FabSwingers.com forum: Meet arrangements

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aaahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!

I find it hard at times!

This has happened several times now

Trying to arrange a meet and after a few messages and pictures exchanged etc we get to the point where the male or female or couple agrees to invite me over. I ask for the address and they reply with a postcode.

When asking for the full address they say they won’t give it and ask me to call or message when I’m near by.

I explain that before I agree to meet and leave my house I contact one of my female friends (safe buddy) and let them know where I’m going and what time I will be back. If they don’t hear from me after a set time they call the police etc.

80% of people have no issue with this, but some people get funny and expect me to arrive at a postcode and await instructions.

Does anyone else suffer this problem?

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By *ynaMike69Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Aaahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!

I find it hard at times!

This has happened several times now

When asking for the full address they say they won’t give it and ask me to call or message when I’m near by.

80% of people have no issue with this, but some people get funny and expect me to arrive at a postcode and await instructions.

Does anyone else suffer this problem? "

I find this bizarre, what's wrong with good old fashioned honesty and transparency. How else are you going to be comfortable knowing you aren't walking into Fred West's house!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've never had this problem but wouldn't leave the house with just a post code.

You're not wrong to want to know exactly where you'll be.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also I have heard of cases where a person arrives at the post code and a house number is never provided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be comfortable with this as a single man.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No because when I was meeting it was always at a hotel....safest option.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Had this the other week.

They wanted to bounce me around like it was a game.

I told them address now or I'm turning back. They never replied yet they were the ones who contacted me in the first place.

Nutters

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By *eFCUKaLotCouple
over a year ago

somewhere close

"Had this the other week.

They wanted to bounce me around like it was a game.

I told them address now or I'm turning back. They never replied yet they were the ones who contacted me in the first place.

Nutters"

Had pretty much the same thing today. They’re now blocked.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"Had this the other week.

They wanted to bounce me around like it was a game.

I told them address now or I'm turning back. They never replied yet they were the ones who contacted me in the first place.

Nutters

Had pretty much the same thing today. They’re now blocked. "

Yeah. Next time I'm going to put on a skin tight line green running suit and use a helicopter if they going to bump me around looking for clues

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By *unnyPairCouple
over a year ago

Seminole

Must be a security/comfort thing as we have had the same issue purchasing things from Facebook Marketplace. We get told an intersection to go to then text. It’s saved loads on tools, equipment and outdoor furniture, but it’s really strange. That said, we would never invite anyone to our home on the first meet. Hotels are cheap enough, and if necessary you can up and leave versus having to ask someone to leave.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I've not met anyone off here (not without trying) but on other sites in the past always met at bar on the first face to face meet, it's busy it's public it's safe. For the person going to the house/flat it's exciting but risky could be a nutter fake set up etc and the person living at the house/flat it's the same there kinda being safe too because again could be a fake set up etc turning up at your place.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Can't say we've ever thought about giving just part of an address before

It does help that we're either already comfortable that who we're meeting is well verified, or we're meeting them in person first for a social.

LvM

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It is a bit strange. I've done it for Freecycle etc, but if I'm going to have sex with someone who doesn't trust me to know their location*, that's a non starter.

* Location where I'll be meeting them, obviously not everyone meets at home

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

When I was on a couple's profile we had this. I had a feeling it would go nowhere and was quite a distance but he wanted to go to see anyway. Was in an airport hotel wouldn't give room number till we got there. Then... no surprise what happened.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some very interesting replies. At least it’s not just me that has this issue

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Don't know why people do that just mess people about, always have a plan b so for example this person wasn't at this hotel but you had plan b to go out for dinner or bar on standby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had that happen but I would end the conversation if all I was getting given was a postcode...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't know why people do that just mess people about, always have a plan b so for example this person wasn't at this hotel but you had plan b to go out for dinner or bar on standby. "

That doesn’t really work as I wouldn’t make plan B plans with anyone as then if plan A works I would be letting plan B people down…..

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"Don't know why people do that just mess people about, always have a plan b so for example this person wasn't at this hotel but you had plan b to go out for dinner or bar on standby.

That doesn’t really work as I wouldn’t make plan B plans with anyone as then if plan A works I would be letting plan B people down…..

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well in the sense if all goes wrong I can always pop along to see....and..... and join them out. So plan b not set in stone it's just a I may turn up later type plan b. Lol I'm waffling but you get my meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately FAB seems to be full of letdowns and people not treating others with respect etc.

A positive way to look at it is at least you haven’t lost any time or energy in travelling or being messed about.

Happy Fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your strategy is very similar to mine. One trusted person knows where I'm going and yes I want the full address before I'll meet. I also msg said person by a certain time so they know all is well. There has to be mutual trust for it to work. Good luck and I'm sure you'll get more meets x

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We always end up having to go out and rescue them, from the wildlife.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We've been given a postcode in advance just to be able to look at distance and have done the same ourselves but don't expect to travel/other person to travel on the day without then being given the house number first. Just like to know that they will definitely be coming before giving out the number.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

people must do whats right for themselves nobody is in the wrong just as its ok for someone to refuse to meet because the dont like the way your saying meet ...

there a couple here in the southwest who are all ways laughting and joking that they have sent a guy a wrong address just for a laught and watch him from there windows everytime it was some poor guy some traveling big distants they still tell them stories in the clubs but nobody plays with them what gross people they must be to do that ..as if guys dont have it hard enough as is ...

but on the other hand there are also a lot of guys with 2 or 3 accounts that spend most there time cock blocking by pretending to be a couple or a woman ..

our process for meet is tough but by being tough we never get let down by consantly blocking the dead wood and those we know we wont play with make the lifestyle so much easier ..

as in all walks of life and swinging is no different there are always assholes of all types and sexes ..

and those shouting it those guys that ruin it for us no no no you only ruin it for yourself stop trying to put your getting nowhere on others...

#justmyopinion

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We do postcode the day before and then door number when confirm they’re in the area for bukkake meets.

We do it because of the number who will change their mind/no show/lose their bottle on the day. Even though we never invite anyone with less that 10 post lockdown veris.

However, when we post a meet the fact we do it that way is the first thing we tell people when they ask for details. So folks not keen don’t waste anymore than “Can I have more details?” time wise on it. We also have a few guys who met us originally they way who are happy for others to message them to double check we’re legit.

Everyone has to do things in the way that works for them, but people should be honest and transparent.

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By *otwifingVixenCouple
over a year ago

Northants

I've had it happen. I'd rather people didn't do that cos I want to be able to tell my husband exactly where I'm going to be for safety. However we've got round it by me sharing my location with him from. When I set off to when I'm back safe and sound. To be honest I like doing this even if I have a full address, certainly for a first time meet with someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swallow an apple air tag just before you leave

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By *ood Time RMan
over a year ago

London / Hertfordshire

I like to always get a number to call and speak before blindly turning up. But things like verifications and seeing they are photo verified also help me to judge if they are genuine etc

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