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Wow it’s so bloody hard!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To find a women on here for an FFM. I (mrs) have been trying to find a women to join us, all the talking will be with me and I can FaceTime to verify etc.. (all the usual) and nothing. No wonder it’s called unicorns

Wanted to reward Mr for some hot experiences for me recently and had no idea how tough this would be..

Guys before you reply I know where to find you don’t worry xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How about trying a club?

Not sure many women would want to be a reward for your husband though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How about trying a club?

Not sure many women would want to be a reward for your husband though "

Thanks, we go clubs a fair bit but want more of a private hot night with less of an audience.

It’s not so much about where.. the point of fab is tough.. going to a club and hoping we meet someone that we click with is a last resort really.

Nothing wrong with being a hot reward either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you’ve discovered, you’re looking for one of the most elusive things on Fab.

Most women who enjoy this scenario will have firm ideas of what feels right for them. Tbh I don’t think many will like the idea of being “a hot reward” for your husband.

That’s by no means a criticism but an observation.

Wishing you luck.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Who says they have to like your husband?

I wonder how they would feel to being some sort of trophy for him?

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Having met many couples, and several with straight/bi curious ladies, I’d be turned right off if the woman were doing the “negotiating” for me to be a “reward” for their “hubby”.

I like it when both talk to me and both address me as a person, as an individual.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

I think many on here will see it as them being used as reward for hubby. Not many unicorns or ladies of a cpl who are allowed to fly solo will meet for such a sinario. I myself would pass on it.

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By *iceguyEricMan
over a year ago

Jersey

Sorry can I just say that BBC pic you have in there is incredible.

Good luck with the search

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

This is what’s known as ‘couple’s privilege’ in lifestyle circles.

Using a women as a sex toy rather than an individual person with their own thoughts and feelings.

My wife who plays separately would insta-delete a message with that vibe. It’s just not a good situation to be in!

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Having met many couples, and several with straight/bi curious ladies, I’d be turned right off if the woman were doing the “negotiating” for me to be a “reward” for their “hubby”.

I like it when both talk to me and both address me as a person, as an individual. "

Exactly this Highly doubt any woman would be happy being paraded out and presented as a trophy for someone else

Talk about degrading!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having met many couples, and several with straight/bi curious ladies, I’d be turned right off if the woman were doing the “negotiating” for me to be a “reward” for their “hubby”.

I like it when both talk to me and both address me as a person, as an individual. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Such an interesting bunch of answers.. all read and respected btw.. personally don’t agree at all and maybe there was a better choice of wording to have used..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Such an interesting bunch of answers.. all read and respected btw.. personally don’t agree at all and maybe there was a better choice of wording to have used.."

What don't you agree with?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Such an interesting bunch of answers.. all read and respected btw.. personally don’t agree at all and maybe there was a better choice of wording to have used.."

The way you’ve worded it will put many women off. However, the way you’ve worded it won’t put every woman off, and some will be looking for that exact scenario, so if that’s what you are seeking, you can be upfront and honest about it. The rare women who share that fantasy will find your approach appealing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m just wanting a hot experience for me and my husband, I think our verifications and the fact we went to a couples wedding who we met off fab and their kids bday parties etc, shows a lot about us.. miss written, maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Such an interesting bunch of answers.. all read and respected btw.. personally don’t agree at all and maybe there was a better choice of wording to have used..

The way you’ve worded it will put many women off. However, the way you’ve worded it won’t put every woman off, and some will be looking for that exact scenario, so if that’s what you are seeking, you can be upfront and honest about it. The rare women who share that fantasy will find your approach appealing."

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

alot of bi women dont like the unicorn tag .... alot of bi women dont like the its a show for the husband tag ... and alot of bi women need to fancy both ... they are women not toys

there are 2 types (proberly lots more in truth lol) of bi women swinger bi where its all a bit fake and show..y or real bi women who really do like other women ...its why i dont play with many women from the swingers scene or in couples id much rather meet with bi or gay women i know from the gay scene ie gay clubs or gay nights where the sex is much more to the point and feels so right and animalistic fun ...there really is a big big difference ...

#justmyopinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with all of the comments above.

I would not want to be "used" as a toy, a gift, a reward to the husband. That is degrading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just wanting a hot experience for me and my husband, I think our verifications and the fact we went to a couples wedding who we met off fab and their kids bday parties etc, shows a lot about us.. miss written, maybe."

Again, it’s the way you’re explaining it.

“A hot reward for your husband “

“A hot experience for me and my husband “

With respect what’s in it for the woman?

It comes across as being all about the two of you.

In this scenario it’s about you both making sure the woman is having an amazing time.

There’s some great advice on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m just wanting a hot experience for me and my husband, I think our verifications and the fact we went to a couples wedding who we met off fab and their kids bday parties etc, shows a lot about us.. miss written, maybe.

Again, it’s the way you’re explaining it.

“A hot reward for your husband “

“A hot experience for me and my husband “

With respect what’s in it for the woman?

It comes across as being all about the two of you.

In this scenario it’s about you both making sure the woman is having an amazing time.

There’s some great advice on this thread."

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