FabSwingers.com forum: If I said yes every time

By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

What do you think the outcome if I said yes to every guy who messaged me? Where I was not fussed who I meet as long as he got a cock... Would I really get laid alot or are most just dreamers/liars/timewasters? I don't want to try this out but wondered if there's any female fabbers who done this before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think the outcome if I said yes to every guy who messaged me? Where I was not fussed who I meet as long as he got a cock... Would I really get laid alot or are most just dreamers/liars/timewasters? I don't want to try this out but wondered if there's any female fabbers who done this before?

why would you say yes every time ? why would anyone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a 50/50 of genuine & timewasters

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By *eadjeyecMan
over a year ago

Bucks/London

I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in "

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

I reckon as soon as people see this post that number will rise well above 50!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in "
actually its the same when they do meet ..they just want to cum...its seems to be never about satisfying you...then they want repeat meets ...jokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

ive had more people waste my time than I have had meets so its not just men

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By *eadjeyecMan
over a year ago

Bucks/London

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

Yeah give it a go, without sounding like one of the ones who will bail I’m keen to meet. Even if it’s just to meet similar minded people and make friends

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By *irenSaintSinnerCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Maybe about 30% genuine as I find even when I've given out phone number they often don't call, won't arrange a video call & just get more messages stating they still want to chat, yet never try calling. I actually can't be that arsed much of the time & have been super picky lately too to even think about a social etc.

I much prefer going to BGHS or a club with my man & seeing what occurs & fortunately met a fab MM Cpl on here recently that are great fun

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Only 50"

On average day yes

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By *eadjeyecMan
over a year ago

Bucks/London

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in actually its the same when they do meet ..they just want to cum...its seems to be never about satisfying you...then they want repeat meets ...jokes"

See I don’t get why guys are like this, like I get off on making the woman cum and a lot of the time I’m not fussed if I do or don’t cause it’s literally so hot to see the pleasure I can cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

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I'm going to say out of those 50 , 30 will arrange to meet ...15 will turn up , 9 will cum before you get started , 3 will tell you their life stories and list the reasons why their cocks don't work anymore but offer to eat you out ( Don't accept , they haven't a clue what they are doing), the remaining 3 will give you 5 mins, of weird jabs and grunting loudly like excited seals , cum ,pat themselves on the back for doing such a good job while you lie there unsatisfied wondering why you didn't just go get a nice slice of cake from the bakery and watch Netflix ...

wait what was the question again

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over a year ago

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

Yeah give it a go, without sounding like one of the ones who will bail I’m keen to meet. Even if it’s just to meet similar minded people and make friends"

I tried it but 5 minutes but the conversations with certain men were totally unbearable. I'm usually a friendly type but unbelievable what people say to me... cringe worthy, made me feel abit sick tbh

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

So no, I really can't say yes to every guy who ask.

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Very brave for trying i must admit

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Very brave for trying i must admit "

I really couldn't stomach it. It's like having no message filters on lol

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

Yeah give it a go, without sounding like one of the ones who will bail I’m keen to meet. Even if it’s just to meet similar minded people and make friends

maybe this isnt for you. just a thought you seem unhappy. hope that changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op . U r very sexy . Really hot .

By what I read from ladies there is a stupid ammount of fake time wasters who r obviously living the fantasy then ghost you .

Leaving our ladies upset , then us genuines who trulky want to meet they got the hump now .

I find it very sad . They just don’t give our lovely ladies a kick in the triangle , fake life , give them selfs a fake life

And the poor wife , who is probably thinking is all ok she innocent in a fake life she not even has a clue

That is just not human . How can people

Fake ?

Or ghost you . Stood ups ? Wtf ? I been stood up 5 times in 5 weeks last summer

If u could call that a summer

STOP . Is plenty vagination in google

Leave people alone .

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

It is an interesting question. I, Beth had a single profile for a while & holly cow it was impossible to cope with! It is way easier being part of a couple. It is also why we prefer to meet at Clubs, you just don’t have to deal with all the noise! Take care of yourself & remember that fab life is not real life!!

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I think this is an interesting question. It’s not one I’m prepared to find out but if you do please let me know how it works out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a mix off loads off meets and loads off turn downs

Would still spend about 90% off the day bent over or on my back

And wouldn’t have time to wash ha ha

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By *agicMike1983Man
over a year ago

PEMBROKE

I think there's more time wasters than genuine. And then alot of guys that finally do show up aren't very good. Or erection problems. Or selfish. That's why I pride myself on my verifications. Always disappointed when I've met a great couple or single woman and we've all had a mutually good time but they don't write me a veri.

If you do want lots of sex I'd suggest a greedy girls party at a nice, clean club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you'd get stood up or be left wondering why you made the effort a fair bit.

That's assuming it got past the point of them getting some wank material.

I reckon most would get a fright if their meet me now messages got a favourable reply!

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester

Yeah that doesn’t sound a lot of fun to do to find the answer. Going to clubs has always been a far better experience for me personally. I’d be lying if I said I received anything anywhere near to the amount of messages your getting, which must be nightmarish for you to sift through. Then meeting all those people sounds like hell! lol. It does take away the fun a bit from here though with few turning out to be genuine and even I’ve experienced similar x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The outcome would be messy! personally I would never meet someone I'm not attracted to, some do and live to regret it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think a lot of guys would actually meet, they just want to cum. It ruins it for the rest of us really who want to meet and are willing to put the work in

Maybe I should try it to see how many genuine fabbers i meet .. I'm going to be exhausted as on average i get over 50 messages a day

If you unfilter men you will get more a day, hope your inbox can take it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who’s to say that the person complaining wasn’t the person who was “ unbearable”? I find it quite amusing how it’s allllllways the single men hmmmmmm I do love a debate on forums , they’re always so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who’s to say that the person complaining wasn’t the person who was “ unbearable”? I find it quite amusing how it’s allllllways the single men hmmmmmm I do love a debate on forums , they’re always so true "
seems like you are one of the unbearables cherry was on about ..bruised ego much ?

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By *eadjeyecMan
over a year ago

Bucks/London

Does seem like they were as they have now removed themself. I really don’t get the point of people doing that

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

When we meet, we go out of our way to create an atmosphere of relaxation. We’ve never had anyone leave our home unsatisfied. We blocked single guys from our page as it got unbelievably boring. Unless they’re bisexual and genuine, we make the first move. It’s our mission to make everyone feel the pleasure of the swinging community. It’s supposed to be fun and having a laugh is a huge part of it.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Yeah that doesn’t sound a lot of fun to do to find the answer. Going to clubs has always been a far better experience for me personally. I’d be lying if I said I received anything anywhere near to the amount of messages your getting, which must be nightmarish for you to sift through. Then meeting all those people sounds like hell! lol. It does take away the fun a bit from here though with few turning out to be genuine and even I’ve experienced similar x "

I didn't find clubs fun. Most men prefer couples

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

The outcome would be messy! personally I would never meet someone I'm not attracted to, some do and live to regret it

I couldn't either so this wouldn't work for me. There needs to be attraction and common interests. That's what made my best meets

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I think that there would be a possibility for a sex meet everyday

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By *anasGodMan
over a year ago

everywhere

Cherry babe…you complain as a woman?? Ask me as a single man in here?

Clubs going alone as single male for sure is weird.

Trying to send messages…long story…

You have 50 messages a day, I have only 1-3 messages a month from guys to fuck them or suck me while I am heterosexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is the point of this post anyway……

Obviously there are people who will meet and who won’t. They man as same as women.

Some of the people on here are just attention seekers, I think OP is one of them.

Some people can’t be even arsed to politely answer the message, and I think they just rude…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is the point of this post anyway……

Obviously there are people who will meet and who won’t. They man as same as women.

Some of the people on here are just attention seekers, I think OP is one of them.

Some people can’t be even arsed to politely answer the message, and I think they just rude….."
or maybe they can't be arsed ? no one is obligated to respond politely , impolitely or at all.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"Probably a 50/50 of genuine & timewasters"

My thoughts exactly

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

I find the OP post and fabbers comments really interesting. The OP question is about the behaviour of guys. But it's not just guys, it is single guys or guys in couples seeking to meet as singles. As part of a couple that only meets together, I (Mr.) find the behaviour of single men shocking and puzzling, how they expect to have success approaching single women like that.

At the same time, I wonder if we couples follow the same pattern where half of the couples or more are not serious about meeting.

I can sympathise for sure with single females here. They must feel like in a show of Blind Date, every day asked to deal with 50+ candidates behind Cilla Black's screen and very few ways to find out who's serious and who's not about meeting, who is truthful about being good in bed etc. Verifications? Photos? Gut feeling?

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

i find the male half of alot of couples totally up their own arse's at times and will take a dig at single guys at every opportunity going ... the reason so many couples moan about single men is because so many couples are male led so its in thier own interest to dislike single males as they see it as only couples are swingers and single women and couples are their target ..so they dont want single guys doing well ... and the only reason we dont meet couples via fab ..guys of couple asking to meet but dont want there other half to know ...

and dont get me started on guys who are part of couples in clubs some of them are total dicks thinking that because they are part of a couple they have entitlements ... for every great couple there a male led couple where the male just pushes and pushes ...

back to the op question id be on my back 24/7 if i agreed to meet all lol but i would not be able to do it for me sexual attraction is key or id rather go without..

single guys get such a bad rep but at the end of the day those who are dicks are easy to sopt its not hard to find a decent guy however it is hard to find one im attracted to ..

note aimed at everyone there are lots of good on this scene this includes couples women and men and trans and tv's spend a little time and youll reap the rewards

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

its the same if your really lucky and you see 2 guys and think mmm nice and then chat and realize both would make a good meet but you can only pick one then the other guy throws his toys out the pram rather than sit back and think ok someone is really interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i find the male half of alot of couples totally up their own arse's at times and will take a dig at single guys at every opportunity going ... the reason so many couples moan about single men is because so many couples are male led so its in thier own interest to dislike single males as they see it as only couples are swingers and single women and couples are their target ..so they dont want single guys doing well ... and the only reason we dont meet couples via fab ..guys of couple asking to meet but dont want there other half to know ...

back to the op question id be on my back 24/7 if i agreed to meet all lol but i would not be able to do it for me sexual attraction is key or id rather go without..

single guys get such a bad rep but at the end of the day those who are dicks are easy to sopt its not hard to find a decent guy however it is hard to find one im attracted to ..

note aimed at everyone there are lots of good on this scene this includes couples women and men and trans and tv's spend a little time and youll reap the rewards"

Lol very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

back to the op question id be on my back 24/7 if i agreed to meet all lol but i would not be able to do it for me sexual attraction is key or id rather go without..

single guys get such a bad rep but at the end of the day those who are dicks are easy to sopt its not hard to find a decent guy however it is hard to find one im attracted to ..

note aimed at everyone there are lots of good on this scene this includes couples women and men and trans and tv's spend a little time and youll reap the rewards

Lol very true"

100% agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is the point of this post anyway……

Obviously there are people who will meet and who won’t. They man as same as women.

Some of the people on here are just attention seekers, I think OP is one of them.

Some people can’t be even arsed to politely answer the message, and I think they just rude….. or maybe they can't be arsed ? no one is obligated to respond politely , impolitely or at all."

“Maybe they can’t be arsed”, lol

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester

I didn't find clubs fun. Most men prefer couples"

Yeah some guys, each to their own I guess. I tend to find it helps when clubs put on singles nights and also have singles area when it a different themed night. Still neither guaranties a fun night as there might not be anyone there that your attracted to. I guess ultimately it a case for all of us it to find what works best for us and stick with that as swinging should be fun not a chore. Hope things get better for you x

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

We tested this theory one evening… a few local guys who always message us asking for meets in the usual blunt and unattractive way.

One evening, we thought fuck it, let’s see what happens, so we told them all that we were going dogging at 10pm in a location we all knew, they knew they weren’t going to be the only ones there, and I promised to suck them all off and let them cum wherever they chose.

We left at 11pm, not one of them showed… still, we had a lovely fuck together and then went home and exercised the block button!

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

If you lived closer and said yes to every guy who msgd you then i thinks id msg you often

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"We tested this theory one evening… a few local guys who always message us asking for meets in the usual blunt and unattractive way.

We left at 11pm, not one of them showed… still, we had a lovely fuck together and then went home and exercised the block button! "

Lol sounds about right on fab...I rest my case. They promise the world and deliver nothing. Love it

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"We tested this theory one evening… a few local guys who always message us asking for meets in the usual blunt and unattractive way.

We left at 11pm, not one of them showed… still, we had a lovely fuck together and then went home and exercised the block button! "

Btw how many did you ask and were they local enough to you? As I keep getting people who live more than 2 hrs drive away asking to meet

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"We tested this theory one evening… a few local guys who always message us asking for meets in the usual blunt and unattractive way.

We left at 11pm, not one of them showed… still, we had a lovely fuck together and then went home and exercised the block button!

Btw how many did you ask and were they local enough to you? As I keep getting people who live more than 2 hrs drive away asking to meet"

12 guys and all in our town… or towns around us, no more than five miles!

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"We tested this theory one evening… a few local guys who always message us asking for meets in the usual blunt and unattractive way.

We left at 11pm, not one of them showed… still, we had a lovely fuck together and then went home and exercised the block button! "

Wow…. That’s crazy! Who are these lucky sods that get these amazing opportunities to play and share something hot and amazing with fun, beautiful swingers and then blow it? Lol. Truly envious as I’d be lieing if I said I have ever been offered such an opportunity on here. For me (granted not the best looking guy) any meets comes from invested time in getting to know them/they over time and doing my best to make a good impression with being fun, interesting and entertaining while also being respectful and courteous (though I am very respectful and courteous by nature anyway so it comes at no effort). Even then, more times than not it doesn’t lead to more than friendly banter on here lol. I definitely can’t have game after reading the frequent bad experiences people had with no shows and time wasters etc . Seems so silly for them not to put their adult pants on and be honest if they can’t meet or want to back out. Even better, be honest with themselves before hand on whether they actually want to meet people so they don’t mislead anyone or spoil others experiences from here x

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