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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Hi all. Just wanted to ask you all, are you finding couples willing to meet, but in the end they/he/she say that the other half can't come? And this after very long conversations?

Honestly, we find it hard to find genuine couples that do what they say and are who they stated they are.

What about you? Is it easy for couples to find couples to meet?

I take with respect any reply.

Best regards,

US. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

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By *lcoupleneCouple
over a year ago

morpeth

Yep that’s why we moved to club meets. Then if they don’t show no one is put out and you still get to have a great night. Same for those who do turn up. If you don’t hit it off you can go your separate ways and have just as sexy of an evening x

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out "

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Yep that’s why we moved to club meets. Then if they don’t show no one is put out and you still get to have a great night. Same for those who do turn up. If you don’t hit it off you can go your separate ways and have just as sexy of an evening x"

We apreciate your reply.

We have a certain anxiety regarding clubs. Always had the feeling is more males than couples and not many real couples.

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By *lcoupleneCouple
over a year ago

morpeth


"Yep that’s why we moved to club meets. Then if they don’t show no one is put out and you still get to have a great night. Same for those who do turn up. If you don’t hit it off you can go your separate ways and have just as sexy of an evening x

We apreciate your reply.

We have a certain anxiety regarding clubs. Always had the feeling is more males than couples and not many real couples. "

We have no interest in single men so go for couples and single female event nights. Seduction at Cupids is good for that.

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Yep that’s why we moved to club meets. Then if they don’t show no one is put out and you still get to have a great night. Same for those who do turn up. If you don’t hit it off you can go your separate ways and have just as sexy of an evening x

We apreciate your reply.

We have a certain anxiety regarding clubs. Always had the feeling is more males than couples and not many real couples.

We have no interest in single men so go for couples and single female event nights. Seduction at Cupids is good for that. "

We will try soon. Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff. "

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. Just wanted to ask you all, are you finding couples willing to meet, but in the end they/he/she say that the other half can't come? And this after very long conversations?

Honestly, we find it hard to find genuine couples that do what they say and are who they stated they are.

What about you? Is it easy for couples to find couples to meet?

I take with respect any reply.

Best regards,

US. ??"

Were only just starting to look at meeting couples (voyeur side to start off with), and so far it's either blokes on a couples profile or a couple just looking for a bi fem for FF play.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we don't often meet couples but we've never had a problem with them being genuine. We always meet socially first anyway

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"we don't often meet couples but we've never had a problem with them being genuine. We always meet socially first anyway"

We apreciate your reply.

If we show some conversation you will defenetly beleive and understand us.

And so many of them want to take conversation to other platforms. Never understood why?

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

it is known to happen (to others I know here, not me yet)

makes me wonder just how many "couples" profiles are just guys hoping to get lucky

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hi all. Just wanted to ask you all, are you finding couples willing to meet, but in the end they/he/she say that the other half can't come? And this after very long conversations?

Honestly, we find it hard to find genuine couples that do what they say and are who they stated they are.

What about you? Is it easy for couples to find couples to meet?

I take with respect any reply.

Best regards,

US. ??

Were only just starting to look at meeting couples (voyeur side to start off with), and so far it's either blokes on a couples profile or a couple just looking for a bi fem for FF play. "

We apreciate your reply.

Same here, exactly the same.

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"it is known to happen (to others I know here, not me yet)

makes me wonder just how many "couples" profiles are just guys hoping to get lucky"

Thanks for the reply.

They hope to get lucky the wrong way. How can someone trust a liar. It will never happen. They just waste time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"we don't often meet couples but we've never had a problem with them being genuine. We always meet socially first anyway

We apreciate your reply.

If we show some conversation you will defenetly beleive and understand us.

And so many of them want to take conversation to other platforms. Never understood why?"

I don't disbelieve you.

If this is happening to you often I suggest you ask to meet for a quick coffee after a couple of messages or to speak to both on the phone. Don't interact with profiles with no verifications and which aren't photo verified. This won't completely eliminate the problem but it might filter out a few chancers

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events."

Staff I meant to refer to admins from the platform.

Maybe regular checks will help more.

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"we don't often meet couples but we've never had a problem with them being genuine. We always meet socially first anyway

We apreciate your reply.

If we show some conversation you will defenetly beleive and understand us.

And so many of them want to take conversation to other platforms. Never understood why?

I don't disbelieve you.

If this is happening to you often I suggest you ask to meet for a quick coffee after a couple of messages or to speak to both on the phone. Don't interact with profiles with no verifications and which aren't photo verified. This won't completely eliminate the problem but it might filter out a few chancers"

Good advice, thank you. We apreciate it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events.

Staff I meant to refer to admins from the platform.

Maybe regular checks will help more. "

if you find a profile isn't a genuine couple report it and admin will check it. There does need to be evidence

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events.

Staff I meant to refer to admins from the platform.

Maybe regular checks will help more.

if you find a profile isn't a genuine couple report it and admin will check it. There does need to be evidence"

This subject is so complex.

But we will not get in to it to much.

What I am trying to say is that we really wanna meet genuine people and is to hard, becouse people pretend to be someone else. Sure, I can report and gather evidence but who will give my wasted time back? That is our point, we enter here after work or when we have limited time and we wish to not meet specimens that pretend to be someone else. I dint even understand why they do it. If the meet happens, what will he say or do? Lol....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events.

Staff I meant to refer to admins from the platform.

Maybe regular checks will help more.

if you find a profile isn't a genuine couple report it and admin will check it. There does need to be evidence

This subject is so complex.

But we will not get in to it to much.

What I am trying to say is that we really wanna meet genuine people and is to hard, becouse people pretend to be someone else. Sure, I can report and gather evidence but who will give my wasted time back? That is our point, we enter here after work or when we have limited time and we wish to not meet specimens that pretend to be someone else. I dint even understand why they do it. If the meet happens, what will he say or do? Lol...."

you wouldn't need to gather evidence simply report a message that said only the male or female was available for instance.

These men hope that when they turn up you'll think you might as well go ahead.

As I said if its happening a lot insist that you speak to both people or see both on cam.

Good luck

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By *aenerysCiupacabra OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events.

Staff I meant to refer to admins from the platform.

Maybe regular checks will help more.

if you find a profile isn't a genuine couple report it and admin will check it. There does need to be evidence

This subject is so complex.

But we will not get in to it to much.

What I am trying to say is that we really wanna meet genuine people and is to hard, becouse people pretend to be someone else. Sure, I can report and gather evidence but who will give my wasted time back? That is our point, we enter here after work or when we have limited time and we wish to not meet specimens that pretend to be someone else. I dint even understand why they do it. If the meet happens, what will he say or do? Lol....

you wouldn't need to gather evidence simply report a message that said only the male or female was available for instance.

These men hope that when they turn up you'll think you might as well go ahead.

As I said if its happening a lot insist that you speak to both people or see both on cam.

Good luck"

Thanks, respect.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just in case you are only ever speaking with 1 of a claimed couple, it's worth a live call with them, just to check and confirm that you all exist and get along. You may sense that someone isn't as fully into it, before getting to the point of meeting.

As for chats fizzling out, as someone mentioned. This is natural and to be expected. Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff.

Who do you mean by staff?

I find it easier meeting genuine couples at clubs and social events.

Staff I meant to refer to admins from the platform.

Maybe regular checks will help more.

if you find a profile isn't a genuine couple report it and admin will check it. There does need to be evidence

This subject is so complex.

But we will not get in to it to much.

What I am trying to say is that we really wanna meet genuine people and is to hard, becouse people pretend to be someone else. Sure, I can report and gather evidence but who will give my wasted time back? That is our point, we enter here after work or when we have limited time and we wish to not meet specimens that pretend to be someone else. I dint even understand why they do it. If the meet happens, what will he say or do? Lol...."

There are many ways you can try to ensure a couple is really a couple and not a single.

Aside from social which has been mentioned above, you can video chat. There are many red flags that set off alarm bells as to whether a profile is genuine - a reluctance to speak on the phone or webcam, refusing to have a social before a planned sex meet, even just the way messages are structured and the language used can set off alarm bells.

If you want to meet people who you are sure are real couples then pay particular attention to profiles. Are there photos of them together? Do the have multiple, recent verifications?

And as someone else suggested. If you want to guarantee meeting couples then just go to a club. The majority have couples only nights where single women may be allowed in but no single men. Its the only environment you're guaranteed to be able to meet other couples.

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By *dventurousSexplorersCouple
over a year ago

Fantasy Land


"Hi all. Just wanted to ask you all, are you finding couples willing to meet, but in the end they/he/she say that the other half can't come? And this after very long conversations?

Honestly, we find it hard to find genuine couples that do what they say and are who they stated they are.

What about you? Is it easy for couples to find couples to meet?

I take with respect any reply.

Best regards,

US. ??"

We have had couples messaging us and when we have continued the conversation we have found that it is only the male. Myself and Jax both reply to messages and find it extremely off putting when we look at profiles that has verifications for just the male side of the couple.

We have started to wonder if some are just having couple profiles to get conversations and meets.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Just meet over coffee for a social, it's the simplest way to avoid disappointment, anyone who isn't prepared to meet socially with nothing else expected isn't worth bothering with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us couples are the hardest part of the site most meet in clubs and use fab as a chat line. Finding a genuine couple for fun on here is near impossible x

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

It’s the internet, people pretend to be someone/something they aren’t on the internet, it happens on every site. We all know it happens, you just have to be extra wary and look out for the red flags. I’m sure sites could do more to stop it if they wanted to but my guess is that if they did they’d lose half of their members and therefore would make less money off subscriptions and advertising….not this site obviously….everyone on this site is completely genuine….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just meet over coffee for a social, it's the simplest way to avoid disappointment, anyone who isn't prepared to meet socially with nothing else expected isn't worth bothering with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. Just wanted to ask you all, are you finding couples willing to meet, but in the end they/he/she say that the other half can't come? And this after very long conversations?

Honestly, we find it hard to find genuine couples that do what they say and are who they stated they are.

What about you? Is it easy for couples to find couples to meet?

I take with respect any reply.

Best regards,

US. ??"

Do you chat about sex and send pics before you've met them in person? Likely it's just a man wanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we lean more towards club meets now, seems to be the best way to meet and nobody gets disappointed if there’s a no show or you just don’t have that spark

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"100% have struggled finding couples , never seems to go anywhere as they mess around or the conversation fizzles out

We apreciate your reply. This is an issue that needs attention from staff. "
I'm not sure the people that run fabswingers can do anything about it. They are not beaking rules simply because they don't show up.

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By *edi123Couple
over a year ago

aberystwyth


"For us couples are the hardest part of the site most meet in clubs and use fab as a chat line. Finding a genuine couple for fun on here is near impossible x"

We have met a lot of couples for socials but it’s seems most just want a verification and never want to meet up for fun. We tend to rely on clubs now for fun, unfortunately this site has become a bit of a joke to make any serious connections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. Just wanted to ask you all, are you finding couples willing to meet, but in the end they/he/she say that the other half can't come? And this after very long conversations?

Honestly, we find it hard to find genuine couples that do what they say and are who they stated they are.

What about you? Is it easy for couples to find couples to meet?

I take with respect any reply.

Best regards,

US. ??"

Not particularly easy but it will happen, plenty of decent couples

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"For us couples are the hardest part of the site most meet in clubs and use fab as a chat line. Finding a genuine couple for fun on here is near impossible x

We have met a lot of couples for socials but it’s seems most just want a verification and never want to meet up for fun. We tend to rely on clubs now for fun, unfortunately this site has become a bit of a joke to make any serious connections "

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Would agree with you and others above about club visits being ideal.

Would also say that fab is ideal for making connections before a visit,

that way you are already on chatting terms and there's always folks to say hello to when you get there

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I would suggest you don't get involved in sex chat other than the absolute basics, if it turns to wank chat - drop them.

If they want to take the conversation to another platform - drop them.

Arrange a social at the earliest opportunity - this is the only way you'll know 100% if 'they' are a they and both on board.

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

We love meeting couples and always find that once we start talking on here it starts to fizzle out unless we have agreed to go on a different chat platform such as WhatsApp/Kik etc...we would love to attend more clubs to meet people but we just don't have time all the time to do it.

Would love to chat more to couples if interested just send us a wink or a message. We are a genuine couple just looking for fun and friends.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

couple has gotten harder to find we gave in online years ago ... alot of fake couple account run by single me or real couple where the account to 100% run by the guy ...seem very few real 50'50 run accounts ...its bad the amount of socials we walked away from because it was male led and alot of the time you sense the woman is only doing it to please him or even against there will .... meeting couple for us is clubs and house parties ... meeting women is gay clubs ...fab is for the very very few men that i chat to

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

We have often said that it is sometimes easier to get laid in a nunnery than it is on here.

We have to be quite pro active given that the male of this couple probably has quite a limited niche appeal, given his age.

We find best way to filter out the timewasters, fakes and fantasists is to ask for a phone number straight away. Amazing how quickly things go quiet if they are any of the above.

We do understand that not everyone wants to give out their phone numbers, which is fine, but if they don`t then they obviously don`t want to meet us that badly.

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