FabSwingers.com forum: The Lost Art of Conversation ...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

Each to their own, obviously - but for me the ability to communicate - intelligently, politely and / or playfully - via messages here or WhatsApp etc - is vital to building a rapport before deciding to take things forward to a meet (or not!). I love a good chat

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Agree with your intelligent points x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For me I need to have engaged socially with people but I get that other people don't.

I think it takes all sorts

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

Whatever.......I don't know..........what do you think.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

Whatever.......I don't know..........what do you think....."

I'm into it. Obviously

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I fucking love a good conversation. Mostly, if that can't be achieved over here, then I'm never going to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fucking love a good conversation. Mostly, if that can't be achieved over here, then I'm never going to meet someone."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

Gonna be dead in about 5 yrs time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fucking love a good conversation. Mostly, if that can't be achieved over here, then I'm never going to meet someone.

This!

Also this!

I'd love just to get a conversation going but it seems oddly difficult on this site.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

Nobody wants to chat with me very often!

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By *ecretRDZVMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

This is the same with any online dating etc. very few seem interested in getting to know someone. I’ve never understood this mentality. How can you build up to a meet if you don't want to talk. I remember agreeing a meet with someone then she said she was uncomfortable giving out her phone number. I said how do you propose we meet then and never heard another word. Weird

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

That's why we love socials, clubs, parties, holidays, weekends away and any other excuse to meet like minded folks.

It's why we use verifications, over 12 months on FAB, no verifications, then probably not going to meet in the real world, so won't be for us.

Don't care about your job, your politics, your religion.

Can you string a sentence together, are you friendly, open, chatty, smile, laugh a lot and look for the good rather than the negative.

Then you are our type of people.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I need to know someone personally to be attracted to them, physical attraction isn't enough for me and my perception of attraction alter hugely once having a conversation, but at the same time I struggle hugely with small talk online, I find it hard to gauge, I find it much easier in person.

Mrs

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

Whatever.......I don't know..........what do you think.....

I'm into it. Obviously

Sorry, I'm in a silly mood.

Yes I think the art of conversation is being lost in general, due to the fact that a lot of people have been programmed into losing focus. The introduction of viral videos, texting etc.

It's nice when you can click with someone and be able to get to know someones story, what makes that persons character.

It's more difficult to maintain converstaion via typing as when you look at someone directly, you have more of a connection but, even that seems to be a lost art.

See how many people actualy loo at you when you are having a conversation in real life.

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By *ecretRDZVMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

That's why we love socials, clubs, parties, holidays, weekends away and any other excuse to meet like minded folks.

It's why we use verifications, over 12 months on FAB, no verifications, then probably not going to meet in the real world, so won't be for us.

Don't care about your job, your politics, your religion.

Can you string a sentence together, are you friendly, open, chatty, smile, laugh a lot and look for the good rather than the negative.

Then you are our type of people.

Hey! I’ve been here over a year without verifications haha. I set it up years ago, met one person then ditched it for a couple of years before coming back. Maybe I’d have more luck setting up a new profile if that’s the way people look at it.

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

Wholeheartedly agree.

Sex always starts in my head. If you can't engage me there, you can't engage me.

I get that some people find this type of platform difficult and converse better in person. I also get that some people just want to hook up. I'm not judging on either count but building a rapport here is necessary for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses

I'm a big believer in an initial chat providing the spark that leads to actually meeting. Endless online / WhatsApp backwards and forwards aren't my goal either really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

What, im on the phone

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

That's why we love socials, clubs, parties, holidays, weekends away and any other excuse to meet like minded folks.

It's why we use verifications, over 12 months on FAB, no verifications, then probably not going to meet in the real world, so won't be for us.

Don't care about your job, your politics, your religion.

Can you string a sentence together, are you friendly, open, chatty, smile, laugh a lot and look for the good rather than the negative.

Then you are our type of people.

Hahaha. I'm sure you are lovely and I think your response proves it. Funny, no nasty snipe and engaging.

Good luck with all the future meets and fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly a lot of profiles state that they want to meet in person first before getting down to business to see if there's a spark or attraction but how do they expect that meet to take place if they don't engage in a little chat beforehand to see if its worthwhile meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely need to chat to someone.

If they're witty, interesting and intelligent then they've just become a potential for a social.

People who repeat themselves and don't offer much beyond the 'I want to fuck' get the message when I stop replying...some don't unfortunately and I'm sorry to say I just delete or even worse...block

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By *pringbok72Man
over a year ago

Horsham

Also enjoy chatting on here and you tend to find out a lot about the other party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation isn’t easy on a site where a lot (not all ) guys think they getting a reply is tacit agreeing to meet within 2 messages.

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By *ingercookieCouple
over a year ago

crewe

Normally chat means, send nudes, go on cam, or send face pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Normally chat means, send nudes, go on cam, or send face pics"

Interesting! Not how I term it but understand that others may have had a different experience ...

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

Agree with you. But also accept others have their own wants and needs. I like a chat and getting to know people a bit better as things progress. A silent fuck is not satsfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish Fab had a phone call function you could opt into with someone.

I love chatting in person or on phone but find text chat conversations really hard to start and keep going for some reason

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Always happy to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get bored with ping-pong messages and small talk, so it tends to fizzle out after a while. Would rather meet in person and see if there's chemistry there.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

Agree with you. But also accept others have their own wants and needs. I like a chat and getting to know people a bit better as things progress. A silent fuck is not satsfying. "

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By *ingercookieCouple
over a year ago

crewe

That's why I said normally, I don't want to tar everyone with the same brush.

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I am always happy to chat, but not if it's just some wank session!

Meaningful conversation doesn't take much effort, just curiosity,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am always happy to chat, but not if it's just some wank session!

Meaningful conversation doesn't take much effort, just curiosity,

Xx"

Exactly this

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

We agree that the art of good conversation is rare on here.

We love a good natter,helpful in forming a good rapport and connection. Then theres the text speech messages ...from 50 year olds!! ...and we lose the will to live

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By *ecretRDZVMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've had some great chats with people via Fab over my time here, but have noticed an increasing number of people stating that they don't enjoy chatting.

I'd be really interested to hear others thoughts or view on the subject?

That's why we love socials, clubs, parties, holidays, weekends away and any other excuse to meet like minded folks.

It's why we use verifications, over 12 months on FAB, no verifications, then probably not going to meet in the real world, so won't be for us.

Don't care about your job, your politics, your religion.

Can you string a sentence together, are you friendly, open, chatty, smile, laugh a lot and look for the good rather than the negative.

Then you are our type of people.

Hahaha. I'm sure you are lovely and I think your response proves it. Funny, no nasty snipe and engaging.

Good luck with all the future meets and fun. "

Thanks, when people turn nasty it just proves the person who rejected them right. It’s the old cheesy “always be yourself”. I stick to the same approach and when it works, that’s someone I’m likely to get along with… I hope. But on topic, I think good conversation is rare in all walks of life now. Quite sad really.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No chat no meet

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By *night in armourMan
over a year ago

stafford

Conversation and connection are good . Not all about sex maybe only time person May interact or communicate with someone ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sapiosexual so only seeking people who can challenge my mind too. Love having a connection with people on a mental level before play.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

"I'm sapiosexual so only seeking people who can challenge my mind too. Love having a connection with people on a mental level before play. "

Agreed! Xxx

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