to the gallery, strokes fragile egos and are sycophantic in the hope of getting a shag.

I like their post, refreshing amongst the sugar rush I get from some posts......*yaaaaawns*"

There is no need to be so rude or personal.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"....wonders if wheels will ever put anything positive on here?? i was warned about you and they were right

quite like their outlook and always look at their posts..

they dont lick arse or pay attention to playground gossips..

and they dont dig out other folk cos some other person said 'see them..'

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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It has been addressed now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys. "

Yet you're a guy, and you want to (and are quite happy to, by all accounts) meet women of that age?

Think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one......

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over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys.

Yet you're a guy, and you want to (and are quite happy to, by all accounts) meet women of that age?

Think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one......

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I have met 18 year old girls on here yeah, but I don't feel responsible for them, thats the difference.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys.

Yet you're a guy, and you want to (and are quite happy to, by all accounts) meet women of that age?

Think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one......

His hypocrisy is no different to the men that meet couples, but disappear once they've found a partner as they don't share.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys.

Yet you're a guy, and you want to (and are quite happy to, by all accounts) meet women of that age?

Think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one......

His hypocrisy is no different to the men that meet couples, but disappear once they've found a partner as they don't share."
Never heard something so stupid lol

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys.

Yet you're a guy, and you want to (and are quite happy to, by all accounts) meet women of that age?

Think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one......

His hypocrisy is no different to the men that meet couples, but disappear once they've found a partner as they don't share. Never heard something so stupid lol"

oh it happens..

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Some people male or female can't play with other people while in a relationship and I don't think they should be condemned for it....but when they are single they may be quite happy helping out with a couples fantasy.

I don't see anything wrong with that.

The only time I think it could become an issue is if they say " oh gawd there is no way I would share my wife/husband as that would mean that I would think less of them for it " etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People we play with and friends in the scene obviously know. The rest family etc well we haven't seen a reason so far to tell them and dont expect in the future. Its not really necessity to disclose it not unlike your mum telling you she likes a good anal session.

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over a year ago

Unfortunately most of our family and friends do. I had told one of our best friends and told her to keep it to herself. She turned up d*unk to a family bbq, which had old school friends, family and friends of family and she went round asking everyone if they were there to have sex with us. Grrrr. I wasn't impressed and pulled her up about it, thought I'd be able to forgive her at some point but I just can't bring myself to! Shame because we were really close.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Some people male or female can't play with other people while in a relationship and I don't think they should be condemned for it....but when they are single they may be quite happy helping out with a couples fantasy.

I don't see anything wrong with that.

The only time I think it could become an issue is if they say " oh gawd there is no way I would share my wife/husband as that would mean that I would think less of them for it " etc."

That is what I meant actually. We see it here often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex's mum! after splitting with my ex I joined and sent her a message saying "hello" she replied "I expected to bump into you in the supermarket, not here!!" haha she was very cool about it. hello you by the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some of my close friends know but no family,dont know how i would or could. but my mates are cool with it usual questions but nothing more.

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over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

Find that incredibly hypocritical, having just had a quick gander at your profile..!!!

I don't think it is, we have different views on people we know to people we don't.

So why, then is it NOT appropriate for a hypothetical 18yr old daughter of yours to swing, yet it is perfectly acceptable for you to have sex/swing with a woman of the same age...???

I've explained why, not saying they should'nt be allowed too, I would just think it's not best option for girl that age to meet guys.

Yet you're a guy, and you want to (and are quite happy to, by all accounts) meet women of that age?

Think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one......

His hypocrisy is no different to the men that meet couples, but disappear once they've found a partner as they don't share."

You beat us to it, how many times have you seen guys on here, who have no qualms playing with others wives, who'd never let their wives play?

It's just the same attitude with the 18 year old girls, "What's yours is mine but what's mine is my own!".

Hypocrisy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as i'm concerned what goes on in private stays private i am not embarresed or ashamed in anyway about what i do its just the fact my family and close friends are very vanilla and would either disown me or because i am usually quiet type of person around them they would laugh and never belive me.Imagine telling my dad a typical night out consists of spitroasting dp and shagging as many women as i want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

beat me, to that! I had to stop myself asking if your mum is on here too?

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the people I play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one except you great lot know im on here

i did play with a girl on here and her mum was on here LoL

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Uncalled for and "my mates said" rather childish in my opinion.

Not everyone plays to the gallery, strokes fragile egos and are sycophantic in the hope of getting a shag.

I like their post, refreshing amongst the sugar rush I get from some posts......*yaaaaawns*"

Dying to know who "warned" you about " wheels" . Was it someone else who spat their pram out when exposed as a hypocrite ?

We have always found "Wheels" to be very thoughtful and insightful with their posts. We are relatively new to the scene but are grateful to people who take time to offer their constructive advice and opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u should do escorting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jeez, both son and daughter on here too, that must make breakfast conversation very interesting lol

awkward if yas turned up at same party tho lol

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've confided in quite a few people but I'm a bit unusual in having a lot of friends with whom we can confide in each other about very personal things. It's taught me how amazingly open minded your average person is and how many people you wouldn't think would be interested in the lifestyle actually are, but just too intimidated or not in the right position in life to explore it

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over a year ago

"Are you open about it with people? Friends, family? My mum and sisters know as do close friends. To my knowledge, no one I know, knows I swing.

Have to say if I had a 18 year old daughter I would not be happy that she was swinging, or any family member that young to be honest.

My daughter is now 23 but at no point did I interfere with her life .

Uncalled for and "my mates said" rather childish in my opinion.

Not everyone plays to the gallery, strokes fragile egos and are sycophantic in the hope of getting a shag.

I like their post, refreshing amongst the sugar rush I get from some posts......*yaaaaawns*

Dying to know who "warned" you about " wheels" . Was it someone else who spat their pram out when exposed as a hypocrite ?

Agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, no one knows in my family, I just wouldn't tell them, it's private. Only one person other than my hubby know that I swing..;-)

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

None our friends know and don't want them too only one of the wife's work colleagues know but he and his wife swing to ,he has had litttle play with wife at work hoping to meet at club for foursome very soon. Not bumped into any friends at party's or clubs yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son and my best friend !!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I don't consider myself as a swinger, strictly speaking. But most people I know know that I meet guys for sex off the net.

If I have no secrets they cannot come back and bite me on the arse! And I cannot be blackmailed or threatened with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows except people I've met and my daughters best friends dad who I swung with for a while. We bumped into each other on another site. But we kept bumping into each other in R L at PTA meetings and class assemblies and it we decided to knock it on the head in case someone got suspicious that we were having an affair!

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

No one...wouldnt matter if we told anyone we have done in the past because no one takes us seriously anyway and would think we were winding them up

Which is fine with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one, I keep my swinging life seperste from my family/friends life

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

A number of people do. Am too honest lol

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Just about everyone. That way they have nothing over us, and as we see it, we are adults and it's not illegal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our friends, we have played with them, and 2 ppl from work "

When people say sex ruins friendships, I've always said that's like trying to ruin ice cream with chocolate sprinkles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one .

And if the kids knew they'd have us sectioned !!!

Tee x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only person who knows i'm on here is my ex husband and that's only because we used to be on here as a couple when we was married and he now has a profile with his new woman so knows i'm still on here

I see no reason to tell anyone so never have

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No one, I keep my swinging life seperste from my family/friends life"

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"my best friend and thats all"

Can I have her email ....LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just our best friends, mainly because we had a d*unken play with them lol"

That was the same for us lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

As far as we know, nobody!

We call it our private life for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

The worse thing about not being open about swinging is not being able to talk about it at work the next day when you are still absolutely buzzing ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most close friends know and say" way hey jan .. Go for it ," they love me telling them my antics .

My brothers know and are appalled ... My children found out when ex dh left the fab site on his lappy .

When I go out nowadays , I just tell my children I am going out to see my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people close to me know my lifestyle choices.. but that's as much detail as they know.

some nice person has just told my 15 year old.. wasn't impressed but she has took it really well and gave me a safe sex lecture and she hopes she is as rocking as me at my age.

I was more shocked to be honest that at her age she knew what she did but apparently it's something lots of people's parents do. And she found out of a friends mum who is on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my friends know, but the lady who waxes my back once a month has a darned good idea what I get up to

Other than that, two of my partners friends know what I do, purely because they know she does and we swing together...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of my rugby team and they said bring a lady down after a match lol"

Thats my ultimate fantasy

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Everyone. Family, friends, work colleagues etc. We are open about our life. No point for us to close it off to friends because we've had sex with a lot of them, no point closing it off to family because if they find pics online they can ignore and move on and not worry, and work people know because it's just something to talk about :D

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

Totally agree , and when people find out , its amazing how many tell you they are bi or swing as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 of my friends know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my best mate amd a few friends, my mum and brother know too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the people i have met as i prefer to keep my hobby private.I think once you tell on person ,,, they tell two people ,,, it just goes on and you are the subject of gossip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my mum and sisters and my oldest son knows .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently come across a profile belonging to my ex wifes best mate. Haven't contacted her, would be a bit weird, plus I don't fancy her. Was mildly titilating to see it though, and to see her pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a couple of very close trust worthy friends and our daughter.

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

"Only the people i have met as i prefer to keep my hobby private.I think once you tell on person ,,, they tell two people ,,, it just goes on and you are the subject of gossip.

Which can ... and does for us ... lead to some amazing sex with your young girl friends :D hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully nobody, probably everybody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a good mate who knows but he is on here anyway.apart from that no one knows.

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