FabSwingers.com forum: How close is too close?

By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

Living in a small town, how close is too close for a meet and potential fb?

I’m thinking that someone on your doorstep (close by) is perhaps too close/risky?

Any suggestions or experiences to guide?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think it depends on if it feels suffocating and your own will power, that’s more about personality. I prefer a bit of distance 30mins in the car so I’m not constantly choosing sex as I’m weak willed with sexy women

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

"I think it depends on if it feels suffocating and your own will power, that’s more about personality. I prefer a bit of distance 30mins in the car so I’m not constantly choosing sex as I’m weak willed with sexy women

Good point. I wonder if it is different in terms of an event if close or far away? Or if it’s simply down to preference and situation?

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By *cotty_01ukMan
over a year ago

birmingham

When I signed up I started chatting to a married couple, well they live on my road LOL I invited them round a good few times! Gave his mrs a good seeing to & that’s that

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I don't meet people from my village. It can get awkward. I did it once, never again.

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

Before my last break from the site.

I met a couple,they live about 10 doors away down the road.

still say hello most days and see them on certain pub nights.

But I live in a small area,so anyone you sleep with you`re likely going to see every so often.Fab or not

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I very rarely meet local now. Thee we last time was January and that was still a 30 min drive away

I quite like an adventure so I’m happy to travel to someone whose got my attention

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

'If you wouldn't share your Aldi, don't share a bed' has been our rule

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith

As single man I meet anyone no matter how close.

When used to meet others with ex we said not on own doorstep. If had social did not want take it to next level could be difficult if see them tesco etc.

So always played 15 or 20 mile plus from home. Ex always thought it be worse a lady seeing someone in shops she either said not to or had mmf with etc. Not all men are as discreet as should be.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I mean if they are in the next bedroom it’s probably to close

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Not our local towns or city.... willy is a known pillar of the community...we have adult children...so wouldn't want to answer questions if on a social for example and bumped into friends or family

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

"'If you wouldn't share your Aldi, don't share a bed' has been our rule

Add this to my ‘rules to live life by’ list. Cracking way of thinking about it.

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

"'If you wouldn't share your Aldi, don't share a bed' has been our rule

The problem I used to have was frequenting the Highlands - where the next village is 10 miles away, and even then everyone knows everyone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont meet usually meet within 5/10 miles x

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Before my female dentist became my dentist we met her at a fetish club and she and I had a short but interesting connection....fast forward four or five years and she joined the dental practise that I frequent.

Nothing was said, but when she took me to the X ray room to take some images she did comment that we'd met before and smiled.

We've never mentioned it again since, and she's still strictly my dentist.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

There’s one keeps coming up within half a mile

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

"We dont meet usually meet within 5/10 miles x"

Looking at your profile though you are only looking for female company, do you find ladies are fairly discreet anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all down to trust

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

"We dont meet usually meet within 5/10 miles x

Looking at your profile though you are only looking for female company, do you find ladies are fairly discreet anyway?"

And by the way… lucky ladies, that’s all I’m saying.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We won't meet anyone from our small town, I like a drama free life and things can always go wrong, I'd rather not bump into someone while I'm with the kids doing my weekly shop.

Mrs

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

" Its all down to trust "

I know I’m out of the age range (shame), but if you are looking for cinemas to visit, you can’t go wrong at Angels in Walsall. And it’s not a million miles from you.

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By *andyel73Man
over a year ago

Leyland

I had a guy contact me that lived 3doors away he was far to close I didn't want any pestering at the corner shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends what your/their situation is. Had some local to me say I'm too close, but I'm not the sort to walk up and down with a loud hailer making an announcement about who u did what with.

If they want discreet, I can be discreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preference is not too meet anyone too close to where I live x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live in a part of the world where everyone knows everyone...so its inevitable that we encounter people we know on here.

Whether we meet for more than just a social or that entirely depends on whether or not there's chemistry, we don't let the geography of being g close put us off.

Mrs

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I've met people who live like 5 minutes down the road, and never bumped into them at any other time, so I don't have a problem meeting locally.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"I mean if they are in the next bedroom it’s probably to close "

Shame I was not that close, I bet the soundtrack could be quite entertaining.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"Not our local towns or city.... willy is a known pillar of the community...we have adult children...so wouldn't want to answer questions if on a social for example and bumped into friends or family

Would 40 miles be OK if the others liked to drive?

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I avoid within a few miles. I chatted to someone for a few days in that range, then swapped face pics.

We were related. I told him I know him and that was it. One of us embarrassed was enough imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had an approach from someone just round the corner. He had seen us on the close by thing and was asking if we were his new neighbours as they were keeping him awake at night with their noisy sex. I did keep him guessing if it was us for a while. In reality that’s too close for comfort for us.

We live in a medium sized town and I am not really happy playing with anyone who is in the town, let alone someone whose house is just the other side of our corner shop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy I stand next to in the pub messaged us, he's a total d*unken degenerate so it was an instant block, luckily we had no recognisable images up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Living in a small town, how close is too close for a meet and potential fb?

I’m thinking that someone on your doorstep (close by) is perhaps too close/risky?

Any suggestions or experiences to guide?"

I live in a small town and for me The closer the better lol. I do t drive and it's a nuisance having to travel when really horny.. X

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By *ilad4kicksMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Got a guy at the end of my road has a GF n me n him meet up when we can.. it’s a trust thing I think when someone’s so close.. seems to work for us at moment so..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends on the size of the town, including population level. I've avoided people within several miles in an expanded, glorified village, without a supermarket. I'd generally avoid in a place with just 1 or 2 supermarkets, as these give an high level of surprise encounters.

In a more densely populated area, I'd prefer to be a good 20 minutes plus distance away.

But I think it generally depends on the people and how you'll engage.

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By *imblefingerspzMan
over a year ago

penzance

I started chatting to one woman on here and it turned out that she was literally across the road from me, it was great, we still speak.

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By *randMrs397Couple
over a year ago

durham

We are still not too comfortable meeting too close to home but are getting g closer

probably about 20 miles for us

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By *netobeextraMan
over a year ago

location varies

Depends on the other person and their mentality, level respect and agreed boundaries i.e. how all parties convened would engage with each other or not if bumping into each other in the real world

Also with finding out hope open they are with the details of their fab activities with friends, families and neighbours if you’re concerned about people knowing your business. I know/have met a few people on here who are very open of the lifestyle and do tell people exactly who they meet and what they get up to.

Some people may have a safe contact in case a meet goes wrong (in my opinion is sensible thing to do) who may raise an alarm if a person doesn’t check in with a text or phone all after meeting someone.

I’ve got a regular on the same road as me, which is convenient but we are on the same wavelength in terms of discretion

On the other hand I’ve met someone who I would often bump into in the supermarket and would try and engage in a cryptic fab conversation with me when I’m shopping with my child which I didn’t appreciate.

My advice OP is chat to the person/people and gauge if they are a risk to your privacy (if that’s what’s important to you) or a convenient play mate. Don’t rush into a meet. Maybe have a few social meets with a coffee once you’ve gotten to know each other/feel compatible and go from there

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

Not from a small town but still wouldn’t meet anyone within about 15 miles or so

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

"Depends on the other person and their mentality, level respect and agreed boundaries i.e. how all parties convened would engage with each other or not if bumping into each other in the real world

I’ve got a regular on the same road as me, which is convenient but we are on the same wavelength in terms of discretion

Many thanks, all sounds like decent advice

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

We’re all here for fun… only exception is SM’s that we’ve never met before as we like to remain anonymous….. some cpls can’t keep quiet either …. We realise that but that’s how we like it.

Local if met before in a club/party

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I don’t want to risk it with anyone I might subsequently encounter on the school run…

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

It would entirely depend on the other person. Have done, and it worked out fabulously. We’re still friends now.

Can see with others it would have gone the other way and been awkward though.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd rather they didn't live too close. Personal reasons plus my libido will result in silly booty calls. At least 20 miles away is good for me.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

We are actually actively seeking nearby people.. For those spur of the moment meets

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Mansfield

"We dont meet usually meet within 5/10 miles x"

This is our rule

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By *untimecpl17Couple
over a year ago

dartford

We find the risk is what makes it feel naughty and get a massive turn on from it..

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Never too close!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm missing out on some absolute diamond meets because I refuse to play near work

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Living in a small town, how close is too close for a meet and potential fb?

I’m thinking that someone on your doorstep (close by) is perhaps too close/risky?

Any suggestions or experiences to guide?"

At one point in time I used to avoid meeting people too close to my area but gave up on that years ago. It's actually quite fun sometimes to bump into blokes I've slept with at ASDA. My general rule is to not interact though I'll admit I've swapped the odd 'hiya' with the really hot ones !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met two people from the block I lived in when was in London, one was living next door the other 3 floors down. Didn't even know the neighbour till we been chatting for an hour! Was a good friendship after that.

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By *otwifingVixenCouple
over a year ago

Northants

I do meet local - the ideal is businessmen from outside the area who regularly stay near. No danger that they know friends/family, potential of semi-regular meets and easy to fit in without travel.

If they are from the local area then I try to get a face pic before revealing mine and if I recognise them, I stop it. It's a small town - most people know most others haha!

Much more freedom when I'm in London though!

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By *fkcpl4groupCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Have had a few meets with someone round the corner. Some planed another just passing. I agree it’s a turn on.

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I think it's horny knowing they are close by

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve often thought, nah too close for comfort. Then my penis does my thinking for me and I’m sending my ‘neighbour’ my face pic

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We’re on the edge of a village as such, so anything over five miles, we generally accommodate over night for those who travel, to even things out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt really bother me at all....

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Lol, I'd fuck my next door neighbour.

Except I wouldn't really as one side is in their 80's and I don't fancy the bloke on the other side.

Maybe his daughter though, although I don't think she'd be into it.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

As a single lad, I don’t care how close. Even if we share same Lidl every Saturday I would not be shouting how awesome the previous night was. If agreed beforehand, I can pretend I don’t know her/him/them

Fooled around lightly with a guy at our local pool changing room. Bumped into him with his gf, no sign given

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Back where we used to live, I had a married short-term playmate on the road that ran parallel to ours - if it hadn't been for the row of houses inbetween, I could have seen their place from ours...

....on the occasions when I visited her, it took me less than two minutes to walk there - she'd text when she wanted to meet, and after her hubby and my wife had both left for work, I'd go over...

I also played with a couple who only lived a two-minute drive away - if it hadn't been a cold winter's night, I would have walked there...

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I live in busy busy London,so even if someone lived 500yards away I prob wouldn't see them out and about, but I be happy meeting someone close by or milesss away.

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

in the past I have met a cpl who lived a street away, never saw them again till one day I went in a local shop I dont usually use and she was on the till, also met a guy whose daughter lived directly opposite my house. neither caused any issues, but then again i'm an adult, and behave like one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I don’t show my face due to my job, I do find it a thrill living in a small town with the thought of someone recognising me. Even more so if it’s a close neighbour lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me I happily meet anyone. I’m not bothered who they are, how close they are to me etc. we are all here for the same thing

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We’re happy to meet people who live local to us. Neighbours would be too close, but next road etc is fine.

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By *xstevenxxMan
over a year ago

Ashbourne

Probably a plane trip away

But usually 30mins to a hr away

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By *odg123Man
over a year ago

southampton

Be nice to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too close, a short car journey away, maybe.

Some years back, we had a guy we'd met previously, turn up at our home late at night, on the off chance we'll invite him in.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

No problem.

But I’m single, I live alone, and I behave like a grown up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't meet people from the same county. It's pretty small, close knit and I work for people throughout the county so I wouldn't want to meet them in a sexual way. My husband also works throughout the county and interacts with hundreds of people day to day.

We have set our location to where we are comfortable meeting people from

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By *ager 2 Please OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/midlands

"We won't meet people from the same county. It's pretty small, close knit and I work for people throughout the county so I wouldn't want to meet them in a sexual way. My husband also works throughout the county and interacts with hundreds of people day to day.

We have set our location to where we are comfortable meeting people from

I read that as “the same country”

And thought, bloomin’ ‘eck, that must cost a fortune in air miles… just got it. It’s too early for my brain to switch on.

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