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By *heSilverFox1701 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

So I had a successful meet this weekend, I mean, I say successful - she went away extremely happy it seems, my bed sheets soaking and her wanting more. So what’s the problem… well.. does it really matter that she didn’t really seem to care or find out what turns me on? I don’t want to appear selfish, but she was only really interested in me pleasuring her. I’m in two minds as to whether or not this matters. I’m starting to think as I get older it kinda does - I mean it was several hours of… well me doing all the work. Hmm - thoughts? Does it matter?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Of course it matters, a meet is for both of you to enjoy yourself, not just one of you.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it matters to you, then it matters. Did you communicate what you'd like from her?

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford


"Of course it matters, a meet is for both of you to enjoy yourself, not just one of you.

Mrs "

I wonder about that though nearly all of the women I’ve met have been a bit like that. Must be a fab swingers women thing maybe?

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford


"If it matters to you, then it matters. Did you communicate what you'd like from her? "

Ahh great question, the answer is yes we had a social beforehand in which we discussed our likes and dislikes, mine are pretty normal and nothing unusual - she just didn’t “do” anything. I’m not sure if that was a compliment or not!?

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Yes it does matter,both of you should be equal unless that's what was planned between you both beforehand.

What is a fab woman? as far as I'm concerned we're all real people,just because this is a swinging site it doesn't make us selfish....

If it's becoming a reccuring theme then maybe more communication is needed

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford


"Yes it does matter,both of you should be equal unless that's what was planned between you both beforehand.

What is a fab woman? as far as I'm concerned we're all real people,just because this is a swinging site it doesn't make us selfish....

If it's becoming a reccuring theme then maybe more communication is needed"

Yes, I’m not sure there will be a second time for me, a fab woman for me is simply one met on this site, not a derogatory term by any means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called karma for all the times you have gone off like a cheap firework far to soon

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Does it matter? If you are going to meet her again then yes. Make sure you tell her what you want as she might well not know/she might be doing things other guys have liked but that you don’t.

If that fails then just get her in the position you enjoy and then make sure she has a massive orgasm that way - she will be back for more which is a win win!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It matters very much.

I do think though that a lot of the men on fab shoot themselves in the foot on this one. I see so many saying that it's all about the woman's pleasure etc.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I hope she doesn’t read this OP

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"So I had a successful meet this weekend, I mean, I say successful - she went away extremely happy it seems, my bed sheets soaking and her wanting more. So what’s the problem… well.. does it really matter that she didn’t really seem to care or find out what turns me on? I don’t want to appear selfish, but she was only really interested in me pleasuring her. I’m in two minds as to whether or not this matters. I’m starting to think as I get older it kinda does - I mean it was several hours of… well me doing all the work. Hmm - thoughts? Does it matter?"

Did you blow your sack with her If yes then all was well , Just enjoy a couple of meets and move on to someone else if not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it matters to you, then it matters. Did you communicate what you'd like from her?

Ahh great question, the answer is yes we had a social beforehand in which we discussed our likes and dislikes, mine are pretty normal and nothing unusual - she just didn’t “do” anything. I’m not sure if that was a compliment or not!? "

The reason I ask is because your profile comes across a little like it's all about the lady's pleasure.

Also you should probably consider that communication should be ongoing throughout the meet...if you want something, ask for it; if things aren't going as you want them to, speak up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. There are a whole bunch of default profile (and social etc) lies on here. Working out the polite moment to stop pretending you believe them isn't always entirely easy.

If you have a profile all about you pleasing and being in control and she either believes it for real (or chooses to take it as read) then I'm not sure you haven't invited fairly passive behaviour?

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"So I had a successful meet this weekend, I mean, I say successful - she went away extremely happy it seems, my bed sheets soaking and her wanting more. So what’s the problem… well.. does it really matter that she didn’t really seem to care or find out what turns me on? I don’t want to appear selfish, but she was only really interested in me pleasuring her. I’m in two minds as to whether or not this matters. I’m starting to think as I get older it kinda does - I mean it was several hours of… well me doing all the work. Hmm - thoughts? Does it matter?"

She used you for sex, this has been happening in the opposite direction for centuries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it matter? If you are going to meet her again then yes. Make sure you tell her what you want as she might well not know/she might be doing things other guys have liked but that you don’t.

If that fails then just get her in the position you enjoy and then make sure she has a massive orgasm that way - she will be back for more which is a win win!"

hedge your bets - great advice

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"It matters very much.

I do think though that a lot of the men on fab shoot themselves in the foot on this one. I see so many saying that it's all about the woman's pleasure etc. "

There are a lot of guys who say this on profiles, statuses, messages, but when it comes down to it, their version of all about her is 2 minutes licking, 1 minute of fingers and then dick in. Very little finding out what her pleasure might be.

Obviously not OP in this case. If you didn't feel satisfied (I don't mean blowing your load. But generally unfulfilled by the encounter) and you want to see her again it matters and you need to talk to her. She may have been nervous, uncertain, looking for direction.

If.youre not going to see her again, it still matters and the lesson for the next meet is be upfront and clear about your needs/wants/expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I had a successful meet this weekend, I mean, I say successful - she went away extremely happy it seems, my bed sheets soaking and her wanting more. So what’s the problem… well.. does it really matter that she didn’t really seem to care or find out what turns me on? I don’t want to appear selfish, but she was only really interested in me pleasuring her. I’m in two minds as to whether or not this matters. I’m starting to think as I get older it kinda does - I mean it was several hours of… well me doing all the work. Hmm - thoughts? Does it matter?"

I'm sorry this happened to you, when I meet someone it's always about the 2 of us, if anything I'm more for pleasuring the guy, I want him to leave happy

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I can relate. I'm a giver and I love to please but if a guy just lays back, let's me do all the work and gives nothing in return I get cheesed off (to the point where I once asked someone to leave for this reason). For me - sex is like everything else - you get out what you put in (if you will excuse the pun). The best sex in my experience is when too givers come together.

If you want to see her again - communicate with her.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I cant understand anyone that just lays back and doesnt make an effort. Where's the fun in that? I guess you've just got to ask yourself if you enjoyed it enough that you'd like to do it again?

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