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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork

We're fixing up an old house and living it at the same time and well, the state of the master bedroom is terrible.. unfinished walls, no ceiling, no furnishings apart from the bed, and it's tiny. But the bed is large and we keep it as clean as we can.

I'm afraid we may scare potential meets (single guys for MMF) because of the state of the bedroom.

Would it matter to you? Discuss

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"We're fixing up an old house and living it at the same time and well, the state of the master bedroom is terrible.. unfinished walls, no ceiling, no furnishings apart from the bed, and it's tiny. But the bed is large and we keep it as clean as we can.

I'm afraid we may scare potential meets (single guys for MMF) because of the state of the bedroom.

Would it matter to you? Discuss "

If it was just that room and it was clean it might not be an issue, although I would always offer to host instead.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"We're fixing up an old house and living it at the same time and well, the state of the master bedroom is terrible.. unfinished walls, no ceiling, no furnishings apart from the bed, and it's tiny. But the bed is large and we keep it as clean as we can.

I'm afraid we may scare potential meets (single guys for MMF) because of the state of the bedroom.

Would it matter to you? Discuss

If it was just that room and it was clean it might not be an issue, although I would always offer to host instead. "

Yeah we typically avoid going to others' but I'm thinking we should be open to it now, considering

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It wouldn't bother me (I'm aware I'm a woman and not single ). As long as it was clean and warm, there was a decent cup of coffee on offer and possibly a biscuit I'd be happy.

A guy once offered us the unmissable opportunity of a mattress on the floor of an unoccupied building, he was willing to lay coats on the mattress though. After that an actual bed in an occupied house is an upgrade

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Would put us off massively

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

What is the state of the living room? Perhaps you could use that as an alternative to the bedroom.

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By *ensman100Man
over a year ago

Hounslow


"We're fixing up an old house and living it at the same time and well, the state of the master bedroom is terrible.. unfinished walls, no ceiling, no furnishings apart from the bed, and it's tiny. But the bed is large and we keep it as clean as we can.

I'm afraid we may scare potential meets (single guys for MMF) because of the state of the bedroom.

Would it matter to you? Discuss "

Wouldn't bother me! Surely it's about people answering not the building site you are temporarily having to endure?

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

If you was to tell anyone you was thinking of meeting that you was decorating etc I dont think it would put anyone off.its a little bit like living in a flat where the communal stairs may be a little dirty but inside your flat is spotless.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"What is the state of the living room? Perhaps you could use that as an alternative to the bedroom."

Yeah not as keen on the living room ourselves. I'm thinking we'll offer and be upfront or else go to someone else's for the time being.. we really need to finish our house

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"We're fixing up an old house and living it at the same time and well, the state of the master bedroom is terrible.. unfinished walls, no ceiling, no furnishings apart from the bed, and it's tiny. But the bed is large and we keep it as clean as we can.

I'm afraid we may scare potential meets (single guys for MMF) because of the state of the bedroom.

Would it matter to you? Discuss

Wouldn't bother me! Surely it's about people answering not the building site you are temporarily having to endure?"

That's the idea but yeah it's not for everyone

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Would put us off massively "

Totally understand that.. felt the same as a single guy visiting a couple once. Environment makes a big difference for comfort level for some folks

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We did our house up. It was derelict when bought and we lived in one room then as other rooms were completed we expanded. You don't need to live as if you are in a building site. Stage your rooms.

We still do not let people the one room that is not complete but after the many years of working on the house, that will soon change

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"We did our house up. It was derelict when bought and we lived in one room then as other rooms were completed we expanded. You don't need to live as if you are in a building site. Stage your rooms.

We still do not let people the one room that is not complete but after the many years of working on the house, that will soon change"

That was the idea but too late for that now.. we're working on everything at the same time. Totally not the best way to do it but it is what it is.. don't want it to impact our sex life though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no, not at all.

you have valid reasoning behind the state of disarray.

i met with someone last week who's in the middle of doing his place up.. didn't detract anything from our meet or chemistry etc.

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all. As long as it was clean that’s the main thing

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford

Wouldn’t bother me, if I knew in advance that what the situation was- although the evening might descend into me getting completely fascinated by your plans for the house and totally forgetting what I was really there for!

If you prewarn potential partners what is going on at home, that will allow them to suggest meeting at their place, a club or getting a hotel room.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Would put us off massively

Totally understand that.. felt the same as a single guy visiting a couple once. Environment makes a big difference for comfort level for some folks "

A building site certainly would! Mind you there would be some deliciously naughty role play opportunities hmm…

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford

Alternatively, make a virtue of it and start hosting Swinger’s painting parties!

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Would put us off massively

Totally understand that.. felt the same as a single guy visiting a couple once. Environment makes a big difference for comfort level for some folks

A building site certainly would! Mind you there would be some deliciously naughty role play opportunities hmm… "

Oooh I love how hard your hat is

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Alternatively, make a virtue of it and start hosting Swinger’s painting parties!"

Not gonna lie.. actually thought about bringing in some help around the farm

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Would put us off massively

Totally understand that.. felt the same as a single guy visiting a couple once. Environment makes a big difference for comfort level for some folks

A building site certainly would! Mind you there would be some deliciously naughty role play opportunities hmm…

Oooh I love how hard your hat is "

It’s needed when ERECTING things.

Ah Christ I’m a sucker for a pun!

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By *uper SaiyanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

It wouldnt bother me, if you mentioned it. Then its not an unwanted suprise and it could get the cogs turning for some possible role play ideas. Im already pulling down my trousers to crack level

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It wouldn’t bother us theirs a big difference between a house where you can see is being done up and a house that is just dirty ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres other rooms no?

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Theres other rooms no?"

None with a suitable bed and/or are comfortable enough. The whole house is being worked on

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Would put us off massively

Totally understand that.. felt the same as a single guy visiting a couple once. Environment makes a big difference for comfort level for some folks

A building site certainly would! Mind you there would be some deliciously naughty role play opportunities hmm…

Oooh I love how hard your hat is

It’s needed when ERECTING things.

Ah Christ I’m a sucker for a pun!"

Mrs. HAS been talking about getting a plumber in to rearrange her pipes

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

our bedroom is in need of redecorating. Hasn't put anyone off who has come over. They came to see us, not the house.

Suppose it depends on the people. Some people are very... choosy lol. Each to their own.

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

I'm not a male looking to join in an mmf

But I'm sure if you just explain the situation, most people would be understanding.

But then I'd probably want a full tour of the house and to duscuss your ideas for interiors and kitchen plans etc....

Coz I'm a massive loser who also has ab enture house to decorate as am building from scratch

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"I'm not a male looking to join in an mmf

But I'm sure if you just explain the situation, most people would be understanding.

But then I'd probably want a full tour of the house and to duscuss your ideas for interiors and kitchen plans etc....

Coz I'm a massive loser who also has ab enture house to decorate as am building from scratch "

This would be amazing! Honestly it's wearing us down sometimes but it's nice to discuss plans with people in a similar boat.

We're shopping round for an architect now to restore a 19thC stone house as well.. not many of them in our area (Ireland) that don't want to raze it to the ground. Better suited for this project in the UK I think

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork

Thanks everyone for your input so far! Really nice to have some feedback on this xx

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wouldn't put me off as it's only decorating. I've seen some bedrooms in people's pics that have put me right off wanting to meet them.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long as it wasn’t dust, grime and scum-ridden with dirty plates and old food lying around, I wouldn’t mind.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Long as it wasn’t dust, grime and scum-ridden with dirty plates and old food lying around, I wouldn’t mind. "

Nope.. just dust..lots and lots of dust

WE CAN'T ESCAPE IT.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Long as it wasn’t dust, grime and scum-ridden with dirty plates and old food lying around, I wouldn’t mind. "

Those are the ones that put me off.

XX

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Hotel?

Dayrooms are pretty reasonable.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Hotel?

Dayrooms are pretty reasonable."

Possible.. need to look into that but I think it might not be a thing where we are I'm afraid.. we live in the middle of nowhere, an hour from the nearest city in rural Ireland

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"We did our house up. It was derelict when bought and we lived in one room then as other rooms were completed we expanded. You don't need to live as if you are in a building site. Stage your rooms.

We still do not let people the one room that is not complete but after the many years of working on the house, that will soon change

That was the idea but too late for that now.. we're working on everything at the same time. Totally not the best way to do it but it is what it is.. don't want it to impact our sex life though! "

Finish a room so you can chill out. It will give you the sense of achievement and encourage you to carry on. Our bedroom has been redone a few times as has our bathroom. We are fortunate to have a very large bedroom and a massive bed

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By *aleakalaMan
over a year ago

Perth, KL sometimes UK

Dungeon aesthetic, you might find it appeals to some with exposed beams for suspension.

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney

Female is amazing. Environment wouldn't matter.

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

Get yourself a yurt and go glamping in your back yard, gives you a break from the dust, and a venue to host others in

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By *r_StockingtopsMan
over a year ago

Selby

Personally I'd think it was a bit of a turn on, something different!

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"We did our house up. It was derelict when bought and we lived in one room then as other rooms were completed we expanded. You don't need to live as if you are in a building site. Stage your rooms.

We still do not let people the one room that is not complete but after the many years of working on the house, that will soon change

That was the idea but too late for that now.. we're working on everything at the same time. Totally not the best way to do it but it is what it is.. don't want it to impact our sex life though!

Finish a room so you can chill out. It will give you the sense of achievement and encourage you to carry on. Our bedroom has been redone a few times as has our bathroom. We are fortunate to have a very large bedroom and a massive bed"

Easier said than done.. only so much we can accomplish given our bank account and energy level (much of our work is DIY). It's a small bedroom so at least it'll take less time, right??

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Get yourself a yurt and go glamping in your back yard, gives you a break from the dust, and a venue to host others in "

This is actually a great idea We want to put a hot tub out back so why not both

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...


"Get yourself a yurt and go glamping in your back yard, gives you a break from the dust, and a venue to host others in

This is actually a great idea We want to put a hot tub out back so why not both "

Don't forget my invite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put me off, not every house is perfect and different people have different levels of comfort. You have a reason for it as it's something you're working on and the bed itself is clean so really shouldn't be a block to enjoying the company of others.

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

As long as the bedding is clean who looks at the ceiling and walls when having fun with the lady ?

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