FabSwingers.com forum: Face pic etiquette

By *leasureman OP Man
over a year ago

bury st edmunds

Just wanted to get peoples thoughts on face pic etiquette.

I keep my private but always happy to share if it looks like there is either a connection or looking likely we'll meet.

I get confused by profiles that state that in order to engage with them you must send a face pic in DM, but have yet have none on display. I understand that everyone wants to retain their privacy for obvious reasons, but the as above requests always seem quite one sided.

Am I massively overthinking this? Lol

Mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one sided because of the abundance of single guys so couples and women can make more requests to filter out.

Saying that you should never feel pressured into doing something you don't want to.

We never share face pics until we have got some kind of connection and think we might meet, because otherwise we think we'd be sharing hundreds. As a result we don't request them either.

The main thing is to do what you feel comfortable doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a rule i believe the person initiating the contact should be the first person that sends their photos (when necessary).

It’s a pet peeve of mine when people message me asking for meets and photos, when I have no clue who they are.

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By *leasureman OP Man
over a year ago

bury st edmunds

"It's one sided because of the abundance of single guys so couples and women can make more requests to filter out.

Saying that you should never feel pressured into doing something you don't want to.

We never share face pics until we have got some kind of connection and think we might meet, because otherwise we think we'd be sharing hundreds. As a result we don't request them either.

The main thing is to do what you feel comfortable doing

I agree mostly. Just think the request is a little rude. However as you said you should never be pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I get confused by profiles that state that in order to engage with them you must send a face pic in DM, but have yet have none on display. "

In my experience, if someone is demanding face pix as a precursor then the odds are low of them being who they say they are and I would probably not bother with them.

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By *leasureman OP Man
over a year ago

bury st edmunds

"As a rule i believe the person initiating the contact should be the first person that sends their photos (when necessary).

It’s a pet peeve of mine when people message me asking for meets and photos, when I have no clue who they are."

I agree totally

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By *leasureman OP Man
over a year ago

bury st edmunds

I get confused by profiles that state that in order to engage with them you must send a face pic in DM, but have yet have none on display.

In my experience, if someone is demanding face pix as a precursor then the odds are low of them being who they say they are and I would probably not bother with them."

Again I agree. But it's more those that have it within their profile blurb that to initiate contact you must include face pic in DM, when their pics available arent. Just a bit off in my book.

But yes demanding a face pic from the outset is often a sign of the dreaded "pic collector" fantasist.

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By *ondoner27Man
over a year ago

london

I don’t think it’s a pic collector thing with verified couples at all. I think it’s a filtration system to save time. If they like the look of you they will respond if not then they won’t. I always knew that couples got loads of messages on here but one couple actually showed me how many in one single day, i was shocked!!

It is definitely one sided but if you’re initiating contact I think it’s to be expected really.

Personally, I will always send a face pic with a message. But I have seen plenty on here who won’t do face pics so I’m sure it’s possible to get meets without them if you’re not comfortable

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

It’s not blind date, little like can’t accommodate means married or living with mum, folks want to have a good idea weather to carry on on a conversation

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By *oisy CricketMan
over a year ago

York

I get confused by profiles that state that in order to engage with them you must send a face pic in DM, but have yet have none on display.

In my experience, if someone is demanding face pix as a precursor then the odds are low of them being who they say they are and I would probably not bother with them."

Not always, though I'm sure there is plenty of fakery going on.

I'll qualify that by saying that when I was part of a couples profile here, my partner would much prefer to see a face pic early on in messaging so as not to waste the guy's time if she just didn't fancy him.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

People can ask for a face pic in 1st message,but if you're not comfortable sending one just pass them by .

Some women will get so much mail ,so they want a face pic early to save wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it like this, I may be wrong but my opinion.

In a club Mrs would only really pursue someone if there was a physical attraction. Getting that side of the initial interaction on here sorted, for us prevents wasted time.

If there is no attraction then there isn't much point in carrying on the conversation as it not going to lead to a meet

However not all conversations we have on here are about meets, so sometimes it just irrelevant.

However it's still just easier to put it in our profile, so if you don't want to send us one that's fine, at least you know before you message that it works in your favour for a meet with us if you do (if there is an attraction)

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

There's quite a difference in sending a pic in private to having your face pics in public photos, isn't there?

If you find it rude, andI honestly don't see why you should, it's very easy to pass them by, it's no one's loss

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"As a rule i believe the person initiating the contact should be the first person that sends their photos (when necessary).

It’s a pet peeve of mine when people message me asking for meets and photos, when I have no clue who they are."

Agree

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Before I was face out, I’d send it with a hi message. It’s up to you when you show. I find people who don’t went asked aren’t meet material.

We had a couple on the couples account wanting a meet. We asked for faces and they’ve opened the message and not replied so I guess they’ve self deselected themselves!

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

I ask for a face pic but always send one back even if I’m saying no thanks because I think it’s fair for you to see me if I’ve seen you, though i do accept just a body (not dick) pic initially as long as a face pic is fairly early on. For me it’s a way of filtering whether there is any attraction or not so I’m not wasting someone’s time. I also can’t accommodate , not as suggested , because I’m married or living with parents but because my adult daughter and her fiancé and three kids have moved back in with me whilst they save a deposit for a house and my youngest still lives at home when she’s home from uni so not appropriate to bring people back here, if anyone asks I’m happy to explain.

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