FabSwingers.com forum: something I've noticed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

if a guy did this he would be ejected and called all sorts shouldnt be any differnt if its a women

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By *luespartanMan
over a year ago

crawley

Mmm Im free if any woman wants a free grope

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mmm Im free if any woman wants a free grope "

Thing is lately I've seen a few arguments caused by women doing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're bringing their driving manners into clubs I tell you!!!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

d*unken women pawing others uninvited should be ejected, end of.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"if a guy did this he would be ejected and called all sorts shouldnt be any differnt if its a women

I've rarely seen a guy get ejected from a club because of this. They get told, as should the women of course.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Should be one rule for one one rule for everyone, I'd be fuming if someone touched me without getting the nod first be it male or female x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is. I am interested in women but wouldn't be happy about ANYONE pawing me uninvited...

I've noticed a rise in crappy behaviour in general over the last few months. It would seem that people have just thrown their manners out the window over Christmas.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this. "
Women always seem to cause to arguments, fights in any club these days too much alcohol Im not sure. I just remember a quote from my old dad " if women didnt have a fanny their would be drowned a birth

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

This is one of the things that scare the bejesus out of me about going to a club.

That and strutting round in my undies or a towel not big enough

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By *gw1070Man
over a year ago

stourbridge

Something slightly different here. I'm a naturist and a member of a well known organisation. There is always talk about single guys outnumbering the women and women feeling threatened in some way . I must also point out that these events are nude.. And not sexual. A couple of years ago at an event a young guy confided in me that he was being hasslesd by an older couple. I told him to ignore it. Later that evening I was informed that he had been thrown out and the police called . I managed to tell the president of the organisation what I knew . She further investigated and found out the women was the sex pest ! The young guy was penalised as he had rejected her advances and she then reported him. The guys always get the bad reputation when often they are not at fault .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner and I met a guy off here for an initial social meet in a local pub. Please note the word social.

Our lass was telling him to control his hands under the table within ten minutes. His opinion was that as we were swingers it was ok and that she wanted it. WRONG!

If people (men and women) assume that just because you are a swinger it gives you the right to molest them then it becomes quite a dangerous game.

Touching any individual without their consent is common assault, indecent asault, sexual assault and can carry a lenghy prison sentence. The nature of the environment does not give anyone the automatic right to do as they wish to whoever is in arms reach.

Safe to say the guy we met at the pub was given his marching orders. He slid off (as slugs do) whinging that we were time wasters. But our lass was quite shaken by it and was pleased I was there. If it had been a single lady in that predicament she would have most likely been terrified. And from a guy with glowing verifications too!

Some folk need to take a reality check. You can't assume anything because of the circumstances. You just can not touch up woever you want simply because you are There.

sorry for the rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this. "

Sorry to hear that Calif, yet when some women (or men) are intoxicated, boundaries do get blurred...

Back in the day when I went night clubbing I would see so many 'straight' females doing this... Haven't been to many swing clubs to notice, yet at an Adult party, people seemed to keep their boundaries early on until drink took over. I would be mortified if I did that and this is one of the reasons I never drink alcohol during a meet... I remember doing it once, stroking a woman's bum, during the private party yet the lady was bi herself. And she was cool about it.. Still no excuse male nor female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See this puts me off going to clubs, never been, only just bucking courage upto going, and don't want anyone touching me (male or female) without prior consent.

Just because you are in a club doesn't give anyone right to touch, let's face it they wouldn't to it in a pub or shop would they !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mmm Im free if any woman wants a free grope "

I know it's meant light heardtedly but having been on the recieving end it really is quite unpleasent. Believe me nothing kills the moment more when you are taking someone from behind than a woman who you don;t know, and after you have already told not to grope your arse, deciding that your balls are a fair target too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See this puts me off going to clubs, never been, only just bucking courage upto going, and don't want anyone touching me (male or female) without prior consent.

Just because you are in a club doesn't give anyone right to touch, let's face it they wouldn't to it in a pub or shop would they !"

I wouldn;t let it out you off, I've been clubbing a fair bit and the above story is the only unwanted attention I've ever encountered. While it happens, certainly in the clubs we attend it is very, very rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See this puts me off going to clubs, never been, only just bucking courage upto going, and don't want anyone touching me (male or female) without prior consent.

Just because you are in a club doesn't give anyone right to touch, let's face it they wouldn't to it in a pub or shop would they !

It's not completely put me off, just incenses me that people seem to think you are fair game just because you are in a club. Some people need to learn respect, use there mouth and ask, if they get told no, respect it.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton

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By *umsumMan
over a year ago

Bristol

You are absolutely right in the eyes of the law but where are people's manned and respect gone. Again as you point out, people who swing are not sexual items to be molested....unless invited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is one of the things that scare the bejesus out of me about going to a club.

That and strutting round in my undies or a towel not big enough

Know what you mean. Makes me uncomfortable, sometimes feel as im in a cattle matket.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this. Women always seem to cause to arguments, fights in any club these days too much alcohol Im not sure. I just remember a quote from my old dad " if women didnt have a fanny their would be drowned a birth

Many female babies are murdered at birth - just for the crime of being born female. I don't find it funny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To be honest men seem to be doing this less and less. But then it's hard for single guys to get accepted as it is

don't get me wrong. It's not a regular thing but something I've seen more and more lately

I think partly it maybe because if you know someone well you can get away with it. So people see it and maybe think it's okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is. I am interested in women but wouldn't be happy about ANYONE pawing me uninvited...

I've noticed a rise in crappy behaviour in general over the last few months. It would seem that people have just thrown their manners out the window over Christmas.

- Amy. x"

I thankfully haven't seen this, but like Amy has said, even though I'm bi, I am not a free for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest men seem to be doing this less and less. But then it's hard for single guys to get accepted as it is

don't get me wrong. It's not a regular thing but something I've seen more and more lately

I think partly it maybe because if you know someone well you can get away with it. So people see it and maybe think it's okay.

Regardless of how well you know someone, whether they are male or female, they should ask first and accept answer given.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this. "

Second time lucky.as we have not visited a club yet, just how do you let another couple or single know you would like to touch, without shouting out to everybody present. ( forgive us we are old lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouls deffo welcome every touch haha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the London underground tubes at 6am... Plenty of gropes there... Not just in clubs. It is about respect after all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Many female babies are murdered at birth - just for the crime of being born female. I don't find it funny."

So it wasn't just me that thought it was a pretty vile comment. Though it did at least distract from the misogynistic crap that was the rest of the post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same happened to me but both the wife and husband did it even to the point of lifting my skirt ,I told them straight I was not interested .They then turned up on here and became agressive because we were not interested .Its funny how people think of they make you uncomfortable they stand a chance needless to say they are now blocked

No always means no and I would only say it once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this.

I tend to ask now... Doesn't matter whom I'm with.... I remember asking this straight guy I was playing with at the same party if I could play with his butt hole. he said no... Later on his wife stated how impressed she was with me asking... Sometimes we women can be our own worst enemy and come down hard on the men.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this.

Looks like we will need to be very brave and speak up then lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Many female babies are murdered at birth - just for the crime of being born female. I don't find it funny.

So it wasn't just me that thought it was a pretty vile comment. Though it did at least distract from the misogynistic crap that was the rest of the post."

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Many female babies are murdered at birth - just for the crime of being born female. I don't find it funny.

So it wasn't just me that thought it was a pretty vile comment. Though it did at least distract from the misogynistic crap that was the rest of the post."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Regardless of how well you know someone, whether they are male or female, they should ask first and accept answer given."

See my good friends i wouldn't expect to ask. They know me like my vanilla friends wouldn't ask before giving me a hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Has anyone else noticed this.

Looks like we will need to be very brave and speak up then lol."

Don't get me wrong I enjoy the lifestyle but would not make anyone uncomfortable by my actions and it bears the question what constitutes setting the line

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I was always brought up to look with my eyes and not with my hands... so that's what I do - I wait for an invite

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was always brought up to look with my eyes and not with my hands... so that's what I do - I wait for an invite

Wolf

Well said

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"I was always brought up to look with my eyes and not with my hands... so that's what I do - I wait for an invite

Wolf

Must remember this if we do visit a club, great line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was always brought up to look with my eyes and not with my hands... so that's what I do - I wait for an invite

Wolf

Very true...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive only had one bad experience, i was coming down some stairs and a guy stood at the bottom, i was wearing very little and he was just staring. He then decided to come up the stairs and shoved his hand right on my crutch. It was almost the first time in donkies years that i would of knocked someone out, however, i just went balystic with my gob telling him if i reported him he would be on the sex offenders register bla bla bla. It was home time at the club and just me and him in that spot. I had to leave it without reporting it as wouldnt of found him and he was dressed and obviously on his way out

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"This is one of the things that scare the bejesus out of me about going to a club.

That and strutting round in my undies or a towel not big enough

take your own towel one that is big enough..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Should be one rule for one one rule for everyone, I'd be fuming if someone touched me without getting the nod first be it male or female x "

I'm nodding....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few months I've visited a few clubs. But something I've noticed it a increase in touching without asking

you know the grab of a boob. Touch of bum.

Thing is I'm talking women touching. I've seen it lots and had it happen a few times. And I don't mean friends just random people.

For me it can make me uncomfortable as im straight.

Disgraceful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a respectful line between flirting (which is a 2 way thing) and basic appalling behaviour such as groping (sexual abuse).

Just because you are in a sex club, it doesn't mean you are fair game to being inappropriately touched by anyone.

When you are in sexy conversation a touch of the arm, a hand on the upper leg, by the knee (not inside of thigh), or maybe hip cuddling is ok for flirting (but you should be able to read body language and the signs clearly), anything else you must seek permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its wrong for anyone to touch without consent,women or men its just plain rude...and strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What gets to me is some women who identify as straight assume you want to grope them.. Then they grope you instead! Can happen the other way round too you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What gets to me is some women who identify as straight assume you want to grope them.. Then they grope you instead! Can happen the other way round too you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What gets to me is some women who identify as straight assume you want to grope them.. Then they grope you instead! Can happen the other way round too you know.

Oh and i can't mail you but if you are at a loose end in Lancaster and want to have a couple of drinks give mea shout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What gets to me is some women who identify as straight assume you want to grope them.. Then they grope you instead! Can happen the other way round too you know.

Oh and i can't mail you but if you are at a loose end in Lancaster and want to have a couple of drinks give mea shout

Will bear that in mind thanks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a genuine guy on here I think the polite way of approaching couples is to sit and chat and ask if they want any company if not walk away head held high simples !! And this should be a question not just for single girls or girls in couples but throughtout clubs in general a no is a no and politely walk away or sit and watch happy days all around ... But I think at xotic to be fare the single guys and guys in couples look after the ladies and make sure there is no awkward situations xlee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" But I think at xotic to be fare the single guys and guys in couples look after the ladies and make sure there is no awkward situations xlee

Failing that I scare them off..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I can honestly say I've never been groped by either men or women at any of the clubs I have been to. Perhaps I just scare people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever had this happen to me once many years ago when I was a clubber.

I handled it myself, possibly not in the best way, and emptied a drink all over him.

I am quite a tactile person but never in an innapproriate way. I like to hug friends, peck on the cheek, walk arm in arm, touch a shoulder... Whatever the situation calls for. People should remember, or be reminded that seeing someone in a club doesnt make them fair game for a cop and a feel.

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By *orset manMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

took a lady to a club- others were a nuisance and getting in my way of me having fun- It was'nt men doing it.

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By *allen MadonnaWoman
over a year ago

In my own little world

Glad I'm not the only one who's experienced random women groping me. I f**king hate it. But then I hate anyone random feeling me up. Personal space especially in a club means a lot to me, and as I normally go on my own.

Two guys have tried, and apparently I've got a very good left hook! Let's hope my 'fuck off' aura works next time!

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

I have found that a lot of women have taken the saying "the woman is in charge" far too literally

now quite a few think this is a licence to do as they please,

whether its groping guys or ladies or just being objectionable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this would seriously put me off - fem here - i might kick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found that a lot of women have taken the saying "the woman is in charge" far too literally

now quite a few think this is a licence to do as they please,

whether its groping guys or ladies or just being objectionable

Hubby says I make my mind up but this only means I do what I am comfortable with certainly does not give anyone the right to do whatever they want without respecting others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found that a lot of women have taken the saying "the woman is in charge" far too literally

now quite a few think this is a licence to do as they please,

whether its groping guys or ladies or just being objectionable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have found that a lot of women have taken the saying "the woman is in charge" far too literally

now quite a few think this is a licence to do as they please,

whether its groping guys or ladies or just being objectionable

(thumb

I think this is what is happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad I'm not the only one who's experienced random women groping me. I f**king hate it. But then I hate anyone random feeling me up. Personal space especially in a club means a lot to me, and as I normally go on my own.

Two guys have tried, and apparently I've got a very good left hook! Let's hope my 'fuck off' aura works next time!"

Good for you. My preferred course of action I have to say.

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