FabSwingers.com forum: Jealous fabbers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had a loooong break,

And I’m dipping my toe in, not ready for anything other than connecting and chatting with a view to arranging social when im ready, and I’m making this as clear as I can when I first start to engage with people.

I had forgotten about all the bullshit- guys who are under the impression that having a conversation is a promise to meet,

Situations where I get to levels with someone where I’ve communicated and gotten to know someone enough for now, and they then become triggered by the fact that I’m online because why would I need to be when I have found them?

People thinking the rules are that we meet people in order of when we have first connected

People not realising that just because I’m interested in XYZ with them that doesn’t mean I might not want to be able to look for something different with someone else , or want to have choice.

And they seem perfectly cool, until the second that they don’t. And I had forgotten about alllllll of this.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Ah, jealous people are everywhere. There's still some good ones to be found though

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By *andA123Couple
over a year ago

cannock

Very true there are always good ones around

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

"I’ve had a loooong break,

I had forgotten about all the bullshit- guys who are under the impression that having a conversation is a promise to meet,

People thinking the rules are that we meet people in order of when we have first connected

People not realising that just because I’m interested in XYZ with them that doesn’t mean I might not want to be able to look for something different with someone else , or want to have choice.

And they seem perfectly cool, until the second that they don’t. And I had forgotten about alllllll of this.

oh dear op sounds like someone wanted a relationship type connection and just couldn't admit that.

So sorry you had to go through that

you have done well to return brush your shoulders off and keep continuing your purpose for being here and in this scene

well done keep the spirit up and don't let no one dim your light xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know there are some good ones.. some great ones . Keeping my fingers crossed , and know it might take time and effort but I’m here for it !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I take people at face value, that’s really all I can do and that’s what I choose to do. I think I had forgotten that people often pretend to be cool with what you’re saying as a way to ensure they don’t miss out, but I had also forgotten that they can’t maintain it for long

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I'm always careful who i offer my shortbread fingers too. I don't want people getting jealous.

Jealousy & swinging is sadly all too common but, once you spot the signs, it's easy to take a step back from the situation.

Good luck OP & keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always careful who i offer my shortbread fingers too. I don't want people getting jealous.

Jealousy & swinging is sadly all too common but, once you spot the signs, it's easy to take a step back from the situation.

Good luck OP & keep smiling "

Thank you! Really want biscuits now

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I'm always careful who i offer my shortbread fingers too. I don't want people getting jealous.

Jealousy & swinging is sadly all too common but, once you spot the signs, it's easy to take a step back from the situation.

Good luck OP & keep smiling

Thank you! Really want biscuits now "

I'll give you my last shortbread finger. It's highly unlikely anyone else will want it lol

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

yep they are out there people youve met who then go on to all of a sudden forgetting that its swinging and i owe them something like loyalty .. they get booted i cant stand people who get jealous or clingy..

then youve got those that say jealousy is part of the scene and part of being in love (couples) sorry but if you have jealousy in your play book then you should be nowhere near this scene couples or singles...

and lets not forget the people who just get jealous because you getting on with things and having fun ..yep they are out there ive got screenshot messages to prove so mainly women and couples and the odd guy ..#

jealousy has no place on this scene at all its a dangerous emotion for a scene where having sex with others is the norm

#justmyopinion

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Someone said to me recently on here that I seem to be a Nutcase magnet but in all my time here I've only met 3 women who could genuinely fall under that heading and 2 of them suffered from insane jealousy.

The mad part about it though is that I only met one of them for coffee a few years ago but everything I did after that became about her.

She was obsessed with what everyone else was doing and lying was second nature to her.

Every compliment on the forums had to be aimed at her because there was no one else on particular threads deserving of such lovely words.

Every criticism on the forums was also aimed at her because people hated her and shunned her.

She surrounded herself with some of the nastiest most misogynistic guys on the site because she knew they wouldn't attack her then but she kept them on a leash and used them to verbally attack others.

Life has been so much simpler and quieter since I stopped engaging with her but unfortunately I have seen very similar traits in others in more recent times.

Thankfully not people I have ever engaged with but their forum contributions are a carbon copy. Attacking others in forum digs or status updates while claiming "self defence your honour".

Everyone gets a little jealous at times but when it crosses over into an obsession it won't end well.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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