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By *eekingAmy OP   Woman
over a year ago

North West

I really want to experience a club / private party but not 100% sure if I will be brave enough to get fully involved my first time. Is it OK to go and watch ? Observe ? Take it all in and see how I feel. Your thoughts are much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely fine OP.

I go to clubs and I only ever socialise and watch.

There is no rules to say you have to join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love clubs, you do not have to do anything at all that you don't want to.

It's why I like the vibe, chams is lovely, clean and really friendly and respectful. You will be fine honestly you can play or watch or do both whatever you feel comfortable doing. If you have any issues the hosts are great.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Absolutely yes! You don’t have to play in a club, there’s no expectations or pressure. If you go alone let the club know it’s your first time. You’ll get show around.

Once you’ve been you’ll love it I’ve made some amazing friends going to clubs. X

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By *cing3894Man
over a year ago

Billingham

Honestly the first time I went to a club I was shaking like a shitting dog. But after 20 minutes it was the most welcoming and comfortable place I've ever been. You don't have to do anything you don't want to and it's an environment where women have ALL the power, and the bouncers are usually very quick to support women because No absolutely means No in those places

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By *dventurousSexplorersCouple
over a year ago

Fantasy Land


"I really want to experience a club / private party but not 100% sure if I will be brave enough to get fully involved my first time. Is it OK to go and watch ? Observe ? Take it all in and see how I feel. Your thoughts are much appreciated"

These were our thoughts at first but we’ve been informed via looking on the forums and listening to the vanilla to vixen podcast that’s not the case at all we’d recommend giving that a listen, it really educated us as newbies!

Now we have our first club visit booked for May and don’t feel as clueless going in haha! Hope this helps from fellow club virgins

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes you absolutely can, we went to our 1st club recently and didn't play just had a look around and chilled.

If you let them know it's your 1st time most will offer a tour and generally super helpful.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you absolutely can, we went to our 1st club recently and didn't play just had a look around and chilled.

If you let them know it's your 1st time most will offer a tour and generally super helpful.

Mrs "

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

You can do as much or as little as you’re comfortable with OP. Go to a well run club, and they’ll show you around and will keep an eye out for you.

Plenty of people, even experienced swingers, often just watch. We enjoy that too, but we usually get frisky pretty quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can do as much or as little as you’re comfortable with OP. Go to a well run club, and they’ll show you around and will keep an eye out for you.

Plenty of people, even experienced swingers, often just watch. We enjoy that too, but we usually get frisky pretty quickly "

This

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I (Mrs) remember going to our first club i started having a panic attack in the back of the taxi. A single guy that we had met filled us with nonsense about clubs. He said we would be jumped on, groped/grabbed and followed everywhere.

All total rubbish..we went to Chams and it has remained our favourite club despite trying others.

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By *randmrsnaughty2019Couple
over a year ago

Evesham

Just do it, throw caution to the wind, we did, loved it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I very VERY rarely played in clubs when younger, always was a social thing for me. Do what you're comfortable with and don't overthink things

Black

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By *arah SimpsonCouple
over a year ago

London

Would love to do a club. Just watch and walk about. Maybe being touched. All slow. I’d strip and show myself off. Not sure about sex though.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I really want to experience a club / private party but not 100% sure if I will be brave enough to get fully involved my first time. Is it OK to go and watch ? Observe ? Take it all in and see how I feel. Your thoughts are much appreciated"
Of course you will still be welcomed by the regulars as a woman so you can mingle and see what goes on

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By *eekingAmy OP   Woman
over a year ago

North West

Thank you everyone! I feel a bit more relaxed about it all now x x x

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By *eekingAmy OP   Woman
over a year ago

North West

Yes, I do think the same about the sex ! X

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By *dreamofunicornsWoman
over a year ago

wakefield

Iv been to clubs with a male but never alone so I'm definitely nervous about attending

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