FabSwingers.com forum: For single guys?

By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?

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By *oody177Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

No. Struggling.

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"No. Struggling. "

Definitely. No one seems to even give a chance

Just get ignored

What's the secret?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Maybe would be easier for everyone if people actually show up when they commit to meeting.

Too many no show stories on here recently, of all groups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a profile picture helps, doesn't have to be a face picture.

When you message mention something on their profile to get initial attention as most women and couples receive hundreds of messages a day so making yours stand out in the first place helps.

From there just make sure it's something relevant and probably don't send a dick pic

All that said success rate still isn't always high haha

Good luck and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, neither of you have any pictures visible on your profiles and both have the black silhouette profile pic.

If you read through some of the countless 'profile advice' threads in the 'Swinging Suport' forum you'll find a lot of helpful advice. You'll also notice how many people say the same thing about profiles with no pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Struggling to find someone whose interested.

I'm a genuine guy and not a time waster.

I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and polite with rejections

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

So easy. I’m inundated and need to hire a PA

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Totally agree , no pics or lack of info I delete

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Lucky you

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"No. Struggling.

Definitely. No one seems to even give a chance

Just get ignored

What's the secret?"

The secret is to only ever message people that are definitely atttacted to you and looking for the same things you are

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

*attracted

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

"Lucky you "

I was joking by the way…

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Go to a club or social

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Lol ah I see …

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Travelling

About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

Also as for messaging, I’ve always read the profile first so I can include something from their profile however 9/10 times I’ve read it for nothing because “ they have blocked males from contacting them “ now I just click message before reading the profile to check.. I’ve found out that been nice doesn’t really get you anywhere anymore just either blocked or ignored and deleted.

Couples are a gold mine and so are woman because they have the pick of the bunch. I’ve always said there should be an additional site that helps the genuine blokes. So if your a couple or female your joining to meet a male… I don’t see why that can’t be done they have done it for gay bi men called fab guys so why not something for the men that allows us to meet couples and female?

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

It's as difficult as you make it. A bit of decency and effort go a long way

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Maybe would be easier for everyone if people actually show up when they commit to meeting.

Too many no show stories on here recently, of all groups."

I haven't even got to meeting stage yet?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn’t say struggling … but then again I’m not trying either

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Not all of us are tarnishing men with the same brush at all , for me its just being cautious on here and choosing very carefully, because there have been to many fake profiles and time wasters sadly

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"To be fair, neither of you have any pictures visible on your profiles and both have the black silhouette profile pic.

Is this not about looking beyond. I attach a photo withh my initial message anyway

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Not all of us are tarnishing men with the same brush at all , for me its just being cautious on here and choosing very carefully, because there have been to many fake profiles and time wasters sadly"

If you're interested, would you message guys?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never had issues getting meets. I had my first meet 6 weeks after joining 6 years ago.

My secret is that I put all the effort into my pics and bio and I haven't sent a first contact message in more than 3 years.

Every conversation in that time has been started by others messaging me because they like my profile or something I've said on the forums.

I don't meet very often and am fussy about who I meet so I never compromise.

That means I've turned down more offers to meet than I've accepted.

The only secret is being myself and people appreciate that.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"so why not something for the men that allows us to meet couples and female?"

Er, I think you are on it.

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By *inkykittypleaserMan
over a year ago

London

From my experience got to be out of the ordinary and not mess people about , put yourself in the lady’s position she has tens of msgs if not hundreds a day stand out bro !!

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By *inkykittypleaserMan
over a year ago

London

And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …"

I send the pics with my initial message

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

Is that not the site you are already on?

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Yes i would , also if they arnt for me i tell them politely as well , common courtesy for me anyway

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've never had issues getting meets. I had my first meet 6 weeks after joining 6 years ago.

My secret is that I put all the effort into my pics and bio and I haven't sent a first contact message in more than 3 years.

Every conversation in that time has been started by others messaging me because they like my profile or something I've said on the forums.

I don't meet very often and am fussy about who I meet so I never compromise.

That means I've turned down more offers to meet than I've accepted.

The only secret is being myself and people appreciate that. "

Useful to know thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

Quite the opposite, finding it very difficult with a variety of techniques. Face photos, body photos, no photos, meet now, meet later, social first, dinner.

How are we to know what you want If your profile is blank.

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Your right us fems do get a lot of messages

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message "

Most people look at the profile before even opening the message and if they don't see anything of interest may never open the message at all.

You have a blank shop window and you are expecting people to do all the hard work and come inside to see what you are selling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely not the easiest way to meet people, however it is a good way to contact people you have met out at a club or social event.

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"so why not something for the men that allows us to meet couples and female?

Er, I think you are on it."

I think he means what I wrote. Basically what I meant by that was a site that is more in favour of the males so if a couple join it’s sold to meet males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult for men and women.

The difference is women will only message guys that are actually their type, for me this isn't even one a week. Not even one a month to be honest.

For men this is every woman in a 100mile radius.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message "

A lot of people will look at the profile before opening the message, and they’ll see the sender of the message has no profile picture.

If there is no profile pic and no pictures visible on the profile then many will delete. Why open the message when the attachment could be an unsolicited dick pic.

I will send a pic with a message, but I still have pictures on my profile so that people can get an idea of who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the best tbh. I need to go to clubs or social events but none are daytime or local

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Not the best tbh. I need to go to clubs or social events but none are daytime or local

The struggle is real

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

We are all finding it hard to get a meet up not just single men

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message "

Sending pictures in a message is completely irrelevant to me. I look at a profile before I even open a message if there are no public pics I delete the message unread usually. Mainly because they have cheated through my filters but also because I can't be bothered anymore replying to people who don't make even the minimum effort with their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, neither of you have any pictures visible on your profiles and both have the black silhouette profile pic.

I agree with this

Basically you get out what you put in

Ive never had an issue getting meets.

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

Read people's profiles before you message. If its clear you aren't compatible, don't message.

And as others have said, pictures go.a long way. So many face pics look miserable. Noone seems to smile in face pics.

Once the profile is appealing, I'll reply and look for a social but the opening message needs to be better than the generic "I'm looking for a fwb" or "hi" etc. Everyone says the same things.

And from that, it's patience. It's gonna be hard. But you can give yourself a good start with your profile.

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By *arklong88Man
over a year ago

Portslade/porthmadog

It's always been hard for guys,but also alot of couples are mainly just men..so in reality there actually aren't that many couples that play.

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By *exyBums22Couple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Yeah it mostly comes down to little to no effort with profiles and messages.

You have to approach with respect and decorum. And then even in the face of rejection, remain polite and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

Learn how to bake a cake, you’ll be sorted

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

You said the magic word , respect goes a long way for me to

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By *amRod64Man
over a year ago

Gravesend

Have in the past. Not for a while….

Don’t let it get you down, enjoy life for what it offers, even if City win the treble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You said the magic word , respect goes a long way for me to"

Cheesecake and respect, deadly combination

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Omg yes indeed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Omg yes indeed lol

My fave too

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"No. Struggling.

Definitely. No one seems to even give a chance

Just get ignored

What's the secret?

The secret is to only ever message people that are definitely atttacted to you and looking for the same things you are

Believe me I don't message everyone.

And each message is unique too.

Hopefully I'll get some sympathy from folks on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, neither of you have any pictures visible on your profiles and both have the black silhouette profile pic.

Is this not about looking beyond. I attach a photo withh my initial message anyway "

The problem with that is that anyone who you message will check out your profile before they even consider reading what you've sent them - and in most cases if they see a silhouette profile pic, most will likely delete it straight away.

Most women and many couples view in

mode, so you won't even know they've looked at your profile.

The other problem with your reasoning, I'm afraid, is down to numbers.

Single men outnumber women and couples on fab by over 100 to 1.

Put yourself in their position.

You receive 100s of messages per day.

Most of those are from people who have pictures on their profiles and who have decent bios - which mention what they're looking for and what they have to offer.

Now think about those who take your view about looking beyond.

Why should they?

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Have in the past. Not for a while….

Don’t let it get you down, enjoy life for what it offers, even if City win the treble! "

Thank you.

I'll keep trying

I think once people get to know me,the will realise I'm ok. I think it'd just the initial ice breaker that's the challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

Completely agree on all points. This is also my exact experience on here over the last several years too unfortunately. Good idea too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's difficult for men and women.

The difference is women will only message guys that are actually their type, for me this isn't even one a week. Not even one a month to be honest.

For men this is every woman in a 100mile radius.

Er, not all of us do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message

Nail and head.

There you go OP, you've heard it from your target audience.

Take heed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site really doesn't work for single guys anymore tbh. I've all but abandoned hope of meeting on here, despite following all advice. There's more to my life and other avenues of exploration that are more fruitful without the rudeness.

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

Pretty easy TBF.

But I have been on/off for nearly 10yrs.

Ain't got much spare time at the moment,So been having meets with friends every so often.Or the odd take away & sofa night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

I’ve met many single guys.

I would delete your message without even reading it because you are just a shadow. You don’t need a face picture as a profile picture but you do need a picture.

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

If they are rude , why would you want to meet them in the 1st place ?

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

It takes a lot of time energy and effort to get going. Took me two years. Now I turn down far more than I except. Poor input will result in poor output as in most things in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

As a couple looking for a single male, the best advice that we can give is; Read the profile; approach people as you would in public; Have standards; expect standards; take your time and put effort into your approach.

Most males that approach us want a shag, they want it now with minimal effort! They all get blocked and then wonder why they aren't doing any good!

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By *rDxxMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

The problem isn't getting to chat the problem is to keep their intrst going, if you can't hold a conversation and you talk like every other guy they get spammed off they lose interest and move on , be chatty ,make an effort make a connection be your self ,dont go all in with a dp saying you want to drink their bath water or anything like that ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s easier meeting a dinosaur than getting one on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience the more local the better, within 20 miles otherwise a bit hit and miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met a few people

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By *lippersXXXMan
over a year ago

North Central london

Promises Promises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to socials.

Take part on the forum.

Make an effort.

Be yourself.

Have fun.

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

Wise (& old) enough to appreciate that no one on here (male, female or couples) have the given right to assume people will fall at their feet

It may be a frustration, but so is life

And as, (in my opinion) one of the greatest singer-songwriter would say: -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gphB32RygPk

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"In my experience the more local the better, within 20 miles otherwise a bit hit and miss"

Useful to know

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"The site really doesn't work for single guys anymore tbh. I've all but abandoned hope of meeting on here, despite following all advice. There's more to my life and other avenues of exploration that are more fruitful without the rudeness. "

I did have one meet and age seems lovely.

Guess you clicked with her

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

simple maths is all you need view the site as if there are only 100 women and 100 couples and 5.000 men do the maths there is simple not one for everyone add in the attraction / and like a billity and the % percentage fall way way lower ...it really not rocket science hence those that put the effort in are the one who will likely get meets whiles many wont simply because the numbers are not there in the first place ..

add into that the 100s of men who join daily /weekly compared to women and couples and that gulf will only grow bigger...

see people always say there someone for everyone but on this scene there clearly are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message

Nail and head.

There you go OP, you've heard it from your target audience.

Take heed"

Profile pic is a cock? And many people don't want to see cock by way of introduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here 4 months and still havent met anyone so yeah its hard

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone "

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

4 months is nothing patience guys , trust is a big thing

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message

Nail and head.

There you go OP, you've heard it from your target audience.

Take heed

Profile pic is a cock? And many people don't want to see cock by way of introduction

no ... just because a few moan about cock pics does not mean we are all the same people forget how tiny these forum are compared to the rest of fab ..the forum are not the rule book they are not the judge they are mearly a tiny tiny part of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No very difficult to get a meet even a reply

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think "

i think having no profile pic will make alot of people move on i wont waste my time with a profile that has no pics why should i

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By *ewbietarnMan
over a year ago

barnsley

What I have found is guys are pushy and rude that’s me been honest and guys throw the dummy out when they don’t get a reply or get a no thank you .

If your message is deleted they ain’t interested

If your message is left unread whilst they are online they ain’t interested

If your message is read and no reply not interested…….

Don’t keep bombarding them with messages etc but if it’s a couple don’t be all for the woman … you may be straight but surely you can appreciate a guy who’s got a good body or decent cock . Can you imagain how you would feel if you was a couple and someone only addressed the woman. Telling a guy he’s got a great cock or great figure doesn’t mean you’re gay it shows you are comfortable with your sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message

Nail and head.

There you go OP, you've heard it from your target audience.

Take heed

Profile pic is a cock? And many people don't want to see cock by way of introduction

Well said

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think

i think having no profile pic will make alot of people move on i wont waste my time with a profile that has no pics why should i "

What does a profile of a cock pic help ?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Very hard but then again I'm from limerick so in general its very hard to meet women here

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think

i think having no profile pic will make alot of people move on i wont waste my time with a profile that has no pics why should i

What does a profile of a cock pic help ?"

proves he has a nice cock or not at the very least

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think

i think having no profile pic will make alot of people move on i wont waste my time with a profile that has no pics why should i

What does a profile of a cock pic help ?

proves he has a nice cock or not at the very least

Lol

Some things waiting for

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think

i think having no profile pic will make alot of people move on i wont waste my time with a profile that has no pics why should i

What does a profile of a cock pic help ?

proves he has a nice cock or not at the very least

Lol

Some things waiting for

oh no lol i like to see the goods first ive walked away before and its not a size thing

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By *ot_Guy999Man
over a year ago

Close by...

Just chill, chat, find someone you click with. Don't place pressure on hunting a meet out, you'll ruin the vibe man :p

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

"Yes i would , also if they arnt for me i tell them politely as well , common courtesy for me anyway "

If only everyone was like this

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

"Yes i would , also if they arnt for me i tell them politely as well , common courtesy for me anyway

If only everyone was like this "

Manners cost nothing , but i know a lot of people dont have them sadly

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

My (incredible humorous - modesty not withstanding! lol ) messages get lost in amongst all the rest

So if you guys could just refrain from sending any for a while, I may have a chance!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

Completely agree on all points. This is also my exact experience on here over the last several years too unfortunately. Good idea too.

An additional site?

How would that be any different?

There are filters on Fab and an advanced search system so you can target only those people looking for single guys, tick a box to make sure you meet the 'loose' filters they may have applied in terms of age, location, sexuality, interests, verification status and whether you have photos on display.

There are plenty of couples looking to meet single guys on here.

We look at profiles before reading messages received. We browse ourselves to try to ensure we engage with those we may be interested in and attracted to. To do that we look at photos AND the words written in profiles. We actually send messages out ourselves too.

Another site would just be a duplication of Fab. Pointless. Couples looking just for other couples or women don't affe t single guys experiences of Fab one bit. Likewise women looking for couples. Just pretend they don't exist.

And if you think that any other man's actions, messages, behaviour or profile affects any other man's life on Fab then I have a bridge to sell you.

Everyone is individual and nobody tars all guys with the same brush. If you come across negatively, behave with any sense of expectation, interact in a way that puts people off- then that reflects on you. Nobody else.

There are no end of guys on Fab enjoying life, meeting regularly and using the site tools to enhance their chances of finding suitable company.

There are also plenty with a lack of respect, unrealistic expectations of what the site can do for them and a negative attitude that causes people to dive for the block button.

Every guy can choose with of the above they'd like to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

Completely agree on all points. This is also my exact experience on here over the last several years too unfortunately. Good idea too.

An additional site?

How would that be any different?

There are plenty of couples looking to meet single guys on here.

And if you think that any other man's actions, messages, behaviour or profile affects any other man's life on Fab then I have a bridge to sell you.

There are no end of guys on Fab enjoying life, meeting regularly and using the site tools to enhance their chances of finding suitable company.

There are also plenty with a lack of respect, unrealistic expectations of what the site can do for them and a negative attitude that causes people to dive for the block button.

Every guy can choose with of the above they'd like to be.

A"
preach.

Although I like to imagine that my dickishness helps show others an even better light. It's my way of giving back to society and what im gonna bring up at the pearly gates.

I'm then gonna be sent downstairs coz I'm gonna make a pearly necklace joke.

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message

Nail and head.

There you go OP, you've heard it from your target audience.

Take heed

Profile pic is a cock? And many people don't want to see cock by way of introduction

I get replies and I also get people making the first move and contacting me.

Got some interaction going and making connections but yeah, OK

You're asking why you're getting nowhere, being given a lot of very good advice and your response is to take none of it on board and criticise others.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Ive had meets and I've had those that wanted to chat. I can take it or leave it. I find just be yourself. No need to be disrespectful to anyone if you get a no or don't hear anything back from messages. Use the site often and you will find your profile will show up more in local searches and updates. Use the forums and chat rooms with light hearted banter. That's how most of the meets or socials Ive had have come about. I've also made some very good friends along the way.

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Ive had meets and I've had those that wanted to chat. I can take it or leave it. I find just be yourself. No need to be disrespectful to anyone if you get a no or don't hear anything back from messages. Use the site often and you will find your profile will show up more in local searches and updates. Use the forums and chat rooms with light hearted banter. That's how most of the meets or socials Ive had have come about. I've also made some very good friends along the way. "

Thank you. useful advice

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message

Nail and head.

There you go OP, you've heard it from your target audience.

Take heed

Profile pic is a cock? And many people don't want to see cock by way of introduction

I get replies and I also get people making the first move and contacting me.

Got some interaction going and making connections but yeah, OK

You're asking why you're getting nowhere, being given a lot of very good advice and your response is to take none of it on board and criticise others.

It's Conversation. Two way open discussion. I haven't criticized anyone.

In fact I respect everyone that has chipped into this conversation

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"My (incredible humorous - modesty not withstanding! lol ) messages get lost in amongst all the rest

So if you guys could just refrain from sending any for a while, I may have a chance!

Haha yes give others a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not the best tbh. I need to go to clubs or social events but none are daytime or local

The struggle is real "

Yeah it’s not easy. Single straight guys have it the worst

I think socials and clubs are the best way to meet up. Wish there was more of them

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Just chill, chat, find someone you click with. Don't place pressure on hunting a meet out, you'll ruin the vibe man :p "

That's true.

Aim for a conversation. genuine conversation to get to know and the rest will follow , if it doesn't that's still good

That's solid advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem isn't getting to chat the problem is to keep their intrst going, if you can't hold a conversation and you talk like every other guy they get spammed off they lose interest and move on , be chatty ,make an effort make a connection be your self ,dont go all in with a dp saying you want to drink their bath water or anything like that ,

This has been standard advice for years and I follow it all the time, but it's very very rare to get conversation to a point where a woman wants to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A reply would be progress ha ha

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It is possible to get meets and there are some lovely folks on here. Send a decent first message and make an effort. Be respectful and address any messages to both in the case of a couple. Dont expect immediate replies fab is often just an add on to people's ordinary lives. Once you get a few veries and people know you are reliable then things become easier. Dint just treat fab as a way to get a quickie. That's my two penneth worth. Good luck

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

It's not easy granted but the information is there for you to follow.... So here's something coming in from left field.... FOLLOW IT!

Profile picture, be polite, turn up for meets, strike up a repour.

There's a big wide world out there past your doorstep and it's yours if you want it.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

And there's a lot of pics hunters or people who want to talk. Not gen meetings. At least 85%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not easy granted but the information is there for you to follow.... So here's something coming in from left field.... FOLLOW IT!

Profile picture, be polite, turn up for meets, strike up a repour.

There's a big wide world out there past your doorstep and it's yours if you want it. "

This

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

100% agree with this , I do the exact same , used to get a reply , even if it's a sorry no thanks but as you said now its just a delete or block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I will Agree though a picture will get you further , I'm more likely to respond to a picture rather than a silhouette because of the amount of fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m struggling to meet on here x I’d 100% show up and not ghost anyone x I’ll either get no reply or instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not easy granted but the information is there for you to follow.... So here's something coming in from left field.... FOLLOW IT!

Profile picture, be polite, turn up for meets, strike up a repour.

There's a big wide world out there past your doorstep and it's yours if you want it. "

Lol

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I've never had issues getting meets. I had my first meet 6 weeks after joining 6 years ago.

My secret is that I put all the effort into my pics and bio and I haven't sent a first contact message in more than 3 years.

Every conversation in that time has been started by others messaging me because they like my profile or something I've said on the forums.

I don't meet very often and am fussy about who I meet so I never compromise.

That means I've turned down more offers to meet than I've accepted.

The only secret is being myself and people appreciate that. "

Absolutely spot on

Put the effort in OP and be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Becoming almost pointless lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to meet people

If anyone would give me some feedback it would be appreciated

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By *hanfunnew OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I struggle to meet people

If anyone would give me some feedback it would be appreciated "

It's the case for most people, no matter what you do

Some people will advice you to do this, but that would be something done people won't like etc etc

Just best to be yourself

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Pretty easy tbh.

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By *eneralM04Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Maybe would be easier for everyone if people actually show up when they commit to meeting.

Too many no show stories on here recently, of all groups."

You right about that as I met a lady and all she said was that single guys don’t commit to meetings as they have so much options…

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"No. Struggling.

Definitely. No one seems to even give a chance

Just get ignored

What's the secret?"

Meet as the person you are in your profile. If you’re a couple say you’re a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men dont have options like women do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Struggling to get responses. The people that to respond do it with a "No thank you." which I am satisfied with.

But the ones that are annoying those that do respond and want to meet and eventually just ghost. Another ones are just the spontaneous ones. "Hey come over right now" like I got nothing better to do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same as most hard to get a reply most the time guess its good no not alone

Just shows that having profile pic doesn't do the deal. Like some people seem to think

i think having no profile pic will make alot of people move on i wont waste my time with a profile that has no pics why should i

What does a profile of a cock pic help ?

proves he has a nice cock or not at the very least

Lol

Some things waiting for

oh no lol i like to see the goods first ive walked away before and its not a size thing

Ouch I’d hate to be that guy that’s fair. I have mine on my friends only

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By *lubchuckerMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

Nope,almost impossible.

I get very few views or winks and even less messages. I always try to be polite and curtious if i contact other members yet still get no acknowledgement or interest.

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By *aughtyone81Man
over a year ago

wirral

Over the past 10 plus years I've been on & off fab I have been quite lucky. Can't complain i can have it most days off a regular if wanted

I've met quite a few over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are all finding it hard to get a meet up not just single men

with the people you want *

Couples and women have the pick of the litter.

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By *en ukMan
over a year ago

harrow London

For me, as a single man, it is much easier to meet women and couples at the swinger club, on the other hand, there I am on the chat and I have met very serious people, but I have also met couples who have arranged different meetings and they have not responded or made me I leave at the appointed time without answering the phone, waste of time. I had quite nice experiences here on fabswinger in gangbang, MMMF, MMF but as a single man it is much easier to introduce yourself in swinger clubs

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

"How are you finding it here to get a meet?

Is it easy for you?"

Its an absolute doddle!

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’m struggling to meet on here x I’d 100% show up and not ghost anyone x I’ll either get no reply or instant block "

Your profile is hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys do really well others don't

The proof is in the pudding those that succeed have great profiles and can hold a conversation

Those that don't tend to fail on here.

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By *hirdTimesACharmCouple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

To the guys saying they’re struggling who also have 2 lines written in their bio, and no pics on their profile, what on earth do you expect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree , no pics or lack of info I delete "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have 2 lines on my profile and got pictures

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"To the guys saying they’re struggling who also have 2 lines written in their bio, and no pics on their profile, what on earth do you expect?"

Exactly, zero effort=zero results!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By technicality I'm a single male and I'm finding it super easy on here.

Although being a femboy has probably helped with that honestly

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"And maybe have some decent public pics or at least something …

I send the pics with my initial message "

A lot of people read the profile first, a shadow avatar is an instant delete.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"so why not something for the men that allows us to meet couples and female?

Er, I think you are on it.

I think he means what I wrote. Basically what I meant by that was a site that is more in favour of the males so if a couple join it’s sold to meet males "

A quick search for couples.looking for males will give you all the results you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 2 years ago this site used to be really good for getting a meet. Now it’s a lot harder, people are tarnishing all males with the same brush.. just because of the mess arounds.

So you want a site were men can meet couples and woman? That's what fab is lol

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