FabSwingers.com forum: Couples soft swap?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap?

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By *ixey and CopperCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Doesn't put us off, we love it...that's why we love clubs so much

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No, lots of us are soft swap. Just be clear in your intentions, we've had meets where the guy literally just wanted to watch but didn't say so.

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By *iot58Couple
over a year ago

Southampton

We just go with the flow, Full swap or Soft swap both lots of fun.

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By *oshnbex30Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We have only done soft ffmm we’re the ladies have played with Eachother and the guys have played with own partners.

We are very much quality over quantity

We just haven’t met the right couple we are 100% comfortable to go further with

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We've played this way in the past and enjoyed it!

M and M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what we're looking for now. Couples but FF play only (or same partner)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s what we’re after initially x finding a couple who’s needs/wants align with ours is proving tricky

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By *oshnbex30Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"It’s what we’re after initially x finding a couple who’s needs/wants align with ours is proving tricky"

We found it really hard to start with but most people are really understanding

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We are a soft swap couple and have always enjoyed our encounters.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Doesn't put me off, tbh if we met a couple I think I'd be more comfortable with soft swap first however we're still in that place of struggling to find 4 way attraction especially since you can't see half the men.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't put me off, tbh if we met a couple I think I'd be more comfortable with soft swap first however we're still in that place of struggling to find 4 way attraction especially since you can't see half the men.

Mrs "

Agree 90% of other couples it's all about the women of the couple. Maybe 1 dick pic in there, but that's about it.

Couple profiles when they are looking for other couples and single females, should have plenty of pictures of them both.

Full swap for us. Have done soft swap, much prefer full swap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s the way me and J would like to be introduced to swinging.

We have done soft swap with friends before and really enjoyed it for a while.

Unfortunately we fell out as they could not handle the feelings they experienced towards us or each other (he developed very strong feelings towards J, J didn’t feel the same, he then admitted to his wife those feelings)

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

I don't think we would meet JUST for exhibition/voyeurism, but soft swap can be great fun.

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By *ymparaCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

No at all, that's definitely the way we would start with newly meet couple.

But it's all about people and how you get along together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it puts us right off. We want to actually swing and have fun with other partners as opposed to just watching people have sex.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Wouldn't bother us at all. So long as everyone's having a good time

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not at all

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Not really, it’s our goto!

We have always said if we get to know a couple and really bond and it’s mutual then we wound consider more but we prefer to have no expectation of full and if it leads to more then so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

Actually for us no but lots do tell us it’s not enough for them, but each to their own

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By *arah SimpsonCouple
over a year ago

London

Love soft stuff

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By *uxuriantCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall

We love soft swap with couples. Can be more relaxed and fun as less pressure for all round Chemistry.

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By *umplayerMan
over a year ago

Chester

This is what me and my wife are looking for as a way of dipping our toes into this lifestyle

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Happy for soft swap unless the other couple expect girl on girl because thats not soft swapping or anything we would be interested in.

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By *ilesandMaryCouple
over a year ago

Cawston

We are go with the flow soft swing developing into swapping if it happens it happens,don't like to plan it but instead love the sexual build up and excitement

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By *xxpineapplexxXCouple
over a year ago

Dorking

We are always happy for that!

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

Love it more in a club than couple meeting couple

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By *uicyJoannaWoman
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Group preferably.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mrs "

We've noticed not many pictures of the guys in couples profiles, although tried to do some ourselves

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Seems our kinda thread

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We would prefer soft play/swap but that’s not to say if the situation arises and it felt right we would not go further

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Still all good fun isn’t it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is about what is right for you at the time... watching and being watched can be a real turn on and soft swap can go on for hours...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we love that kind of meet.

Sher is a voyeur and exhibitionist but won't swap so I respect that and enjoy her showing off

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We are by default normally soft swap (on the rare occasion with the right people things naturally drift into full swap). We've had some absolutely brilliant and hot soft swap encounters. There's plenty others out there the same. You wont have any problems finding what you want, especially in the club environment. The main thing is to play by what you feel comfortable with. In our personal experience what you do or don't do with others is generally more a matter of chemistry, situation and vibe than anything else. And soft swap can be just as hot as full swap with the right people.

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"We have only done soft ffmm we’re the ladies have played with Eachother and the guys have played with own partners.

We are very much quality over quantity

We just haven’t met the right couple we are 100% comfortable to go further with "

We’re new to the scene and this is what we’ve agreed

hope to visit clubs

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By *hanfunnewMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'd love to experience watching a couple... Not had anyone yet whose interested

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We wouldn't be interested in soft swap if it was just for the voyeurism aspect. We are both bi-curious so would rather everyone could play with each other within the soft swap boundaries, although we are happy to fully swap and that would be our preference.

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By *uzyamCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Soft swing is what we've always been into, don't think there's that many of us out there really

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By *eandher4and9Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Totally happy to soft swing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wouldn't be interested in soft swap if it was just for the voyeurism aspect. We are both bi-curious so would rather everyone could play with each other within the soft swap boundaries, although we are happy to fully swap and that would be our preference. "

Same for us. Cant beat a bi foursome with another couple.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We are very clear from the off that we aren’t really a swap couple, we enjoy group play. We don’t have penetrative sex with others, we like the group dynamic of a hot foursome. As long as you communicate what your boundaries are, there won’t be any issues.

C x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

No, we love it!

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By *oubleTrouble666Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Doesn't put us off at all.

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

"It’s what we’re after initially x finding a couple who’s needs/wants align with ours is proving tricky"

Im happy to sit back and hld your camera

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re all about watching and being watched when it comes to couples so it certainly doesn’t put us off

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By *ennylewis2016Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We love watching and being watched. Soft swaps and voyeurism really turn us on.

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

We enjoy soft swap . It shouldn't put off cpls because penetration shouldn't be the last resort . We can also enjoy the company too .

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By *essicaandmarkCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Wouldn’t put us off as we are happy to watch and play with each other. It’s a good place to start and see if everyone clicks for next time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m happy with soft play

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

That’s how a lot of couples start!

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

"Wouldn’t put us off as we are happy to watch and play with each other. It’s a good place to start and see if everyone clicks for next time x "

Precisely.

It's a huge turn off for us to walk into a place and take clothes off and fuck . Where's the fun ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t swap with couples but would love to try same room sex with another couple or more.

It’s always been something that turns me on . Don’t think it’s very easy to find though.

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By *eFCUKaLotCouple
over a year ago

somewhere close

"We don’t swap with couples but would love to try same room sex with another couple or more.

It’s always been something that turns me on . Don’t think it’s very easy to find though."

Shame you’re so far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t swap with couples but would love to try same room sex with another couple or more.

It’s always been something that turns me on . Don’t think it’s very easy to find though.

Shame you’re so far away

Oh I know

You have a great profile and if ever up this way…

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

We never get put off by it.

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

We like soft swap also

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By *eFCUKaLotCouple
over a year ago

somewhere close

"We don’t swap with couples but would love to try same room sex with another couple or more.

It’s always been something that turns me on . Don’t think it’s very easy to find though.

Shame you’re so far away

Oh I know

You have a great profile and if ever up this way…

Holiday to Scotland I think this year

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By *scarpatMan
over a year ago

sexy town

Am I right in thinking soft swap is where a couple has sex together but with others in the room and only plays with each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t swap with couples but would love to try same room sex with another couple or more.

It’s always been something that turns me on . Don’t think it’s very easy to find though.

Shame you’re so far away

Oh I know

You have a great profile and if ever up this way…

Holiday to Scotland I think this year

Haha..we will give you some good recommendations on where to have fun

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

"Am I right in thinking soft swap is where a couple has sex together but with others in the room and only plays with each other?"

Soft swap would be playing with others but no penetrative sex. Although different people have different boundaries within it.

C x

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By *scarpatMan
over a year ago

sexy town

"Am I right in thinking soft swap is where a couple has sex together but with others in the room and only plays with each other?

Soft swap would be playing with others but no penetrative sex. Although different people have different boundaries within it.

C x"

Thank you.

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By *abonTedCouple
over a year ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

Slow n sensual allowing the moment to reveal itself and allowing every one to unfold organically…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s how a lot of couples start! "

That's what we're looking at doing, starting off with a few voyeur/soft swaps before leading into full swaps when it's comfortable, just really difficult finding a soft swap couple that isn't expecting the bi female side of things too (my lady is straight)

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap?

I don't think we would meet JUST for exhibition/voyeurism, but soft swap can be great fun."

We are the same

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

Soft is a great starting point

less pressure and expectation, so it’s more relaxed and you can take it from there

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It wouldn't put us off at all. Everyone has their boundaries and things they are looking for. At the end of the day, a soft swap can be a whole lot of fun to miss out on. It's not all about the penetration y'know

C x

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By *oves2shareCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

We don't mind it's all good fun ??

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By *race_cpl6665Couple
over a year ago

Solihull

Soft swap for us! Have played a couple of times and looking for more

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

With my partner, for private meets just four of us....yes it puts us off and got lots of couples friends who feel the same. We at least like there to be the possibility of full swap. For meeting at parties or club no it doesn't and happy to softly dabble. I think plenty of soft only couples which is fine as long as you make clear beforehand what you are happy doing. (Also worth clarifying what you mean by soft swap as different people see it differently.)

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"Doesn't put us off, we love it...that's why we love clubs so much "

Similar tastes xx all good dirty fun

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By *ig-Bull-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

Soft swaps are a lot of fun.

No issues with that or a full swap.

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By *atgirlknobinCouple
over a year ago

ish

No....its a safety net for some couples , most of the time it ends up full swap in our past experience with soft swap couples

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"We have only done soft ffmm we’re the ladies have played with Eachother and the guys have played with own partners.

We are very much quality over quantity

We just haven’t met the right couple we are 100% comfortable to go further with "

This is completely us!! Some very hot couple meets never the less!

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Our first swap was soft then we went back to our room. Our new friends txt to say thanks and would we like to go all the way. ??

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We are perfectly happy to soft swap, but would like full swap. To be honest if we fancy you enough for soft, we would like more

In reality it is ‘hard’ to find 4 people that equally fancy each other. We don’t take one for the team, so sometimes it is just easier to meet single guys

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

For us, it's a pretty big weight in the "Don't meet" side of the scales.

It's not conclusive that we wouldn't meet, but it would have to be outweighed by a lot of other plus points. And many of the traditional things that would be plus points would actually be lessened by the fact it's soft swap (things like extremely high physical attraction for example) as those things are likely to increase the frustration at not being able to consummate the exchange so to speak.

The sorts of things that would get us to meet a soft swap couple would actually be practical things - How long of a drive, how straightforward are the comms.

Someone who is very local, and very direct, we might meet soft only. But beyond that probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t swap with couples but would love to try same room sex. It does seem to be harder to find so we tend to just stick to meeting single men

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

"We are perfectly happy to soft swap, but would like full swap. To be honest if we fancy you enough for soft, we would like more

In reality it is ‘hard’ to find 4 people that equally fancy each other. We don’t take one for the team, so sometimes it is just easier to meet single guys

Same, thats why we rarely meet couples and stick to single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swap is defined differently for each couple. Some just want girls to play and sticking to their partners, some just want a couple next to them while no exchange happens, while we consider that everything is allowed apart from penetration

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"For us, it's a pretty big weight in the "Don't meet" side of the scales.

The sorts of things that would get us to meet a soft swap couple would actually be practical things - How long of a drive, how straightforward are the comms.

Someone who is very local, and very direct, we might meet soft only. But beyond that probably not."

We’re similar to yourselves. Soft swap would be a bit frustrating for us. We’ve been offered a soft meet a few times but declined as it felt the other couple were maybe not really comfortable in the lifestyle and we didn’t want any potential drama.

Each to their own though.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"For us, it's a pretty big weight in the "Don't meet" side of the scales.

The sorts of things that would get us to meet a soft swap couple would actually be practical things - How long of a drive, how straightforward are the comms.

Someone who is very local, and very direct, we might meet soft only. But beyond that probably not."

Yep my partner and I look at it the same way. We almost met a couple the other week where the man was happy to fuck but not the lady. Normally no way but they were close, free the same and good communication.

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

I would love to meet a soft swing couple

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Soft swing can be more erotic

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By *abonTedCouple
over a year ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

It feels as if soft swing is over looked, not that we would be adverse to something harder

but the idea of taking things slowly and seeing how things unfold…

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"It feels as if soft swing is over looked, not that we would be adverse to something harder

but the idea of taking things slowly and seeing how things unfold… "

Overlooked? Loads of people just interested in soft swing and fair play to them. This thread and clubs/parties full of such people. Many have just progressed beyond that and find soft swing unsatisfying most of the time - we know we are not alone as lots of our couples friends feel the same way. Each to their own.

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Exactly what we are looking for…….xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It feels as if soft swing is over looked, not that we would be adverse to something harder

but the idea of taking things slowly and seeing how things unfold… "

Yeah we feel the same. Feel it’s alot more difficult to find a soft swing couple than couples wanting full swing. We do make it clear that it would never go further than soft swing and that’s where it can be difficult. That’s why we now focus more on single men

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

"It feels as if soft swing is over looked, not that we would be adverse to something harder

but the idea of taking things slowly and seeing how things unfold…

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By *hirleyMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Does it put couples off when another couple is only looking for the voyeuristic/exhibitionism side of things with the most that would happen being a soft swap? "

Putting your dick in someone else's wife, well just because you want that 'taken fanny', isn't the main attraction of it for me, it's a fairly lame porn idea in my view.

Personally, I'm very much interested in the dynamic of seeing how others interact, there's so many possibilities and so no way is the premise obscure or even unusual. Kind of comes with the territory, society thinking that swinging is uncouth to say the least, well fuck what society thinks, if everyone is happy and nobody being abused then do whatever is comfortable.

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