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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Never assume anything.

XX

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

Probably trying to demonstrate a eagerness to please add a selling point.

As apose to "I'll fuck you until I cum" where no enthusiasm is place on you cumming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many of them say things they think we want to hear rather than just being genuine.

I get plenty messages from men claiming to love my boobs but I'd put money on most of them being confronted by them and either ignoring them or being clueless what to do with them.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x "

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Porn, I blame porn, the whole squirting thing does it for me, like why is it your aim to have me piss myself?!

Not happening.

Surely at some point they must realise opening messages like this don't work, or maybe they do on an odd occasion idk baffles me.

Mrs

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It’s the “I’ll lick your pussy with nothing in return!” Messages I don’t get. Like cheers for the favour pal!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I never say it, why spoil the surprise of an experience if it's something that they may enjoy as not everyone does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know why some men do this, but believe it or not us men get it off so called straight men saying the same about sucking our cocks. The amount of messages I get off men who claim to be straight about sucking my dick ‘discreetly’ is alarming haha

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Never assume anything.

XX"
Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are licking for hours....they are doing something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working."

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think any messages boasting about sexual prowess are an instant turn off.

A lot of guys try and sell themselves as if they're trying to sell a second hand car.

"47, big girth, heavy cummer, can repeat, can lick for hours and make you cum loads"

We get loads of messages like that without even a 'Hello'

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Take oral off your interests list.

People could be thinking you like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working.

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal? "

We had a message that simply said 'postcode?'

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I do like it but mot for hours. many men seem to think saying that will get them extra points but I don't know any woman that would enjoy it for hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Take oral off your interests list.

People could be thinking you like it "

Oh I do, giving not receiving, if they bother to read the profile they would find that made pretty clear

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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago

chelmsford

I’ve not sent a message like that in my entire life.

First find out if the lady likes having her pussy licked….,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working.

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal?

We had a message that simply said 'postcode?' "

Wow what charmer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working."

Probably

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s the “I’ll lick your pussy with nothing in return!” Messages I don’t get. Like cheers for the favour pal!"

Haha, yeah get them too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal? "

See I'd prefer that haha as I do like anal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take oral off your interests list.

People could be thinking you like it "

But I like giving it

And from experience a lot don't bother to read profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do like it but mot for hours. many men seem to think saying that will get them extra points but I don't know any woman that would enjoy it for hours. "

Anything more than a minute or so bores me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal?

See I'd prefer that haha as I do like anal "

Shall I forward them to you next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take oral off your interests list.

People could be thinking you like it

Oh I do, giving not receiving, if they bother to read the profile they would find that made pretty clear"

I'm same, love giving but receiving bores me. Most don't bother to read tho x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve not sent a message like that in my entire life.

First find out if the lady likes having her pussy licked….,,"

Well hopefully you get more replies than those that assume!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal?

See I'd prefer that haha as I do like anal

Shall I forward them to you next time "

Haha, no you're OK x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"...

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working.

Messages like that do nothing for me but at least are marginally better than the opening ones saying .... Do you like anal?

We had a message that simply said 'postcode?' "
Maybe it was your postman??

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"Take oral off your interests list.

People could be thinking you like it

Oh I do, giving not receiving, if they bother to read the profile they would find that made pretty clear

I'm same, love giving but receiving bores me. Most don't bother to read tho x"

I know people don't read, it's human nature.

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x "

Oh that's easy! They're the 'one pump and done' guys who only have oral to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any message that describes what they are going to do to me is an instant turn off!

Pussy licking for hours and still not managing to make me cum... no thanks love!

Copy and paste mass messages without asking for consent or asking what it is that even works for us. No thanks lads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any message that describes what they are going to do to me is an instant turn off!

Pussy licking for hours and still not managing to make me cum... no thanks love!

Copy and paste mass messages without asking for consent or asking what it is that even works for us. No thanks lads. "

It's when the send a message, then send exact same one a few days later as you haven't replied lol. Drives me insane

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x

Oh that's easy! They're the 'one pump and done' guys who only have oral to offer. "

Well they can stay home

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I think honest messages should be sent.

I'm going to rub your clit like I'm trying to get a stain out a carpet, then as that doesn't work I'll try lick you for 3 mins doing the alphabet with my tounge until you cringe, then I'll give you 5 pumps and wipe my cock on your curtain before leaving.

Mrs

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Perfect filter of you ask me.

Straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think honest messages should be sent.

I'm going to rub your clit like I'm trying to get a stain out a carpet, then as that doesn't work I'll try lick you for 3 mins doing the alphabet with my tounge until you cringe, then I'll give you 5 pumps and wipe my cock on your curtain before leaving.

Mrs "

Haha, least you'd know what to expect, and not bother x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perfect filter of you ask me.

Straight in the bin."

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll just direct you to our bio (it is a joke where it describes me)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll just direct you to our bio (it is a joke where it describes me) "

No it is not. I worked hard on that.

F

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think guys really just don’t, em, think at times!!!

Take our current status, “Any other ladies want to help me stroke Mike?”

Will give you two guess, although you won’t need the second, which sex our first 10 messages have come from!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they are licking for hours....they are doing something wrong "

If they are licking for hours, I am going to sleep...

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working."

Sadly I am one of those people whose Penis isn't working, I am of an age when the only way to get an erection is to use Viagra, I also have a heart condition for which I am taking a variety of medications, I have been advised by my Consultant, my GP and my Pharmasist that mixing Viagra with my Medications could result in me having a Cardiac Arrest, a risk I am not prepared to take.

My only option is to offer oral only, but not a four hour pussy licking session thats for sure.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Some guys like to give oral, weird creatures I have no idea what their fascination is.

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By *ietsenmakerMan
over a year ago

Hartford


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x "

Clearly they need to communicate better and know/understand your likes and dislikes....?? Love and Peace

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x

Get these all the time, a huge turn off and makes me think that maybe they offer to lick for hours because their penis isn't working.

Sadly I am one of those people whose Penis isn't working, I am of an age when the only way to get an erection is to use Viagra, I also have a heart condition for which I am taking a variety of medications, I have been advised by my Consultant, my GP and my Pharmasist that mixing Viagra with my Medications could result in me having a Cardiac Arrest, a risk I am not prepared to take.

My only option is to offer oral only, but not a four hour pussy licking session thats for sure.

"

Could you not offer toy play ? A bit of inventiveness may be called for

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Could you not offer toy play ? A bit of inventiveness may be called for"

I can think of quite a lot of fun which isn’t penetrative sex.

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x "

Why do all women assume men like a blow job.

Why do both sexes assume that anal play has to feature - just because its a huge bias on porn today.

Thus isn't a stand alone assumption is it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x

Why do all women assume men like a blow job.

Why do both sexes assume that anal play has to feature - just because its a huge bias on porn today.

Thus isn't a stand alone assumption is it.

"

I don't assume all men like a blow job but I've not found one yet thst doesn't

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

OP maybe put it on your profile rather than moaning about it on here. All it does is encourage the anti men brigade to slag us all off even more

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not often enough!

Nice to know they're not selfish

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

I just think it's a common fetish men have also they don't check profiles to see what you actually like

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"OP maybe put it on your profile rather than moaning about it on here. All it does is encourage the anti men brigade to slag us all off even more "
,,, fair point,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP maybe put it on your profile rather than moaning about it on here. All it does is encourage the anti men brigade to slag us all off even more "

But most don't actually bother to read it anyway, know thst from other stuff I've had on it

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x "

Face sitting ...... stop with the asking lol

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"OP maybe put it on your profile rather than moaning about it on here. All it does is encourage the anti men brigade to slag us all off even more

But most don't actually bother to read it anyway, know thst from other stuff I've had on it "

Then set your message filters to block men. Then you message the men you like the look of. It's that simple. The site protects you so use it correctly

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

The first few pics on your profile probably encourage those messages/thoughts op .Maybe put them in friends pics & see if it changes your messages.

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By *gfbMan
over a year ago

thorne

Can't do it all day after 5 min im done with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is because mainstream and adult community narratives in recent years has been filled with a lot of women complaining that their men expect to get blowjobs but won't go down to lick their pussies, and how this was sexist behaviour that needs to be changed.

So now you have the pendulum swinging over to the other side where guys find it almost a mandatory prerequisite condition that not only should they eat pussy, they HAVE to openly declare it and use it as a selling point to women, if only not to look selfish and be demonised as a selfish sexist who only wants to receive but doesn't want to give.

Whether they actually LIKE it or not isn't the point. The point is if it's a blowjob or more at stake, you bet guys will say almost ANYTHING to get it. And on that list of stuff said to hook up with a woman, saying that you lick pussy is pretty much one of the lower bar things you can say to immediately make yourself look more desirable to women. At least that's how it works in many male minds.

Me personally, I enjoy licking pussy. It's a mix of actually liking it, and also pure pragmatism: I don't have eight inches in my pants, so I better get good with my fingers and tongue for the whole package! I also suck at just lying back and letting anybody go down on me without reciprocating oral beforehand/afterwards or doing something to them at the same time, so there's that too.

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Get them All the time, for me I love cock inside me more than I enjoy being licked. Don’t get me wrong it’s definitely a good way to start but being licked for hours would drive me insane without penetration

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Never have I sent a random message saying it but if the covo is heading thag way I might say it

I love going down for a wee dive at 5 it's such a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take oral off your interests list.

People could be thinking you like it

Oh I do, giving not receiving, if they bother to read the profile they would find that made pretty clear

I'm same, love giving but receiving bores me. Most don't bother to read tho x

I know people don't read, it's human nature. "

That or dyslexia?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does absolutely nothing for me. Even states clearly on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy I live in hope that oral, given or received, is a pre-requisite

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I love giving oral. But happy to stop when begged to.

Ladies, does it make a difference if the man uses fingers at the same time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience it is because it is what they want or are into, many don't care if we enjoy it etc.

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By *ergeantrecklessMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've a lady that asks me for a massage and to only lick, no penetration at all. So I think it's down to preference. Also just cum and recharge lol eating pussy for an age to hide your inability to fuck for a while without cumming doesn't satisfy anyone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person I like doing that to me is my husband.

I do find the messages from men saying they wil lic me for hours funny though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The first few pics on your profile probably encourage those messages/thoughts op .Maybe put them in friends pics & see if it changes your messages."

I'm not sure why it would encourage it?? Even before I had many photos on or if they were private/friends only seems to make no difference x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say I’ve ever sent a message like that but yes we love sucking pussy!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"...that you want you pussy licking?

The number of messages I get saying they'll lick my pussy for hours, or eat me til I squirt

For me it's not something I particularly enjoy, so this type or message won't get you anywhere lol

Ladies - do you get these too? Is it a turn on or off?

Guys - why do you assume we all enjoy this? (if you're a guy that does) x "

I never assume this, it’s something I ask through messaging, and another reason to pay for a site supporter pass in here, for the private notes

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By *sguy2Man
over a year ago

all over


"I think many of them say things they think we want to hear rather than just being genuine.

I get plenty messages from men claiming to love my boobs but I'd put money on most of them being confronted by them and either ignoring them or being clueless what to do with them. "

I think the boob messages are highly likely to be genuine!

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close

Probably watched to much porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re all too eager for your beaver!

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By *icker988Man
over a year ago

Exeter

Going back to Me Wilde , isn't it the case a lot of guy's have ambitions above there stations ,( or pay grade ,)

All talk no action

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It's obviously wrong to assume anything of someone...

But it's almost like assuming someone loves puppies

I bet most of us love puppies, and having someone message you saying "I have puppies you can play with" is more often then not going to get a positive response.

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