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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site.

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By *drian HardthrobMan
over a year ago

Worcester

^ hits the nail on the head

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

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Totally agree, most likely the man didnt even read your profile sadly

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Fab to me is just as much social as it is sex.

I love a good old laugh and natter but, also fully appreciate that’s not what everyone on here is looking for.

For me, I like the whole package

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

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The whole package is a definite must

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By *rWolfandRedCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Agree. It's a way of life and a social gathering of like minded people. That guy has the total wrong idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "

Constantly getting dick pics, are we worried? Nope our messages are open to all

We use the site fully as it’s intended for our fun

Enjoy

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By *hil_bexMan
over a year ago

london

Exactly! I have “met” many people on FAB who I haven’t/ there is no chance of meeting in person but we talk about the various sides of swinging, It’s not all about sex

I’m a single man and I’ve had to add a disclaimer to my profile to ward off es.corts and OF content creators looking for subs!!! I think there are too many who have the wrong idea of swinging and just think promiscuous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"The whole package is a definite must "

Nice packages you have there

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

If we're meeting a guy its a sex site, we dont do socials with guys its literally fun and go.

On the odd occasion we meet a couple we will have a social first and then maybe fun.

So the answer for us is dependent on who we are meeting.

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

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I think so lol , thank you

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Fab is whatever people want to use it for as long as it's within the site rules.

Some do use it as just a site to hook up . Others prefer the social side and mngs etc. I'm somewhere in between. I don't need to have loads of friends on here and be out meeting people at socials all the time but I also have no interest in meeting random people for just sex either.

It's easy enough to just do your own journey whatever way that is and to let others enjoy theirs if it's not the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how you choose to use Fab. For you it may be more than a sex site but many do use it very successfully in that way.

Not everyone on the site wishes to be actively part of the lifestyle and attend socials and/or clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on how you choose to use Fab. For you it may be more than a sex site but many do use it very successfully in that way.

Not everyone on the site wishes to be actively part of the lifestyle and attend socials and/or clubs."

Yes, that's true and totally fine. People can use Fab in anyway that they like. Some do use it purely just for hook ups. To suggest that Fab is only for that is ignorant though.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It bugs me how many men flash their cock in your inbox then because you don't want to see it come back with "well it's a sex site" or "this place isn't for you if your offended by a cock"

No!! This place is for me, I'm not offended I've made it clear I don't want to see it so popping your pulled back close up cock in my box isn't going to make me change my mind, unsolicited dick pics are just rude!

I can safely say I've never had a woman send an unsolicited vag!

It's my pet hate of fab, I mean would they say hi in person with their cock out, I find it no better than a flasher in the street.

On their own profile then yeah do as you wish, in my inbox fuck right off.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It bugs me how many men flash their cock in your inbox then because you don't want to see it come back with "well it's a sex site" or "this place isn't for you if your offended by a cock"

No!! This place is for me, I'm not offended I've made it clear I don't want to see it so popping your pulled back close up cock in my box isn't going to make me change my mind, unsolicited dick pics are just rude!

I can safely say I've never had a woman send an unsolicited vag!

It's my pet hate of fab, I mean would they say hi in person with their cock out, I find it no better than a flasher in the street.

On their own profile then yeah do as you wish, in my inbox fuck right off.

Mrs "

We're not offended by cocks either , we just don't really like looking at them in a picture on their own. They often look like a mutated ET's finger in a pic.

For us it's not the picture itself but who's sent it. In our experience, guys that send dick pics just won't be what we're looking for. There's plenty of couples/women that are happy to meet guys that send them and good luck to them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Fab is what you make of it

If you don't want to receive particular pictures, that's your prerogative. Someone who insists you're wrong is someone who's shown themselves to be incompatible with you.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "
correct in many ways - your way of looking at this is mirrored by many like us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab is what you make of it

If you don't want to receive particular pictures, that's your prerogative. Someone who insists you're wrong is someone who's shown themselves to be incompatible with you."

The post was about if Fab is just a sex site. We're under no illusions that we will ever stop the tide of dick pics that come our way everyday. We are allowed to say no thanks without arsey responses though!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Fab is what you make of it

If you don't want to receive particular pictures, that's your prerogative. Someone who insists you're wrong is someone who's shown themselves to be incompatible with you.

The post was about if Fab is just a sex site. We're under no illusions that we will ever stop the tide of dick pics that come our way everyday. We are allowed to say no thanks without arsey responses though! "

Oh for sure. I agree with you. For the arsey commenter it's a sex site. For you it's not. He shouldn't be rude about it.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Its definitely not just a sex site although some do use it as such and thats up to them.I like the social side and the friendships.

Even if it is used as a sex site,the place is full of cock so sending some in a message won't impress most women & couples.

I instantly block anyone who sends a graphic cringey message or a cock pic when we've never spoken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab has a whole range of different meanings to different people. Yes, I too have used this for just sex in past and I’ve built friendship with people creating fwb situations.

I just have to remember to respect the people who use the site differently to me, as they come from a place with different experiences/attitudes.

But I guess that is what attracts people here. It can be one and all of these things.

Peach

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Why dont you use message filters op and block single men. Then you are in control of who you interact with.

That way no dick pics ever arrive in messages and if a guy you e chosen to speak to sends one he can be blocked too.

It's very simple to do and stops you moaning about it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's where I came for sex, but I don't want sex with everyone and I'm not here to ogle erections of men I'm not interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t been on here too long but in that short space I’ve had some really nice conversations with people from all over the UK. For some it’s a sex site for others it’s a place to come where they can meet lifelong friends. Deffo not just a sex site though

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "

Totally agree with you...

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

I've used the site to make platonic friends too, it is a good place to find open/like minded people.

The forums have chats about all sorts of interests.

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

It’s so much more than a hook up sex site although that has its place on the agenda. It’s also a place to share knowledge and experiences, meet like mind people, enjoy the banter and just generally be in a safe environment where everyone is comfortable with each other.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

In all honesty, when I first got told about fab.. that was exactly how it was described.. "a sex site" but time goes by.. and you quickly learned that its not just about sex all the time. It's about people with similar interests connecting with one another or smaller communities that share those same interests. It's a place where I can truly show my other side that no one outside fab knows .. all the fantastic people I have met, the experiences I have ticked off and tried.. this is the place where I can meet other people that have done the same or still looking to try and often it doesn't even need to involve anything sexual. Well, thats what fab is for me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "

This is 100% how I feel what fab is.

A lot of the people that message me don't seem to see it that way. I find it strange that they would use fab for a notches on bedpost type. Surely if that's what they wanted Tinder would be the answer and probably easier but hey people can use it how they like. Just boggles my head that they choose here moan about the lack of meets but refuse to engage with the community at all.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "

It's also where people have formed a relationship and either left the lifestyle or remained on the site

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

It’s many things to many different people!

- Some use is just as a hook up/ sex site

- Some use it like social media (instagram) for posting sexy pics & get their likes

- Some use it to fish for new punters for their OnlySimps oops meant OnlyF_ sites haha

- Some use it as a swingers community site to meet other swingers for fun, socialising & chat about the lifestyle

It’s many things to different people, but definitely more than just a sex site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why dont you use message filters op and block single men. Then you are in control of who you interact with.

That way no dick pics ever arrive in messages and if a guy you e chosen to speak to sends one he can be blocked too.

It's very simple to do and stops you moaning about it."

Because we also meet lots of nice guys that message us too. We don't want to miss the good ones that we dont find in our searches.

The dick pics we can live with, it helps us quickly sort the guys we don't want to meet. What we don't like is arsey guys who don't like it when we say 'No thanks'

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"Why dont you use message filters op and block single men. Then you are in control of who you interact with.

That way no dick pics ever arrive in messages and if a guy you e chosen to speak to sends one he can be blocked too.

It's very simple to do and stops you moaning about it.

Because we also meet lots of nice guys that message us too. We don't want to miss the good ones that we dont find in our searches.

The dick pics we can live with, it helps us quickly sort the guys we don't want to meet. What we don't like is arsey guys who don't like it when we say 'No thanks' "

It's a solution though you have to agree. And it's certainly got you're back up enough to start a thread about.

People who don't take ownership of a solution are part of the problem.

You'd never leave your front door keys in the lock so why treat your message box in the same manner?

You see the common sense here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why dont you use message filters op and block single men. Then you are in control of who you interact with.

That way no dick pics ever arrive in messages and if a guy you e chosen to speak to sends one he can be blocked too.

It's very simple to do and stops you moaning about it.

Because we also meet lots of nice guys that message us too. We don't want to miss the good ones that we dont find in our searches.

The dick pics we can live with, it helps us quickly sort the guys we don't want to meet. What we don't like is arsey guys who don't like it when we say 'No thanks'

It's a solution though you have to agree. And it's certainly got you're back up enough to start a thread about.

People who don't take ownership of a solution are part of the problem.

You'd never leave your front door keys in the lock so why treat your message box in the same manner?

You see the common sense here?

"

You've missed my point in the original post entirely. The question I was asking was, is Fab just a sex site? That's it.

Yes, putting filters on is one solution. It's not the only solution. Our solution is to delete all messages from guys with dick pics as their profile pic, which is easy. If the guy has them plastered all over their profile we just say no thanks. This works well for us most of the time. A few guys get arsey when when we say no thanks.

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

For me Fab has always been more of a social site (sex & fetish meets a bonus) over the 10 yrs I have been on/off here, made friends for life.

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I believe Fab to be a ‘make it what you want from it site’.

There are some that are looking to send pics or just look at pics. There are some looking for simple and uncomplicated. Others (me) who are looking for a connection, be that with a woman, couple or a group of people.

My hope is that everyone would behave in a way that they would do in person. Respect and manners go a long way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I believe Fab to be a ‘make it what you want from it site’.

There are some that are looking to send pics or just look at pics. There are some looking for simple and uncomplicated. Others (me) who are looking for a connection, be that with a woman, couple or a group of people.

My hope is that everyone would behave in a way that they would do in person. Respect and manners go a long way"

Well said

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Why dont you use message filters op and block single men. Then you are in control of who you interact with.

That way no dick pics ever arrive in messages and if a guy you e chosen to speak to sends one he can be blocked too.

It's very simple to do and stops you moaning about it.

Because we also meet lots of nice guys that message us too. We don't want to miss the good ones that we dont find in our searches.

The dick pics we can live with, it helps us quickly sort the guys we don't want to meet. What we don't like is arsey guys who don't like it when we say 'No thanks'

It's a solution though you have to agree. And it's certainly got you're back up enough to start a thread about.

People who don't take ownership of a solution are part of the problem.

You'd never leave your front door keys in the lock so why treat your message box in the same manner?

You see the common sense here?

You've missed my point in the original post entirely. The question I was asking was, is Fab just a sex site? That's it.

Yes, putting filters on is one solution. It's not the only solution. Our solution is to delete all messages from guys with dick pics as their profile pic, which is easy. If the guy has them plastered all over their profile we just say no thanks. This works well for us most of the time. A few guys get arsey when when we say no thanks. "

What a delightful couple

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By *hanfunnewMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It's a site but manners still stand.

I actually met one good person that I feel we have become friends.

It's not all sex but there more to it that that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why dont you use message filters op and block single men. Then you are in control of who you interact with.

That way no dick pics ever arrive in messages and if a guy you e chosen to speak to sends one he can be blocked too.

It's very simple to do and stops you moaning about it.

Because we also meet lots of nice guys that message us too. We don't want to miss the good ones that we dont find in our searches.

The dick pics we can live with, it helps us quickly sort the guys we don't want to meet. What we don't like is arsey guys who don't like it when we say 'No thanks'

It's a solution though you have to agree. And it's certainly got you're back up enough to start a thread about.

People who don't take ownership of a solution are part of the problem.

You'd never leave your front door keys in the lock so why treat your message box in the same manner?

You see the common sense here?

You've missed my point in the original post entirely. The question I was asking was, is Fab just a sex site? That's it.

Yes, putting filters on is one solution. It's not the only solution. Our solution is to delete all messages from guys with dick pics as their profile pic, which is easy. If the guy has them plastered all over their profile we just say no thanks. This works well for us most of the time. A few guys get arsey when when we say no thanks.

What a delightful couple "

Thanks, you seem lovely too x

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

I agree I love fab for a bit of fantasy fun I’ve not tried to arrange a meet but get offers all the time so it can work as a sex site just not what I’m looking for at the mo

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "
when you say ' like minded' are you suggesting our minds are alike?

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

I've found there's so much more than just sex to the people of fab, if you take time chat.

They can be caring, informative & very witty as well as extremely sexy & flirty.

I always said never take rejection as personal as there are people for everyone here you just need to take the time find them

" let's fuck" rarely seems to work in real life or here

Enjoy the journey

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I have to admit in the beginning, I thought it was, but as gradually time has gone by I totally agree with the OPs

It’s so much more than that. you do meet some lovely people and talk to some lovely people. it’s a very interesting insight. Like everything in life, you have to work at it and be patient and most importantly, enjoy the experience. There is always a laugh along the way

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By *he 1 2 watchWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I agree with the op and the majority. The way I see it you have to make a connection before any meet. That takes time and effort on both parts.Ive had the best times with guys I've built a friendship with. It's about the build up

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Your description of fab is spot on. Swinging is much more, any fun is just the cherry on top

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I think it depends on how you choose to use Fab. For you it may be more than a sex site but many do use it very successfully in that way.

Not everyone on the site wishes to be actively part of the lifestyle and attend socials and/or clubs.

Yes, that's true and totally fine. People can use Fab in anyway that they like. Some do use it purely just for hook ups. To suggest that Fab is only for that is ignorant though. "

Fab has historically been a sex site. The scene/social/dating thing is relatively recent and tends to be driven, in my experience, by people who don’t actually meet that much.

That’s fine but swinging is ultimately about sex - and sex generally works best when people are actually doing it as opposed to talking about it.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"I think it depends on how you choose to use Fab. For you it may be more than a sex site but many do use it very successfully in that way.

Not everyone on the site wishes to be actively part of the lifestyle and attend socials and/or clubs.

Yes, that's true and totally fine. People can use Fab in anyway that they like. Some do use it purely just for hook ups. To suggest that Fab is only for that is ignorant though.

Fab has historically been a sex site. The scene/social/dating thing is relatively recent and tends to be driven, in my experience, by people who don’t actually meet that much.

That’s fine but swinging is ultimately about sex - and sex generally works best when people are actually doing it as opposed to talking about it."

Spot on we use it as a sex site because we are a couple who have sex with other people- we're swingers

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

fab is a sex site but its a sex site for those into the swinging lifestyle thats the difference but also id be very careful about putting swinging couples in one box the vast majority of swinging couples do not do socials do not do forums do not do clubs they do meet others for sex and sex only you only have to look at how many couples are on the scene very few go to clubs if they did there would be a club in every town and every club would be full with queues of people not getting in ... look at these forums and other on the net old or new forums were a tiny and still are a tiny tiny part ..

for alot of swingers it is about the sex very much so ... a lot of people seem to think that the couples who do forums and clubs are the couples that hold the golden rule book but they dont and they never have some have turned it into a social lifestyle some seem to want social more than the sex but lets not forget the vast majority who dont vist the forums who dont do the clubs who do meet often and have fun they are the swingers the rest are just in the minority ....

swinging is just a word for having more than one sexual partner in modern terms before thjat it was just couples who have sex with other couples ...theres no rule book bar common sense consent and no means no the resty is just made up to suit who ever it suits swinging is what ever swinging is to you if others view it different it just means your not for each other not they are not swingers .... people need to stop this couples rule the roost well club and forum couples that is nobody rules the only rules are your rules get on and enjoy them swinging is about sex take the sex out and what do you have ?? a normal social life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn’t agree more! There’s so much more to fab than just sex!

We’ve made some great friends on here. Sure we do want to fuck their brains out, but they’re still friends all the same

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

I think the word is getting out to single guys and they have this impression that fab is exactly a sex site. We are getting a lot more messages with “are you ready to fuck now”, “Can I pick you up in my car and then drop you back home afterwards”. As a couple mainly looking for a guy to join us we find these messages very demeaning and they normally result in an instant block. It’s far better to see this site as a connection with others who share the same lifestyle along with building a trust for future meets.

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over a year ago


"It bugs me how many men flash their cock in your inbox then because you don't want to see it come back with "well it's a sex site" or "this place isn't for you if your offended by a cock"

No!! This place is for me, I'm not offended I've made it clear I don't want to see it so popping your pulled back close up cock in my box isn't going to make me change my mind, unsolicited dick pics are just rude!

I can safely say I've never had a woman send an unsolicited vag!

It's my pet hate of fab, I mean would they say hi in person with their cock out, I find it no better than a flasher in the street.

On their own profile then yeah do as you wish, in my inbox fuck right off.

Mrs "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if it was 'just a sex site', the types with their genitals as profile pics - or sent unsolicited in messages - don't give a crap about consent.

That's all I need to know about them....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the word is getting out to single guys and they have this impression that fab is exactly a sex site. We are getting a lot more messages with “are you ready to fuck now”, “Can I pick you up in my car and then drop you back home afterwards”. As a couple mainly looking for a guy to join us we find these messages very demeaning and they normally result in an instant block. It’s far better to see this site as a connection with others who share the same lifestyle along with building a trust for future meets.

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We get a lot of messages that just say 'meet now'. I guess a lot of people aren't into the connection and that's fine. We like to play with people that we have a connection with. Conversation, getting to know them, flirting and finding out what you have in common apart from the lifestyle is all part of it for us. We've made some good friends with people that we've met during meets.

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over a year ago

We have met some wonderful friends on here that are from all sexes and persuasions.

Some we chat to even though we realise we may never meet for one reason or another.

The chat can be deeply sensual as well and can lead to new ideas. That is our community.

We do get the "Dick pics", the one liners and even one words and most go on our block lists as even though fab is what it is there has to be an element of respect to start with.

\think of it like a bar where you see people you like.. would you walk up and say "can I fuck your Mrs" or start off a conversation.. only one wins with us.

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over a year ago


"Even if it was 'just a sex site', the types with their genitals as profile pics - or sent unsolicited in messages - don't give a crap about consent.

That's all I need to know about them...."

So very true!

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Fab is for like minded naughty people,to discuss and meet people who enjoy the lifestyle, very often sex isn't even involved Xx

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By *edi123Couple
over a year ago

aberystwyth


"Had an interesting response today from a single guy. Despite it clearly stating in our profile that we don't like dick pics, he still sent us some and we said no thanks. His response was 'Fab is just a sex site'

Now, I don't agree with that. It's so much more than that. If that's your attitude, Fab is going to be a very disappointing place.

It's a community where like minded people interact, share experiences and ideas. It's where you build a network of friends and keep in touch with people that you meet in clubs and at socials. It's where you can learn about the lifestyle. Yes, we are all up for meeting people and that often includes sex but that hopefully means connecting with people too.

Bang on, unfortunately the site does attract people with the wrong ideas

Fab is far from perfect but it's not just a sex site. "

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"Fab is for like minded naughty people,to discuss and meet people who enjoy the lifestyle, very often sex isn't even involved Xx "
precisely G

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It’s a sex site for us.

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By *igforfun100Man
over a year ago

Magherafelt

My first experience on fab was the usual up all night messaging fabbers. Like most guys, yes.... I wanted to connect and have sex.

But I found someone who has had a profound influence on me. I found love....

I found numerous good friends who I will never meet for anything other than a cuppa coffee and a chat. I love the social side of fab.

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley

It’s great for keeping intouch with people that I already know, finding out about events etc chances are very slim that I will meet anyone that randomly messages me, it says on my profile do not send random friend requests if you have never messaged me before... people can’t seem to read or don’t think it applies to them unsolicited “dick pix” are a big no no I’m not offended looking at them but there’s a right and wrong way to approach people

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

We are absolutely in agreement with everyone on this thread. Being a very active couple within this community for years we have had our ups and downs. Most are respectful and do it right when communicating with us. We’ve an amazing group of friends who we socially meet from time to time.

My mrs is insanely horny and our own sex life is very interesting. When we advertise for a meet, we definitely do the research first. We read everything. We’ve found that it’s mostly the man who chats and makes most of the arrangements. Only then does he make his wife aware. They say the man wears the trousers, when in fact it’s the complete opposite, especially on a site like this. Women have to give so much more. They literally prepare for the evening. Make up, hair, nails and then the “what to wear”. I know, this from my own experience? But what I failed to realise is what’s going on in her mind. She’s screaming inside and calm on the outside. Now I’ll always check to see if she’s okay. Us guys do literally nothing apart from showering, shaving and smelling good. So respect that this is a social experience and it may or may not end up sexually. We’re always looking for a social connection. So let it be a good one. Thanks for reading. XxxkarenandmartinxxX

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

Over the years I've kept in touch with people..not just for sex

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I just use fab for keeping in touch with friends and for events, it’s just a social tool for me. Much more than sex.

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