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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Feeling my worst right now and struggling with everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things will get better hun!! Been there, got the crisis team t-shirt. Things May seem hopeless atm but that's just perceived, I've been there and attempted, a few years later I'm living my best life. Everyone's circumstances are different,neverbe afraid to ask for help and I hope everything works out for you xxxx

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

If you can remove yourself from everyone and thing that surrounds you for a while. Go to the gym train hard take your mind of stuff

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

These times may feel like you're swamped and unable to get out of it.

I tell myself it will pass and try to focus on something else.

I don't know what treatment you've had or tried so I can't say anything but keep going, it will get better x

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By *adbod2godbodMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Same mate, remember it's hard to hit a moving target. So keep moving, keep doing. It's when you're not doing anything the black dog gets you

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

I know how it feels! I ain't going to patronise you with what will work for you as everyone is different. Just remember everyday isn't a good day, But tomorrow is a new day. Hugs xo

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Stay strong. Easier said than done I know.

Everyday is a constant battle.

refused all medications when I came back to this country as I felt it wasnt the way to go.

For me meditation helps. Also living a simple life.

I have set rules to keep away negative people as long-term they bring you down.

1.Don't let people make their problems your problems.

Get rubbish people out of your life, the unhappy and unlucky will impact on you.

It will never be their fault always someone else's possibly yours.

2.Askholes. People you have given advice too in the past and they still do the same shitty things. They come back and back. Invite them back that's on you.

3. Poor planing on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

This is important as we run around for others who need to sort themselves out. Stop rushing or working hard for others. There is no reward in being nice.hard work goes unrewarded unless your a CEO.

Some, not all depression can be helped by getting rid of the people in your life that are quite frankly useless.

Being a people pleaser adds pressure on you because everyone wants to be loved or nice. Stop that.

Too my cost I remove people from my life who disturb it with problems. My happiness comes before everyone so I protect myself from the naysayers, the doom & gloom merchants who are responsible for their shitty beliefs and way they run their life.

I know this isn't the answer, depression takes many forms. Try to create a space for you away from humanity.

Good luck, god bless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember that it will get better. I know it's hard, but try and keep communication open with a trusted person .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay strong. Easier said than done I know.

Everyday is a constant battle.

refused all medications when I came back to this country as I felt it wasnt the way to go.

For me meditation helps. Also living a simple life.

I have set rules to keep away negative people as long-term they bring you down.

1.Don't let people make their problems your problems.

Get rubbish people out of your life, the unhappy and unlucky will impact on you.

It will never be their fault always someone else's possibly yours.

2.Askholes. People you have given advice too in the past and they still do the same shitty things. They come back and back. Invite them back that's on you.

3. Poor planing on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

This is important as we run around for others who need to sort themselves out. Stop rushing or working hard for others. There is no reward in being nice.hard work goes unrewarded unless your a CEO.

Some, not all depression can be helped by getting rid of the people in your life that are quite frankly useless.

Being a people pleaser adds pressure on you because everyone wants to be loved or nice. Stop that.

Too my cost I remove people from my life who disturb it with problems. My happiness comes before everyone so I protect myself from the naysayers, the doom & gloom merchants who are responsible for their shitty beliefs and way they run their life.

I know this isn't the answer, depression takes many forms. Try to create a space for you away from humanity.

Good luck, god bless

"

Such a thoughtful reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most important thing is realising you are not alone. Most of us have struggles in our life, some more than most, ive attempted 5 times. overcoming them is a part of who we are and who we want to be. Here if you even need to vent honey xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know what your triggers are, are there certain things that happen to bring it on/make it worse, OP?

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Just remember that it will get better. I know it's hard, but try and keep communication open with a trusted person . "
So true! Trust is very important. Not everyone has your best interests at heart

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent


"Stay strong. Easier said than done I know.

Everyday is a constant battle.

refused all medications when I came back to this country as I felt it wasnt the way to go.

For me meditation helps. Also living a simple life.

I have set rules to keep away negative people as long-term they bring you down.

1.Don't let people make their problems your problems.

Get rubbish people out of your life, the unhappy and unlucky will impact on you.

It will never be their fault always someone else's possibly yours.

2.Askholes. People you have given advice too in the past and they still do the same shitty things. They come back and back. Invite them back that's on you.

3. Poor planing on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

This is important as we run around for others who need to sort themselves out. Stop rushing or working hard for others. There is no reward in being nice.hard work goes unrewarded unless your a CEO.

Some, not all depression can be helped by getting rid of the people in your life that are quite frankly useless.

Being a people pleaser adds pressure on you because everyone wants to be loved or nice. Stop that.

Too my cost I remove people from my life who disturb it with problems. My happiness comes before everyone so I protect myself from the naysayers, the doom & gloom merchants who are responsible for their shitty beliefs and way they run their life.

I know this isn't the answer, depression takes many forms. Try to create a space for you away from humanity.

Good luck, god bless

"

So much of this rings true with me. Meditation and exercise definitely help. Distance from people who bring negativity also really helps. Seeking peace and space from others is something that has a really helped me too. Great post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There’s a few things that trigger it off sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s a few things that trigger it off sometimes "

Just keep talking about what ever these things are…

Talking was / is the most important bing for me..

the more you talk the more you find people who have been in your exact situation.

I still struggle daily, but talking to those who I trust (or sometimes people I don’t even know) is the only thing that gets my through each day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know how it feels! I ain't going to patronise you with what will work for you as everyone is different. Just remember everyday isn't a good day, But tomorrow is a new day. Hugs xo "

So agree that different things work for different people as often people assume what works for them works for everyone. Maybe why some struggle to find what works.

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Stay strong. Easier said than done I know.

Everyday is a constant battle.

refused all medications when I came back to this country as I felt it wasnt the way to go.

For me meditation helps. Also living a simple life.

I have set rules to keep away negative people as long-term they bring you down.

1.Don't let people make their problems your problems.

Get rubbish people out of your life, the unhappy and unlucky will impact on you.

It will never be their fault always someone else's possibly yours.

2.Askholes. People you have given advice too in the past and they still do the same shitty things. They come back and back. Invite them back that's on you.

3. Poor planing on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

This is important as we run around for others who need to sort themselves out. Stop rushing or working hard for others. There is no reward in being nice.hard work goes unrewarded unless your a CEO.

Some, not all depression can be helped by getting rid of the people in your life that are quite frankly useless.

Being a people pleaser adds pressure on you because everyone wants to be loved or nice. Stop that.

Too my cost I remove people from my life who disturb it with problems. My happiness comes before everyone so I protect myself from the naysayers, the doom & gloom merchants who are responsible for their shitty beliefs and way they run their life.

I know this isn't the answer, depression takes many forms. Try to create a space for you away from humanity.

Good luck, god bless

Such a thoughtful reply x"

Clearly a beautiful lady both inwardly and outwardly x

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you know what your triggers are, are there certain things that happen to bring it on/make it worse, OP?"

Insight and perception too! X

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By *chupforitMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I personally think It is a male thing. We don't talk enough to friends or even someone we don't know. We all need to learn to talk. Get it out know someone is probably in the same situation as you are. Please take care.

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you know what your triggers are, are there certain things that happen to bring it on/make it worse, OP?"

Your profile and how you have reacted in this thread has made my day ...

An extremely classy lady for sure...

A foodie and a film buff too

Yes I'm not close to where you are and older than 51 so I will just compliment you from afar xx

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I personally think It is a male thing. We don't talk enough to friends or even someone we don't know. We all need to learn to talk. Get it out know someone is probably in the same situation as you are. Please take care. "

A very good reply too

They all are

Often time helps

As it goes like it came

But can take a fair time to lift and when it does can be slow to lift ...

If only there was a magic way to ease it and prevent it from getting too severe ...

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By *chupforitMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I listen to a radio station the dj's are all over depression they openly ask people to talk. Even with them.

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I feel for you OP

one step at a time

Be kind to yourself

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford


"Feeling my worst right now and struggling with everything

"

Sending you a ManHug mate,

I kinda know what your going threw and wish you all the best,

Don't give up

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