FabSwingers.com forum: When do you give up on the Fab life?

By *ustang88888 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

I was invited to meet with a couple on here this evening, only to arrive at the hotel bar to a WhatsApp message saying they needed to call it off. They'd given me their number and communication leading up to the meet was great. But now I'm left wondering why does this happen? And whether I should now just give up all hope of ever meeting a couple(s). Feeling down in the dumps so any advice welcomed to pick me back up again.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

It happens unfortunately. If communication was good and you'd swapped numbers they may have genuinely had to cancel.

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By *ustang88888 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

At first I had no doubt that it may have been genuine. But I think they may have now blocked me on WhatsApp and they've now just deleted the last message that I sent them on here to try and find out if I did something wrong.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I feel for you but hopefully you didn't need to travel far and your in Brighton one of best seaside resorts in uk for nightlife so your be ok. This is long shot but if you pm the ones who been here yearsssss saying I dunno but this person couple wanna meet me have you come across them on here? Maybe they can give you some info maybe?

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

You probably didn’t do anything. Chances are they changed their mind right at the last minute.

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By *ustang88888 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

It's pretty humiliating having spent time getting ready, driven to the hotel, walked into the busy hotel bar and to them wall back out again after the no-show. They owe me nothing of course. But a little common courtesy and decency wouldn't have been too much to ask surely?

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Particularly if it is a couple. Not uncommon for either the woman to be reluctantly going along with it for their partner then later decides it is not for her. Or more common is that the man is excited by the fantasy of seeing his partner with someone else, but when the reality of the situation dawns on them, the green eyed monster rears its ugly head and he can’t go through with it.

Some men have even cancelled on me at the last minute, because they just couldn’t go through with it when a meeting became a reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there with guys. I only now arrange a meet with a plan B. But am fed up with the man child fantasists and bullshitters.

Ya need a thick skin on here.

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By *ustang88888 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

They have meet verifications on their profile so it's not as if they're new to the scene either. Plus they were sending me nice messages to reassure me that everything will be fine as they knew it was a new experience for me.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's awful, but it happens. Absolutely not your fault and nothing you can do to screen against it unfortunately! Says more about them than it does about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it happens to us all.

Chin up and all that.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

It's crap I'm not gonna blame this site because it can happen on tinder pof etc etc but it's already tough for anyone get meet on here, but there are females couples tv and yes many single men to, who do this sort of thing.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

you give up when you want to give up ... its a very very hard scene for men some will walk it most will get zero thats the nature of a scene thats so one sided so few women so few couples so many man a scene for guys that can be full of rejection and a scene where there is simply NOT someone for everyone ...

if i was a man i would not be on here full stop id be in the clubs getting to know real people in the flesh and then come on here after hopefully getting a few veris .... its simply a scene where nobody owes anybody anything .. to swing there needs to be sexual attraction and as part of a couple or playing on my own i can tell you how hard that is to find someone im sexually or mentally attracted to yep i might get 100s of messages but often not one will turn my head.... no sex on a plate on this scene

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

"I feel for you but hopefully you didn't need to travel far and your in Brighton one of best seaside resorts in uk for nightlife so your be ok. This is long shot but if you pm the ones who been here yearsssss saying I dunno but this person couple wanna meet me have you come across them on here? Maybe they can give you some info maybe? "

if anyone was to message me asking about one of my meets then sorry ill be telling them to fuck of and mind there own business

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I wasn't meaning a meet i meant ask people who been here long time and have they come across this woman man tv couple etc on fab chatting, not talking about meeting and it was just a idea, say for example I was close to you as a friend on here I be pm you too say is this ..... ok you come across her here chatting on fab. If that makes sense

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Been there with guys. I only now arrange a meet with a plan B. But am fed up with the man child fantasists and bullshitters.

Ya need a thick skin on here. "

Had a fair few guys message me and it seems to be going great. Only for next day they've blocked me or won't reply. Guessing at the time my messages were just wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was invited to meet with a couple on here this evening, only to arrive at the hotel bar to a WhatsApp message saying they needed to call it off. They'd given me their number and communication leading up to the meet was great. But now I'm left wondering why does this happen? And whether I should now just give up all hope of ever meeting a couple(s). Feeling down in the dumps so any advice welcomed to pick me back up again."

Jesus! Get a grip lad..

Youve been let down and choose to advertise it??

In the hope some other couple take pity??

Me me me " ?

Sorry for not being supportive at your time of need..

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By *ash0000Man
over a year ago

Southwest

"Jesus! Get a grip lad..

Youve been let down and choose to advertise it??

In the hope some other couple take pity??

Me me me " ?

Sorry for not being supportive at your time of need.. "

You’ve failed your interview for the position of sympathetic agony aunt.

But well down for not beating around the bush - if we’re still allowed to say that lol

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I noticed there was a post earlier saying goodbye but not heard one bad post in that forum post for awwwww wanting sympathy. Just goes to show on here if your not in certain click you get dissed lol. I say it as it is, yeah I get blanked but I'm me with a opinion but I'm not allowed too if it goes against the grain of the click lot on here lol.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

BTW I've no clue who this guy is who posted this but I speak for me not to please and agree to a group or single or couple or tv to get in there pants knickers or whatever there wearing lol

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By *oanne ETV/TS
over a year ago

Near Warrington

if anyone was to message me asking about one of my meets then sorry ill be telling them to fuck of and mind there own business

Well said darling xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aunty francesca can be apologetic...and it takes a bigger tv" to apologise.

But not to this poor soul who we can see is really struggling..

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Jesus! Get a grip lad..

Youve been let down and choose to advertise it??

In the hope some other couple take pity??

Me me me " ?

Sorry for not being supportive at your time of need.. "

There's endless posts here from couples and females giving it about guys not showing up.

Who are you to say he's looking for a pity fuck.

Sorry to hear you got stood up OP.

The silver lining is you did get there and they flaked. So you can do it again.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Exactly

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Did you tell person who said goodbye in there post because fab is terrible a negative message? Cause you didn't. Yes this person posted this message could be fake lying etc but could be true also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty humiliating having spent time getting ready, driven to the hotel, walked into the busy hotel bar and to them wall back out again after the no-show. They owe me nothing of course. But a little common courtesy and decency wouldn't have been too much to ask surely?"

But they did show you a little hommon courtesy by at least contacting you to cancel.

Ok it was last minute, but at least you got a message

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By *orfolk777Man
over a year ago

Norwich

I should have given up on fab years ago, come New Year’s Eve it will be 10 years, yes 10 years since I last got a meet off here, it’s impossible

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By *ash0000Man
over a year ago

Southwest

Don’t forget, a million little sperms each trying to fertilise one egg…

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Of late, Fabs has become like stirring treacle. And that's the good bits; it's usually like stirring cement.

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By *enrythe8thMan
over a year ago

worthing

Sorry mate but surprised you seem surprised by there action..

This site is full of timewasters

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

Happened to us again tonight. At least he let us know but with a lame excuse joining previous lame excuses from others. How many times has my Mum died now, or cars exploded, or cats in trees? We come to expect being let down now on this site.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

We've had it on more than one occasion. Sometimes a courtesy message, sometimes nothing at all. Equally frustrating when you've arranged a babysitter and then spend time frantically trying to find a plan B so as not to waste an evening, before wasting said evening.

Even more frustrating when you've been let down with no courtesy message and a couple of weeks later they are messaging to ask when you're looking to meet next, as if nothing had happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, it was unfair of them not to give you more notice.

I would just try not to take it personally, either they truly had to cancel- which can't be helped. Or they have issues between themselves which they need to solve before meeting anyone else.

Neither of these scenarios reflect poorly on you, so as tough as it is, I'd chalk it up to experience and move on to better things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I noticed there was a post earlier saying goodbye but not heard one bad post in that forum post for awwwww wanting sympathy. Just goes to show on here if your not in certain click you get dissed lol. I say it as it is, yeah I get blanked but I'm me with a opinion but I'm not allowed too if it goes against the grain of the click lot on here lol. "

I noticed that thread as well, and can see the difference between both threads.

I always keep in mind an old post asking for advice, the poster got dragged over the coals, and was told when they complained that this is FAB were people can do what they wish without a care for anyones feelings or dencency.

take that as you will.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Do you even know if they are a legit couple ? Verifications . Time on fab ? Did you see live pics

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We play at clubs - have all but once kept our appointments - that time a back injury from a train jolt ... meet at a club, if they don't turn up you have the rest of the patrons as possible play partners. x A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that’s happened to you! Unfortunately things do happen last minute but it sounds like they got cold feet and bailed with no consideration for your time

Not all couples are like that! We’ve been let down last minute by time wasters before but we’ve also met some incredible people and those meets far outweigh the let downs. Got to take the rough with the smooth on here unfortunately.

This is why we tend to prefer clubs now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At first I had no doubt that it may have been genuine. But I think they may have now blocked me on WhatsApp and they've now just deleted the last message that I sent them on here to try and find out if I did something wrong.

Probably they felt bad at letting you down so blocked you for that reason. Not your fault.

Try and feel better today.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, it was unfair of them not to give you more notice.

I would just try not to take it personally, either they truly had to cancel- which can't be helped. Or they have issues between themselves which they need to solve before meeting anyone else.

Neither of these scenarios reflect poorly on you, so as tough as it is, I'd chalk it up to experience and move on to better things.

This.

Always remember when shit happens on Fab that if you've done nothing to contribute to that shit, then 'it's not you, it's them' applies.

There is every chance something came up that was beyond their control, given that they did let you know. Swinging will always take a back seat to real life for us and in a situation where something in normal life crops up that needs to take priority then it will, and sex with a stranger will always come second.

If you think they have now blocked you then did you respond to them in any kind of negative way? Did you show frustration and anger in a message or imply they had wasted your time? Because if someone did that to us we'd probably do the same. Yes it's frustrating, but someone not understanding that people have lives, commitments and that sometimes things happen beyond our control would be an instant turn off and big red flag, so we'd possibly consider cutting all contact if they could accept the situation like an adult.

Would it make us leave Fab if it happened to us? Not at all. We accept that things happen and move on.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Think you have to take fab with a pinch of salt,people message a lot for pics and friend invites,WHOOP WHOOP,alarm bells right there.....

If you're looking for someone genuine,good luck,you will eventually.....

Stay positive, stay horny M&HXxx

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

It's not something you give up on it's a preference

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Lots of strange mentally unstable people on fab.

Even swapping face pics and numbers does not mean anything anymore.

We have been messed about alot on here.

We are very close to not meeting anymore as the effort outweighs the fun.

Our block list is longer than our hotlist now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, it was unfair of them not to give you more notice.

I would just try not to take it personally, either they truly had to cancel- which can't be helped. Or they have issues between themselves which they need to solve before meeting anyone else.

Neither of these scenarios reflect poorly on you, so as tough as it is, I'd chalk it up to experience and move on to better things.

This.

Always remember when shit happens on Fab that if you've done nothing to contribute to that shit, then 'it's not you, it's them' applies.

Would it make us leave Fab if it happened to us? Not at all. We accept that things happen and move on.

Great advice.... Dust yourself off and try again.. Perhaps a club might be a better starting place?

Unfortunately people are unpredictable and no doubt being on fab isn't the walk in the park that i suspect a lot of men think it will be...

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