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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "Let’s break this down Let other men fuck their wives First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. Am I weird for liking this idea. The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies. Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "if they didn’t share then they are not genuine swingers | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too. "This one gets it | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too. "^^ what this man said. I went into my relationship (which is now a marriage) with very open dialogue about the fact I am no monogamous. My husband is, does it stop me, not at all, it's been an open conversation since day one. Does my husband 'let' me. No, I'm a grown adult, I make my own choices. Is my husband happy with our relationship, is he fulfilled and does he have a happier wife who is also fulfilled. Yes. Hell the three of us have been on holiday together. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too. "If you’re poly/ENM then I’d agree, but a lot of people do believe in monogamy and I don’t think I know one married couple that would say their spouse is free to do as they please. If you’re poly/enm then again I completely agree. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too.
If you’re poly/ENM then I’d agree, but a lot of people do believe in monogamy and I don’t think I know one married couple that would say their spouse is free to do as they please.
If you’re poly/enm then again I completely agree."Surely if you're in a cuckold relationship then that is exactly what happens. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "It's a fantasy for many and there are a lot of fantasists on this site. Sure enough though, lot's of people actually enjoy watching their partner with others and get turned on. By the way, congratulations on the six pack. In your last photo you looked very different and no where near a six pack. Do they still do Torso Tuesday?  | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too.
If you’re poly/ENM then I’d agree, but a lot of people do believe in monogamy and I don’t think I know one married couple that would say their spouse is free to do as they please.
If you’re poly/enm then again I completely agree.
Surely if you're in a cuckold relationship then that is exactly what happens."I wouldn't say a cuckold relationship was even vaguely monogamous. ENM over poly maybe. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too.
If you’re poly/ENM then I’d agree, but a lot of people do believe in monogamy and I don’t think I know one married couple that would say their spouse is free to do as they please.
If you’re poly/enm then again I completely agree.
Surely if you're in a cuckold relationship then that is exactly what happens."That too. I was referring to the whole “monogamy is a social construct” and “marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.” Statements. | |||
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"Vixen is free to play with whoever she pleases. It’s not a case of me ‘letting’ her - it’s our agreement and she can make up her own mind without comment, judgement or approval from me. Worth pointing out it works both ways in our relationship, but we have basic ground rules. It requires total honesty and equality. It’s not for everyone, of course, but it’s what we both enjoy." This is myself and the mrs too | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "In a nutshell.. yes. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
In a nutshell.. yes."How so? | |||
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"Sex is just sex what they wrote .... " I still don’t get what that means. 
“Sex is just sex!” - Well yea, it ain’t fucking tiddly winks. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
Let’s break this down
Let other men fuck their wives
First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases.
Am I weird for liking this idea.
The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies.
Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's
They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too.
If you’re poly/ENM then I’d agree, but a lot of people do believe in monogamy and I don’t think I know one married couple that would say their spouse is free to do as they please.
If you’re poly/enm then again I completely agree.
Surely if you're in a cuckold relationship then that is exactly what happens."If you’re a cuckold or cuckquean you’ve consented to the ‘forced’ aspect of the kink. | |||
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"First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. " If that’s the case why are you against cheating? | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "Of course we all do. That’s why we’re here | |||
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"First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. If that’s the case why are you against cheating?" Ethical non monogamy is about people behaving in a way that doesn’t cause unnecessary distress. To expand on this I’ll say if you’re in a relationship you can do as you please but there’s consequences. For instance if I went out and played with someone without telling Kitty, that would be something she’s not previously agreed to as something that can happen within the relationship. I’ll admit it’s very nuanced, and broad terms help define things but ultimately it comes down to pre arranged limits. | |||
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"First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. If that’s the case why are you against cheating? Ethical non monogamy is about people behaving in a way that doesn’t cause unnecessary distress. To expand on this I’ll say if you’re in a relationship you can do as you please but there’s consequences. For instance if I went out and played with someone without telling Kitty, that would be something she’s not previously agreed to as something that can happen within the relationship. I’ll admit it’s very nuanced, and broad terms help define things but ultimately it comes down to pre arranged limits. " Finished too soon. But if someone is lying to their partner to meet me, I don’t want to be an accessory to that. As that’s not what I’m here for. | |||
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"First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. If that’s the case why are you against cheating? Ethical non monogamy is about people behaving in a way that doesn’t cause unnecessary distress. To expand on this I’ll say if you’re in a relationship you can do as you please but there’s consequences. For instance if I went out and played with someone without telling Kitty, that would be something she’s not previously agreed to as something that can happen within the relationship. I’ll admit it’s very nuanced, and broad terms help define things but ultimately it comes down to pre arranged limits. Finished too soon. But if someone is lying to their partner to meet me, I don’t want to be an accessory to that. As that’s not what I’m here for. " Ah thanks for clearing up mucka. I was in a 2 year poly relationship (never a fucking gain!) so see it from both perspectives. | |||
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"First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. If that’s the case why are you against cheating? Ethical non monogamy is about people behaving in a way that doesn’t cause unnecessary distress. To expand on this I’ll say if you’re in a relationship you can do as you please but there’s consequences. For instance if I went out and played with someone without telling Kitty, that would be something she’s not previously agreed to as something that can happen within the relationship. I’ll admit it’s very nuanced, and broad terms help define things but ultimately it comes down to pre arranged limits. Finished too soon. But if someone is lying to their partner to meet me, I don’t want to be an accessory to that. As that’s not what I’m here for. " This. Very much agree | |||
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"First up, marriage isn’t ownership. She’s free to do as she pleases. If that’s the case why are you against cheating? Ethical non monogamy is about people behaving in a way that doesn’t cause unnecessary distress. To expand on this I’ll say if you’re in a relationship you can do as you please but there’s consequences. For instance if I went out and played with someone without telling Kitty, that would be something she’s not previously agreed to as something that can happen within the relationship. I’ll admit it’s very nuanced, and broad terms help define things but ultimately it comes down to pre arranged limits. Finished too soon. But if someone is lying to their partner to meet me, I don’t want to be an accessory to that. As that’s not what I’m here for. Ah thanks for clearing up mucka. I was in a 2 year poly relationship (never a fucking gain!) so see it from both perspectives." Why wouldn't you do poly again? | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "What does your fantasy wife want? | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "Daft question to ask on a swingers site? | |||
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"Member over a year! and asking questions like this? or does the OP just want to stir up comments??? "Bruno You have him there | |||
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"Why wouldn't you do poly again? " Too much time and emotion management. Having two serious girlfriends seems great, and indeed was at times, but christ it presented a lot of headaches. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol
It's a fantasy for many and there are a lot of fantasists on this site. Sure enough though, lot's of people actually enjoy watching their partner with others and get turned on.
By the way, congratulations on the six pack. In your last photo you looked very different and no where near a six pack. Do they still do Torso Tuesday? "That pictures very old and it's called a gym don't know if you've heard about them before? | |||
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"We have both had messages lately asking to meet separately mr & Mrs, we only play together and enjoy each other ducking g and being fucked, we both love seeing each other be naughty, we are swingers but that doesn’t mean we can go fuck other people when we’re out, it’s all about trust for us and being In it together "I totally get that. I ain't the type of person who would to see her go off with another man alone it's a joint fantasy to enjoy | |||
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" The social construct of monogamy has made monogamy ’normal’ so no it’s not weird as it’s one of the most searched porn terms and fantasies. They’re reacting in a hertronormative monogamous way as that’s all they have known or been exposed too. " Whether monogamy is a social construct or evolutionary trait is far from a styled argument. There is a lot of evidence based on teeth, relative sizes of men and women to each other going back millions of years that it was driven by evolution. I would also question whether people’s attitudes to it as Herero normative. We socialise almost exclusively with gay men, and whilst many are very promiscuous within relationships, many are monogamous. I don’t know many lesbians, but if those lesbian couples I have known, all were monogamous. It’s an interesting debate though. We obviously have sexual contact with others but would consider ourselves monogamous because it’s something we do with each other as an addition to our sexual pleasure with zero emotional attachment to others involved. It might not be the dictionary definition but it makes sense to us! | |||
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"Nothing better than seeing another man fucking my wife " That's awesome mate | |||
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"Why wouldn't you do poly again? Too much time and emotion management. Having two serious girlfriends seems great, and indeed was at times, but christ it presented a lot of headaches."  | |||
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"More to the question how many people do it? I feel like I'm weird for feeling like this alot of people would think I'm weird or us as a couple being into although we wouldn't tell anyone anyway but yeah you always think outside the box" .............................. The AI clickbait bot still has much to learn. | |||
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"All is this just a whole fantasy thing ? Am I weird for liking this idea with my Mrs? Some other men wouldn't let a guy go near their wife's lol "I don’t own my wife wife, she is her own person and as such free to do what she wants, when she wants. Dee has always enjoyed attention from other guys, I knew that when we got married so it’s a case of adapting your lifestyle to suit what you both need from each other. Some people can do it, some can’t ! | |||
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"Why wouldn't you do poly again? Too much time and emotion management. Having two serious girlfriends seems great, and indeed was at times, but christ it presented a lot of headaches." I think my boyfriend gets round that by having one of them long distance although myself and my husband live 10 mins away from my boyfriend and I'm doing ok so far.
But shared calanders are a godsend for us, and apparently with my metamour there are strict rules around what goes where in the fridge. | |||
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"Why wouldn't you do poly again? Too much time and emotion management. Having two serious girlfriends seems great, and indeed was at times, but christ it presented a lot of headaches. I think my boyfriend gets round that by having one of them long distance although myself and my husband live 10 mins away from my boyfriend and I'm doing ok so far.
But shared calanders are a godsend for us, and apparently with my metamour there are strict rules around what goes where in the fridge. "It started a bit like that. My long term (primary partner) and I lived together for 5 years and we’d always been poly, however never really dabbled. Her hormones took a nosedive and therefore so did our sex life, so when I got chatting to another lass things developed. Was initially just sex, but then lockdown happened so kind of threw us together a lot more and feelings developed. That’s when the problems started as I it was nigh on impossible to manage the time and emotions living so close. Thing the final straw came when I had to tell my primary that I was in love with the other lass and couldn’t/wouldn’t treat her as a secondary. Turns out the “secondary” was a narcissistic psychopath (still is) who ended things abruptly and nastily after I’d gone through all that with my primary. About 6 weeks after that brutal breakup primary decided to leave too…that was not a fun time! Anywho happy ending as with my current partner who I’ve known for 8 years and all going great. Will say I grew HUGELY as a partner and indeed person from trying poly, just isn’t for me (currently). | |||
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