FabSwingers.com forum: Something a bit more gentle?

By *olly_chromatic OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Seems to be that a lot of the folk here are always talking about and asking for more vigorous and athletic sex, hard and fast, hot and pounding, sweaty and exciting... Does the idea of something a bit more gentle never appeal? Slower build up, caring and sharing caresses, delight without needing force, still ending with shuddering and knee trembling but not needing olympic exertion?

I'm very much feeling that I want someone to make love with me more slowly, who won't be in such a hurry themselves but will caress my skin and make my nerves tingle, who will put value on me reaching an orgasm even if it takes a while.

Just seems to be something that I've been missing all my life, that I've always been expected to take a very active role doing what the other wants at their pace, and never been allowed to just enjoy at whatever pace my body allows me to. Maybe it's just me?

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Petition for a cwtch room at clubs

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It sounds like you need to be clearer with the people you have sex with about the things you don't enjoy

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Yes, although I like a variety of sex, anybody who reads my profile can easly ascetain the type of sex I gravatate towards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both but it's very dependent on the chemistry I have with my play mate at the time.

I couldn't make love if you will with someone who was a casual fling.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Maybe they see slow, sensual sex as too close to romance.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

"Seems to be that a lot of the folk here are always talking about and asking for more vigorous and athletic sex, hard and fast, hot and pounding, sweaty and exciting... Does the idea of something a bit more gentle never appeal? Slower build up, caring and sharing caresses, delight without needing force, still ending with shuddering and knee trembling but not needing olympic exertion?

It's what I prefer also as in my profile. Whats the point in eating a good meal in 5 minutes when you dont actually taste it, its just fuel. When you can spend an hour savoring every mouthful enjoying the taste and texture with someone.

The first time I spent an enjoyable hour with a carribean lady and her partner, the texture of her skin was totally different to my mouth and fingers that I explored all her body.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Slow sensual sex is underrated on fab, but it's my favourite thing. I want to touch and tease, and slowly build up desire. I want my partner to feel special while we're together. It doesn't mean I want to marry her, it means I enjoy sensual connections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a brilliant thread, I thought that only me and my FWB liked this!

I don't like to be pounded like yesterday's beef, I prefer it deep and slow.

And a cwtch room in clubs? Omg count me in!

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We find there's good merit to both an animalistic, wild ride as well as a slow, sensual, caring session. It definitely depends on our mood

The fast and wild usually comes from spurr of the moment sex. If we decide to take our time and plan an evening of attentiveness, it's normally a lot slower and indulgent

C x

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's definitely my preference and I make it quite clear! Just not many men seem capable of showing that softer more sensual side.

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By *owbadisbadMan
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham

Agreed, passion can come with slow and sensual, hands all over each other and yes of course that can build up to more speed sometimes and othertimes the slow, gentle , deep penetration can be a far greater experience. Those who simply just want to 'slot in' and bang away are doing it just for themselves.

Mix it up a bit, your lover will appreciate it.

Of course when time is of the essence and all you have time for is a quicky and you both know it, go like the clappers and take both of your breaths away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Maybe they see slow, sensual sex as too close to romance.

Yes, this! I sometimes confuse ppl by being way more "hearts and flowers" about non-committal things than actual romances where I need a lot less of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's just me?"

It's not just you!

I mean, to be honest, I do quite like sports sex too. Just not always.

I used to have the concept of a "sacrificial shag". The exciting athletic one you do to get to the phase of more relaxed exploratory play afterwards... Handy for when mood mismatch. But that is confession not recommendation!

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