FabSwingers.com forum: Travelling to meets as a non driver

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?

Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?

I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?

Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?

I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "

When I lived in the midlands I used PT all the time so it wouldn't bother me at all - its only since moving down to the SW that I have driven as its more essential

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

I'm ultra relaxed about everything so it would not worry me at all.

I'd be even more impressed at the effort involved.

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By *andy BarSteward73Man
over a year ago

Sandwell

No not at all, wouldn't put me off, would offer to meet closer to them. Or offer to pick them up, if they were comfortable with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never arrange meet with men without ride- it's simply our preference- dogging fun- bo car no fun

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

As a man who has been banned from driving for 6 months, I now have to use PT too.

I hate it,

Take this Friday for instance. I am going to a private gangbang, what would take me 30 mins by car us gonna take me over and hour and a half by bus train and bus again.

I haven't had a shag in ages so I have to do it!

Thats life I spose!!!!!

Can't wait till I get my licence back though.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"As a man who has been banned from driving for 6 months, I now have to use PT too.

I hate it,

Take this Friday for instance. I am going to a private gangbang, what would take me 30 mins by car us gonna take me over and hour and a half by bus train and bus again.

I haven't had a shag in ages so I have to do it!

Thats life I spose!!!!!

Can't wait till I get my licence back though."

Could try getting an Uber or over such Taxi like service

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

How rude surly they should offer to pick you up

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Being at the edge of a public transport network, the last bus back to my village from the nearest town is 18:30.

So is probably only use it for theoretical fab meets on saturdays, and it would still probably take an hour or so to get anywhere. And I'd be stressed about getting home.

So no. I'd be more likely to be cycling anywhere within 10 miles of so.

As a car owner, I'm more than willing to help my date with a lift to my place, if they can't accommodate and have transport issues.

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By *redBlogs1965Man
over a year ago

LUTON

I don't own a car so rely on public transport or taxis.

Wouldn't be a problem.

I'll pay for your taxi even if you were expecting to be picked up. Can't see how it's a problem really. ??

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I live very close to central London so your be crazy to drive around here, plus PT is very very good no need to wait for longer then 5mins for some sort of service to turn up and also have 24hrs day transport on some services. It also helps I basically get free travel anyway so could go say Scotland returnfor few quid(no I don't own old age pension pass lol) but if I lived in sticks I would definitely have to drive

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Wouldn't bother me and hasn't bothered those I've met or chatted with she said she wouldn't care if I came running barefooted

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I use trains usually to socials/meets and no one has ever had an issue, just as long as I turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These are my options

- spent up to £15 each way on Uber

- buss it for £2 pounds singles or wait until PM for £1

- buy a flashy car to use for club nights

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've never made a thing of the fact I use public transport. I just plan ahead like I do for anything else

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

I dont drive , i dont have an issue lol

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't drive and use some combination of being picked up, walking, bus, taxi or train. Have traveled up to two hours one way for meets without any issues.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

If they can't travel far I've travelled to them.

After talking for a while and getting to know them first of course

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

The nearest bus stop is a mile and a half away, buses don't travel through the village I live, the bus station is 4 miles away and the nearest train station is 20 miles away.

I drive everywhere.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"As a man who has been banned from driving for 6 months, I now have to use PT too.

I hate it,

Take this Friday for instance. I am going to a private gangbang, what would take me 30 mins by car us gonna take me over and hour and a half by bus train and bus again.

I haven't had a shag in ages so I have to do it!

Thats life I spose!!!!!

Can't wait till I get my licence back though.

Could try getting an Uber or over such Taxi like service "

due to losing my licence, I became unemployed so cant spend money on Ubers

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

When I lived in London,was pretty easy/fast to use PT for meets.

But now living where I do,costs a arm and a leg just to go a few stops on the train PT isn`t that good/reliable.

Why I am getting a low CC motorbike again,so can meet more further afield and go to some clubs.

Only really meet up with friends I met on here previously,who live close by.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i guess its different for all i dont plan meet outside of a week for me its thee best way to get rid of timewaters and messers never plan more than a week ahead and sometimes days and sometimes hours so it down to if that person can make it to the arranged meet place if they cant because of public transport then im not meeting them ..

that may sound harsh but om here to meet my needs and thats within my work pattern and life and it suits me fine it works as a great filter too back in the day when i planned meets ahead (weeks and months) most were messers and dreamers since ive been doing the short notice ive not had one let down..

at the end of the day the problem is with the person who can or cannot drive not the other person ..its life i guess

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

If I was meeting someone I'd always offer to pick them up and if it never went well I'd still drive them baxk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?

Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?

I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "

I neither drive, nor accommodate. Plus I'm not arsed to travel further than the couple of miles into my local town. At a push the next city by 15min train.

I find it helps as a decent filter for those who are actually inclined or not to meet me too though

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"If I was meeting someone I'd always offer to pick them up and if it never went well I'd still drive them baxk"

i know youve not ment it this way .. but imagine being a woman and the meet goes wrong for what ever reason and her only way home is the guy its gone wrong with and then youll understand why most women would not pick that option

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By *oolblue12Man
over a year ago

Tarporley near Chester

I can’t travel as I have no transport. I used public transport but it is very limited whee I live , I prefer to accommodate for fun

John

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

"If I was meeting someone I'd always offer to pick them up and if it never went well I'd still drive them baxk

Yeah true but im not the sort of person to take the huff if it did not work out so would not make it awkward and I'd want to make sure they got baxk safe. If they never wanted the lift back them thats absoloutlg fine. I'm a bit of a joker so people genuinely feel at ease round me but hey I get whag yohr saying

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

been asked a few time if i can go and pick up a guy (total stranger) as he cant drive .. they just cant see how wrong that sound it should send a shiver down any womans spine .... safety is everything

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

"been asked a few time if i can go and pick up a guy (total stranger) as he cant drive .. they just cant see how wrong that sound it should send a shiver down any womans spine .... safety is everything"

Yeah absolutely but I simply hate public transport so would always offer them a lift. If they don't feel saft I'd maybe help them get a cab

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

As a car owner, I'm more than willing to help my date with a lift to my place, if they can't accommodate and have transport issues."

I have done this on a number of occassions.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

It hasn't bothered me yet, but the people who use PT to get to mine tend to set of with loads of time to spare.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If I was meeting someone I'd always offer to pick them up and if it never went well I'd still drive them baxk"

I'll stick to the bus

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I'm reliant on public transport, so do needs to factor that into meets etc.

If necessary, I'll make people know that, so might need to arrange somewhere on PT route.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've used it in the past with no bother. My worry would be the potential ghosting or no-show if you'd gone to the trouble of sitting on a bus for over an hour each way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. PT is a bit hit and miss in my area so not sure how that would play out but each I’d see what I could do to make it easier for all. The way I see it is that your choice of transport is none of my business, you do you

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Some people are *extremely* judgemental about using public transport – the Tory “If you’re bussing it after the age of thirty, there’s something wrong” crowd.

I am perfectly comfortable with such individuals not wanting to meet me.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I live in the middle of nowhere. So wouldn’t be an option for me.

But if I agree to meet at a club/ hotel it’s up to them how they get there. Not my issue, I probably wouldn’t know how half my meets arrive. Not really a convo I have x

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"Some people are *extremely* judgemental about using public transport – the Tory “If you’re bussing it after the age of thirty, there’s something wrong” crowd.

I am perfectly comfortable with such individuals not wanting to meet me.

i dont see any judgement ?? just some people are not going to change the way they play to suit someone catching a bus for alot of people swinging is down to time and the lack of it sadly that means for some pt will not work .... cant blame others for not being able to get there at a certain time ...nobody fault its just what it is...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Some people are *extremely* judgemental about using public transport – the Tory “If you’re bussing it after the age of thirty, there’s something wrong” crowd.

I am perfectly comfortable with such individuals not wanting to meet me.

Some people do judge on that basis - I have no issue with "logistically it won't work" - but some people do think that there's a difference between whether you get somewhere on a train (bus, tram, etc) or in a car.

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By *ruskJokerMan
over a year ago

Royston

It definitely makes things more difficult and puts me off. There’s a lot of people I’d like to meet and would if I could drive as time wouldn’t be such a big factor. Makes you wish they could pick you up but obviously it’s not fair to assume the can or will do that. Although those of you that do. You’re the unsung heroes

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I can't drive now so usually use public transport.

As long as I know where I'm going in advance and can plan my journey I'm ok.

I hate being underground and in a packed train or station though, so I try to avoid busy times.

I quite like sitting on the train home, eating my sweets, smelling of the man I've been with.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

What I don't want is a 4 hour round trip for a half hour suck , fuck and go.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Some People are judgemental ..not just if you use public transport..but if you use a different form of transport..I once turned up to a meet on my horse and cart.. the person wasn't happy...ok the cart was full of scrap metal and I did let the horse graze on the front lawn.. but Jesus... some people need to lighten up a bit

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

I live in the middle of nowhere, a bus comes past my house twice, on a Sunday, transporting mainly walkers.

Id be buggered if I couldn't drive, it wouldn't put me off meeting somebody else tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?"

I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.

My mum lives on the other side of the world.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?

Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?

I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "

I don't drive use pt trains go most places and taxis where needed but if you made a connection how you get there doesn't matter

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By *ylvie SucksWoman
over a year ago

Right Up Your Street

"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?

Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?

I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "

Why would they mind?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?

Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?

I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be….

Why would they mind?"

Some people are insanely judgemental.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

To be fair I am a driver but I often travelled to meets as single guy by public transport. I do like to have a drink and living in the West Midlands does give you great transportation options to most places in the area.

However if live in a more rural location I'm sure it's far more difficult.

Also a lot of Clubs tend to be in the middle of nowhere (or outskirts of the city at best) and inaccessible to public transport. That's what I like about Chameleons in Darlaston, its only a short and frequent bus ride away from Walsall train station. Also what's good about there being two clubs in Leicester City centre within walking distance of the two bus stations and the train station.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

There shouldn’t be a problem. I just leave in good time and if i get there early. I just grab a coffee and start getting nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?

I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.

My mum lives on the other side of the world."

You’re a woman so I’m sure men don’t find the lack of car a red flag.

Even so, a man who chooses not to own a car is probably not our type of person, so can’t or won’t own a car is equally a red flag for us.

Each to their own though, but no car no meet for us.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?

I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.

My mum lives on the other side of the world.

You’re a woman so I’m sure men don’t find the lack of car a red flag.

Even so, a man who chooses not to own a car is probably not our type of person, so can’t or won’t own a car is equally a red flag for us.

Each to their own though, but no car no meet for us."

It seems an odd and irrelevant criterion, but to each their own.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I can't see how this could ever matter...

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I can't see how this could ever matter...

Sorry, as in whether it's a reason to meet someone or not. Of course I can see it has an impact if you want to meet someone who lives in a very inaccessible location and PT isn't an option. But as a consideration of whether I want to meet a person or not, never.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can't see how this could ever matter...

Who among us has not considered someone inferior and living with their parents for not owning a car/unicycle/elephant?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I can't see how this could ever matter...

Who among us has not considered someone inferior and living with their parents for not owning a car/unicycle/elephant?"

I know, right. I mean, c'mon! Thinking about it, I'd go further and rule people out on the *type* of car too.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?

I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.

My mum lives on the other side of the world.

You’re a woman so I’m sure men don’t find the lack of car a red flag.

Even so, a man who chooses not to own a car is probably not our type of person, so can’t or won’t own a car is equally a red flag for us.

Each to their own though, but no car no meet for us."

Like us you'd be classed as 'rural', so car ownership would be a bigger priority than elsewhere.

But I lived in London for nigh on a decade without a car and I know plenty of city dwellers who don't own one. Aside from not needing one, there's literally nowhere for them to park, CAZ's are a ball ache and insurance is sky high.

It's way easier to bus/tram/tube/taxi/uber it for many if they're not in the sticks and like us live in the middle of butt fuck nowhere.

So whilst I understand cars are more necessary in rural areas its a tad harsh to say that non car owning men are red flags. What about bikers? Or cyclists? Or people who live close enough to travel to you by taxi?

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By *ingeringfunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I dont drive, live in a city so whats the point? Public transport all the way but I quite like a train journey so happily travel that way.... means more hotel meets for far away but who does a nice lux break away...if someone was so fixated on needing a car to qualify to meet I would think they just arent my type of person....

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"I can't see how this could ever matter...

Who among us has not considered someone inferior and living with their parents for not owning a car/unicycle/elephant?"

I can do the car and the elephant, but the unicycle didn't work out. I ordered one from ebay but when it arrived it only had one wheel...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in an awkward position because I can’t drive but I also can’t accommodate. I try and look for people local so I can get PT there and daytime meets. It does suck cos I would like to visit a social but there’s no buses that run that late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like us you'd be classed as 'rural', so car ownership would be a bigger priority than elsewhere.

It's way easier to bus/tram/tube/taxi/uber it for many if they're not in the sticks and like us live in the middle of butt fuck nowhere.

That’s a very good point. We live outside the city and can totally see how our values on car ownership don’t stand for London.

However from personal experience, and not just of fab but people in general, our stance still stands and it would be a red flag.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can

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