FabSwingers.com forum: What is wrong with our profile.

By *e and him 2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Can anyone help.

What is wrong with our profile.

Had nearly 200 people look at our profile yesterday but only had 1 message.

What are we doing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite demanding and abrupt to be honest

Nothing particularly wrong in what your saying but how your saying it is the problem

This is my opinion hopefully it helps you

But of course some like to be told what to do

So maybe not the case for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only read the first few lines, very condescending towards single guys.

I'm guessing many stop where I did and move on!

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

What she said, list too long to jump through hoops. Can't be bi, can't be attached, must accom or pay half ect. Are you looking for a partner or a shag? Nothing wrong in being picky, but too many hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to be doing all right with verifications so maybe it's just that many people don't fall into your quite restricted age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Can anyone help.

What is wrong with our profile.

Had nearly 200 people look at our profile yesterday but only had 1 message.

What are we doing wrong. "

Quite a narrow age range and quite demanding. You don’t seem like you’d be fun.

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By *annSummersMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Agreed. It’s also too long, for a “small advert” it seems to last about six chapters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only read the first few lines, very condescending towards single guys.

I'm guessing many stop where I did and move on!

It’s where I stopped… it’s intimidating. Good luck though

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"What she said, list too long to jump through hoops. Can't be bi, can't be attached, must accom or pay half ect. Are you looking for a partner or a shag? Nothing wrong in being picky, but too many hoops. "

Oh I didn’t spot the can’t be bi! Yea biphobia is so last century

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Maybe they didn't have enough lead in their pencil to tick all those boxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of our old profile. Loads of demands, no one ever read it and it probably scared off many who did.

Also it just made us resentful when people who didn’t meet our demands messaged, the audacity! Lol

Fab is a far more relaxing experience without all the demands. We now just send a polite “no thank you” or just ignore the ones who are not suitable for us.

Strip back your profile to just a few lines about yourself and limited the demands on those messaging to the minimum

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By *hgoonthen74Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Have to say that the whole vibe of this type of lifestyle is not contained in your bio/profile, It comes across as more a list of demands than a introduction. You could sum up the majority of that with Single makes - we will contact you!

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By *hgoonthen74Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Reminds me of our old profile. Loads of demands, no one ever read it and it probably scared off many who did.

Also it just made us resentful when people who didn’t meet our demands messaged, the audacity! Lol

Fab is a far more relaxing experience without all the demands. We now just send a polite “no thank you” or just ignore the ones who are not suitable for us.

Strip back your profile to just a few lines about yourself and limited the demands on those messaging to the minimum "

I can concur!

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By *etalThrashingmadMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Meeting couples when you're on your own can be nerve wracking enough without a couple that already seem hostile before I've messaged them.

Just chill out a bit and make it sound a bit more like you want people to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people struggle to read a one lined profile. Yours is so long it will only get fully read by 1 in a 1000..

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Your profile should be selling you and enticing to the person reading it.

However you pretty much moan throughout your profile and your status is you moaning too.

Yet your veris all say what lovely people you are so maybe start reflecting that loveliness in your profile wording as currently you are probably scaring a lot off with your tick list profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone help.

What is wrong with our profile.

Had nearly 200 people look at our profile yesterday but only had 1 message.

What are we doing wrong. "

Not wishing to sound rude, it’s to detailed. Too much to read. That aside, it’s still fabulous

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

18 verifications, most in the last year looks OK to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey.

Felt like I’d been kicked in the nuts by halfway through the read.

Good luck with that lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like you should add the heading Terms and conditions

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Single guys are told to read it all twice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just comes off as a little abrupt.

It sounds demanding and doesn't actually tell much about you as people just what others have to do to get your attention.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I only read half it was too negative and a bit condescending.

There's hardly any pics of the man just his cock so that's off-putting for me I'd not message for both those reasons.

Mrs

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

We had 36 views and no messages yesterday. Do not get hung up on this.

Tried to read your profile, I'm really sorry I got a little lost half way through and gave up. Maybe refine it is the advice I'd give.

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By *axtanMan
over a year ago

los Cristianos now

Raven said it all. Nobody will put up with that talk. Try again and make it short as us guys have to read it "twice".

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It's perfect if that is what you are looking for. But I wouldn't blame any man for walking away deciding you're not a couple they want to meet as it is quite condescending towards them. Just because you are a couple does not make you any better than anyone else on here and if you want someone to join you than it's better to treat them with respect rather than distain.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"I only read the first few lines, very condescending towards single guys.

I'm guessing many stop where I did and move on!

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Yes, I have a very high IQ and as soon as read this I could here you voice talking as if you where talking to down to someone, talking to someone who dodn't speak the same language or the way a 'you know who I am,' type of celebraty would talk to a minion.

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By *amesy6918Man
over a year ago

newry

Your profile looks great only problem for me is you’re too far away!lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was a single guy I'd read all that and run

It comes across very rude and theres sooo much writing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather read a page from the book of the dead

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

Oh I didn’t spot the can’t be bi! Yea biphobia is so last century "

In your opinion. Site is for everybody's individual needs & wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very abrupt

Interesting that guys that say bi/gay/tv are told to move on. The very definition of bi is to enjoy sex with men n women, as ‘he’ may join in no straight man will be interested!!!!!!

Very aggressive but hey ho, it probably serves you well enough but you did ask!

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By *e and him 2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Thanks for the comment we will make changes, some of the things in there are because of past experiences and to let people know what we are looking for.

We booked hotel(travelling 130miles) to meet a single all goes well move to the room, has soon has he had done with me(female) he was dressed and out the door.

Chat to a couple all well nearly arranged a meeting but the last message was the man from the couple we were meeting like to taste her wife on him(male) after he’s done so sucking him afterwards. There were both straight on there profile

Met a guy all going well tell his wife kept ringing (obviously not told her what he was doing)

So some of the points are for this reason we just thought been open and up front cuts out all the drama but guess we should just use the block button instead.

Thanks again

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By *e and him 2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Updated profile. Is it looking better now.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You still have a negative status and all the hoops you have to jump through.

If it accurately reflects you and you are happy with it then it’s all good

I wouldn’t reply if I was a single guy though.

Sounds like from veris you are both easier going in real life so I’d probably stick to socials/clubs if you can’t write a less negative profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s your profile and you obviously want to get all that negative stuff across to anyone willing to read it all.

Stick with it for a week or two.

The proof’s in the puddin.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Remove any of the "don't send this type of message". It won't work, and it'll put people off. Just delete shitty messages.

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By *he LsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

Agree with a lot of what's been said around the profile, but also from our experience we get very few messages too when we put a meet up or status update, like yourselves we get 150-200 views a day and rarely get a message about actually meeting.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Why not try messaging people rather then them messaging you?

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

We don’t get much either it won’t be just you, it’s finding someone who is looking for the same thing as yourself xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Updated profile. Is it looking better now. "

It's almost entirely what you don't like and not why you're a good match for someone.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"Can anyone help.

What is wrong with our profile.

Had nearly 200 people look at our profile yesterday but only had 1 message.

What are we doing wrong. "

I can only find 2 things wrong with it:

1) You're too far away from me

2) You're not looking for guys my age

Hope this helps

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Can anyone help.

What is wrong with our profile.

Had nearly 200 people look at our profile yesterday but only had 1 message.

What are we doing wrong. "

Overall I think it’s a good profile

like many have said ‘maybe try making is short & sweet’ & bit more friendly to all your target audience

. For example I like some single guys only message profiles that show appreciation for my time as much as I do for theirs! It goes both ways. Hope this helps

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it's much better than it was initially but I think it is a bit arrogant to say a single guy may be "rewarded" by a meet with you

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