FabSwingers.com forum: Being blocked.

By *unSeekee OP Man
over a year ago

Pembroke

I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again.

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

Asked and answered!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a read back and the clues are probably there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a read back and the clues are probably there. "

This!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

So we're responsible for teaching guys how to be decent humans or how to manipulate us better?

I'm going to go with no

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By *unSeekee OP Man
over a year ago

Pembroke

I’m not sure. I asked for boundary’s at the start and the reply was ‘everything and anything. I’m filthy’.

And it was pretty vanilla at that point.

(Which is why it happened maybe)??

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP.. it happens.

Accept it and move on. And maybe don't start a thread complaining about it. That's just a no.

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By *ady GoodwitchWoman
over a year ago

Witchery wish lane

Same as every man's right to cut off the women, and yes it would be good to give people a reason no matter what it is,

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What makes you think you've been a twat?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I’m not sure. I asked for boundary’s at the start and the reply was ‘everything and anything. I’m filthy’.

And it was pretty vanilla at that point.

(Which is why it happened maybe)??"

If you use the reply+quote button we can see who you're responding to

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

No one has to reply.

site rules.

Take it like a man and move on.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again. "

1: No I'am not a twat and you shouldn't label other men and generalise us.

2: Yes it is a womans right to block as well as couple, men, TS, TV/CD's, non gender specific all have the same right.

3: Why should anybody tell you why.

4: If you have to be told why, then you act the way someone else wants you to and this is disingenuous, why wuold you also want to lie to yourself and be someone your not.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again.

1: No I'am not a twat and you shouldn't label other men and generalise us.

2: Yes it is a womans right to block as well as couple, men, TS, TV/CD's, non gender specific all have the same right.

3: Why should anybody tell you why.

4: If you have to be told why, then you act the way someone else wants you to and this is disingenuous, why wuold you also want to lie to yourself and be someone your not."

Was going to say most of this but you have it covered so it's saves me typing it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again.

1: No I'am not a twat and you shouldn't label other men and generalise us.

2: Yes it is a womans right to block as well as couple, men, TS, TV/CD's, non gender specific all have the same right.

3: Why should anybody tell you why.

4: If you have to be told why, then you act the way someone else wants you to and this is disingenuous, why wuold you also want to lie to yourself and be someone your not.

Was going to say most of this but you have it covered so it's saves me typing it

Sometimes you just have to try and work it out yourself OP.

If you feel you've done nothing wrong then maybe you haven't. I've you think you may have said something they took offence to then that's your starting point.

Either way you'll never know. Over analysing and dwelling won't change a thing.

Just move on.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Have a read back and the clues are probably there. "

More than one, actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Par for the course ??

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I’ve been blocked by people on here that I’m not aware I’ve ever spoken to. It is what it is.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I’ve been blocked by people on here that I’m not aware I’ve ever spoken to. It is what it is. "

Same. Sometimes I click on the profile out of curiosity just to find out I’ve been blocked, without any recollection of interacting with them, it is what it is.

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By *sianTravellerMan
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It can also go for women / couple’s who decide to block on the day of the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block guys that haven’t taken no for an answer. I get that they forgot they messaged us before but it just gets irritating tbh. I would only block without explaining if I’m seriously offended

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"I’ve been blocked by people on here that I’m not aware I’ve ever spoken to. It is what it is.

Same. Sometimes I click on the profile out of curiosity just to find out I’ve been blocked, without any recollection of interacting with them, it is what it is. "

There’s reasons other than the assumed negatives (WHY don’t they like me?!) - they might know you in work life, have vanilla friends in common, go to the same gym, kids at the same school - some innocuous fluffy stuff that some Fab people just use the Block button for. Also I have spoken to couples where the block button was used because the couple / single was too hot / too attractive and were afraid of relationships being strained…

Don’t dwell on it, select your next willing victim(s)…

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i use the block button every day its my main tool for fab mostly pre blocking i am damm sure i owe nobody a reason for why i blocked them ?

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I use block when it's obvious the person telling me what they want when it is not what we want.

Or if thier photos put us off.

Or if their veris put us off.

Or if they are being a pest or too pushy and so on...

If we get blocked we laugh about it.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"i use the block button every day its my main tool for fab mostly pre blocking i am damm sure i owe nobody a reason for why i blocked them ? "

I just checked to see if I have been pre blocked and I can confirm this is definitely an accurate statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again. "

No. Women aren't your support humans.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You couldn't hold a decent conversation.

You weren't interesting.

You said something that grated on me.

You tries to steer the conversation towards a sexual one.

You lied about not smoking/not accommodating.

She went off the idea of having sex with a stranger.

It was a man looking for an easy wank.

You said something disparaging about someone else you'd met.

There's a few reasons off the too of my head that may be why.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"i use the block button every day its my main tool for fab mostly pre blocking i am damm sure i owe nobody a reason for why i blocked them ?

I just checked to see if I have been pre blocked and I can confirm this is definitely an accurate statement

alot of who get blocked have done nothing wrong at all and many are just good guys but they are just not for me ... i sure ive been blocked by many but i dont care we are all here for different reasons my main number one reason is to meet

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By *atangMan
over a year ago

bolton

Always wanted to be pegged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always wanted to be pegged"

Wrong thread?

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"i use the block button every day its my main tool for fab mostly pre blocking i am damm sure i owe nobody a reason for why i blocked them ?

I just checked to see if I have been pre blocked and I can confirm this is definitely an accurate statement

I get it and I am cool with it. I do the same.

I do find it amusing to look on profiles I know I haven’t interacted with and to see that I am blocked.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

No problem with being blocked if I'm not for someone and visa versa than block.

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By *ustaman85Man
over a year ago

here and there

maybe their account got suspended?

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

I believe that 99% of times a message to a lady will be deleted but that’s who this works. If you don’t interest them then is the way it works simples.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"I’ve been blocked by people on here that I’m not aware I’ve ever spoken to. It is what it is.

Same. Sometimes I click on the profile out of curiosity just to find out I’ve been blocked, without any recollection of interacting with them, it is what it is. "

Who in their right mind would block you….

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I’ve been blocked by people on here that I’m not aware I’ve ever spoken to. It is what it is.

Same. Sometimes I click on the profile out of curiosity just to find out I’ve been blocked, without any recollection of interacting with them, it is what it is.

Who in their right mind would block you…."

People I’m not what they are looking for?

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

And get abuse back?

no,thanks

block, and it saves time and energy

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again. "

Women get blocked too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again. "

Not. How. It. Works.

Entitlement isn't the best thing here.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I block people every day.

Usually because of something they've said. Could be on the profile, forum or direct message.

Whatever the reason is is irrelevant, just take it on the chin and move on.

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By *ustaman85Man
over a year ago

here and there

i seem to have been clocked by someone who for the last week, we’ve been talking and getting on very well, nothing changed in our convo, was messaging last night, they last messaged me, then this morning, blocked, is what it is i suppose, i have no idea why, and will probably never know. or i’ll maybe tell myself they’ve been suspended and they never blocked me haha

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I get it.

Men are twats and is is every woman’s right to end a chat and block midway through.

But please ladies. At least tell us why so we won’t be twats again.

Women get blocked too."

Very much so.

Often because we have nothing in common but just as often for being twats.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People tend to repeat their behaviour and blame others instead for their results.

There's no time to educate others, apart from the forum

Reflect. Move on

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By *ayleePhoenixTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Often no rhyme or reason why a person might block you.

One guy sent me abusive messages, thinking I would like them because I am mostly submissive. Then he blocked me!

I find people who don't have much of a sense of humour often block.

Just best to move on and don't wonder why you were blocked

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Often no rhyme or reason why a person might block you.

One guy sent me abusive messages, thinking I would like them because I am mostly submissive. Then he blocked me!

I find people who don't have much of a sense of humour often block.

Just best to move on and don't wonder why you were blocked

I have a great sense of humour and think it's hilarious when people try and tell me how to run my own profile and who I should or should not chat to so I'm always blocking with a smile on my face

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

"So we're responsible for teaching guys how to be decent humans or how to manipulate us better?

I'm going to go with no

This

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By *ylonattireTV/TS
over a year ago

Radcliffe

If you get blocked, get over it.

We are not all compatible

If they he she decides No, then hitting the block button just saves time all round.

If someone blocks me, I don't analyse the reasoning behind their decision.

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By *ommy501Man
over a year ago

Dungannon

Being blocked for liking pics.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

People block for different reasons. If it's a pattern for you then you might want to do some introspection. Put yourself in the person you messaged shoes and think about how you come across in your profile and messages.

Some people use blocks as a filter, they didn't block you because they think you're a terrible person, they blocked you because you're not compatible.

I only really block people when they send the same copy paste message every week or keep messaging and I haven't replied to any of them. I've blocked a few forums users who I think are morons but it's only a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been blocked by people I've never spoken to on here lol its just how it goes. I block people all the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People block for different reasons. If it's a pattern for you then you might want to do some introspection. Put yourself in the person you messaged shoes and think about how you come across in your profile and messages.

Some people use blocks as a filter, they didn't block you because they think you're a terrible person, they blocked you because you're not compatible.

This reeks of common sense lol

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By *inkyBiBlackMaleMan
over a year ago

London

This right here, couldn't have said it better.

Some people use blocks as a filter, they didn't block you because they think you're a terrible person, they blocked you because you're not compatible.

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By *eeJB1975Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Sh*t happens and theres plenty more fish in the sea.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

You can get blocked for fabbing a few pics on a profile, block them back and move on.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

My reasons include:

Pests who keep messaging after a no ta.

Those who pester to meet.

Men who just want sex chat more pics.

Those who say something that's a red flag in a message .

Telling me what to do /wear if we met

Lies.

Also those who jump on every status update I make ,just no it's creepy.

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By *mooth shaftMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *mooth shaftMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Don't even know how to check who has blocked me and don't give a shit. I'm never rude and if anyone has blocked me it's their loss !

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By *ommy501Man
over a year ago

Dungannon

"You can get blocked for fabbing a few pics on a profile, block them back and move on."
I totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first line on my profile says that if you use a certain work in your message I will delete and block.

Still it amazes me how many guys still use that word. Just goes to show you have not read my profile.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

If you don't know you're being a twat you don't deserve to be told why, so you can get around women's twat filters by changing your behaviour,yet still being a twat

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby

Here and on the other site I block people I’m Not interested in.

Might be I definitely don’t fancy them or drugs ref, I’m definitely not what they are looking for or attitude. Just a way of avoiding bumping into them.

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