FabSwingers.com forum: Cuck Sinking feeling

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone. I'm asking for some cuck advice please.

We are about to embark on our first cuckolding experience. Miss is excited to try her first bbc and I can't wait to watch her have some great sex.

The think I want to know is will that classic "Sinking feeling/feeling of regret" go away or dissipate the more we normalize this type of experience?

Is it normal to have that feeling?

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By *eatherandstrapCouple
over a year ago

Near Keswick

Totally normal and though it reduces in intensity it never goes away fully I believe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks, we'll that's good news I guess.

Some advice I've had is just gradually go deeper into cuckolding e.g bareback, gangbangs, solo meets ect to keep it interesting.

Does that sound about right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do whatever you want to do at your pace and agree boundaries beforehand and stick to them.

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By *eatherandstrapCouple
over a year ago

Near Keswick

We agree with the deviants definitely on that one too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So would it be a good idea to set quite a lot of boundaries at first, then gradually reduce them as we continue with more experiences?

Thanks for the advice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also, is it normal to have feelings of regret or that you shouldn't be doing this?

We are a solid long-term couple with total trust. We (I) kind of worry it might possibly change our relationship.

It's just fun and obviously shouldn't take it all too seriously.

Just wanted to ask the more experienced out there

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

"Hey everyone. I'm asking for some cuck advice please.

We are about to embark on our first cuckolding experience. Miss is excited to try her first bbc and I can't wait to watch her have some great sex.

The think I want to know is will that classic "Sinking feeling/feeling of regret" go away or dissipate the more we normalize this type of experience?

Is it normal to have that feeling? "

It is so sweet! It is normal, you are realizing how limited and powerless you are. Enjoy it and embrace the feeling within the experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah, I think it's completely letting go of control or power... Just sitting back and allowing my Mrs to get taken on a ride I couldn't take her on.

It feels so unnatural but we both want it to happen.

Thanks for the advice! We have both fantasized about it for a while... I guess we won't know until we do it right

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By *eatherandstrapCouple
over a year ago

Near Keswick

Exactly so. The ride is hers internally and yours is a rollercoaster ride of fear, excitement, arousal and powerlessness.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Presumably it was your idea initially

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

"Exactly so. The ride is hers internally and yours is a rollercoaster ride of fear, excitement, arousal and powerlessness."

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

By the way. It is abit out of context, but she has an amazing arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Exactly so. The ride is hers internally and yours is a rollercoaster ride of fear, excitement, arousal and powerlessness."

That's the best way you could put it... Yes, totally.. Everyone's a winner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"By the way. It is abit out of context, but she has an amazing arse

Thanks Beast, I'm a lucky guy, I really am

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

keep talking, and while doing it.. know that you can call a halt any time. as longas your relationship is strong.. then you're ok..

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

"By the way. It is abit out of context, but she has an amazing arse

Thanks Beast, I'm a lucky guy, I really am"

Text me, Id like to say Hi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"keep talking, and while doing it.. know that you can call a halt any time. as longas your relationship is strong.. then you're ok.."

Great advice, we communicate positively about this experience all the time. We do have a strong relationship. Your comment really makes me feel way more confident about the whole thing.

Kinda felt it was super weird to want to do this but it seems it's quite popular

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"By the way. It is abit out of context, but she has an amazing arse

Thanks Beast, I'm a lucky guy, I really am

Text me, Id like to say Hi.

No offense but we will probably find a black man for the first experience... Ill definitely show her your profile though... Thanks for the advice man!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Why go through with it if you've already decided you'll feel regret afterwards?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why go through with it if you've already decided you'll feel regret afterwards?"

It seems like they are normal feelings that people go through as it's not natural seeing your partner with another guy.

It has been a big fantasy for a while just in the monment I was curious if the feelings are normal.

I hope you understand what I mean.

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By *uracell-DannyMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I would encourage this if the dynamics of your relationship is secure.

If it is not then...then I would advise caution

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Some things best left fantasy. I think thats what mrs is trying to tell you buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some things best left fantasy. I think thats what mrs is trying to tell you buddy "

Why would you think that? To be honest, we both want to explore and have different experiences. We have complete trust and love in each other and I don't feel like it's me pressuring her into somthing.... We're just a little nervous

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Why go through with it if you've already decided you'll feel regret afterwards?

It seems like they are normal feelings that people go through as it's not natural seeing your partner with another guy.

It has been a big fantasy for a while just in the monment I was curious if the feelings are normal.

I hope you understand what I mean. "

Are you thinking you'll feel less regret now than when you broached this a year ago with your partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. I'm asking for some cuck advice please.

We are about to embark on our first cuckolding experience. Miss is excited to try her first bbc and I can't wait to watch her have some great sex.

The think I want to know is will that classic "Sinking feeling/feeling of regret" go away or dissipate the more we normalize this type of experience?

Is it normal to have that feeling? "

if you have a shred of doubt then dont do it ..it cant be undone ...you need to chat more until you both want it 100% ... there should be no sinking feeling or jealousy thats not cuckolding at all

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By *eatherandstrapCouple
over a year ago

Near Keswick

You can be 100% sure you want to both try it and after your orgasm the male can still feel the mix of jealousy and self doubt. Anyone who has been involved in the scene will well understand that that is one part of the complex attraction. It isn't all sweetness and light. Accept that may happen then you won't be so surprised if and when it does so.

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuckolding is as much of an emotional fuck as a physical fuck, I think. I suspect jumbled feeling are inevitable & part of the fun. The main thing is to be clear up front with your partner about what you both want & will both allow. Then let the fun begin

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can be 100% sure you want to both try it and after your orgasm the male can still feel the mix of jealousy and self doubt. Anyone who has been involved in the scene will well understand that that is one part of the complex attraction. It isn't all sweetness and light. Accept that may happen then you won't be so surprised if and when it does so.

John"

Thank you so much for that! We are grown up enough to understand, it's just fun, it's only an experience. What's the harm really, if we are both confident in our love for each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How was everyone's "first time"?

What kind of boundaries should we think about?

The idea is we want to prepare ourselves properly before we dive in... Any advice would be really appreciated xx

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"How was everyone's "first time"?

What kind of boundaries should we think about?

The idea is we want to prepare ourselves properly before we dive in... Any advice would be really appreciated xx"

A whole year is a long time to prepare

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How was everyone's "first time"?

What kind of boundaries should we think about?

The idea is we want to prepare ourselves properly before we dive in... Any advice would be really appreciated xx

A whole year is a long time to prepare

We live in France... Not many ways to connect with English speaking people on here...

We're planning a trip to the UK.. No need to be smart, just asking for a bit of cuck advice.

Thanks though

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I always seem to think if you’re hanging around on here a couple of years and nothing has happened, it won’t happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always seem to think if you’re hanging around on here a couple of years and nothing has happened, it won’t happen. "

We go to Cap dagde every year, we play there. French people don't use this site.

It will happen so your comment doesn't mean anything.

We are young too, so plenty of time. We just don't want to rush in too quickly.

Thanks

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By *airyjMan
over a year ago

dumfries and 24 in France

for you both

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Do keep us posted on how you get on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Will do

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By *r_LickCouple
over a year ago

aberdeen

Yes It is normal to feel this way because its the woman you love and your actually going to see her taki g another man's cock so it will feel strange. But I can tell you once you see her face and hear her making noises she's never made before it will arouse a whole new you !

I felt all types of flings until I saw her taki g her 1st BBC. It was amazing to see and hear.we had the most intense sex afterwards while he watched us !

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Yes It is normal to feel this way because its the woman you love and your actually going to see her taki g another man's cock so it will feel strange. But I can tell you once you see her face and hear her making noises she's never made before it will arouse a whole new you !

I felt all types of flings until I saw her taki g her 1st BBC. It was amazing to see and hear.we had the most intense sex afterwards while he watched us !"

Why would she make different sex noises when fucking a black man?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would she make different sex noises when fucking a black man?"

I think because (in general) Black Men have been blessed with larger dicks? Therefore producing a different and more fulfilling reaction to what she has been used to with my size. Just guessing though lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What rules should we put in place for our first time?

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By *eterinpantiesukMan
over a year ago

southam

my wife generally chooses rather arrogant guys who i know she would never hoose to form a loving or lasting relationship. After a few occassions you begin to be more accepting of your role as a cuckold but sometimes my wife likes to tease me and encourage them to join in as she likes to see my small cock harden as i submit

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What rules should we put in place for our first time? "

I'm not in a cuckold relationship but surely any rules you put in place should be the ones you've negotiated between yourselves not what others have suggested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What rules should we put in place for our first time?

I'm not in a cuckold relationship but surely any rules you put in place should be the ones you've negotiated between yourselves not what others have suggested "

Just having a think about this and seeing what rules people usually put in place. We haven't met anyone before so just looking for advice really x

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By *eterinpantiesukMan
over a year ago

southam

surely best to just let your wife take the lead in this as she will be the one opening her legs for a stranger and just try to accept and enjoy whatever she chooses to happen

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What rules should we put in place for our first time?

I'm not in a cuckold relationship but surely any rules you put in place should be the ones you've negotiated between yourselves not what others have suggested

Just having a think about this and seeing what rules people usually put in place. We haven't met anyone before so just looking for advice really x"

Communicate. Tell her what you don't want to happen and get her to do the same then work your boundaries out from that. Agree that if either of you says "stop" everything stops and you talk. Don't have a code word or a secret signal it means the same thing the the other person won't understand it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it ok to stop the action mid flow? Kind of unfair for the other guy involved.

Obviously, people use protection but is it normal to not use a condom for blow jobs?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is it ok to stop the action mid flow? Kind of unfair for the other guy involved.

Obviously, people use protection but is it normal to not use a condom for blow jobs?

It is ok to stop in mid flow.

Explain to the man you meet that any of you *including him* can call a halt and that if he hears or says the word 'stop' or 'no' or whatever word you choose between you, everyone stops. If he doesn't want to agree to that then he won't want to meet you. Condoms aren't widely used for oral but if you feel safer that way then ask.

Swinging isn't about what everyone else does it's about what you and the people you meet want to do.

Whatever you decide I hope you enjoy your adventure

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