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 . If it's a woman they just need to 'get it' elsewhere because obviously the guy must be mad.
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs " I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue  horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in | |||
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in "To my mind that's putting two people in more misery | |||
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"People can have medical probs hence no sex but still have a great marriage do you lose a family over sex" Some people suggest that you abandon a marriage because one aspect of it isn't working well. | |||
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"Sometimes a person can no longer have sex for many reasons. A marriage is much more than sex but if it's still important to one partner it's going to be very difficult for them to cope. With sex comes intimacy, bonding, emotional closeness and validation. If your partner no longer wants or needs any of those things it can cause a person to feel unattractive rejected and unloved. What are these people supposed to do? If it's a man according to fab they should just put up with it and do the washing up more often . If it's a woman they just need to 'get it' elsewhere because obviously the guy must be mad.
"Looking through the answers I don't think "according to fab men should just get on with it" I think most responses are to talk and communicate. Mrs | |||
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in "It really is, and personally I agree, I hope people do get outed, being in "the scene" itself requires a huge amount of trust and communication to break that is horrendous. Mrs | |||
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"Sometimes a person can no longer have sex for many reasons. A marriage is much more than sex but if it's still important to one partner it's going to be very difficult for them to cope. With sex comes intimacy, bonding, emotional closeness and validation. If your partner no longer wants or needs any of those things it can cause a person to feel unattractive rejected and unloved. What are these people supposed to do? If it's a man according to fab they should just put up with it and do the washing up more often . If it's a woman they just need to 'get it' elsewhere because obviously the guy must be mad.
Looking through the answers I don't think "according to fab men should just get on with it" I think most responses are to talk and communicate.
Mrs "You're right, recently they do seem to be. Overall though during my time here the general concensus seems to me to be that men should accept a sexless relationship and either masturbate more, just put up with it or leave. | |||
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in
To my mind that's putting two people in more misery "Yes but not forever no one deserves to be comforted by a lie. Its just wrong | |||
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in
It really is, and personally I agree, I hope people do get outed, being in "the scene" itself requires a huge amount of trust and communication to break that is horrendous.
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in
To my mind that's putting two people in more misery
Yes but not forever no one deserves to be comforted by a lie. Its just wrong "I think we're all comforted by lies to a certain extent but I take your point | |||
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs I agree but sadly and disgustingly there are people in the scene who are married and their significant other doesn't have a clue horrible. Hope they get exposed one day and put the other person out of their misery to live life without them. Its a very selfish world we live in "Not just in this scene. It is unfortunately human error and life changes. We all do what we do for All sorts of reasons. | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help." What about the rest of the relationship? | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help." But what if 95% of the marriage is fantastic and it's just the 5% sex that is missing? End a marriage just over one issue, seriously? Surely honest open communication and finding a compromise/solution together is worth giving a try. If 2 people truly love each other then they should be able to find away forwards together. | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help." Really. Marriage is not all about sex and I for one can concur. A good 3 yrs of no marital sex due to our reasons we have had many a chat openly and without prejudice. He's fully aware I'm here It does pay to talk about the physical wants and needs. Perhaps I'm just unique as I find it easy to talk my mind | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. But what if 95% of the marriage is fantastic and it's just the 5% sex that is missing? End a marriage just over one issue, seriously? Surely honest open communication and finding a compromise/solution together is worth giving a try. If 2 people truly love each other then they should be able to find away forwards together." Open and honest communication isn't always possible. Relationships are all so different. I often wonder why people find it acceptable for the person not able or wanting to have sex to expect the other person to live without it too. | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. But what if 95% of the marriage is fantastic and it's just the 5% sex that is missing? End a marriage just over one issue, seriously? Surely honest open communication and finding a compromise/solution together is worth giving a try. If 2 people truly love each other then they should be able to find away forwards together. Open and honest communication isn't always possible. Relationships are all so different. I often wonder why people find it acceptable for the person not able or wanting to have sex to expect the other person to live without it too. " I totally agree. It really isn't fair to expect a partner not to have a sex life just because one partner has gone off sex, it's selfish. That's why it must be talked about. | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. But what if 95% of the marriage is fantastic and it's just the 5% sex that is missing? End a marriage just over one issue, seriously? Surely honest open communication and finding a compromise/solution together is worth giving a try. If 2 people truly love each other then they should be able to find away forwards together. Open and honest communication isn't always possible. Relationships are all so different. I often wonder why people find it acceptable for the person not able or wanting to have sex to expect the other person to live without it too. " Now that is an issue in any relationship, married or not.. If its not 2 way honest and open, its a nooo from me | |||
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"seems like many people on here in a sexless marriage what are we suppose to do !!!" I think we are supposed to believe them | |||
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"Have you really thought why. In my first marriage the sex was lacking and often that was because there was no intimacy or foreplay. It's said men are visual and women are chemical so time needs to be taken to start that reaction. Having conversation and interacting well when not looking for sex helps to place the building bricks for the time either of you have the desire " It's interesting, I thought of sex as part of the communication that you should be doing as a couple, it's true that our other communication fell off as well. Where a lot if people say fix the communication and the sex will return, the psychotherapist Esther Perrell says fix the sex and the communication will follow. | |||
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"Have you really thought why. In my first marriage the sex was lacking and often that was because there was no intimacy or foreplay. It's said men are visual and women are chemical so time needs to be taken to start that reaction. Having conversation and interacting well when not looking for sex helps to place the building bricks for the time either of you have the desire It's interesting, I thought of sex as part of the communication that you should be doing as a couple, it's true that our other communication fell off as well. Where a lot if people say fix the communication and the sex will return, the psychotherapist Esther Perrell says fix the sex and the communication will follow." With all due respect to Esther how is sex fixed with no communication? | |||
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"For sickness and in health no need to cheat you made a vow" I enjoy riding my motorbike I also enjoy sex wats the diff | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. Really. Marriage is not all about sex and I for one can concur. A good 3 yrs of no marital sex due to our reasons we have had many a chat openly and without prejudice. He's fully aware I'm here It does pay to talk about the physical wants and needs. Perhaps I'm just unique as I find it easy to talk my mind " I too am in a sexless marriage due to.health reasons. I love my wife and she is my best friend. We talked about the situation as we had previously had a very healthy sex life. She understood that I found it frustrating because I have a high sex drive. She was the one who suggested that I try to meet my sexual needs elsewhere. As a result, I joined fab, and meet discretely. The thing is that because we talked we found a compromise that we were both happy with and our relationship is stronger than ever now | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. Really. Marriage is not all about sex and I for one can concur. A good 3 yrs of no marital sex due to our reasons we have had many a chat openly and without prejudice. He's fully aware I'm here It does pay to talk about the physical wants and needs. Perhaps I'm just unique as I find it easy to talk my mind I too am in a sexless marriage due to.health reasons. I love my wife and she is my best friend. We talked about the situation as we had previously had a very healthy sex life. She understood that I found it frustrating because I have a high sex drive. She was the one who suggested that I try to meet my sexual needs elsewhere. As a result, I joined fab, and meet discretely. The thing is that because we talked we found a compromise that we were both happy with and our relationship is stronger than ever now" This is the way. KJ | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. Really. Marriage is not all about sex and I for one can concur. A good 3 yrs of no marital sex due to our reasons we have had many a chat openly and without prejudice. He's fully aware I'm here It does pay to talk about the physical wants and needs. Perhaps I'm just unique as I find it easy to talk my mind I too am in a sexless marriage due to.health reasons. I love my wife and she is my best friend. We talked about the situation as we had previously had a very healthy sex life. She understood that I found it frustrating because I have a high sex drive. She was the one who suggested that I try to meet my sexual needs elsewhere. As a result, I joined fab, and meet discretely. The thing is that because we talked we found a compromise that we were both happy with and our relationship is stronger than ever now This is the way. KJ"  | |||
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" With all due respect to Esther how is sex fixed with no communication? " I may be misquoting so her podcasts are definitely the place to go for source, I listened to them a lot and she has a lot worth hearing. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/sep/30/esther-perel-fix-the-sex-and-your-relationship-will-transform-esther-perel Is a reasonable place to start if you've not come across her before. | |||
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"Talk to each other, compromise, come up with a solution. Don't cheat, lie and decieve the person you apparently love. Mrs " "Your wife might also be wondering why she is in a sexless marriage, so talking about it is definitely the first step " both these comments are so true | |||
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" With all due respect to Esther how is sex fixed with no communication? I may be misquoting so her podcasts are definitely the place to go for source, I listened to them a lot and she has a lot worth hearing. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/sep/30/esther-perel-fix-the-sex-and-your-relationship-will-transform-esther-perel Is a reasonable place to start if you've not come across her before." Thanks for the link. | |||
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"A nice romantic weekend away together, seeing some sights then back to the hotel?" That's the only way I can seem to a 'fiddle' and be close to her these days! X | |||
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"Porn Hub and a wank? " And that's exactly what I've resorted to!! | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. Really. Marriage is not all about sex and I for one can concur. A good 3 yrs of no marital sex due to our reasons we have had many a chat openly and without prejudice. He's fully aware I'm here It does pay to talk about the physical wants and needs. Perhaps I'm just unique as I find it easy to talk my mind I too am in a sexless marriage due to.health reasons. I love my wife and she is my best friend. We talked about the situation as we had previously had a very healthy sex life. She understood that I found it frustrating because I have a high sex drive. She was the one who suggested that I try to meet my sexual needs elsewhere. As a result, I joined fab, and meet discretely. The thing is that because we talked we found a compromise that we were both happy with and our relationship is stronger than ever now" Good for you guys. And equally so our relationship is all roses for it | |||
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"Talk to each other, if the reason for it can't be resolved then call it a day and get on with life" This, this and....this! | |||
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"Only one answer, if you seriously miss sex. End your sexless marriage. If not, torturing yourself on here won't help. What about the rest of the relationship?" If he really wants to make a choice, there is no middle ground.  | |||
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"Talk about it but we prepares to understand that it is partly your fault. To enjoy and want sex your partner needs to feel loved, happy, attractive and desirable. Do you make her feel that way? To enjoy sex she needs the right stimulation, variety, and communication. Does sex follow a routine? Is it always what you want the way you want it? Remember sex by numbers on a Saturday night after match of the day with the extra “child” they look after isn’t going to make your wife feel sexy" | |||
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"seems like many people on here in a sexless marriage what are we suppose to do !!!" leave the marriage I guess is logical answer .. clearly both sides aren't happy | |||
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