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By *istyPeaks OP   Couple
over a year ago

braintree

Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."
I have had some idiots on here being racist because I am Pakistani but I just ignore them

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

The same way I would deal with any personal attack. Just deal with it and move on. I never surrender to anything or anyone. Never have. Never will. Maybe I am lucky in that approach.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Report, block and ignore. Wouldn’t let it get to you.

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.easy for me to say but dont give it a minutes thought the vile person does not deserve the air it breathes.

Mr Misty."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes, I do tend to get at least two or three each month out of the blue from strangers.

Other than the obvious block and report, I think of it thusly…

… how sad and hateful must someone else’s life be to go out of their way to try and make a stranger’s life miserable ? I choose to spread joy in my life and pity those who would rather choose hate.

It works for me and sorry you had to experience it

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

It's the only way these sad PATHETIC little creeps can get satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Report, block and ignore. Wouldn’t let it get to you."

This

And remember they're the one with the problem!!

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

One of my friends is a TV and they get loads of abuse. They have developed a thick skin too it but that took time.

The replies they send just wind the abuser up even more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you’re bi-curious it seems odd that you would be targeted with homophobia. Any idea why someone would be sending you this drivel? I hope you reported them, it’s not just a fab matter it’s a criminal offence.

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

I've had plenty of transphobic crap. This site is utterly rife with it.

My approach is report, block, move on.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I've had plenty of transphobic crap. This site is utterly rife with it.

My approach is report, block, move on. "
people like that make me laugh I swear down lol

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman
over a year ago

Brighton


"As you’re bi-curious it seems odd that you would be targeted with homophobia. Any idea why someone would be sending you this drivel? I hope you reported them, it’s not just a fab matter it’s a criminal offence. "

I may have made the police aware of some particularly bad bits of misbehaviour in the past....

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

There purpose is create rent space in your head. People of no value, don’t warrant your attention, or thoughts - you dwell on it, then their words and deeds grow. You get crap on your shoe, you wipe it off. You get s on your lawn you you pull them up… insults, racism words of hate are just s. Deep breath, block think nice thoughts.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Block and ignore don't let that kinda talk get to you usually it's just projecting anyway let that bullshit roll off you if you take that sort of thing to heart you are giving them exactly what they want fuck em not acknowledging them will hurt them more than anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’re bi-curious it seems odd that you would be targeted with homophobia. Any idea why someone would be sending you this drivel? I hope you reported them, it’s not just a fab matter it’s a criminal offence.

I may have made the police aware of some particularly bad bits of misbehaviour in the past...."

The worst offenders are within the trans community, as I’ve experienced first hand (and don’t even think of myself in trans terms)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Mr Misty. Big fan of the Mistys, here

Firstly, remind yourself that you and Mrs Misty are much loved on the forums, and it’s great that you’re opening up and sharing here.

Examine possible motives. What reason could they have, to say what they said? Jealousy being a glaring one. Often what someone says about others when they feel angry, lonely etc is what they fear most about themselves - projection.

Why is it getting to you today? Do you have things going on that are making you feel especially vulnerable? Perhaps they need thinking about.

Practically speaking, I often find writing down shit stuff and burning the paper really cathartic.

Xx

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

I've a very dark soh.and I do tend to reply back as I enjoy cutting them down to the point they block me as they can't take the come up

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I've a very dark soh.and I do tend to reply back as I enjoy cutting them down to the point they block me as they can't take the come up "

This is exactly me!

Why let words from a complete stranger get to you? You’re the only person that controls your emotions.

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By *istyPeaks OP   Couple
over a year ago

braintree

Hey Red, literally a legend in our corner of fab.

Jealousy definitely a factor, he was trying to chat Misty up and then I think must have read the profile.

You're right, probably a bit sensitive to something that I shan't go into on here.

Block, ignore and move seems to be the consensus

Mr xx

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

By being as queer as possible, stick on your queer anthems and your gayest outfit and just dance round your house!

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

A few years ago my daughter experienced racism and as a parent I felt completely powerless. I've taught her that she can't control what other people think but what they think and do shouldn't control her.

There behavour shows the kind of person they are and is not reflective of the person she is and they don't have the power to control who she is or her future triumphs.

Some people are just arsehole and its better they show themselves so we all know who do avoid.

That and a slice of cheesecake goes a long way.

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By *istyPeaks OP   Couple
over a year ago

braintree

I like cheesecake

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

Fab LGBTQ cheesecake social soon then!?

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I’ve experienced this on fabswingers. I remind myself that the person on the other end is probably sad and miserable in their own life. I, on the other hand, know who I am, I am confident in my sexuality, and tbqh as a bi guy probably get a lot more sex than the average straight person

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

honestly there are some sad people,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

Never have and nobody should.

Easier said than done but I would meet fire with fire?

Just would not put up with that. I would ride back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fire back!

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea


"I like cheesecake "
pooh lemon cheesecake is yummy as are your profile pictures

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Definitely report the pest. It’s what the button’s there for.

Then spend some time on the forums chatting with people who are not such pests. Restore a bit of that faith in humanity (and in this place).

Then forget about it. Water off a duck’s back. It’s not always easy - brains can be funny things - but it’s the best thing to do.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

I generally think that anyone who is so aggressively loud about other people's preferences is probably less certain about their own feelings than they want to admit.

I just don't understand whe people can't just live & let live.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Red, literally a legend in our corner of fab.

Jealousy definitely a factor, he was trying to chat Misty up and then I think must have read the profile.

You're right, probably a bit sensitive to something that I shan't go into on here.

Block, ignore and move seems to be the consensus

Mr xx"

I hope it doesn’t knock your confidence x

Absolutely block. We all know I’m a big proponent of the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry this happened to you.

Unfortunately people hide behind the anonymity and somehow think targeting others will improve, what is likely to be their pathetic existence.

Report, block and move on. They aren't deserving of your head space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure that!

Secondly, and most importantly, it says more about them as a person than it does you. Report, block and continue living your best life, being who you want to be, true to yourself!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

Everyone's told you to just report and block, so that's how to deal with it on the site taken care of.

As for dealing with it in your own head, just think to yourself that you've got a sexy hot partner whom you are deeply in love with and have a very healthy sex life with. Something which your homophobic hater is highly unlikely to have either of!

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

Not had had any myself but for me to get upset about it would take me to respect them and there’s not a lot of chance of that.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i never let others get under my skin ill just block and move on ..

i hate bullys of any kind sexist racist and if you let them get to you then they have done what they wanted to do upset you think posative and think well clearly they are they arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

Do you feel bad about being bi?

How would you deal with abuse about your height/ age preferences/ hair colour/ cock size?

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By *hroatitboyMan
over a year ago

GLA

I have but it’s like water off a ducks back what’s bothered me more is when I’ve reported them they’ve never been removed from the site.

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

if I'm not blocked by them will just wind them up further, if i am blocked would report them

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By *ad_buddiesCouple
over a year ago

London

Just think "dickhead" and move on. Not worthy of any thought or reaction

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

They shouldn’t be on here

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Only just seen this. Echo the above, there are some real dicks on this site and you have to question their own mental state to send a message like that. Keep your chin up Mr Misty!

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Sorry to hear that guys and can only add our support to the comments above

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

The ONLY homophobes are those that have homosexual tendencies themselves but can't deal with it, and hate those that can, so just feel sorry for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore don't understand why people get so upset now days.

Sticks and stones ect.

If I wasn't called a cunt or worse within 5 min at work I would think something was wring

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close

Some ppl have thicker skins than others.

I'm a straight guy with many gay and bi friends, male and female. I just pitty the homophobes. The Mrs however does take it to heart. Oddly enough, 99% of the time it's from males she knocks back.

As others have said, report, block, move on.

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By *istyPeaks OP   Couple
over a year ago

braintree

Thank you all for the support, its much appreciated.

Today is a new day, he's still a pathetic excuse for a human being and I didn't have to have wank last night!

We move on xx

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"By being as queer as possible, stick on your queer anthems and your gayest outfit and just dance round your house! "

This. With extra glitter.

Also by having fantastically wonderful filthy queer sex.

While they likely wank all alone at home complaining on the forums that they can't get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s despicable I hear more and more of abuse on this site ! Supposed to be adults ! The thing is guys doing this ruins it for genuine guys !!

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

I have,

I was called a fucking homo who pretends to like pussy just to get a cock.

I laughed so much I almost pissed myself as its almost the other way round.

I wanted to reply saying thank you for such an in-depth anal-asis! but the fucker blocked me.

then I just moved on and haven't remembered that event until I saw your post.

Remember this. You are lovely, they are not. you have class, they are shit! You have men and women lust after you and they are sad dimwitted homophobes with no life

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every garden withers and dies unless we pull out the s.

See it, receive it, report it.

And appreciating the solidarity on this thread btw.

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

It’s a shit world and the easily manipulated are caught in the same trap that our leaders want I’m afraid. It’s the press who are stirring the mainstream up to deflect and divide and conquer.

I’d report block and if you want send a message to the idiot explaining you don’t care about their opinion and to mind their own business. Be polite as if your not it might make it think they have won.

Or tell them to fuck off.

And then go for a walk and forget about it.

Easy said than done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to let anyone get to you on this site. It isn't easy I know but it's not worth it.

I've had all sorts said to me over the years of being on here and I like it run off my back.

Plus any homophobic comments are just made by small minded people. Z

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By *hors fantasyCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We have had a guy message us saying he felt sorry for gemma as bi men don’t exist and that I am clearly 100% gay, he was then nice enough to offer to take gemma off my hands so I can live out my big gay life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had a guy message us saying he felt sorry for gemma as bi men don’t exist and that I am clearly 100% gay, he was then nice enough to offer to take gemma off my hands so I can live out my big gay life "

Aww do you miss her?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

I get loads of transphobic / homophobic messages on here weekly. I just find them amusing as it’s always some insect like irrelevant couple or single woman profile that is probably a guy. Going off.

I don’t think anything they don’t affect me as simply the view of strangers is utterly meaningless to my life It’s just amusing people waste time saying this stuff.

I would say for those that get compromised by such messages mentally, just block delete and forget these people even exist as humans.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Whatever you do ,say or choice you make someone will have a problem with it.

People like you op for who you are. That in itself is a lovely compliment.

Take great comfort in that.

All the best

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Never worry about idiots life is too short and we do not ever have enough time

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Some scrote on the internet, that doesn’t realise you can see some of the first line of a message.

So their hate, message and profile will be blocked and unread and they’re left with me in their head not the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty."

While not experiencing homophobic behaviour as we're not bi/gay etc, while on a singles profile as a single guy you do get pestered alot by bi/gay guys, and while I wouldn't have a rant (I mean it's obviously what there looking for) etc it can be frustrating when you have straight marked on your profile.

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By *hors fantasyCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty.

While not experiencing homophobic behaviour as we're not bi/gay etc, while on a singles profile as a single guy you do get pestered alot by bi/gay guys, and while I wouldn't have a rant (I mean it's obviously what there looking for) etc it can be frustrating when you have straight marked on your profile. "

Unfortunately due to the stigma that still exists with bi men, we get more offers for play from “straight” profiles than any other, however it’s a massive turn of for us for anyone to hide their sexuality on here, perhaps in real life with religious family etc we can understand but if you can’t admit you like cock on a sex site your not for us

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"Good evening,

Has anyone ever experienced vile Homophobic messages and if so, how do you deal with it in your own head. Not interested in the amoeba that spouted it, I'm looking to seek a way of feeling better in myself.

Mr Misty.

While not experiencing homophobic behaviour as we're not bi/gay etc, while on a singles profile as a single guy you do get pestered alot by bi/gay guys, and while I wouldn't have a rant (I mean it's obviously what there looking for) etc it can be frustrating when you have straight marked on your profile.

Unfortunately due to the stigma that still exists with bi men, we get more offers for play from “straight” profiles than any other, however it’s a massive turn of for us for anyone to hide their sexuality on here, perhaps in real life with religious family etc we can understand but if you can’t admit you like cock on a sex site your not for us"

I agree.

I get lots of messages from guys and guys on couples profiles that say straight.

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