Well, the main part of chastity is tease... along with denial. With a cage, the denial side is obvious. But the tease side is very complex with everyone being a bit different in what they need.
Now, if you can get into it with a partner that is supportive, this is by the far the best way, you can both discuss how you feel during the teasing and what you are getting out of it. They can also be supportive, because you can't just lock a cage on and think everything is going to be fine, it takes time to get used to wearing a cage, finding the right design, etc.
This is where most people without a partner get stuck, as they want to try it, but most professional key holding services expect the cage wearer to be experienced in many ways. Which leads to self locking and with no teasing... yep, you get a sense of what is the point.
So it is tricky... because as someone who has done chastity with a partner and know the huge mind fuck that comes from the teasing in person... and other activities... well, wearing a cage now, without a key holder is still fun... and i get a lot from it.
My advice is to find someone who can help ease you into it, be it a partner if you have one, or a close friend that can just act as key holder... you'll have to open up to them, but it does make it more interesting. In the mean time, you need to find a beginner cage and try wearing it (cheap one iwth lots of ring sizes would be my tip) and just get used to it... just getting a cage on can be a challenge, so their is a lot you can try just to have a giggle at yourself as you explore. |
