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Short Message Replies - disinterest?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We recently came across a single guy who seemed to match what we are looking for. Good profile, seems educated and vwe with a few good verifies.

We would generally send a few line email introducing ourselves and what we are looking for. However we get one line answers back (almost email grunts) just answering and seemingly not interested in us but sending pics to try and impress us.

Makes us think either he's sending 100 emails a day to similar couples and playing a numbers game, he's got no personality or is playing hard to get. Whichever it makes us very unlikely to take things further.

We know it is difficult to meet for single guys but surely when a couple shows an interest with a couple of relevant emails then perhaps it's time to turn on the charm (we have) and put in the effort or say not interested. There would almost definitely have been a meet if he had come across a bit more conversational.

Each to their own but anyone else came across this type of thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like a "copy n paste" player sadly

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if you wrote a nice message, tailored to what you were looking for and matched to his profile and what he seeks. It is rude just to grunt back.

I also think in the reverse as well.

good luck and hope you find someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! I'm a great believer in reciprocation!

So if I get a one liner it either gets ignored/deleted or a similar response.

And if it becomes one liner ping pong ill eventually just block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm inclined to discontinue (or disinclined to continue, if you prefer) any conversation in which I'm contributing more than 75% of the words. Same goes on here; if they can't say anything interesting, they're simply not interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Each to their own but anyone else came across this type of thing?"

Yes, a few times I've written a lady a reasonable opening message, asking her in a nutshell if she'd like to chat a bit, and the response is little more than

'yeh'

And I'll usually abandon my attempts to get to know her better right there. In my experience in swinging, you have to be able to communicate effectively, because essentially you're meeting strangers with an eye to having sex with them, which naturally requires a good degree of social skills in order to build up an appreciation of one another to the point that you may be able to share yourselves intimately - its not like you just message someone and say

'Nice figure!'

She replies

'Great cock!'

Then you meet and have sex - you have to overcome that barrier of unfamiliarity first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what Obi said above is also something which annoys me...

ping pong messages with silly questions; if they cant get enough info from my profile they are thick grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't think that you're worth the trouble of a decent reply, then they're not worth spending any more time on! Cut and move on.... every time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive tried it - sent some lovely messages - get one line back.

Send them another message, few lines long.

Three word reply.

Then I give in!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Metaphorically speaking of course, fuck 'em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what Obi said above is also something which annoys me...

ping pong messages with silly questions; if they cant get enough info from my profile they are thick grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr "

I have to confess that on cold lonely nights in hotels when away with work I do play little games with the obvious fakes to see just how many four word messages they can type with me just replying "yep", "lol", "really?" or "ha ha".

My record is about 20!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all here for similar reasons, but we still like to.be respected and valued. If folks can't be bothered to string a few lines together and be good old fashioned sociable, then to me they could not give a flying budgy in the bed room! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what messages did you send him?

if it was hi, how are you sorta thing. How can you expect war and peace answers?

if im asked a question, i answer it. I dont go into graphic and long winded answers, i keep it short and sweet. Does that show disinterest, not at all. Id rather meet face to face that chat on emails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what Obi said above is also something which annoys me...

ping pong messages with silly questions; if they cant get enough info from my profile they are thick grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I have to confess that on cold lonely nights in hotels when away with work I do play little games with the obvious fakes to see just how many four word messages they can type with me just replying "yep", "lol", "really?" or "ha ha".

My record is about 20! "

So its YOU thats been doing it to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If having a chat online which lets face it is relatively easy,seems to be as painful as pulling teeth then I give up pretty quickly,if I can't be engaged with some sort of rapport behind a screen im sure as hell going to be snoring within minutes on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what Obi said above is also something which annoys me...

ping pong messages with silly questions; if they cant get enough info from my profile they are thick grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I have to confess that on cold lonely nights in hotels when away with work I do play little games with the obvious fakes to see just how many four word messages they can type with me just replying "yep", "lol", "really?" or "ha ha".

My record is about 20!

So its YOU thats been doing it to me!

"

Hi. How are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what Obi said above is also something which annoys me...

ping pong messages with silly questions; if they cant get enough info from my profile they are thick grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I have to confess that on cold lonely nights in hotels when away with work I do play little games with the obvious fakes to see just how many four word messages they can type with me just replying "yep", "lol", "really?" or "ha ha".

My record is about 20!

So its YOU thats been doing it to me!

Hi. How are you? "

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One liners usually get deleted by me, unless I've had my eye on them haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what Obi said above is also something which annoys me...

ping pong messages with silly questions; if they cant get enough info from my profile they are thick grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I have to confess that on cold lonely nights in hotels when away with work I do play little games with the obvious fakes to see just how many four word messages they can type with me just replying "yep", "lol", "really?" or "ha ha".

My record is about 20!

So its YOU thats been doing it to me!

Hi. How are you?

Ok.

"

GR8 !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We sent a brief but nice message to a couple yesterday and we got one line back written in text speak and I couldnt understand it. They'd written sound as snd. Block! Sorry but if I cant even read your message im not gonna go any further!

First time weve had this but presume its common.

Mrs Nico

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

recently got two mails. the mails and the profile contained a total of nine words. and he clearly hadn't read our profile. we wonder if he's surprised we said no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what messages did you send him?

if it was hi, how are you sorta thing. How can you expect war and peace answers?

if im asked a question, i answer it. I dont go into graphic and long winded answers, i keep it short and sweet. Does that show disinterest, not at all. Id rather meet face to face that chat on emails"

We've asked reasonable questions such as where they prefer to meet, what they like, etc. We're not expecting war and peace but a social reply and perhaps a reciprocal question would be good. Probably the fact that they just give short curt replies to questions and don't bother to ask about us is the biggest turn off but you're never sure how jaded guys are by timewasters so we like to give them the benefit of the doubt.

It's like most things in life you get out of it what you put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what messages did you send him?

if it was hi, how are you sorta thing. How can you expect war and peace answers?

if im asked a question, i answer it. I dont go into graphic and long winded answers, i keep it short and sweet. Does that show disinterest, not at all. Id rather meet face to face that chat on emails

We've asked reasonable questions such as where they prefer to meet, what they like, etc. We're not expecting war and peace but a social reply and perhaps a reciprocal question would be good. Probably the fact that they just give short curt replies to questions and don't bother to ask about us is the biggest turn off but you're never sure how jaded guys are by timewasters so we like to give them the benefit of the doubt.

It's like most things in life you get out of it what you put in

"

tell him to get in touch with me then. I cant stand it when guys 'want to get to know you first'

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"what messages did you send him?

if it was hi, how are you sorta thing. How can you expect war and peace answers?

if im asked a question, i answer it. I dont go into graphic and long winded answers, i keep it short and sweet. Does that show disinterest, not at all. Id rather meet face to face that chat on emails

We've asked reasonable questions such as where they prefer to meet, what they like, etc. We're not expecting war and peace but a social reply and perhaps a reciprocal question would be good. Probably the fact that they just give short curt replies to questions and don't bother to ask about us is the biggest turn off but you're never sure how jaded guys are by timewasters so we like to give them the benefit of the doubt.

It's like most things in life you get out of it what you put in

tell him to get in touch with me then. I cant stand it when guys 'want to get to know you first' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each contact requires its own approach and i know i'm not alone here; but those who just don't get it and rely upon bombarding everything with a pulse, will always prove troublesome

However, being slightly controversial here - a reply is better than being ignored no matter how shirt it is ...don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Each contact requires its own approach and i know i'm not alone here; but those who just don't get it and rely upon bombarding everything with a pulse, will always prove troublesome

However, being slightly controversial here - a reply is better than being ignored no matter how shirt it is ...don't you think? "

You're right a reply is better but if there is no real level of interaction then the worry is you'll be meeting someone with zero personality. The site is all about sex but you need to feel attracted and personality is a big part of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often you send a nice message and they just delete and that is annoying but such is life ! I don't lose sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's playin numbers game

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I often send very short replies to something - doesn't mean I'm not interested - usually means I'm interested enough to have some sort of conversation, but often too busy with something else to write unnecessary extra words. You could argue that if I was that interested I'd concentrate just on the conversation, I'd guess - but that's not how I tend to do things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few people are using mobiles to interact on Fab, and as a result end up typing short text type replies using the on-screen keyboard. Not necessarily a good idea as people assume they can't be arsed to write a whole sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people are using mobiles to interact on Fab, and as a result end up typing short text type replies using the on-screen keyboard. Not necessarily a good idea as people assume they can't be arsed to write a whole sentence. "

Not really an excuse if you ask me, which I realise you didn't. I solely use my iPhone to access this site, and I still manage to put together what I hope is a half-decent message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quite a few people are using mobiles to interact on Fab, and as a result end up typing short text type replies using the on-screen keyboard. Not necessarily a good idea as people assume they can't be arsed to write a whole sentence.

Not really an excuse if you ask me, which I realise you didn't. I solely use my iPhone to access this site, and I still manage to put together what I hope is a half-decent message."

We wrote the original post using mobile and mostly access the site from mobile. Agree with the last post. If we couldn't send a proper message then we would wait until we could. If they can't write a decent message on their mobile perhaps they aren't very good with their fingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im on site via my mobile 90% of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my mobile 100% for fab and so does my other half. I dont mind some abbreviations but the message we got last night just made no sense to us. Obviously we all make typos but I felt like I was communicating with a teenager! Maybe im just not up to speed with the world of technology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a few people are using mobiles to interact on Fab, and as a result end up typing short text type replies using the on-screen keyboard. Not necessarily a good idea as people assume they can't be arsed to write a whole sentence.

Not really an excuse if you ask me, which I realise you didn't. I solely use my iPhone to access this site, and I still manage to put together what I hope is a half-decent message.

We wrote the original post using mobile and mostly access the site from mobile. Agree with the last post. If we couldn't send a proper message then we would wait until we could. If they can't write a decent message on their mobile perhaps they aren't very good with their fingers. "

Hey, I'm pretty good with my fingers, along with other appendages

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