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By *oftswapcouple46 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Does it put couples off when another couple with the most that would happen being a soft swap? We are new and looking to try out the lifestyle. We want to find a couple so that we can play with the other couple and maybe not just have the F/M play with each other but try our our bi sides and have the FF and MM play with each other too . We just find that would be amazingly hot watching our own partners play with the same sex too in the mix

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't think soft swap puts people off, that's what we'd be looking for as a 1st couples meet.

Mrs

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

Soft swap works for us too,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swap is fun too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we were to play with a couple it would definitely be soft swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love soft swap.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

We think soft swap is a good place to start. You can always take things from there depending how everybody feels.

It's sometimes difficult to get the dynamic right for couples but we would like to find a couple to soft swap with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swap can go on for hours.. we love it.

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Im not a couple but this is what Im here for. Ive done this in the past, a very long time ago, and loved it. From readng through the forum posts it seems that getting a bi soft swap couple is pretty hard (no pun intended) and there seems to be about 300 single guys willing for each couple offering. Good luck in your search x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have a problem with soft play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all love soft play.

Met a few couples and single fems just for soft play.

Plus had a bi mmmff soft play in a club. Was amazing, everyone licking, kissing and sucking everyone

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

Might be a subtle difference to all the single guys who have answered. But soft play isn't the question the OP has raised. They have asked about soft swap; so that would imply between couples.

We do enjoy soft play and that can be at a club or wherever, but between couples the dynamic is different. For a start it requires both couples to bring something to the party.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Being straight the playing with the same sex wouldnt be my thing.

However I have done soft swap with opposite partners .with my other half and enjoyed it

So soft swap with opposite partners wouldn't put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've spoken to couples and as soon as they realise that neither of us is bi and would only be a soft swap at this stage it's just a no.

Currently seems impossible

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"We've spoken to couples and as soon as they realise that neither of us is bi and would only be a soft swap at this stage it's just a no.

Currently seems impossible "

I agree that its hard to find couples who dont want at least some fem to fem play.My partner and I struggle to find this too ,which is why we kept our single profiles (we met here ).

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

Definately doesn't put us off at all. Everyone has their boundaries which should be respected xx

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By *uncouple 321Couple
over a year ago

south West

Wheres everyone based?

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Waves

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Absolutely not, you do you. We aren’t into the idea of jumping into any kind of swapping, though it does put a lot of people off. To each their own

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We're more than happy to just do soft swap and for me to only go with the opposite sex.

Don't let it put you off OP, we do exist.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it put couples off when another couple with the most that would happen being a soft swap? We are new and looking to try out the lifestyle. We want to find a couple so that we can play with the other couple and maybe not just have the F/M play with each other but try our our bi sides and have the FF and MM play with each other too . We just find that would be amazingly hot watching our own partners play with the same sex too in the mix "

We have found many are put off by soft swapping, it’s how we play soft only

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By *oftswapcouple46 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

We love the idea soft swapping where everyone is involved with every one, it just feels like it would a lot more sensual and erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's often considered as a starting point with an expectation that with more experience you will progress to hard swap.

That's definitely not the case for us. We've been on the scene for years and I would never play hard with any other man.

We're primarily here for ff play.

Happy for my man to play hard with other fems, and i will play soft with other men, but very very selectively.

It's not for everyone, but it seems to work for us and we have never found a shortage of sexy people to play with.

Those only after hard play are not for us.

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We started off just girl on girl, then progressed slowly to soft and when we both felt comfortable we finally moved on to full swap

Personally it wouldn’t put us off as it’s all about respecting boundaries and other peoples kinks etc x

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By *ellanbennyCouple
over a year ago

cambs

Soft swap is what we are looking for and either other people are or they aren't and either way is fine.

T

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I've had soft swaps with me and a fwb and another couple. Although there's no universal definition of 'soft swap', it seems to be the same as Bill Clinton's regarding Monica Lewinsky- as long as it's not penetrative, it's not considered having sexual relations! Our experiences have usually been one of two types.

1) It's made clear what is permitted and what is not. We swap, everyone gets horny, and then we swap back to our partner for more fun.

2) The soft swap is an opportunity to size each other up. If all are happy, it progress to a full swap by mutual consent.

Either way, we don't mind, soft swaps can be as exciting and intense as a full swap.

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We are a soft swap couple. But make sure you explain what you both prefer in soft swap, as it different boundaries to different people.

For us it everything with both sexes apart from penetration

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By *oftswapcouple46 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Yes we have realised there are a lot of variations in soft swapping so for us it's every thing with other couples apart from penetration, that would be exclusive to each others partners

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Find soft swap confusing in boundaries, so we’re full swap or nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each couple have their own boundaries when it comes to soft play.

Our soft play is different as the FF is allowed to go all in but anything swapping M to F is where we hold back. It will happen but I won't touch another F unless she says and she won't touch another unless I say.

As long as both couples have a clear understanding of what's expected they soft play can be anything you want it to be.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

couple to couple play is all about dialogue and understanding - soft swap can be as erotic as full swap - it is all about the chemistry created by the parties x

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Yes we have realised there are a lot of variations in soft swapping so for us it's every thing with other couples apart from penetration, that would be exclusive to each others partners "

That would be the same has us then. If you are ever in Tamworth let us know

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

We soft swap and it’s been great fun

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford

It’s a hard one for us, we’re very much a play without any expectations and let things happen organically, so if full swap doesn’t happen that’s ok, but then, we wouldn’t choose to play with a soft swap only couple because of that limitation, if that makes any sense?

But there are plenty of soft swap couples out there OP so they are about.

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By *imandher123456Couple
over a year ago

gosport

Soft swap would probably be our first foray into playing with another couple as we have only played with other guys in a MMF or MFM so far .....definitely on the cards if we can find the right couple

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By *abonTedCouple
over a year ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

Think it would be a perfect starting point to POSSIBLY more. Would be lovely to find a couple and grow together and see where things take us

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