FabSwingers.com forum: The secret ingredient

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’ve thought about this a lot…

I’ve known certain guys who have seemed to have no issue with pulling women. Some that don’t even seem to try (I’ve tried ‘not trying’ and it doesn’t work for me – maybe it’s the trying not to try and I should).

I really do wonder what makes some men so successful with women. It can’t be just the gift of the gab, surely?

Is it that we only see the successful attempts and not the missed shots?

Is there a certain ubiquitous/universal trait a man could possess that makes him the type women throw themselves at?

What makes a man irresistible to you women?

A bit of a loaded question with many in one, but yeah. I don’t believe I’m bad-looking at all; that it’s that, but I really am curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only been on 3 month and had a few meets. That's very very good on fab these days.

Just go to more club nights. Clubs are the best

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"So I’ve thought about this a lot…

I really do wonder what makes some men so successful with women. It can’t be just the gift of the gab, surely?

Is it that we only see the successful attempts and not the missed shots?

Is there a certain ubiquitous/universal trait a man could possess that makes him the type women throw themselves at?

What makes a man irresistible to you women?

A bit of a loaded question with many in one, but yeah. I don’t believe I’m bad-looking at all; that it’s that, but I really am curious.

Both of us will give our views on this as it’s a decent one.

Male half here: I’ve had several singles profiles and have been fortunate to never really struggle for meets. I wouldn’t say I’m the best looking, nor am I the worst, a solid 6. I find being genuine, courteous, chill, funny etc are all hugely important. Try to find folks who you think you’ll vibe with, not completely out your league (I know that’ll upset some) and show a real interest when chatting.

Female half: For me physical attraction is the first thing I look for. As shallow as that maybe sounds this isn’t a dating site and looks are important. It then very much comes down to if we vibe, share interests/kinks and they’re not too pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky over the years to be fairly lucky on here. I think it's about just being normal, clubs help definitely as long as your not part of the wanking dead

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No man is irresistible to all women. It's true some seem to be able to meet more women and have sex with them if that's the measure of success we're using. I suppose being perceived as attractive and not being an arse while being genuinely interested in the individual helps but if I think a guy's aim is just to 'pull' as many women as possible he immediately becomes very resistible.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think charisma plays a big part, if someone carries themselves in a interesting, confident (but not arrogant way, regardless of age, body, looks, it just kind of makes them seem possibly more interesting.

If they then can carry on a conversation once that the initial interest has got them into conversations, it's often a flow from there. At least that's how it seems to me.

To me this applies regardless of gender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The secret ingredient... is crime

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

i meet.

for a shortarse i do pretty good for myself.

most i meet away from the site as they want too get on with it and not keep it on endless messages that go nowhere.

so i save a lot of time by quickly working out who is real and fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here as a single guy I didn't do too badly for meets but no one was falling over themselves to jump me!!

I wouldn't say I'm particularly attractive, just me take me as you find me, although my lady says that it helped that I could hold a conversation, make her smile and laugh even though messages on here (we met on fab, still together), that being said she ignored my first message that came across quite generic, where as the second more detailed around her profile showing that I'd read and understood what she wanted.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

You mentioned gift of the gift of the gab. Yes, absolutely!

First meet on here I wouldn't have swiped right let's just say but his messages were hilarious. When I opened the door I was surprised not knowing how he'd look. But.... he was so funny and we got on so well it didn't take long before I found him really attractive. Now I tend to be drawn towards a similar look even though previously I'd have ruled it out.

Ended up seeing him for 5 years.

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