FabSwingers.com forum: MMF & safety

By *ubyBlair OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow-ish / Edinburgh

Hey all,

So a MMF has been something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but it’s never happened yet.

When I’m meeting single guys, I always do a social in a public place first before arranging a second sexy meet if the chemistry is there.

And of course with a MMF situation I’d want the same. But I also can’t get my head around the fact that meeting two men at the same time feels significantly riskier. Like, it’s so much easier to be overpowered by two guys if they really wanted to.

I hate that my brain goes here because I really know that most men wouldn’t dream of doing that.

So would love some suggestions I might not have thought of on how I could arrange this scenario safely?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Club?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As in actual club not a weapon

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By *ubyBlair OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow-ish / Edinburgh

"As in actual club not a weapon

Haha, I mean both could work. But yes, a club night is actually a really good idea

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Make sure you know one of them fairly well

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By *amLaraCroftWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hey all,

So a MMF has been something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but it’s never happened yet.

When I’m meeting single guys, I always do a social in a public place first before arranging a second sexy meet if the chemistry is there.

I hate that my brain goes here because I really know that most men wouldn’t dream of doing that.

So would love some suggestions I might not have thought of on how I could arrange this scenario safely? "

I meet in a swinging club where they know the rules and it’s very safe xx

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

A club is a good idea, maybe play in a more communal area if you can. Ideally one of the men who you know and trust. I’d like to think there’s not too many bad blokes out there thought

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I’ve been lucky to be a part of a few and some have included a woman’s first time. My suggestions to them, and now to you:

- Have a good relationship with at least one of them.

- Ensure that he has your best interests at heart and you feel comfortable and safe around them

- Make sure the other person chosen displays the characteristics you’re looking for (polite, respectful, listens etc)

- make sure they’re both aware of what you like/dislike

- make sure they move at your pace

Doing it at a club could be a thing for some additional ‘supervision’. A good relationship with lucky man number 1 and being ultra choosey as to who you include would be best suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it so bad that your thoughts are there. Not because you shouldn't but because us men have created that fear.

My advice is find two guys meet each alone and have them meet each other then all do a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can totally understand your fear. I would ensure you know one really well, or meet at a club and use a room that can be accessed/viewed quite easily by management.

I don’t know if you have any friends that know you’re on here, but when we met, and had our first meet together, I told a very close friend who checked in with me with a “safe word” via text so they knew it was definitely me replying.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it so bad that your thoughts are there. Not because you shouldn't but because us men have created that fear.

My advice is find two guys meet each alone and have them meet each other then all do a social"

I’ve only met two despicable men in my time, unfortunately, they ruined it for every man, and I’m really sorry about that, because I know you’re not all like it. The only man i ever feel safe around now is Mr T. And when I say that, even doing my weekly shop can cause me issues.

Mrs

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

"Hey all,

So a MMF has been something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but it’s never happened yet.

When I’m meeting single guys, I always do a social in a public place first before arranging a second sexy meet if the chemistry is there.

I hate that my brain goes here because I really know that most men wouldn’t dream of doing that.

So would love some suggestions I might not have thought of on how I could arrange this scenario safely? "

If you have one that you have met a few times and have now got into the position whereby you feel you can trust them.

Maybe speak to them and see if they know someone they know and can trust to join you both??

That’s what I’ve done a few times for women that I’ve met over the years and want an MMF

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

"I’ve been lucky to be a part of a few and some have included a woman’s first time. My suggestions to them, and now to you:

- Have a good relationship with at least one of them.

- Ensure that he has your best interests at heart and you feel comfortable and safe around them

- Make sure the other person chosen displays the characteristics you’re looking for (polite, respectful, listens etc)

- make sure they’re both aware of what you like/dislike

- make sure they move at your pace

Doing it at a club could be a thing for some additional ‘supervision’. A good relationship with lucky man number 1 and being ultra choosey as to who you include would be best suggestions "

Exactly this….. I’ve been lucky enough to be in the position of gent number 1 to have helped females that I know to enjoy an MMF

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would definitely have to have a trusted fwb, rather than 2 randoms or a MM couple.

My head would be in exactly the same place!

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

If the men are not known to you then club is the way to go. I dont do clubs but I imagine the club will have people out making sure that things do not get out of hand. Speak to one of the organisers and explain your trying mmf and ask them to keep an eye on how things progress. Also agree what's on the play list and what is definitely a no go thing... say DP as an example. And a green amber and red. Green can be useful when trying new things. Inask for green word to check if I am pushing the envelope in the right direction and amber, if what I am doing is still ok but maybe approaching your limit. Red is RED - instant stop or stop and redirect if it was going out of bounds.

Other route is chaperone to be on hand maybe.

Club route will be easier

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I get what you mean OP.

I think arranging a mmf is much easier when it's with a regular fwb, someone you already trust. Then add one more to the mix.

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