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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me." so what you are saying is if you don't get your own way you may as well just abuse the person. There is no place in this world for verbally or messaging something abusive texts and maybe every lady on here should block you for that statement you wrote. | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me." I don't think it's a great plan to be nice to people just to get what you want. It has to work both ways I'd say. | |||
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"It's disappointing and I understand your frustration but the point of being nice is because you are nice surely " Love this. So true - otherwise it's just an act to get someone into bed. | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me." It's shit to be blocked after chatting for a while. However it's also shit to suggest the only reason to be nice is to get a fuck. Perhaps they realised this about you. | |||
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"It's disappointing and I understand your frustration but the point of being nice is because you are nice surely " This, if youe xpect a reward or you are being nice simply to get something you want, then you are not nice, surely. | |||
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"So basically what you’re saying is that you don’t see the point in being pleasant to someone if they aren’t going to give you what you want? You’re annoyed that you’ve been respectful to someone for a couple of days but you haven’t got any sex off them in return? You think that it’s only worth talking politely to someone on here if you eventually get to have sex with them and if they aren’t going to have sex with you then you might as well verbally abuse them rather than saying anything nice to them?" That isn't what I said at all, and you'd know that if you took the time to read what I'd written properly and with more care. I have little or no preconception about what chatting to someone may bring. Anything 'naughty' that may happen is always a bonus, of course, but what I don't get is the suddenness of it all. The fact that literally, we were communicating really well and then all of a sudden they vanished. I myself would only ever do that if someone was abusing, threatening or annoying me, and that wasn't happening. So, if people are just going to be like that, why bother? THAT is my point. | |||
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"So basically what you’re saying is that you don’t see the point in being pleasant to someone if they aren’t going to give you what you want? You’re annoyed that you’ve been respectful to someone for a couple of days but you haven’t got any sex off them in return? You think that it’s only worth talking politely to someone on here if you eventually get to have sex with them and if they aren’t going to have sex with you then you might as well verbally abuse them rather than saying anything nice to them? That isn't what I said at all, and you'd know that if you took the time to read what I'd written properly and with more care. I have little or no preconception about what chatting to someone may bring. Anything 'naughty' that may happen is always a bonus, of course, but what I don't get is the suddenness of it all. The fact that literally, we were communicating really well and then all of a sudden they vanished. I myself would only ever do that if someone was abusing, threatening or annoying me, and that wasn't happening. So, if people are just going to be like that, why bother? THAT is my point." Ive had to be the blocker in a similar situation because although the conversation is good I discovered new things about the person that wasn’t for me. Its easier to block than explain and potentially get abuse/insults thrown at you. Just trying to give the other viewpoint. I know it can be shit at times but I wouldn’t take it to heart | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me.so what you are saying is if you don't get your own way you may as well just abuse the person. There is no place in this world for verbally or messaging something abusive texts and maybe every lady on here should block you for that statement you wrote. " What's "my own way"? If by that you mean politeness and coutesy, then no, I don't think that's too much to ask. In fact, even being told to sod off is more polite than being blocked. At least that way, there can be no two ways about it and you've not been made to feel like you don't exist. On the other hand, the one positive thing to glean from the experience could be that I dodged a bullet by not getting as far as meeting that person. Who knows, in real life our conversation may not have lasted more than five minutes. | |||
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"I would hope that people are nice because they genuinely are and not only because they want something at the end of it. If that's the case then your not as nice as you first thought. I get it it's annoying and frustrating but why let others actions colour you as a person. You don't know them not really these people are not good friends or family so just block back and move on. " As far as I know, you can't block back if you've alreacdy been blocked- what would be the point? The point I'm trying to illustrate here, which seems to go over people's heads, is that in every walk of life, not just this one- work, family, even down to day to day activities such as shopping etc- I am consistently amazed at how rude people are. It IS a malaise of modern society, regardless of what people may think, and I think social media has only made it worse. So, when you start talking to someone politely on a site like this for 'like minded people', exchange lots of nice messages, and then they just completely blank you, you do start to wonder what the point of it all is. Apart from anything else, I'm sure the majority of us have plenty of real life concerns, and it's not like we have nothing better to do than sit PMing people! In short, I'm always nice. But there is also that old agae that nice guys finish last- and the older I get, the more I ponder it. | |||
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"I would hope that people are nice because they genuinely are and not only because they want something at the end of it. If that's the case then your not as nice as you first thought. I get it it's annoying and frustrating but why let others actions colour you as a person. You don't know them not really these people are not good friends or family so just block back and move on. As far as I know, you can't block back if you've alreacdy been blocked- what would be the point? The point I'm trying to illustrate here, which seems to go over people's heads, is that in every walk of life, not just this one- work, family, even down to day to day activities such as shopping etc- I am consistently amazed at how rude people are. It IS a malaise of modern society, regardless of what people may think, and I think social media has only made it worse. So, when you start talking to someone politely on a site like this for 'like minded people', exchange lots of nice messages, and then they just completely blank you, you do start to wonder what the point of it all is. Apart from anything else, I'm sure the majority of us have plenty of real life concerns, and it's not like we have nothing better to do than sit PMing people! In short, I'm always nice. But there is also that old agae that nice guys finish last- and the older I get, the more I ponder it. " Why would you want to be rude? It's only a perception that being a cunt gets you places. I'd prefer to be nice and picked by one or two, then be nasty to appeal to an unpleasant bunch of people  | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me. It's shit to be blocked after chatting for a while. However it's also shit to suggest the only reason to be nice is to get a fuck. Perhaps they realised this about you." I never said that, though, did I? Show me the place in my opening post where it says ANYTHING remotely like that. And, as I take pains to point out, we didn't discuss that in our messages either. | |||
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"I would hope that people are nice because they genuinely are and not only because they want something at the end of it. If that's the case then your not as nice as you first thought. I get it it's annoying and frustrating but why let others actions colour you as a person. You don't know them not really these people are not good friends or family so just block back and move on. As far as I know, you can't block back if you've alreacdy been blocked- what would be the point? The point I'm trying to illustrate here, which seems to go over people's heads, is that in every walk of life, not just this one- work, family, even down to day to day activities such as shopping etc- I am consistently amazed at how rude people are. It IS a malaise of modern society, regardless of what people may think, and I think social media has only made it worse. So, when you start talking to someone politely on a site like this for 'like minded people', exchange lots of nice messages, and then they just completely blank you, you do start to wonder what the point of it all is. Apart from anything else, I'm sure the majority of us have plenty of real life concerns, and it's not like we have nothing better to do than sit PMing people! In short, I'm always nice. But there is also that old agae that nice guys finish last- and the older I get, the more I ponder it. Why would you want to be rude? It's only a perception that being a cunt gets you places. I'd prefer to be nice and picked by one or two, then be nasty to appeal to an unpleasant bunch of people "I suppose it's my general cynicism about the way society is going, and has been for years. | |||
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"I would hope that people are nice because they genuinely are and not only because they want something at the end of it. If that's the case then your not as nice as you first thought. I get it it's annoying and frustrating but why let others actions colour you as a person. You don't know them not really these people are not good friends or family so just block back and move on. As far as I know, you can't block back if you've alreacdy been blocked- what would be the point? The point I'm trying to illustrate here, which seems to go over people's heads, is that in every walk of life, not just this one- work, family, even down to day to day activities such as shopping etc- I am consistently amazed at how rude people are. It IS a malaise of modern society, regardless of what people may think, and I think social media has only made it worse. So, when you start talking to someone politely on a site like this for 'like minded people', exchange lots of nice messages, and then they just completely blank you, you do start to wonder what the point of it all is. Apart from anything else, I'm sure the majority of us have plenty of real life concerns, and it's not like we have nothing better to do than sit PMing people! In short, I'm always nice. But there is also that old agae that nice guys finish last- and the older I get, the more I ponder it. " PS That should of course read 'adage' This keyboard has a mind of its own. | |||
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"So basically what you’re saying is that you don’t see the point in being pleasant to someone if they aren’t going to give you what you want? You’re annoyed that you’ve been respectful to someone for a couple of days but you haven’t got any sex off them in return? You think that it’s only worth talking politely to someone on here if you eventually get to have sex with them and if they aren’t going to have sex with you then you might as well verbally abuse them rather than saying anything nice to them? That isn't what I said at all, and you'd know that if you took the time to read what I'd written properly and with more care. I have little or no preconception about what chatting to someone may bring. Anything 'naughty' that may happen is always a bonus, of course, but what I don't get is the suddenness of it all. The fact that literally, we were communicating really well and then all of a sudden they vanished. I myself would only ever do that if someone was abusing, threatening or annoying me, and that wasn't happening. So, if people are just going to be like that, why bother? THAT is my point. Ive had to be the blocker in a similar situation because although the conversation is good I discovered new things about the person that wasn’t for me. Its easier to block than explain and potentially get abuse/insults thrown at you. Just trying to give the other viewpoint. I know it can be shit at times but I wouldn’t take it to heart " Now THAT sounds like a more balanced viewpoint, as opposed to some of the other reactions I've received here!! Though from a personal viewpoint, I would still rather be told something along the lines of "look, I'm not really into this, so can we leave it here thanks" than just get the sudden block. To me, it's like buying a cassette [showing my age now!] and having it chew up before the end. Although at least you can hopefully replace it with one of the same, whereas in this case it's probably best not to. | |||
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"So basically what you’re saying is that you don’t see the point in being pleasant to someone if they aren’t going to give you what you want? You’re annoyed that you’ve been respectful to someone for a couple of days but you haven’t got any sex off them in return? You think that it’s only worth talking politely to someone on here if you eventually get to have sex with them and if they aren’t going to have sex with you then you might as well verbally abuse them rather than saying anything nice to them?" this is exactly how I read it ...only being nice to get what you want ... | |||
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"Op it could be due to lots of things.They changed their mind,life got busy ,they Have other things going on. Don't try and work people out on here or dwell on it too much. I know it can be disheartening though." Another non-judgmental, balanced and fair reply. Maybe there are still some perceptive people out there after all! Who knows, my faith in human nature may be restored yet. | |||
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" Being "Nice" is a double edged sword as if like us you do try to be "Nice" and even "Polite" most then take it as you are up for some "Sexy Fun" and if you do chat the same goes and so most couples ( including us) are very very very wary of chatting to "Single Males" but we do and even "Couples" can be just as bad though so carry on being polite though as the site does need more people who are and have more than a passsing interest in manners/social skills and god forbid a sense of humour !!! and finally a full understanding of the words they put on their profile's xxx ps yes we are indeed 100% aware of our so called bar being set high but xxx" That's the third fair-minded and balanced reply I've now received on this thread. Wonders will never cease!! | |||
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"So basically what you’re saying is that you don’t see the point in being pleasant to someone if they aren’t going to give you what you want? You’re annoyed that you’ve been respectful to someone for a couple of days but you haven’t got any sex off them in return? You think that it’s only worth talking politely to someone on here if you eventually get to have sex with them and if they aren’t going to have sex with you then you might as well verbally abuse them rather than saying anything nice to them? That isn't what I said at all, and you'd know that if you took the time to read what I'd written properly and with more care. I have little or no preconception about what chatting to someone may bring. Anything 'naughty' that may happen is always a bonus, of course, but what I don't get is the suddenness of it all. The fact that literally, we were communicating really well and then all of a sudden they vanished. I myself would only ever do that if someone was abusing, threatening or annoying me, and that wasn't happening. So, if people are just going to be like that, why bother? THAT is my point. Ive had to be the blocker in a similar situation because although the conversation is good I discovered new things about the person that wasn’t for me. Its easier to block than explain and potentially get abuse/insults thrown at you. Just trying to give the other viewpoint. I know it can be shit at times but I wouldn’t take it to heart Now THAT sounds like a more balanced viewpoint, as opposed to some of the other reactions I've received here!! Though from a personal viewpoint, I would still rather be told something along the lines of "look, I'm not really into this, so can we leave it here thanks" than just get the sudden block. To me, it's like buying a cassette [showing my age now!] and having it chew up before the end. Although at least you can hopefully replace it with one of the same, whereas in this case it's probably best not to." For me even personally ive tried both ways and i have to say the blocking one is probably the nicest one for me because ive been called every name under the sun and it really takes its toll on you. Its so difficult to know what people are capable of so you do presume the worst and hope for the best situation I would look at it as a more of a no thank you than a block because it is essentially that. I wouldn’t take it to heart as there will be someone out there. | |||
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"You might have the wrong site, www.disney.com is probably what you're looking for. The other person doesn't owe you anything. They made a decision you weren't for them and simply moved on. It doesn't matter what the reason is." Now that's the sort of comment that could lead to ME issuing a blocking. I'd probably tell you I was going to do it first though, out of courtesy. | |||
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"Pretending to be something you're not inevitably leads to lying and getting caught out. This is meant to be fun. I don't care if that makes me 'last', as long as I can look at myself in a mirror and know that I like the person who looks back "Well said! Theres no point in trying to be someone else because its so tiresome and people will like you for you. You cant be everyones cup of tea but there is someone out there for you | |||
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"Of course there's a point in being nice. People aren't just nice to get sex which is what your insinuating. If that was too much effort go to the opposite end and see where that gets you. People are allowed to change their minds, yes it's frustrating but it doesn't mean stop sending nice messages. Mrs " Yet again, another person who misread. I'm always nice to people, it's my natural instinct. I'm just given to wonder- repeatedly, as it goes - why I do this when so many people are not ince in return. I'm not a Christian at all, but if he DID exist, then 'do unto others' and all that does seem like a fair exchange, and a decent principle to adopt. So therefore, I often ponder whether the opposite also applies. | |||
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"You might have the wrong site, www.disney.com is probably what you're looking for. The other person doesn't owe you anything. They made a decision you weren't for them and simply moved on. It doesn't matter what the reason is. Now that's the sort of comment that could lead to ME issuing a blocking. I'd probably tell you I was going to do it first though, out of courtesy." oh dear well at least you said it first so they won't be crushed and start a whole thread about it  | |||
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"You might have the wrong site, www.disney.com is probably what you're looking for. The other person doesn't owe you anything. They made a decision you weren't for them and simply moved on. It doesn't matter what the reason is. Now that's the sort of comment that could lead to ME issuing a blocking. I'd probably tell you I was going to do it first though, out of courtesy. oh dear well at least you said it first so they won't be crushed and start a whole thread about it "This WILL now be followed by an immediate block. | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me." move on Mr angry  | |||
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"Well said Nick. I'm polite when someone messages, always make my intentions clear. Starts off pleasant enough and then the abuse when I refuse to give my number or meet is downright scarey. Some men feel entitled to sex on here" Its the entitlement that really does it for like no X im not going to drop my whole life for you today | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me.move on Mr angry "I think 'Mr Bewildered And Perplexed' is a more accurate description. | |||
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"You might have the wrong site, www.disney.com is probably what you're looking for. The other person doesn't owe you anything. They made a decision you weren't for them and simply moved on. It doesn't matter what the reason is. Now that's the sort of comment that could lead to ME issuing a blocking. I'd probably tell you I was going to do it first though, out of courtesy. oh dear well at least you said it first so they won't be crushed and start a whole thread about it
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"Just to add, recently a self proclaimed nice guy got aggressive with me when I asked him to stop messaging something I didn’t like I’d asked him 4 times already and on the 5th time I got stronger with my message to stop. He didn’t like hearing no and saw his arse. " you let it get to 5th ? if you message once with something offensive or stupid you are blocked ...I used to be nicer but it gets you nowhere they never take no for an answer and you get abused. | |||
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"Just to add, recently a self proclaimed nice guy got aggressive with me when I asked him to stop messaging something I didn’t like I’d asked him 4 times already and on the 5th time I got stronger with my message to stop. He didn’t like hearing no and saw his arse. you let it get to 5th ? if you message once with something offensive or stupid you are blocked ...I used to be nicer but it gets you nowhere they never take no for an answer and you get abused. " I know, that was my bad. I kind of didn’t fully notice the pattern until too late. I’m definitely getting tougher though haha | |||
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"Just to add, recently a self proclaimed nice guy got aggressive with me when I asked him to stop messaging something I didn’t like I’d asked him 4 times already and on the 5th time I got stronger with my message to stop. He didn’t like hearing no and saw his arse. you let it get to 5th ? if you message once with something offensive or stupid you are blocked ...I used to be nicer but it gets you nowhere they never take no for an answer and you get abused. I know, that was my bad. I kind of didn’t fully notice the pattern until too late. I’m definitely getting tougher though haha " Its a mistake we all learn the hard way i think speaking to a lot of people. Its such a shame that such a small minority can ruin it for a lot of folk | |||
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"Just to add, recently a self proclaimed nice guy got aggressive with me when I asked him to stop messaging something I didn’t like I’d asked him 4 times already and on the 5th time I got stronger with my message to stop. He didn’t like hearing no and saw his arse. you let it get to 5th ? if you message once with something offensive or stupid you are blocked ...I used to be nicer but it gets you nowhere they never take no for an answer and you get abused. I know, that was my bad. I kind of didn’t fully notice the pattern until too late. I’m definitely getting tougher though haha Its a mistake we all learn the hard way i think speaking to a lot of people. Its such a shame that such a small minority can ruin it for a lot of folk" Agreed | |||
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"I honestly don't get it. You spend several days exchanging messages with someone, speaking to them politely, them speaking back to you politely [if admittedly in slightly less detail] getting on very well, talking about a mixture of vanilla and kink stuff, nothing heavy, just nice conversation...then you both go away to do separate things for the bank holiday, and when you come back several days later, you're blocked!! I mean, is there ANY point in being nice to people here if that's all it's going to result in? You might as well just send them a torrent of verbal abuse for all the good it does. That is, of course, assuming they're who they say they are in the same place - there are so many sock puppet profiles, one never truly knows. I despair, I truly do. The complications of modern life are clearly not for me." I think the word on here is “ momentum”. With so many to choose from on here once you lose momentum you’re stuffed! As you seem to have found! | |||
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