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By *AA123.topOtheLotUc OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterish

I've been a member for yrs I've tried to message peeps, but I've had not any verifications, hardly any messages , no meets, what am I doing wrong help...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Go along to a local social event or club to get verified

Mrs

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

As above or go on the cams

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Your text just tells us you wont make a face pic public,nothing about you or what you offer op.

Also I'd put some cock pics in friends only personally.

I always check a profile before i delete/reply.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The disclaimers are 4 times longer than your bio. Most people look at profiles before deciding if they really want to open a message.

The amount of effort you choose to put into your profile can determine their choice.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

I know my opinion means nothing really but I'd bypass a profile that has emojis on.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I've been a member for yrs I've tried to message peeps, but I've had not any verifications, hardly any messages , no meets, what am I doing wrong help..."

Get to socials clubs check other mens profiles fir some inspiration there's some great examples of males who have some well worked profiles on here

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

[Removed by poster at 02/05/23 18:58:38]

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Then who is the lady in the photo on 26th January does she even know if you've not been able to meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the first pic isn’t the best to have. Is that a skin tag

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Your profile foesnt say what you are looking for

It doesnt say who you are looking for.

You say your experienced but dont say how or what in.

The disclaimer is a waste of time.

Use the local search facility to search for men, looking for women or couples so that you understand your competition.

Use the meet me today function.

Use the update status section to write a headline or to make people laugh.

Go to socials

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

If you want to meet people on FAB, you can do, in under a week. It does require you to go to a place where other people are first though.

Club nights, socials, meets posted in the forum or meet section are all ways to be in the same room as another fabber within hours if you want to.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Maybe the first pic isn’t the best to have. Is that a skin tag "

Is that really necessary, shaming is so uncool

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Your profile is striking.

If online isn't your forte, get to the clubs and socials.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Cam verifications are pointless so don't bother with them. Go to a social or club and meet people in person

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Also, that disclaimer is utter nonsense so remove that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the first pic isn’t the best to have. Is that a skin tag

Is that really necessary, shaming is so uncool "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you asking for profile advice?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Are you asking for profile advice? "

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

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By *omad_SolMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt


"Your profile foesnt say what you are looking for

It doesnt say who you are looking for.

You say your experienced but dont say how or what in.

The disclaimer is a waste of time.

Use the local search facility to search for men, looking for women or couples so that you understand your competition.

Use the meet me today function.

Use the update status section to write a headline or to make people laugh.

Go to socials"

Good tips *takes notes*

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

The easiest way to get veris us to go on cam. After that, socials and clubs. People will see that you're serious about meeting. But don't necessarily expect things to happen there. Then for an actual meet you'd have to change your profile. It says nothing about you, what you're after or what you can offer. Remove the warning stuff. Do you actually think they protect you??

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Browse other profiles to give you some ideas see what they're doing differently which may assist you pal

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart "

I think if someone says "...what am I doing wrong help." then that is the definition of seeking profile help.

And the comment about the first pic on the profile is valid. If folk can comment about too many cock pics and/or cum dripping out of fannies why can't they comment about a close up pic of the bum hole of an alleged straight man?

Frank

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

I think if someone says "...what am I doing wrong help." then that is the definition of seeking profile help.

And the comment about the first pic on the profile is valid. If folk can comment about too many cock pics and/or cum dripping out of fannies why can't they comment about a close up pic of the bum hole of an alleged straight man?

Frank"

Frank no its not, asking for profile advice is exactly that.

Go back and read the comment. Nothing was mentioned about a bumhole now was it. It was shaming pure and simple. However, you want to wrap it up.

Finally it's not about what others do, it's solely based on this Op no others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself on the local social scene, make connections that way. Profiles are just the start. When people meet the real you they are more likely to meet. In my personal experience anyway. There are some I’ve met I may have passed by if I had just seen their profile. Nothing beats the real thing my friend

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

I think if someone says "...what am I doing wrong help." then that is the definition of seeking profile help.

And the comment about the first pic on the profile is valid. If folk can comment about too many cock pics and/or cum dripping out of fannies why can't they comment about a close up pic of the bum hole of an alleged straight man?

Frank

Frank no its not, asking for profile advice is exactly that.

Go back and read the comment. Nothing was mentioned about a bumhole now was it. It was shaming pure and simple. However, you want to wrap it up.

Finally it's not about what others do, it's solely based on this Op no others. "

We'll have to put it down to interpretation. The OP says "I've been a member for yrs I've tried to message peeps, but I've had not any verifications, hardly any messages , no meets, what am I doing wrong help..." Though he doesn't explicitly ask for profile advice I feel that's exactly what's he's asking for.

Agree to disagree?

Frank

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

I think if someone says "...what am I doing wrong help." then that is the definition of seeking profile help.

And the comment about the first pic on the profile is valid. If folk can comment about too many cock pics and/or cum dripping out of fannies why can't they comment about a close up pic of the bum hole of an alleged straight man?

Frank

Frank no its not, asking for profile advice is exactly that.

Go back and read the comment. Nothing was mentioned about a bumhole now was it. It was shaming pure and simple. However, you want to wrap it up.

Finally it's not about what others do, it's solely based on this Op no others.

We'll have to put it down to interpretation. The OP says "I've been a member for yrs I've tried to message peeps, but I've had not any verifications, hardly any messages , no meets, what am I doing wrong help..." Though he doesn't explicitly ask for profile advice I feel that's exactly what's he's asking for.

Agree to disagree?

Frank

"

Your perception is you perception, diffrent from mine, that's OK...

Bit still doesn't address the shaming though does it Frank!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart "

I just like to know for sure, before I offer advice. It’s hard to know if he wants that or not.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

I just like to know for sure, before I offer advice. It’s hard to know if he wants that or not. "

Always good to ask first to know...its not clear if he is asking fir profile advice. So in my experience its best not to

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

I just like to know for sure, before I offer advice. It’s hard to know if he wants that or not.

Always good to ask first to know...its not clear if he is asking fir profile advice. So in my experience its best not to "

Still asking for information what he might be doing wrong without giving any advice it would be impossible whether it's bio or photos

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Your perception is you perception, diffrent from mine, that's OK...

Bit still doesn't address the shaming though does it Frank!!!"

Someone in the thread said something about the first pic on the OP's profile. Something about a skin tag? Apparently this is pic shaming. Why? It can be mentioned that someone has too many cock pics, disapproving comments about pics with cum dripping out of fannies can be mentioned. Why can't the OP's first pic be mentioned, if, like me, you believe he is seeking profile advice? The bum hole comment was me making sure there was no ambiguity about the pic being referred to.

Frank

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I've been a member for yrs I've tried to message peeps, but I've had not any verifications, hardly any messages , no meets, what am I doing wrong help..."
could be your username and your lack of profile also your asshole pic all three of them enough to put loads off, your profile is your advert...... Also the legal disclaimer is pointless

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW


"The disclaimers are 4 times longer than your bio. Most people look at profiles before deciding if they really want to open a message.

The amount of effort you choose to put into your profile can determine their choice. "

And fab ask you NOT to post those as they are meaningless if you look in Fabs FAQ. So no one should have them at all it’s pointless.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW


"The disclaimers are 4 times longer than your bio. Most people look at profiles before deciding if they really want to open a message.

The amount of effort you choose to put into your profile can determine their choice. "

And fab ask you NOT to post those disclaimers at all as they are meaningless if you look in Fabs FAQ. So no one should have them on their profilel it’s pointless.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Your perception is you perception, diffrent from mine, that's OK...

Bit still doesn't address the shaming though does it Frank!!!

Someone in the thread said something about the first pic on the OP's profile. Something about a skin tag? Apparently this is pic shaming. Why? It can be mentioned that someone has too many cock pics, disapproving comments about pics with cum dripping out of fannies can be mentioned. Why can't the OP's first pic be mentioned, if, like me, you believe he is seeking profile advice? The bum hole comment was me making sure there was no ambiguity about the pic being referred to.

Frank"

Bringing anyone else into it, bout dic pics etc is a mute point Frank, as were not talking about anything else....the public shaming of "skin tag" is what I challenged, as in my view that is shaming pure and simple

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Are you asking for profile advice?

He actually didn't but people can't help themselves and rip the profile apart

I just like to know for sure, before I offer advice. It’s hard to know if he wants that or not.

Always good to ask first to know...its not clear if he is asking fir profile advice. So in my experience its best not to

Still asking for information what he might be doing wrong without giving any advice it would be impossible whether it's bio or photos "

How is this so hard for people to understand...has he explicit asked for profile advice no....therefore, basically deciding to read between the lines and make a implicit meaning to it. To give him advice on his profile. Or just using it as an excuse to rip someone apart, which is such common practice on fab. The vultures circle don't they at times...

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

These threads always baffle me.. effort goes a long way on here. Use the advice these nice members have given you and shouldn’t have an issue.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Your perception is you perception, diffrent from mine, that's OK...

Bit still doesn't address the shaming though does it Frank!!!

Someone in the thread said something about the first pic on the OP's profile. Something about a skin tag? Apparently this is pic shaming. Why? It can be mentioned that someone has too many cock pics, disapproving comments about pics with cum dripping out of fannies can be mentioned. Why can't the OP's first pic be mentioned, if, like me, you believe he is seeking profile advice? The bum hole comment was me making sure there was no ambiguity about the pic being referred to.

Frank

Bringing anyone else into it, bout dic pics etc is a mute point Frank, as were not talking about anything else....the public shaming of "skin tag" is what I challenged, as in my view that is shaming pure and simple "

Yes, I see you're the one who made the pic shaming comment and have chosen to be offended on the OP's behalf.

If you feel someone mentioning a possible skin tag is pic shaming then fine, you do you. When/if the OP comes on and says he didn't want profile advice then I'll apologise to him personally, in public. Until then *Fab really needs a shrug emoji*

Frank

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Your perception is you perception, diffrent from mine, that's OK...

Bit still doesn't address the shaming though does it Frank!!!

Someone in the thread said something about the first pic on the OP's profile. Something about a skin tag? Apparently this is pic shaming. Why? It can be mentioned that someone has too many cock pics, disapproving comments about pics with cum dripping out of fannies can be mentioned. Why can't the OP's first pic be mentioned, if, like me, you believe he is seeking profile advice? The bum hole comment was me making sure there was no ambiguity about the pic being referred to.

Frank

Bringing anyone else into it, bout dic pics etc is a mute point Frank, as were not talking about anything else....the public shaming of "skin tag" is what I challenged, as in my view that is shaming pure and simple

Yes, I see you're the one who made the pic shaming comment and have chosen to be offended on the OP's behalf.

If you feel someone mentioning a possible skin tag is pic shaming then fine, you do you. When/if the OP comes on and says he didn't want profile advice then I'll apologise to him personally, in public. Until then *Fab really needs a shrug emoji*

Frank"

Frank indeed a palm in face emogi is apt. Don't get it twisted and take it out of context. I'm not offended on the Op's behalf, im merely calling a behaviour that I don't agree with. I'm totally within my right to challenge something that I believe should be challenged. Mighty verbose yourself Frank, yet throwing it back at me. So I'll throw it back to you "you do you"

Have a great night Frank

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Maybe you're having difficulty because people who live in lickysucky longtime are not into swinging?

I'm surprised you've been a member for years as there's lots of good practical advice on the forums - all you have to do is read them to get ideas. As others have said, attending a social is the easiest way to meet people on here who can then verify you.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Your perception is you perception, diffrent from mine, that's OK...

Bit still doesn't address the shaming though does it Frank!!!

Someone in the thread said something about the first pic on the OP's profile. Something about a skin tag? Apparently this is pic shaming. Why? It can be mentioned that someone has too many cock pics, disapproving comments about pics with cum dripping out of fannies can be mentioned. Why can't the OP's first pic be mentioned, if, like me, you believe he is seeking profile advice? The bum hole comment was me making sure there was no ambiguity about the pic being referred to.

Frank

Bringing anyone else into it, bout dic pics etc is a mute point Frank, as were not talking about anything else....the public shaming of "skin tag" is what I challenged, as in my view that is shaming pure and simple

Yes, I see you're the one who made the pic shaming comment and have chosen to be offended on the OP's behalf.

If you feel someone mentioning a possible skin tag is pic shaming then fine, you do you. When/if the OP comes on and says he didn't want profile advice then I'll apologise to him personally, in public. Until then *Fab really needs a shrug emoji*

Frank

Frank indeed a palm in face emogi is apt. Don't get it twisted and take it out of context. I'm not offended on the Op's behalf, im merely calling a behaviour that I don't agree with. I'm totally within my right to challenge something that I believe should be challenged. Mighty verbose yourself Frank, yet throwing it back at me. So I'll throw it back to you "you do you"

Have a great night Frank "

Ditto

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly the name is offputting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difference of opinion here but your username made me laugh OP, I do love a pun.

The profile title and location are definitely off putting though & there's not much personality coming through in your text.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon


"Difference of opinion here but your username made me laugh OP, I do love a pun.

The profile title and location are definitely off putting though & there's not much personality coming through in your text.

"

Agreed, I like the username. I have a penchant for all things a little silly!

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By *ylonattireTV/TS
over a year ago

Radcliffe

You say you can accommodate, that's half the battle won.

If you want to get verified there are enough people on here who would call round to yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social events and clubs are always the best way

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