FabSwingers.com forum: How many single men on here are really married?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 50% easily I'd say , more so men than woman although I've spoken to a fair share of married woman on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

95%

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

I don’t know but the married ones need to step this way

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I'm a genuine single parent, only an ex-wife, no partner and I'm not in any romantic relaionship but I would assume there is a high amount on here. There is probably a high amount of women on here that are also cheating and perhaps using the site to gain moe followers to thei onlyfans page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A high percentage I would imagine. There are also many women on here without there husbands knowledge, you just don't hear about them as much.

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By *neamigo2Man
over a year ago

in the village

I guess a very high percentage of both male and female swingers …many times you see “don’t contact if you are married “ … however they are more than likely married … double standards

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By *equals3x8Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Or they don't want to meet a lying cheater!

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

I'm married but have permission to be here.

The double standards on here amaze me sometimes, if a single guy cannot accommodate hes married and cheating, if a woman cannot accommodate then it's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our experience would suggest about 90%

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
over a year ago

coleraine

Quite a lot same for men and woman. We are always surprised it bothers people so much. We have met married men over the years, their relationship if their business not ours.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

How many cpls on here ar actually cpls and not single people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience there is also a fair amount of men from couples profiles trying to be fly and meet alone.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

About the same percentage as supposedly couples on here who are actually single men.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

"In my experience there is also a fair amount of men from couples profiles trying to be fly and meet alone. "

We’ve had that a few times. Messages from a couple’s profile but the wife is working away or busy or visiting a sick relative and she doesn’t mind if he plays on his own!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No idea how many but there's no option for 'partnered, playing alone '.

I don't know what proportion of men over 18 are single but if you added 20% to that figure you might get a rough idea

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By *urygent1Man
over a year ago

North West

I keep trying but seems many not keen and I even put it in my bio.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"No idea how many but there's no option for 'partnered, playing alone '.

I don't know what proportion of men over 18 are single but if you added 20% to that figure you might get a rough idea"

They do have the option of disclosing in their bio that they’re partnered and playing away though

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By *urygent1Man
over a year ago

North West

Some at least state it. I do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"No idea how many but there's no option for 'partnered, playing alone '.

I don't know what proportion of men over 18 are single but if you added 20% to that figure you might get a rough idea

They do have the option of disclosing in their bio that they’re partnered and playing away though "

Yep.

My personal opinion is that if people were less judgemental towards people (not just men) who are looking to meet without their partners knowledge more would state it on their profile. That way people can make their mind up whether to meet them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mention it in my profile - is about respect for people's preferences and I'd be a terrible lier so what's the point trying??

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"I don’t know but the married ones need to step this way

Stepping your way

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

My preference is to only meet on Saturday evenings. Most attached guys are under what I call the "WAG Curfew".

When I point this out to these "single" blokes, they get defensive and some aggressive... Yeah, go figure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m married. Originally came on this site with a girl I was shagging looking for a 3some. But she finished it before we could arrange one. Now on here alone as wife wants nothing to do with 3somes etc. just me and my crazy high sex drive. Which is dangerous xx

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I'm married with permission and I'm honest about it despite the fact my honesty has led to me being blocked by quite a number of people. I'm not bothered by that however I do think there are people on here who take the moral high ground with those who are married but will turn a blind eye to someone claiming to be single because it suits them to without doing any due diligence.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"No idea how many but there's no option for 'partnered, playing alone '.

I don't know what proportion of men over 18 are single but if you added 20% to that figure you might get a rough idea

They do have the option of disclosing in their bio that they’re partnered and playing away though

Yep.

Saying you don’t want to meet someone who’s married and playing without permission is a personal preference, nothing to do with being judgmental. As mentioned before it could be because it’s an indication that the person is willing to lie, it could be because they don’t want to have to work around when the person can sneak away from their partner, it could be because they feel sympathy for the partner being cheated on and don’t want to be a part of it, it could be because they want to do things that involve being seen in public together so they don’t want to have to hide away.

Being happy to meet someone who’s married and playing without permission is a personal preference as well and I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with it, but it is wrong to categorise everyone who has a different preference to you as being judgmental.

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Absolute bollocks, some of us are sluts with morals who don’t want to hurt other women. That, and I don’t want an angry wife on my doorstep, I avoid drama at all costs.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

What's a trap queen? I can sort of guess but I'd be interested to know if I'm right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

Noticed that there's quite a few single dads to be fair, that the lifestyle fits in around there parenting quite well

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

What's a trap queen? I can sort of guess but I'd be interested to know if I'm right"

Similar to how size queens like big cocks, trap queens like cocks that bear a resemblance to a trap. It can be any sort of trap, they just love a cock that looks like a trap.

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

LOL

Who cares? This is a swingers site not a romance dating site. Personally I think its more 50% but many lie about it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

70% at my guess, bathroom cock pics are a huge giveaway

they never hide the Mrs stuff.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"LOL

Who cares? This is a swingers site not a romance dating site. Personally I think its more 50% but many lie about it."

Exactly it's a swingers site not a dirty cheating site.

There's a difference!

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"70% at my guess, bathroom cock pics are a huge giveaway

they never hide the Mrs stuff.

Mrs "

I'm always surprised by how many men keep two toothbrushes and a floral dressing gown

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
over a year ago

coleraine

"I'm married but have permission to be here.

The double standards on here amaze me sometimes, if a single guy cannot accommodate hes married and cheating, if a woman cannot accommodate then it's fine."

Sadly some people love to jump to conclusions and label people. You’d think a swingers site would be really open minded but it’s quite the opposite

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By *ankyspanky200Couple
over a year ago

Derby

"No idea how many but there's no option for 'partnered, playing alone '.

I don't know what proportion of men over 18 are single but if you added 20% to that figure you might get a rough idea

They do have the option of disclosing in their bio that they’re partnered and playing away though

Yep.

I have to admit I agree. Every person on here has a story, and a reason to be on here. It could be that they are in a sexless relationship or that they just need a bit extra. We both try to be as non-judgmental as possible. What matters to us is honesty. That refers to both males and females on here.

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

"LOL

Who cares? This is a swingers site not a romance dating site. Personally I think its more 50% but many lie about it."

It’s nothing to do with romance

. Swinging and cheating are not the same thing. Swinging is done with consent, it’s ethical, and done right nobody gets hurt. This is a swingers site not a cheaters site.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"No idea how many but there's no option for 'partnered, playing alone '.

I don't know what proportion of men over 18 are single but if you added 20% to that figure you might get a rough idea

They do have the option of disclosing in their bio that they’re partnered and playing away though

Yep.

I'm not too bothered about reasons etc. But you only get close to honesty and therefore informed choices if people are able to state their status without fear of derogatory comments.

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By *he massage manMan
over a year ago

filey

"Quite a lot same for men and woman. We are always surprised it bothers people so much. We have met married men over the years, their relationship if their business not ours. "

You are right there both men and women have a reason for being here, however I dont advertise it but if I chat to someone and it looks as if we could meet I always tell them but even so I dont fuck so slightly different. And you can't believe how many meets I have with couple that have on their profile "no married men"

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"70% at my guess, bathroom cock pics are a huge giveaway

they never hide the Mrs stuff.

Mrs

I'm always surprised by how many men keep two toothbrushes and a floral dressing gown

Plenty of tourists on here as well be it of either sex

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By *ankyspanky200Couple
over a year ago

Derby

"Quite a lot same for men and woman. We are always surprised it bothers people so much. We have met married men over the years, their relationship if their business not ours.

For us the reason being here isn't so much of a thing. We can accept that people have their own reasons. But, I must say I've been disappointed before when meeting a guy we've been chatting to for sometime to find out he's married. We don't have "no married men" on our profile for that reason, though it's nice to be honest and open. I think anyway.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Or they don't want to meet a lying cheater!

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it holier than thou Friday again already?

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By *tyoursecretserviceMan
over a year ago

J11 M5 Cheltenham

To be honest I prefer to know if they have all their own teeth rather than a marriage certificate.

I meeting for fun not to look at holiday photos.

Why should it matter ?

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"To be honest I prefer to know if they have all their own teeth rather than a marriage certificate.

I meeting for fun not to look at holiday photos.

Why should it matter ?"

Personal preference, everyone’s entitled to it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Wrong , i say no married men and i'm half a Couple so not after a partner.

I just prefer not to meet anyone cheating.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"To be honest I prefer to know if they have all their own teeth rather than a marriage certificate.

I meeting for fun not to look at holiday photos.

Why should it matter ?"

In my opinion it matters because everyone has a personal code. I don't want to be the guardian of someone else's but I do like to have enough information so that I don't knowingly contravene my own

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Is it holier than thou Friday again already? "

No it's not. Unlike some nice and ethical people here, I don't give a monkeys if they are attached.

When trying to arrange a meet, it is the ducking-n-diving they have to do to avoid the WAG Curfew. Lunchtime knee tremble anyone?

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By *ensman100Man
over a year ago

Hounslow

"To be honest I prefer to know if they have all their own teeth rather than a marriage certificate.

I meeting for fun not to look at holiday photos.

Why should it matter ?"

Yep totally agree. And for the record I have all my own teeth apart from 1 knocked out years ago playing rugby!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

What's a trap queen? I can sort of guess but I'd be interested to know if I'm right

Similar to how size queens like big cocks, trap queens like cocks that bear a resemblance to a trap. It can be any sort of trap, they just love a cock that looks like a trap. "

I see.

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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A high percentage I would imagine. There are also many women on here without there husbands knowledge, you just don't hear about them as much.

Because they don't get demonised.....

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

"To be honest I prefer to know if they have all their own teeth rather than a marriage certificate.

I meeting for fun not to look at holiday photos.

Why should it matter ?

In my opinion it matters because everyone has a personal code. I don't want to be the guardian of someone else's but I do like to have enough information so that I don't knowingly contravene my own"

Exactly, it comes down to preferences. If someone else doesn’t care that’s their choice, but I have my reasons for not wanting to meet married people and that’s my choice. And it’s annoying as fuck that people think lying to you doesn’t matter, i have a lot more respect for people who say they’re married than those who lie about it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I'm married but have permission to be here.

The double standards on here amaze me sometimes, if a single guy cannot accommodate hes married and cheating, if a woman cannot accommodate then it's fine."

It is a double standard ,not accomodating alone doesnt mean a man is a cheat.There will usually be othwe red flags along with not accommodating & some are clever & write that they can accom.

Many women who can't accom will also be attached ,but as you say people donf equate that as her being a cheat..

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

What's a trap queen? I can sort of guess but I'd be interested to know if I'm right

Similar to how size queens like big cocks, trap queens like cocks that bear a resemblance to a trap. It can be any sort of trap, they just love a cock that looks like a trap.

I see. "

So, were you right?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

What's a trap queen? I can sort of guess but I'd be interested to know if I'm right

Similar to how size queens like big cocks, trap queens like cocks that bear a resemblance to a trap. It can be any sort of trap, they just love a cock that looks like a trap.

I see.

So, were you right?"

My mind hadn't meandered into the territory where there are women who get off on men whose penis resembles a net concealed under leaves or a serrated iron clamp, no

I was thinking more along the lines of a phrase used by some men who are under the illusion that women need to trap men into relationships

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By *tyoursecretserviceMan
over a year ago

J11 M5 Cheltenham

Why do most ASSUME if you are married you must be a lying cheat? If your playing single.

Medical reasons

Widowed

Permission

Maybe something's have absolutely nothing to do with anyone outside of the marriage.

If you choose no married that's ok. But don't ASSUME.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Why do most ASSUME if you are married you must be a lying cheat? If your playing single.

Medical reasons

Widowed

Permission

Maybe something's have absolutely nothing to do with anyone outside of the marriage.

If you choose no married that's ok. But don't ASSUME.

Everyone’s talking about married and playing without the partner’s permission (ie cheating) so that cancels out your permission excuse, you’re not married if you’re a widow, you’re a widow and you can’t cheat on your partner if they’re dead, I’m not sure what medical reasons you mean so maybe you can elaborate on that one.

If someone’s married and playing without permission then they are lying and cheating, that’s not an assumption, it’s a fact. I’m not judging them for doing it, it’s nothing to do with me what they do but they are lying and cheating.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

lets not forget the many halfs of swinging couples who cheat too there alot of them ..

people cheat men get it in the neck more due to the number of men on here ..

i /we dont judge other we dont know why or we dont want to know why we just look out for ourselves all i ask is they be upfront about it and its a well jnow fact that most married are far less hassle

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By *he massage manMan
over a year ago

filey

"lets not forget the many halfs of swinging couples who cheat too there alot of them ..

people cheat men get it in the neck more due to the number of men on here ..

i /we dont judge other we dont know why or we dont want to know why we just look out for ourselves all i ask is they be upfront about it and its a well jnow fact that most married are far less hassle"

Thats the same as why I prefer to work massage with couples and not single females

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By *ifeforelivingMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Not me never married no ankle biters 100% single and open to offers lol

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By *aurus1987Man
over a year ago

York

Im 100% single, but because I can't accom, some women/couples block me. The reason for this is because I house share and don't want them knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprising how many can accommodate... And then that turns out to be whilst the wife is at work

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Some would say there needs to be a search filter for “married and playing away” or “will meet married and playing away”.

If anyone is brave enough to suggest that on a new thread, I’ll grab my popcorn

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I am single, but married to the gym

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

"70% at my guess, bathroom cock pics are a huge giveaway

they never hide the Mrs stuff.

Mrs

I'm always surprised by how many men keep two toothbrushes and a floral dressing gown

Or men that get stuck with the floral dressing gown as their Mrs has nicked the warm towelling one again...

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By *haz46Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

most single men and women probably

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By *_hot_hornyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We don't usually ask, or care, and it's easy to figure out - especially when they're only free in the middle of the day and never at weekends!

If we were to start moralising about the type of people we meet, we'd likely never meet anyone - never fuck a Tory etc.

And how many couples are asking guys in the clubs if they're married before getting down and dirty?

Not our monkey, not our circus.

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

Why would you care or doublecheck !?

Everyone is entitled to present themselves in the way they see fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Or they're just not interested in being caught up in any drama ....

If its a couple and they're actually swinging it's different but rare to find a man who will let you confirm that with his wife

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

Loads...

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

I find the giveaway is they cannot accommodate or want to meet between 5 n 7pm probably on way home from work

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

Probably the same percentage as there are women, suits me I prefer married, less clingy less complications, and more careful usually

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

Let us know when you get the final figure will you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's complicated...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it would seem they forget they are married until the moment of meeting and then "confess" to actually having a wife/partner. We dont want an angry other half on our doorstep if found out

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By *uffymayfairCouple
over a year ago

vera playa, Almeria

If we have any inkling that someone is lying we're not interested, at least if someone is honest about their situation it makes them more trustworthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely had a few messages from single men about their wives or partners.

I'm a single pringle, but would love to change that. It gets lonely!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’d say quite a high percentage - I think people who don’t put it on their profile to allow people to make their own judgement are wrong-uns.

We chat and chat and chat and so we notice patterns of when not on line or available.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why would you care or doublecheck !?

Everyone is entitled to present themselves in the way they see fit."

They are but not in a way that deliberately deceives.

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

I'm married and clearly state it on my profile. That way people can make up their own mind if they want to speak to me. It's definitely a killer but what's the point in not being honest from the start

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By *loydyMan
over a year ago

British

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"
loads I should imagine

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By *forfuntimesCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We have always stated on our profile that we do not mind if people are married (your choice to do what you do on here) - but we would rather know than not - being honest and gaining some level of trust (with us) goes a long way.... and we have had many great meets with married / attached guys through the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to make people be truthful is to say you don't care if they are attached as long as they say upfront.

Much less likely they will lie about it and if it's actually a turn off you can then decline.

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"I don’t know but the married ones need to step this way

I’d love to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuinely single that's why I can accommodate

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By *ember101Man
over a year ago

London

Perhaps playing devil’s advocate, but if you don’t know and it’s a one off meet, is there really a problem?

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm married, and make no secret of it in my profile.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I don’t know but the married ones need to step this way

Mmmmm..... not that far away either!

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By *ornym66Man
over a year ago

Col /ips

My partner knows I'm on here she don't do sex anymore

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By *enonlyMan
over a year ago

Stoke On Trent

"I don’t know but the married ones need to step this way

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im married and I'd deffo step your way

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By *tyoursecretserviceMan
over a year ago

J11 M5 Cheltenham

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Probably an even split or married men and woman on here but the men seem to be more open about cheating than the woman we have found.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

More than three.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say a scary amount. Big give away is them not wanting to chat off the site. Them disappearing and reappearing x In a profile says they want ‘NSA discreet fun‘that’s a red flag x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably about 80%. Tbh it doesn't bother me, maybe it should but I prefer attached sometimes as it suits my situation. I worry that a single guy would want more than I can give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter if they are???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't usually ask, or care, and it's easy to figure out - especially when they're only free in the middle of the day and never at weekends!

If we were to start moralising about the type of people we meet, we'd likely never meet anyone - never fuck a Tory etc.

And how many couples are asking guys in the clubs if they're married before getting down and dirty?

Not our monkey, not our circus. "

Stunning

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?

Noticed that there's quite a few single dads to be fair, that the lifestyle fits in around there parenting quite well "

Have you noticed that there seems to be a much higher percentage of single dads on here than in the vanilla world?

It couldn't possibly be because that's a good way to explaining 'can't accommodate could it

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I’m married but I’m also not a man, and she knows I’m here cos we’re both here separately and together on the couples account.

So I’m just skewing the results!

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By *otYorksCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Yorks

We genuinely couldn’t care less. If someone is married and chooses to play on here that’s their decision. Their relationship isnt our issue. We find married guys less complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not guilty

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

One argument I always love is the angry wife turning up at our door.

I'd love to know how many times thats actually happened? I mean if I fucked some lady and her hubby contacted me I'd tell him where I met her and I didn't know she was married, hardly my fault if she wants to fuck others.

And like others have said do many couples/ladies ask a fella in a club if his married or if a couple are married to each other? Probably not many.

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By *rKingsmanMan
over a year ago

sutton

I’m not married

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

Plenty are in my experience and my profile is clear I'm not interested in that. Recent experience said he was single, lived with house mates from work etc. Messaging me from his holiday in Mexico. Erm holiday was his Honeymoon! If he was truly in an open relationship there would have been no need for lies, felt really sorry for his new wife and really disgusted in myself. I thought I could spot the liars.

I'm separated from an open marriage, we never used to play together and we didn't discuss our experiences together but we never lied to people either.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A high percentage I would imagine. There are also many women on here without there husbands knowledge, you just don't hear about them as much.

Because they don't get demonised....."

I bet if a married woman was bi half the couples on here wouldn't have an issue with them being married the same way that they have an issue with married men

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"A high percentage I would imagine. There are also many women on here without there husbands knowledge, you just don't hear about them as much.

Because they don't get demonised.....

I bet if a married woman was bi half the couples on here wouldn't have an issue with them being married the same way that they have an issue with married men "

Welcome to Double Standards Fab…..

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

"One argument I always love is the angry wife turning up at our door.

And like others have said do many couples/ladies ask a fella in a club if his married or if a couple are married to each other? Probably not many. "

It’s still unwanted drama. You might be okay with that, doesn’t mean others should be. There’s more to it as well, an angry spouse is likely to “out” you, which isn’t something most of us want, this side of our lives is private. Why would i waste time on someone where there’s the potential for drama, when i can just meet a single person? It’s not like there’s a shortage of single men.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Welcome to Double Standards Fab…..

Men and women are different so how is it a double standard?

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By *lubchuckerMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

I don't know but what i do know is that the guys'pretending' to be single are spoiling things for the genuine single guys.

A lot of women/couples see single on a guys profile and automatically equate that to ' married man playing behind the wifes back' so instantly lose interest.

I'm single and have been for some time and my profile clearly states 'single' yet if i do get any interest its not long before i get asked 'what is your wife into ?' or 'does your wife like this?' or 'does she like that ?' and as soon as you point out your single your ghosted or blocked because 'single' to a lot of people on here equates to 'lying chancer'

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

FYI

I am a genuinely single guy on the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a few that turned out to be married and I'm sure a few more that I'll never find out but had my suspicions. When I first found one out I felt guilty for a long time but with age I've come to accept that the betrayal is on their part and not mine and not beat myself up over it like I used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fair few I'd say,I've been stung by married man who said they where single

Why not just be honest about it

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By *issEmmWoman
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"I'm married but have permission to be here.

The double standards on here amaze me sometimes, if a single guy cannot accommodate hes married and cheating, if a woman cannot accommodate then it's fine."

I would say this is because it’s most likely assumed that women have children at home and that’s why they can’t accommodate. Obviously this won’t be all women but it’s a logical assumption to make

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Welcome to Double Standards Fab…..

Men and women are different so how is it a double standard?"

The double standard applies to married women playing away being more acceptable than a married man playing away. In this regard, men and women are indeed, very different...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Perhaps playing devil’s advocate, but if you don’t know and it’s a one off meet, is there really a problem? "

Yes if they've lied to and deceived me .I don't want to meet someome playing away and when someone lies they take away that choice.

I always ask people as its important to me

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Absolute bollocks, some of us are sluts with morals who don’t want to hurt other women. That, and I don’t want an angry wife on my doorstep, I avoid drama at all costs. "

Nothing wrong with being a slut with morals, sadly not enough with morals nowadays whether it be sluts, men or women or whatever else anyone decides to be now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surprising how many can accommodate... And then that turns out to be whilst the wife is at work

Yup. Honestly I don't care if someone is married or partnered ..... its their life and their choice. But it's also my life and choice to not want to fuck them so please give me the respect and don't lie to me just to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from any moral consideration there is always the danger of repercussions if the cheated partner finds out.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?

I don't know but what i do know is that the guys'pretending' to be single are spoiling things for the genuine single guys.

A lot of women/couples see single on a guys profile and automatically equate that to ' married man playing behind the wifes back' so instantly lose interest.

Sorry but disagree, what I do wouldn't effect your chances on here, same as your actions wouldn't effect me.

If anything it would be the other way around.

The truth is lots of people on here assume and judge before knowing facts. You say your single but people don't believe you, chances are this is because they have assumed your not single.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

"I'm married but have permission to be here.

The double standards on here amaze me sometimes, if a single guy cannot accommodate hes married and cheating, if a woman cannot accommodate then it's fine.

Fantastic general statement that women are likely to have children at home hence not accomodating.

I'm assuming the same logic applied to men is they are obviously married so cannot accommodate

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By *oliteguyMan
over a year ago

Melksham

I’m married and have it on my profile. I have my reasons for being on here and no my wife doesn’t know. I’m more of a voyeur so only go for light touching and love to cum over ladies.

However I like to be upfront with potential meets which is why I have it on here. Then it’s up to the couple of they want to meet me. I realise it cuts a huge amount of people out, but that’s fine.

I even leave my ring on when going to clubs, and couples will often ask about it when we are chatting.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Absolute bollocks, some of us are sluts with morals who don’t want to hurt other women. That, and I don’t want an angry wife on my doorstep, I avoid drama at all costs. "

This exactly. I’ve had enough drama in my life I don’t want someone else’s on my doorstep.

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

lol Does it matter?

I'm divorced and now single for 4 years. Never worried me whether the other person is Married or Single as I've never been on a Dating site.

Dating sites I should imagine it Might be more important but Swinger sites I really don't see there being a problem.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Want to fuck them not marry them.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

I'm guessing there are also married ladies too.

It's not a problem ever I guess not being honest is.And I could tell you a tale about being contacted on here by the wife

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By *ob357Man
over a year ago

Oswestry

Married, separated, occasionally we drift back but it never works

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By *ensualpleasures69Man
over a year ago

leeds

You’ll find the married ones during the day at clubs.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

What? People on here say they are single when they are not? I am shocked! Truly shocked I tell you

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By *linyMan
over a year ago

Manchester/London

Wedding ring tan lines give them away! I’ve never been married although I was engaged until she cheated. Happily single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married here looking for a discrete female friend

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"What? People on here say they are single when they are not? I am shocked! Truly shocked I tell you

Yerz... Single and "Straight" apparently... Double shocker!

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Mr Hayes.

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By *ersephoneHadesCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Fed up of seeing the “holier than thou” comments or “people have their reasons” to justify cheating, or those who come off as bragging about cheating or being the other person. Sorry but there just isn’t an excuse.

The key part of swinging or kink is CONSENT and the wife/husband/partner at home who is in the dark about all of this clearly hasn’t consented to their partner going behind their backs or risking STIs without their knowledge.

Your sexless relationship is no excuse to betray someone who loves you, grow the hell up and communicate, get couples therapy or have the decency to break up with them so they can find someone better.

Why does it matter if meeting a cheater? Because you are knowingly doing it without the consent of the other partner and willingly engaging with a confirmed asshole which should be the mother of unattractive traits.

Swinging to us is an ultimate sign of trust, intimacy and consent. So yes I’m judging as I think about all the partners that have no idea what the people who supposedly love and cherish them are doing behind there backs. Show me one good justification for being so cruel go on…

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By *cepuncMan
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

27,548

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By *rankW101Man
over a year ago

Malton

"We genuinely couldn’t care less. If someone is married and chooses to play on here that’s their decision. Their relationship isnt our issue. We find married guys less complicated "

True, both ways.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

"Fed up of seeing the “holier than thou” comments or “people have their reasons” to justify cheating, or those who come off as bragging about cheating or being the other person. Sorry but there just isn’t an excuse.

And that's your take on the swinging scene, however one thing I've learnt in all the years I've been on the scene and that is everybody has their own way of doing things. I.e. you think consent (I assume in this context you mean permission to play) is the key part of swinging where as others it might be the idea of a large dick. Some people care if someone is married or not some couldn't give a fuck, just like some people only play with professional couples as opposed to amateur couples (whatever that actually means)

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

There is no option for 'married man but wife doesn't play'. I think you have to just select 'single male'. I don't have a problem with married men as long as their wife is aware of what they are doing (I do know this exists).

Luna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women claim to be single on here but are married too, but dont here anything about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This one is definitely single!

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I'm lucky because I'm married and he's fully aware of my lifestyle. I still put single as he doesn't join,but explain my situation fairly early on. My guestimate re married ppls in general... 80%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and yeah Im definitely single no if's or but's about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many supposedly single men on here do you think are married and their wives do not know.. or visa versa?"

Probably most men especially if you read can’t accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my experience there is also a fair amount of men from couples profiles trying to be fly and meet alone.

We’ve had that a few times. Messages from a couple’s profile but the wife is working away or busy or visiting a sick relative and she doesn’t mind if he plays on his own!"

Omg this has happened to us on many occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But also you have couple profiles that are 90% controlled by men most likely to be single

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By *eastJrMan
over a year ago

London

It is irrelevant. If a man presents himself as single, that's all you need to know. No one owes anyone an explanation on here.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I used to have more success when I was married, technically I still am as the divorce hasn't been completed yet, than I do as a single and can now accommodate. I always informed those I was going to meet, pre social or meet. Very few were bothered by it.

I've never judged, not being a hypocrite but I have chatted to and met several women that were married. A couple of them never informed me until after we met/played. But it will always be the married male that will be vilified. I was in a sexless and emotionless marriage until I did something about it. There are many reasons people 'play away'. People will always judge, as is their prerogative.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"It is irrelevant. If a man presents himself as single, that's all you need to know. No one owes anyone an explanation on here."

They really do! I definitely don’t want to be an accessory to someone’s infidelity and deceit!

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Ha! I’m a married man who’s married but……………………………………….

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

I’ve always been upfront about my relationship status, almost anyway lol

I once didn’t tell a girl I met out and we had a lingering goodbye kiss and texted for a week or so. I told her when we met for coffee and she was a bit pissed (oddly enough) but that was that.

She’s actually an internationally known person in the fashion industry and she added me on LinkedIn after that so I guess I’m forgiven

Of course that has cost me hook ups but wouldn’t be worth the potential fall out of a woman scorned (or misled)

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Never seen anything more untrue in my life… hilarious

No cheating men cos i have standards I won’t drop just to get laid on a sex site lol. This is the last place I’d look for a partner, if I actually wanted one!

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Eleventy seven percent give or take.

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By *ickingdelightMan
over a year ago

Cotswolds

I’m on a single account as I’m married and playing on my own. With full awareness and approval from my wife. I’m fully open on my profile too.

Yes I’ve not had meets due to it but happily be true and honest than lie plus the ring gives it away…

Been challenged in past why I don’t have couples account, and main reason is she isn’t playing currently so as far as this site is concerned it’s a single meet.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

So far I have met two "single" ladies on here who where both married. one told me after and I was miffed a tad as she was not honest in the 1st place and the other one told me at a social that she was in a sexless marriage but couldn't financially leave as they had kids! I was Ok with the 2nd as she was honest and gave me a choise.

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By *eteranSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol, Spain

Probably at least 50%

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By *orfolk777Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Not me, 100% single here

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to have more success when I was married, technically I still am as the divorce hasn't been completed yet, than I do as a single and can now accommodate. I always informed those I was going to meet, pre social or meet. Very few were bothered by it.

It's not about judging, a random married man on here isnt that important tbh. For me its restrictions, skullduggery and being his 'dirty little secret'. I want people who i can socialise without having to cross county borders, who can do overnights and spontaneous meets and I dont want to be always having to fit around his agenda. That's not judging or moralistic its practicality.

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By *urge72Man
over a year ago

oxfordshire & Hull

Everybody has their reasons and motives for being on here. And I will not judge, especially if I have not walked in their shoes and know the full story.

What I do think is important is that people can make an informed decision - so be honest with your profile. People who don't have an issue getting involved with a married person can, and those that want to stay clear can avoid......and should be able to do so without being screamed at for turning the individual down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im definitely not married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am separated for almost 1 year

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Yup, Im married and playing alone and display it on my profile and yes I have a conscience and yes I struggle with the morals of my behvious. Please feel free to walk the last 15 yrs in my shoes and earn the right to judge me otherwise just pass me by

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

all those saying they wont play with married sorry but you proberly already have and will do again ...people lie some are terrible at it but some are very good and will fool you ...

it the same with couples who wont play with bi guys erm 100% sure you have you just dont know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a tell-tell sign of a trap queen when they say no married men. They are not here for fun they are looking for a partner.

Or they don't want to meet a lying cheater!

Yup what she said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all those saying they wont play with married sorry but you proberly already have and will do again ...people lie some are terrible at it but some are very good and will fool you ...

it the same with couples who wont play with bi guys erm 100% sure you have you just dont know it

Exactly. I fail to see it as an issue, men being married and playing with others. Their business is exactly that, their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup, Im married and playing alone and display it on my profile and yes I have a conscience and yes I struggle with the morals of my behvious. Please feel free to walk the last 15 yrs in my shoes and earn the right to judge me otherwise just pass me by

This is why married men are fine with me. This guy has clearly had a rough ride, and maybe swinging is his way of being someone else, creating a nicer world for himself?

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By *urge72Man
over a year ago

oxfordshire & Hull

This is why married men are fine with me. This guy has clearly had a rough ride, and maybe swinging is his way of being someone else, creating a nicer world for himself? "

This is why I am also open on my profile. Our stories are personal, but at least we are honest about our status and allow people make an informed decision.

I also respect someones choice if they do not want to go with me, based upon my status.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"But also you have couple profiles that are 90% controlled by men most likely to be single "

Some might be not the ones with veris (especially relatively recent veris and pics). In many cases the ladies can't be arsed with it and the man does the Fabmin. Comes across lots and lots of real couples like this.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

"I mention it in my profile - is about respect for people's preferences and I'd be a terrible lier so what's the point trying?? "

Well if we could read your profile would be good

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I'd say there's more couple profiles that are just run by men pretending to be a couple

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Definitely single ,own home ,and can accommodate anytime ,although it's brought me no luck on here what so ever .

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

It’s more dealing with a lunatic partner that finds out .. I have met women that turned out not to be single and ended up with agro from the fella and other way round.

No one wants to end up in a fight over some casual fucks other half you never knew even existed .

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"I don’t know but the married ones need to step this way

Great comment! Wish I was closer!

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By *aptain19725Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I'm married but have permission to be here.

The double standards on here amaze me sometimes, if a single guy cannot accommodate hes married and cheating, if a woman cannot accommodate then it's fine.

Sadly some people love to jump to conclusions and label people. You’d think a swingers site would be really open minded but it’s quite the opposite "

Absolutely agree with this

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