FabSwingers.com forum: Why do I even bother....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It annoys me so much when someone messages you wanting a meet, you talk for a little while and then decide he's not for you, so politely decline, only to Then get a message "you're far too big for me anyway" & blocked,

If that's the case why did you waste your and my time even messaging me in the 1st place and if I'd said yes, would I still be far too big for you?

Sorry rant over and I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but it happens so often, it's honestly the driving factor behind me leaving the site next week.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

His loss......and he knows it, that why he bit back at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word 'no' has made me become a fat, racist, smelly(!), ugly, conceited bitch/slag several times...just reassures me I made the right decision! Maybe take a break and hide your profile for a while instead of deleting it, I've done that a few times and have always ended up coming back to it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thicker skin needed am afraid..it doesnt excuse the bad behaviour i know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like to feel they had the last word...I wouldn't let it bother you especially as he wasn't for you any way

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By *umplay1969Man
over a year ago

Mayland

Don't let the numpties drive you away, this site needs more bbw in my opion.

It's his loss, don't make it everyone's. x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

This is why I instantly block when I say no - it avoids the comeback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens to us all, as you said, you made the right choice saying no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After sending the no message, block so they can't come back with nasty retorts

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

don't let him win. he's not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The word 'no' has made me become a fat, racist, smelly(!), ugly, conceited bitch/slag several times...just reassures me I made the right decision! Maybe take a break and hide your profile for a while instead of deleting it, I've done that a few times and have always ended up coming back to it x "

That's what I was planning to do, I've had a great time on this site in the past and met some great guys. It's just recently that I've been getting lots of abuse for saying no. Normally it makes no difference to me, their loss etc, but sometimes it's just like "why did you even message me".

I always end up coming back, I like the buzz I get from meeting people just for sex and also want to get back into going to clubs, just need the bottle to go alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are not good at handling rejections. Hence I block when I decline a gent to prevent any comeback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it funny when I get these comments...

but then I have a very thick skin

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to learn to get into the physchi of blokes. We hate rejection cause we all think we are gods gift to women and for us to be told no simply means that you are not worthy or our gorgeous adonis bodies anyway.

So you see it is not personal to you directly it is just his way of him polishing his shining armour that has just had a chink taken out of it. I mean how dare you reject him this hunk of strapping loveliness.

Yup now if you were to say to him whilst rejecting him. You are just too damned sexy and horny for me that I am afraid to meet with you - you hunk of sexy lurve would just make me gush all over the place. then perhaps you will finally see that us blokes are just sex on legs and you women just want us so, so much.

Or you could just tell him to frig off, cause he is acting like a syphletic dingo's dong & that you would rather shag a hedgehog sideways whilst sliding down a banister humming shaga doo doo doo....

Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people are not good at handling rejections. Hence I block when I decline a gent to prevent any comeback.

I don't like to block people unless they give me reason too, but I might just do that in future.

Thanks for the Advice everyone. I might give meets a miss for a while and just hang out in the forums for a while xx

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Why not try the 'reply and block' first before taking the step of leaving for a while.

Im sure you will be missed if you have a rest.... dont let the idiots push you away x

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"Some people are not good at handling rejections. Hence I block when I decline a gent to prevent any comeback.

I don't like to block people unless they give me reason too, but I might just do that in future.

Thanks for the Advice everyone. I might give meets a miss for a while and just hang out in the forums for a while xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It annoys me so much when someone messages you wanting a meet, you talk for a little while and then decide he's not for you, so politely decline, only to Then get a message "you're far too big for me anyway" & blocked,

If that's the case why did you waste your and my time even messaging me in the 1st place and if I'd said yes, would I still be far too big for you?

Sorry rant over and I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but it happens so often, it's honestly the driving factor behind me leaving the site next week.

your veris - you should read them and remember the good guys

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i would say forget about it .. but 'we took all our pics down .. hid friends list and verifications recently due to something similar .. so although i dont think it bothered me as such .. it did provoke a reaction and affected me to some degree

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By *exyminxxWoman
over a year ago

sexyville

Its such a shame that these rude, narrow minded little men feel it necessary to judge us gorgeous, sexy women.

I don't want these little men in my life. They can block me all they want I'd rather have real men who knows how to make me feel attractive and confident.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do with yourself next xxc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this kind of post fairly regularly, and it never ceases to amaze me that people would get abusive because they get turned down. Are guys really that desperate? If I don't get a response or get declined I just accept it and move on. Some people obviously need a reality check and recognise that being on a swinging site does not guarantee you a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's the case why did you waste your and my time even messaging me in the 1st place and if I'd said yes, would I still be far too big for you?

Sorry rant over and I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but it happens so often, it's honestly the driving factor behind me leaving the site next week.

your veris - you should read them and remember the good guys "

I thought that too.

OP, they are just silly idiots that are feeling bad because you said no and trying to make you feel bad too. Obviously some men like you very much. So smile and don't give the idiot ones another thought. x

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