FabSwingers.com forum: Love!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been on and off this site for two years now because I have had no luck on the daring markets. How many of the singles would give up casual sex for love because I know for I would! Or the married couple anything you would Suggest that may help me meet life partner?!?! X

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By *acdoodleMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I would and good for you for posting

you'll probably get roasted for this tomorrow when everyone's about but I'm with ya brother

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I do then I do get "roasted" it I tho k you get to a tome in life why you want more! To share a holiday , bottle of wine and just have someone to go home to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think this site was made to find love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never know you might discover a nice lady that's into the scene! :D

Sometimes it just kinda hits you when you aren't expecting it. I wasn't looking for anything (other than a shag) when I met my other half.. turned out we got on like a house on fire and been together a year!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That great I hope thing work out for you! I ain't just after a shag or someone who is into scene I would give up all of this for love hit every man has needs! I doubt after this post iwill have many knocking on my door! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as I don't really know what love is, I think that I am too scared to let someone in, I have no desire to share what I have worked hard for then lose half of it in a divorce court

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That great I hope thing work out for you! I ain't just after a shag or someone who is into scene I would give up all of this for love hit every man has needs! I doubt after this post iwill have many knocking on my door! Lol "

Who cares to be honest, there are women on here who are looking for love just as much as they are looking for nsa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try eharmony or match.com

on a more serious if it makes you happy good luck. i have done the love and marriage thing and whilst great to have real good friends here am hapoy swinging less complications.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I think your right OP and I'm sure there's lots on here that feel the same but likely wouldn't admit it. I know when I joined the site I certainly wasn't but after a coupe of years the NSA is starting to lose its appeal and something else is starting to look more appealing. But as someone posted above love is scary and its risking getting hurt and I know I'm the same I wouldn't want to lose my house in a bitter divorce!! Good luck with finding it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with looking for love on here, lots of people have found it. You may get slated but ignore them. Some people slate every other person that doesn't fit the way they think others should do things.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty on here looking for relationships and plenty that have found them.

We are on a kinky site where saying you are looking for a relationship is perfectly acceptable but I've never understood why on here it seems such a taboo.

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By *acdoodleMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't think you should ever be looking for love anywhere. Whether it be on here, another site or in the pub. You never know when you're lucky enough to fall in love. Things like that just happen when it happens and normally when you least expect it

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont try match its 30 quid a month! Ive not paid yet so waiting for them to offer me a free week, dw i can work fast lol! Ok cupid is free good luck. Im in the middle i too am scared of love too many bad experiences. But do feel im missing out...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

People can and do find love on here but don't go into every meet expecting it to become more. Just enjoy it, go with the flow etc. If you force something it will never be real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Whilst I am very happy being single, and not looking to change that, I also believe that love can spring up in the strangest of places.

On a personal note, I firmly believe I am not made to be monogamous, I love freely, and don't connect sex with love, so for me any relationship I have would have to be with some element of swinging.

In past relationships, males have been especially jealous of the deep friendships I have with people, that I refuse to relinquish just because I am in a relationship.

And it would probably have to be a swinger or someone very open minded who I brought home to meet my housemates, when I explain "Oh this is J*** and C****, I met them when we had a 3some 5 years ago."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of loads of couples that met on fabs and in clubs too; some left swinging some just swing together.

When I met my ex hubby I dragged him along to a swingers club, I met my ex girlfriend at lcs.

If I met someone would I give up swinging; highly unlikely, so its a no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No as I don't really know what love is, I think that I am too scared to let someone in, I have no desire to share what I have worked hard for then lose half of it in a divorce court

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By *itreMan
over a year ago

killarney

Its complicated. I was on the scene years ago and left for "love", however with someone unconnected with the scene, obviously back now, and single. Being with someone who hadn't experienced this lifestyle was hard.

I always remember an experienced couple I met years ago and having told them I was leaving the scene, he said... " always remember this, once you have dabbled and enjoyed this lifestyle.. You can never really leave"

In my case, I found that to be true..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would not but good luck in your search

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have been on and off this site for two years now because I have had no luck on the daring markets. How many of the singles would give up casual sex for love because I know for I would! Or the married couple anything you would Suggest that may help me meet life partner?!?! X

Thanks for reading "

As one half of a maried couple (married 25 years been together 32) I can only say that a lot of finding love is down to luck, being in the right place at the right time and the right place can be anywhere. We met at work but I know people who have met on buses, in clubs, playing football on swingers sites there's no magic formula. All I would say is that you have to be open to it and you need to be able to trust, life's experiences mean that isn't possible for some people straight away though.

Good luck! Smile, chat to women wherever you are and this time next year we might all be buying fascinators

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you should ever be looking for love anywhere. Whether it be on here, another site or in the pub. You never know when you're lucky enough to fall in love. Things like that just happen when it happens and normally when you least expect it

Best of luck

me I must stop ducking cos it's just not helping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my wife via a dating site 10 years ago. It was a concious decision has I was tired of trying to meet a life partner by chance! It's still raises an eyebrow now when we tell folk.... LOL

I recommend the process to anyone. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if u go by ur preferences ur gonna meet potential partners

i`d be a bit more cautious about it given where we are tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?"

Bisexual people may find both sexes attractive, but it doesn't mean they have to fuck them all.

Saying a bi person will cheat because they are bi is very unfair.

To me, it's the same as saying a straight person with a blonde partner will go cheat on them with brunettes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi.

I can live without pussy but I can not live without a hard on, in my mouth or elsewhere

(no a plastic one is not a substitute in my eyes).

I love swinging and when I have been off the scene I have missed the lifestyle; the sex, the excitment but also the connection with other like minded people.

When I was off the scene I was off the scene, so no, no sex on the qt.

Being bi for me does not equate to being unable to stay 'faithful'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately not looking for love.

Happy settling for 'like' - and can't see myself changing anytime soon (if ever!). Having been married before I now find myself content with the life I lead, have met some people that i'll openly confess to 'liking' both in a social and sexual sense - but as for love? I'll be keeping that for family and a couple of life long friends.

Oh - and coffee and chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is just too exhausting and I'm far too lazy for it

Good luck to the OP though, hope ya get what ya need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair play to the op. I am with you buddy.

If Miss Right somehow showed up in my life I personally would have no qualms in giving up this part of my life.

That said I dont think I'm going to find her on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for reading "

Sure there are loads that would give it up. I for one wouldn't give up my fun for any man. I will always have two or more guys.

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By *andykissesWoman
over a year ago

laugharne

I wud love to find love one day, wud be even better if they liked wot I liked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?"

Is this statement for real??

You curb desires the same way anyone does when being faithful!

So a hetro guy gets with a woman and he adores watersports but she won't have it.. So he therefore would go out cheating so he can have watersports rather than just curb the desire? Is that not relevant for all relationships.. A bit of give, take and compramise regardless of sexuality :/

Can't believe someone would suggests being bisexual means you can't have a loving faithful relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?"

Bi doesn't mean you have to have a bf & gf . Its one or the other. What a misconception x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?

Is this statement for real??

You curb desires the same way anyone does when being faithful!

Can't believe someone would suggests being bisexual means you can't have a loving faithful relationship

Bisexuality is so misunderstood x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been on and off this site for two years now because I have had no luck on the dating markets. How many of the singles would give up casual sex for love because I know for I would! Or the married couples anything you would Suggest that may help me meet my life partner?!?! X

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I'm in the same boat :/

Any tips?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?"

That could be said of straight and gay people also tho.. When you choose to be in a relationship with someone even if you find other men/woman attractive you shouldn't act on it. Nothing to do with being bi/straight or gay x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are bi then how would a woman curb those desires and you only stay faithful to her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think this site was made to find love

I don't think the dating sites are really made to find love really, but I'd never exclude it from happening anywhere - it happens where it happens.

Good luck OP hope you find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for reading "

I would if i found the right partner

If i did ever settle down with someone tho it wouldnt be anyone i met thro swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think this site was made to find love

yet hundreds of people have

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

Only that you meet that one special person when you least expect it and in the meantime you just have to enjoy yourself.

You could even meet that person on here ..... it can and does happen but it's more coincidental than anything.

Everybody needs somebody, you're not asking for the impossible and your special person is out there.

Don't let anyone tell you that this is a swinging site and if that's what you're looking for you shouldn't be here ..... Enjoy life and trust fate.

Good luck

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

And don't forget those people who've found love on here and continue to swing as a couple! The only rules are the ones we make for ourselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think many people come on here looking for love, but if they bump into while here most arnt going to turn it away, and why should they if they're happy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think this site was made to find love

yet hundreds of people have

Indeed, and long may that continue.

I truly believe there is someone for everyone, and that love can be found where least expected.

I don't actively look for romance, love and emotional dependency, via FAB or otherwise.

If it happens, it will happen.

In the meantime, I shall enjoy myself the way I like it, on and off FAB.

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