FabSwingers.com forum: a question for guys

By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago

somerset

when your chatting to a woman or couple do you think you are the only one they are chatting to or do you think your one of many ??

so you see a meet sign you start chatting and start getting on and half way the couple or woman turns around and says sorry sorted now ..how do you feel about that ?

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

With the amount of men are here, lucky to even get a reply never mind chatting to them!

But I accept I'm not the only one chatting to them and 'it is what it is' at the end of the day

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By *elboy1957Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Always assume that there's other's, then won't be to disappointed if not chosen to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when your chatting to a woman or couple do you think you are the only one they are chatting to or do you think your one of many ??

so you see a meet sign you start chatting and start getting on and half way the couple or woman turns around and says sorry sorted now ..how do you feel about that ?"
unfortunately it's all about supply and demand, some will just play off numerous men until they make a choice

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By *anther81Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

Would be naive to think was the only guy chatting with a lady looking for a meet.

I would assume the lady has her preference and that she picked what considered a better option.

Would hope she gets what she wants enjoys it and wants more meets.

Would happily throw my hat in the ring again for a chance.

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

As couple it's true once we get message more start to come. Always try to reply to guys taking time to try chat X

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I always assume I'm one of many, but that's to be expected - I chat to lots of people too (even if not about meeting - just random chat).

I don't really look at meet adverts like that so can't answer the 2nd point, but that would feel a bit odd to me - did they want to meet me or just anyone. I wouldn't be interested if I didn't think it was the former.

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

"when your chatting to a woman or couple do you think you are the only one they are chatting to or do you think your one of many ??

so you see a meet sign you start chatting and start getting on and half way the couple or woman turns around and says sorry sorted now ..how do you feel about that ?"

To be honest, I'm naïve sometimes, but not naïve enough to think I'm the only one a lady or couple could be talking to. So, yeah, I know it's not just me.

Also, if a couple or lady severs communication part way through because they have a better offer, then I usually just block and move on, mainly as it helps soften the blow, per se, and helps me stop overthinking things.

It's all experience, at the end of the day, and as one door closes, a better one may open

I hope you have a more fulfilling experience in future, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly I would assume people on here chat to many, even on dating app people are casting their nets wide.

Sorry but it's like when you are looking for a new job, do you tell your current boss?

Wish it was nicer for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when your chatting to a woman or couple do you think you are the only one they are chatting to or do you think your one of many ??

so you see a meet sign you start chatting and start getting on and half way the couple or woman turns around and says sorry sorted now ..how do you feel about that ?"

We take it on the chin and accept the rules of the game.

The worst ones are when things are moving well and then nothing total silence. How rude. Just say you aren't interested

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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago

somerset

ok so guys just say i felt spontaneous put a meet sign up got 4 or 5 chatting all sound good but i can only pick one for the night will the other 4 take that as rejection or just think ill try another time ?

from a woman or couples point of view its hard sometimes to get right its rare but sometimes there are 3 or 4 guy on at the same time where you think wow ok i could meet all 4 lol but you know you can only pick on ... i always tell the other guys im sorted but would be interested in aniother time ..be a shme for them to think well stuff you and block ? it is swinging after all is it not

i always block if im not interested 100% everytime it works for me /us

nice to see your answer tho

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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago

somerset

spelling shit sorry been a long day

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"when your chatting to a woman or couple do you think you are the only one they are chatting to or do you think your one of many ??

so you see a meet sign you start chatting and start getting on and half way the couple or woman turns around and says sorry sorted now ..how do you feel about that ?"

On the very rare occasion it happens. I never assume anything apart from whats happening there and then. If they choose to do something else with someone else its disappointing but hey... It happens. Its not a sprint. They may want to do something another time. Its all ok.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never responded to a meet request like that but I know for a fact that I've been Plan B for two different women over the years which isn't something I would ever do on anyone else.

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By *adbod2godbodMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Assume there are others. Because they probably are.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

As a single male here, I'm kept fully aware that I'm part of the plankton subject to baleen-esque filtration.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I'd assume I was one of many and if I got that reply, I would tell them I hope it goes well and they have a fantastic meet. I'd also try keep in touch if the conversation had been going well up to that point.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"ok so guys just say i felt spontaneous put a meet sign up got 4 or 5 chatting all sound good but i can only pick one for the night will the other 4 take that as rejection or just think ill try another time ?

i always block if im not interested 100% everytime it works for me /us

nice to see your answer tho "

Not all men are the same, some will accept it and some will feel rejected and be upset or angry, they’re not all going to feel the same way about it.

It also depends on how you deal with the situation, if you just stop talking to them then they’re more likely to feel rejected but if you explain everything to them they’ll probably accept it easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant say its something that would cross my mind at all

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"I cant say its something that would cross my mind at all "

Same. I might wonder why if all contact was ceased, but other than that, not so much.

It's fab man, you just have to roll with it

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

i always block if im not interested 100% everytime it works for me /us

nice to see your answer tho "

I think as long as you're honest with them like you say you are, any guys worth their salt will understand that scenario.

Just remember that some of the guys you turn down may also be talking to other couples/ladies, so you might find yourself on the receiving end of rejection too, unfortunately.

Nonetheless, I wish you all the best, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have gotten down to talking to me then I assume they have spoken to everyone else and currently speaking to a few others too.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It all depends on what they are saying.

If they are being quite full on saying they only meet/talk to one person etc etc. Asking the same from you. Well yeah that would be fair, if you agreed to it.

It's being open and honest that gets my interest. Not whether I am the chosen one. I would have more respect for...

I am chatting/meeting other guys, if you have a problem with that say so now

If nothing is said on the subject then I don't assume. In your example... No issue at all give me a shout some other time, if you feel we got on.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"when your chatting to a woman or couple do you think you are the only one they are chatting to or do you think your one of many ??

so you see a meet sign you start chatting and start getting on and half way the couple or woman turns around and says sorry sorted now ..how do you feel about that ?"

Personally I couldn't give a monkeys, but it might be better all round if they let the guys know they were in a live competition. Many would drop out, and that would save a lot of people's time and energy.

Truth works both ways.

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