FabSwingers.com forum: FWB definition

By *iren! OP Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think you can be totally detached from someone you meet on a regular basis.

Anyone who states the opposite are either lying to themselves or cold.

The clue is the description of that person : FRIEND with benefits, consequently, you must have some sort of friendly feelings for that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend with Benefits. Someone who I get along with and can have a joke with. My Fwb and are have a good relationship outside of sex too.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um. Just what the words mean. A friend. With benefits.

That means some degree of strings to me, so not NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trick is to have 3 or 4 friends with benefits, that way everyone knows it's just NSA fun.

I have only depend feels for one guy on here and now he is my best friend, but we never had sex.

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I agree with the above. It’s FRIENDS with benefits. And feelings are always going to exist. In my opinion they should be positively encouraged. The more trust that’s built, the greater the connection, I’d argue the better the experience. Especially when looking to explore fantasies or push your individual boundaries.

I’d question anyone who says they have no feelings for the person as not being the right type of person for that type of relationship. And that’s ok, everyone’s different

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

Interpretation, Friends With Benefits from our experience are friendships that can go a bit further contain an elementof NSA between our friends but is a benefit. Not the mission. It is a kind of but we would go out, drinks, meals, bbq, walk dogs and holidays as friends do, but with the added benefit of sharing sexual experiences together, in the mood takes, so there is a level of attachments as we look out for each other.

Opposed to FB which get together purly for the purpose of sex only, either together with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB are friends.

FB is NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?"

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that"

Man. Your friendships suck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that"

That's not FWB, that's NSA FB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

That's not FWB, that's NSA FB."

That’s being used as disposable commodity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the others have said, I had a FB for 5 months, literally met for sex, deed over and off he went, wouldn't hear from him til the next week and the cycle continued, now I want something with a bit less coldness, able to have a laugh, you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the above. It’s FRIENDS with benefits. And feelings are always going to exist. In my opinion they should be positively encouraged. The more trust that’s built, the greater the connection, I’d argue the better the experience. Especially when looking to explore fantasies or push your individual boundaries.

I’d question anyone who says they have no feelings for the person as not being the right type of person for that type of relationship. And that’s ok, everyone’s different "

Agree but that is only okay if the recipient knows that her/his fwb sees him/her as okay to fuck but not okay to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

Man. Your friendships suck."
Trying to help the op to not catch feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

That's not FWB, that's NSA FB.

That’s being used as disposable commodity

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I did have a lady friend say you can come around but I can't have sex today.

I said forget it tonight then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

That's not FWB, that's NSA FB.

That’s being used as disposable commodity

I did have a lady friend say you can come around but I can't have sex today.

I said forget it tonight then. "

You sure know how to keep your boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

That's not FWB, that's NSA FB.

That’s being used as disposable commodity

I did have a lady friend say you can come around but I can't have sex today.

I said forget it tonight then.

You sure know how to keep your boundaries

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Just had a smear test apparently or trying to play me to see if I was falling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

Man. Your friendships suck. Trying to help the op to not catch feelings.

He might like to be in a dynamic with feelings?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Trying to help the op to not catch feelings.

I'm sure OP can work it out all by herself. After all, women on here are just trying to trick magnificent studs into relationships, don't be falling for her cunning method of drawing you in now

The question was the definition of FWB.

I have no issue with just having fuck buddies. I have people that are good booty calls without attachments. But a friend with benefits includes the friend part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trying to help the op to not catch feelings.

I'm sure OP can work it out all by herself. After all, women on here are just trying to trick magnificent studs into relationships, don't be falling for her cunning method of drawing you in now

The question was the definition of FWB.

I have no issue with just having fuck buddies. I have people that are good booty calls without attachments. But a friend with benefits includes the friend part

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'does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?'

That was also part of the question, if you read it properly.

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I’d question anyone who says they have no feelings for the person as not being the right type of person for that type of relationship. And that’s ok, everyone’s different

Agree but that is only okay if the recipient knows that her/his fwb sees him/her as okay to fuck but not okay to date. "

Absolutely and it’s nuanced isn’t it. From experience I’ve only had one FWB relationship. We were friends, laughed, joked, hung out and yes, had sex. But we’d both entered the ‘relationship’ with an agreement we didn’t want a full blown committed relationship, but liked each others company and were attracted to each other. I’d agree it doesn’t really work if not on the same page so you’re right to clarify it

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I stay emotionally detached , fwb for me is just a fuck and be on my your way . I don’t even converse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stay emotionally detached , fwb for me is just a fuck and be on my your way . I don’t even converse

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And people think I'm cold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that"

That’s how I’d define FB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that

That’s how I’d define FB "
Yes i was making suggestions as how to catch feelings like the op said.

I might be a bit more lax with a friend with benefits but not much.

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By *iren! OP Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"The trick is to have 3 or 4 friends with benefits, that way everyone knows it's just NSA fun.

I have only depend feels for one guy on here and now he is my best friend, but we never had sex. "

Great advice

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By *iren! OP Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Interpretation, Friends With Benefits from our experience are friendships that can go a bit further contain an elementof NSA between our friends but is a benefit. Not the mission. It is a kind of but we would go out, drinks, meals, bbq, walk dogs and holidays as friends do, but with the added benefit of sharing sexual experiences together, in the mood takes, so there is a level of attachments as we look out for each other.

Opposed to FB which get together purly for the purpose of sex only, either together with others."

Here here

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By *iren! OP Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?

Why you need to implement some rules if you want to sustain it.

Examples

* No kind of date stuff, just more about the sex

*Don't talk too much about private life

* Only txt to arrange to meet

* Don't talk to each other about other meets etc (causes jealousy, resentment)

* Don't see each other too often

Things like that"

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?"

It’s not NSA if you’re friends. I think you meant fuck buddy?

Personally for me , a fuck buddy is emotionally detached by definition , if you’re catching feelings it’s a relationship. The detachment is what makes it a FB

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By *resesse_MelioremCouple
over a year ago

Border of London

"What is your interpretation of FWB. Yes NSA is the obvious response

does anyone find it hard to not catch feeling? Or is it easy for you to stay emotionally detached?"

If FWB = Friend with benefits (sexual), then we could ask you: are you emotionally detached from your friends, generally?

Add sexual "benefits" to your own definition of "friend", and there you have your own literal meaning.

Presumably, the distinction between FB & FWB can get blurred, because it's a spectrum. On the one side you have the people who see each other once every now and again, don't know each other at all outside of a sexual context, and have no emotional connection at all. On the other side, you have close friends who decide to take things physical, and are in all but a full-on relationship. And almost every conceivable combination in between (sometimes with differing views).

But perhaps your question is not simply one of definitions... You're questioning whether it's easy not to catch feelings. That probably depends on each individual, how strongly you define the threshold for "feelings" (since almost everyone has them, to an extent) and a whole host of other factors. Complicated by how hard it is to be honest with ourselves.

Good luck

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

In my case it's someone i can chill out with on sofa, drinking beer, watching movies, fighting over remote control, chatting about whatever we like. Send random messages to at 3am.

And have amazing sex, curl up next to afterwards and stay the night.

But no commitment to each other, and we are free to meet whomever we like.

At least, this is the current situation and is open to change as we both see fit.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Na we just meet up every couple weeks i take a bottle of wine down she sucks the life out of me she gets fucked hard then we chat and have a laugh and I'll see her again next time

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"FWB are friends.

FB is NSA.

Pretty much this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some people I could never live with, but are friends (shared interests etc) and who I enjoy having sex with. While I may have some affection for them, it's not love!

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