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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

It’s just popped in my head from seeing something on one of our previous threads that people are too shy to go up to someone they like and say hi.

It’s a bit comical isn’t it really… we go to a club and walk around naked infront of strangers but yet won’t go up to someone and say hi lol

What are your thoughts?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Complete agree that's why i always say to my friends is less intimidating any the swingers club than the normal pub in the street

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

But also true even walking naked in a club it can be intimidating aproach someone. In my experience i am very shy and quiet so i found extremely difficult because i am always afraid of the reaction of people in other words rejection or not open even to just socialise. Nevertheless have the knowledge that if one is shy , quiet also can pass an image or energy that can in some way distance people from approaching as the energy they get is not captivating.

In the end is nobody fault is just that we all are diferent and we all perceive things differently from each other's

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close

Rejection is hard for some to deal with. Water off a ducks back now for me. Lol mr

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By *akedMMan
over a year ago

Witney

Strange as it seems, I am a shy person.

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

When I (Mr) first introduced to the lifestyle. I was very shy, because that’s what kind of a person I am anyway, or was I did get told off by the Mrs on numerous occasions, for been oblivious to charge, I have a few people smiling and looking at me but because I’ve got no confidence I wasn’t sure about the signs but with each time I go to a club, my confidence grows and I pluck up the courage to speak to people

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

I think being shy is perfectly normal behaviour.

I'm sure the same could be said about messaging someone you like on here but think your not good enough or that it will be dismissed out of hand so you never approach.

Shame really but we are nervous

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve seen a fair few people being over confident over text and when it comes to in person been a totally different person/people

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm the same. Will walk around in lingerie/ with my boobs out in a club and yet I struggle to make the first move in going up to other couples to chat. Something myself and Mr need to work on really so as to not stand around like lemons all night.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

In this day and age I might get done for sexual harassment.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I'm happy enough to go to a club on my own, and walk around in a sexy dress or undies but I struggle, because I'm shy, in walking up to people and just start talking. I'm the same when I'm out un vanilla life.

Once I'm chatting I'm OK.

I also really struggle with messaging people/strangers.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I cant speak for anyone else obviously, but for me being in a club, surrounded by strangers in all states of dress or undress means I can be anyone I like.. I can be the confident sexy woman if I want to, noone knows any different..

Out in real life it can be much more daunting I think x

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

The way some of you look you shouldn't be worried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy enough to go to a club on my own, and walk around in a sexy dress or undies but I struggle, because I'm shy, in walking up to people and just start talking. I'm the same when I'm out un vanilla life.

Once I'm chatting I'm OK.

I also really struggle with messaging people/strangers.

"

Exactly the same. People think I’m standoffish or rude. I’m not I’m just painfully, annoyingly, shy and I really struggle making new friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really feel this!

People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.

The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"I really feel this!

People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.

The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol. "

That's part of the appeal

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I really feel this!

People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.

The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol. "

We’ve both been told we have resting bitch faces hahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really feel this!

People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.

The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol.

We’ve both been told we have resting bitch faces hahaa"

It is a problem! Lol.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door


"I'm happy enough to go to a club on my own, and walk around in a sexy dress or undies but I struggle, because I'm shy, in walking up to people and just start talking. I'm the same when I'm out un vanilla life.

Once I'm chatting I'm OK.

I also really struggle with messaging people/strangers.

Exactly the same. People think I’m standoffish or rude. I’m not I’m just painfully, annoyingly, shy and I really struggle making new friends. "

I'm the same. I do push myself to go to different place and meet new people, and then find starting conversation hard.

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it’s hard to start conversations with people, I tend to find complimenting what the others are wearing helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s hard to start conversations with people, I tend to find complimenting what the others are wearing helps"

But what if they aren't wearing anything?!?

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"I cant speak for anyone else obviously, but for me being in a club, surrounded by strangers in all states of dress or undress means I can be anyone I like.. I can be the confident sexy woman if I want to, noone knows any different..

Out in real life it can be much more daunting I think x "

I like this attitude! I might try and adopt it.

I'm hugely introvert in daily life, so approaching people is never high on my to do list. In a club it's even worse. Being naked is fine, I'm ok with that. But actually going up to people and engaging in conversation makes me die inside.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don’t like making the first move and always think people will approach me if they are interested. I do try to subtlely make eye contact or a cheeky smile to show I am interested but i must be too subtle or people just don’t like me as it rarely works.

Kx

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think it’s hard to start conversations with people, I tend to find complimenting what the others are wearing helps

But what if they aren't wearing anything?!?"

Then you compliment how they look, boobs, bum, cock if needs be lol

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Never been in a club but working my mind up for it. Would be shy first time I rekon but in normal life I can chat to anyone

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west


"I cant speak for anyone else obviously, but for me being in a club, surrounded by strangers in all states of dress or undress means I can be anyone I like.. I can be the confident sexy woman if I want to, noone knows any different..

Out in real life it can be much more daunting I think x

I like this attitude! I might try and adopt it.

I'm hugely introvert in daily life, so approaching people is never high on my to do list. In a club it's even worse. Being naked is fine, I'm ok with that. But actually going up to people and engaging in conversation makes me die inside. "

The way I see it is that clubs are all about fantasy, escapism, fun and feeling the best you can feel... the best thing for me now is leaving insecurities at the door and being who I want to be... if I'm not people's cuppa tea then no skin off my nose.... in the real world though, it's a different story lol x

Good luck, it takes some reminding yourself you can be amazing but you can do it x

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