FabSwingers.com forum: Anal advice

By *acey87 OP Woman
over a year ago

watford

I haven’t been fucked up the arse in over 10yrs. I desperately want some dirty DP but struggling to ‘loosen’ up and enjoy anal sex! I have a number of butt plugs which are fine but I can’t relax during sex. It’s too painful! I used to love it so not sure what’s changed!

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"I haven’t been fucked up the arse in over 10yrs. I desperately want some dirty DP but struggling to ‘loosen’ up and enjoy anal sex! I have a number of butt plugs which are fine but I can’t relax during sex. It’s too painful! I used to love it so not sure what’s changed! "

Plenty of lube...relax...start with finger...two...stimulating clit at the same time does wonders.

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By *inabushCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Have u tried rimming before? Also there are some slightly relaxing lubes out there. (Not the numbing ones) xx

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By *inabushCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Google…. Pjur relaxing lube

P j u r

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By *r LickalotapussMan
over a year ago

London

I recommend you slip one of your lubed up butt plugs in as part of foreplay.

You might just find it relaxes your muscles during normal sex and the anal fun could easily follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have similar problem, no way Mrs is taking a full cock yet

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

All of the mentioned above:

- use relaxing lube like pjur

- put small butt plug in beforehand or during foreplay and vaginal sex (let it rest there 15+min)

In addition:

- try magic brown bottle sniff ( can get in most sex shops or online. No it’s not a drug, it’s not addictive)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently gotten into it after saying never ever...all about relaxing, butt plugs and lots of lube.

You have to do it when your head is in the right frame of mind.

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By *9 Love-To-TryCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Be relaxed, clean, list of lube and in the mood, if your partner is attentive and patient you will soon want more and more and find you are not as tight you will want more of the amazing feelings xx

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By *ewsexycplCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Get a p40 sucking vibrator as well. Really helps. I absolutely love anal now and the sensations are out of this world xx

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Is it really that important as it's something that causes you pain?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a p40 sucking vibrator as well. Really helps. I absolutely love anal now and the sensations are out of this world xx"

Brilliant advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must use a good bit of lube and i think that the secret about anal is finding the right position that you are comfortable with x there's a couple of different ways to do anal x

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By *igtone2310Man
over a year ago

Beverley

If you've found it painful your body will now be tensing up, you need to totally start again and work your way up, just play a little and then leave it till you feel totally relaxed again and loads of lube x

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

Relaxing smelling salts?

Not allowed to say them.

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By *ayingthepipeMan
over a year ago

N wales

More lube

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By *nterracialDesiresCouple (MM)
over a year ago

London / Essex

Rimming from an expert tongue is the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

plenty lube a bit of patience a but plug and go slowly in and out a bit more each time, dont to try to put it all in in one go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with your pussy, once you had few orgasms fuck your arse...

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Some interesting advice here hubby love anal but I struggle to relax and can be uncomfortable. it's shame as we've explored so much together yet anal still problem area xx

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Not sure if it's the same thing but I recently need a prostrate check; I hate the thought of anything going up my bum, I even clench just thinking about it. It needed doing so I had to find away; I realised that I breath in when clenching so I breathed out, all went very well with no discomfort or pain... just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a trusting partner prepared to progress at your pace with lots of foreplay is a must. sometimes a partner with a smaller cock is an advantage

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Trust is most important and try a nice relaxing warm bath and lots of lube and take your time and more lube than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should suck a cock at same time to take your mind off it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male half here, I detest anything near my Arse! So recently, I discovered that my Wife absolutely adores Anal, to the point where she prefers it to vaginal sex, but only with me!

Although she plays with others, she will only let me in her arse and I really struggle with it given that I detest anything anywhere near my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lady hadn't done anal before we'd gotten together, but during sex playing with her bum while I was having sex with her on all 4's with some lube, just getting used to the sensations of playing around the outside, gently inserting a finger while she's on the approach to climax, letting her feel the difference in sensations, taking time (talking over weeks and months of this), just little by little, letting my lady have chance to process the difference in sensations and feelings about it all before working up in size during sex and foreplay, making sure that she's aware and building up communication and trust. The first time she took my cock in her ass it hurt a bit (nervous) but she enjoyed it. But we continued slowly trying it every so often, sometimes just teasing her bum with fingers.

Now she loves it, sometimes asks for it, when I'm in her ass she'll sometimes ask me to fuck her harder etc.

The key for us was alot of time and patience.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Not sure if it's the same thing but I recently need a prostrate check; I hate the thought of anything going up my bum, I even clench just thinking about it. It needed doing so I had to find away; I realised that I breath in when clenching so I breathed out, all went very well with no discomfort or pain... just a thought. "

Breathing technique is a very good way to help control your bodies reaction to something trying to enter your arse. Best thing to do is try it at home on your own, no rush, try one two three fingers, whatever your comfortable with and gauge your arse reaction to stimulus and entry. You will find that controlling your breathing will be 90% of the job. You may also want to try squirting a bit of lube just inside too. The act of something trying to pass into the arse via a tight opening will wipe off a lot of the lube no matter how liberally it was applied.

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By *acey87 OP Woman
over a year ago

watford

Amazing advice! Thank you all x

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